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Babies due in November 2016 #2

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FuzzyOwl · 28/03/2016 12:27

If anyone wants to join the secret Facebook group, just send me a PM with the email address that you use and I will send you a link.

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RaeSkywalker · 29/03/2016 11:50

Antsare that is so very sad. Thinking of you and your family Flowers

theAntsareMyFriends · 29/03/2016 12:06

Thank for the advice on telling my sister fuzzy. I was thinking a text first but waiting until after my 12 week scan. That will be over a month away and although I think she will still feel upset about it all, hopefully it won't feel quite so raw. Equally I don't want to wait for too long to tell her as I don't want her to feel hurt that I kept it from her or feel that her experience has made me not want to share things with her.

One of my friends announced her pregnancy 3 days after I had a very early MC. I'm very happy for my friend but found it very hard not to cry so think a warning first is a good idea.

I'm not sure if I should call her. She might not want to talk about it. I'm thinking of texting to tell her I'm thinking of her and if she wants to talk I'm happy to call her. I haven't texted yet because I work in a mobile phone blackspot.

Thank you rae. I think my parents feel so helpless as she lives in London and its hard for them to get there.

Thurlow · 29/03/2016 12:19

I would definitely tell her by text. One of my best friends has recently come to the end of the line with IVF, and she knew we might be considering TTC. We talked about it beforehand and she said she would prefer to find out by email, because then she wouldn't have to react to my face, and also actually an email she would read in the evening at home, not in the middle of the day at work. Tell her you understand if she doesn't want to talk about it for a while.

LemonShizzleCake · 29/03/2016 12:36

Hello, can I join?

I'm Lemon, age 30, live in London, and am 5+6 today (goldfinch it looks like we're due date buddies!) with my first. DH and I managed to get our BFP on first cycle of trying, which was very unexpected as I've had some issues with ovulation/irregular cycles in the past. Was very shocking (but nonetheless very exciting) to happen so fast, so has taken some getting used to, and still doesn't really feel real.

Mostly worried, like others on here, that something will go horribly wrong. I know that, statistically, it's more likely that everything will be fine, and am trying to keep an optimistic and positive attitude, but at the same time don't want to get my hopes up just in case. It's nice to be able to talk to people who are experiencing the same (Flowers for all of you, esp AntsAre, that's really horrible luck and I hope you and your sister are both ok)

Also I am self employed and WFH, and with the exhaustion have found it quite hard to be motivated. I guess I should get off my bum and just do something, even if it's a little thing, esp as have some past history of mild depression and I know that if I just sit around for too long things will fester and I will feel much worse. Albus I can sympathise with exactly how you're feeling, and am Angry on your behalf that MW seems useless. Do you have a DP/family/support who you can share this with and ask them to help? In my experience, I have found that even if I force myself to do one tiny thing (esp if it's something I've been putting off or beating myself up for not doing, like loading the dishwasher) then I get a sense of achievement and it spurs me on to do more, and I feel better. Taking the first step is the hardest but most important part, and maybe this will work for you. I'm going to go for a walk when I've finished this post... (Remember also, that we're all growing actual whole humans inside us at the moment, so try to be kind to yourself and accept the fact that there will be some times when all you want to do is sit with your feet up for a bit!)

As a side note I am also finding I have short episodes of "brain fade" where I realise I've been staring into the fridge for a good minute or two with no real idea of what I'm looking for. And in the shower I sometimes stare at the shampoo bottles blankly before I suddenly remember what to do with them. Slightly worrying!

I get quite queasy if I go too long (i.e. more than a couple of hours) without eating, but have found I can keep the nausea at bay (a bit) if I eat little and often. Don't seem to have lost my appetite so far, which is a bonus. I am getting that weird "too much saliva" feeling, which isn't nice and makes me swallow air and get even more bloated. For the first week or so after I found out, I was quite constipated (sorry if that's TMI), but prune juice vile has helped sort it out.

Also have sore boobs and very cold feet!

Sorry about this epic monster of a post, I'm just excited to talk to people in the same boat - esp as the only people I've told in real life (very select group) don't have kids and so can't really relate! Smile

FuzzyOwl · 29/03/2016 12:43

Welcome and congratulations Lemon.

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Thurlow · 29/03/2016 12:54

Hi lemon. The saliva thing is bloody awful, isn't it? As is the bloating. Half my retching at the moment is due to being too bloated and gassy and need to burp all the time. Ah, pregnancy, so classy Grin

RaeSkywalker · 29/03/2016 12:56

Hi Lemon! We got a BFP first time too, can't believe it and are also not trying to get too excited. It must be tough being self employed and pregnant!

I get brain fade too- forgot my surname this morning Blush

theAntsareMyFriends · 29/03/2016 13:13

welcome lemon.

I don't think I got baby brain with my last one so thought it was just an excuse but this time its terrible. I forget what I'm saying mid sentence. Last night I asked my DP a question and he looked at me funny. Apparently I'd just asked the same question moments ago and he'd answered. My particular problem is doing the tea round at work. I ask what people want and have forgotten it by the time I've got to the kettle. So far no one has got the wrong drink but its only a mater of time.

Its amazing how many weird changes happen.

LemonShizzleCake · 29/03/2016 13:17

Oh my goodness, glad it's not just me! Those of you who already have DC, do you go back to normal after you've given birth or is this some kind of sneaky foetus braincell theft?! Grin

LemonShizzleCake · 29/03/2016 13:19

And Thurlow your classy pregnancy comment has reminded me...utterly noxious farts.

I wish we had a dog I could blame Blush

goldfinch01 · 29/03/2016 13:30

Hello and welcome Lemon... I'm very excited to have a due date buddy Grin. It seems that almost everyone else is due near the beginning of Nov so I was beginning to feel a bit behind the times!

Do come and join our Facebook page too if you haven't already Smile

Thurlow · 29/03/2016 13:36

Well, you go back to normal generally when you start getting some sleep, which is... how long is a piece of string?!

MoreCakeMoreCake · 29/03/2016 13:43

Welcome LemonShizzleCake (think we are nickname kindred spirits!)

I'm due 26 Nov (ish) so with you and goldfinch in the late Nov club!

Bit of baby brain here too, sometimes when driving Confused! Farting for England, bloated & had a proper old lady dizzy spell yesterday.... oh the glamour!

Not posting on here much but am in the FB group which I find easier to keep track of - FuzzyOwl can get you in!

StarkyTheDirewolf · 29/03/2016 13:51

Well hellooooo, anyone mind if I barge in here? I'm Starky, 5+5 or thereabouts. Recognise a few names from the ttc thread! Haven't phoned the doctors yet, still lalalaaaa-ing with my fingers in my ears doing not getting excited in case! Think once I get to 6 weeks I'll feel a bit more comfortable!

I didn't know/couldn't find the original thread so I, jumping in now if that's ok! Edd somewhere between 25th Nov - 1st Dec. Last cycle being the cycle where I didn't actually track, chart, notice, notice anything. But my Dh tells me when I ovulate he can smell it, the weirdo so going off that is where I got my dates!

MoreCakeMoreCake · 29/03/2016 13:55

Welcome Starky and congrats Flowers
I'm 5+3 and waiting impatiently to see GP on Friday. The days go so slowly don't they?!

FuzzyOwl · 29/03/2016 14:04

Everything about conception and pregnancy is so slow!!

Anyone who wants to be in the FB group can just send me a PM with their email address and I will add you. Smile

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fuzzywuzzy · 29/03/2016 14:15

You know we're going to look back in nine months and wish we'd enjoyed this bit... And the blissful sleep time we get!

I've made my doctors appt and called to book an early scan, given my history I get extra scans.

I am feeling really ravenously hungry and really tired also my body temp is definitely higher than normal.

Every ache and pain has me worried.

pickledsausage · 29/03/2016 14:31

Wah I am having trouble keeping up with the thread! Welcome to starky & lemon!

Fuzzy sorry, I know this has been asked before but how would I stop the FB group showing up to my friends on there please?

Albus you poor thing. There's some great advice above, please do take it and try to get some help.

Ants that's so sad :(

I had my first feeling sick moment this morning! I'm ok again now but it was like a bad hangover, ergh. So tired today as well, can't wait to get home. DH is away so I feel zero guilt about going to bed at 7pm :) I've got another early scan this week (didn't think the NHS was going to do one but they did in the end, and already booked this and paid deposit....) I can't wait to hopefully see it again...and of course am having anxiety dreams about it all already. It's so hard not to get hopes up but whilst also googling miscarriage rates daily...argh.

Spottyladybird · 29/03/2016 14:37

Hi all,

I fell off the last thread- stayed away for a couple of weeks due to spotting.

Anyways, had a second scan today (first was too early to be sure) and baby was there with a nice strong heartbeat.

Dated me as 7+5 which is less than my dates but Smile.

Hope you're all doing ok.

pickledsausage · 29/03/2016 14:44

Spotty that's great news :)

FuzzyOwl · 29/03/2016 14:54

Oh fuzzy, it is all such a worry. How long until your appointment and scan?

pickled it is a secret group so nobody can see you are in it (unless they are also in the group). It will show up on your newsfeed, unless you change the settings to say you don't follow the group, but it won't show up in your friends' newsfeed. Does that make sense?

I used to suffer terribly with anxiety dreams and nightmares of MC but apparently vivid dreams are a pregnancy symptom and a sign that your hormones are increasing, so horrible as they are to have it is a good sign. I like this theory as it makes the nasty dreams feel not so bad.

Great news spotty.

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RaeSkywalker · 29/03/2016 14:56

Hi Starky! Was hoping you'd pop up soon!

fuzzy and pickled good luck for the scans! Spotty that's lovely news, must've been a huge relief.

Massive news here- I've discovered that I can keep a small quantity of hula hoops down (for now at least). They were recommended by my amazing GP who has had HG too. I owe her a big bunch of flowers when I next see her!

goldfinch01 · 29/03/2016 14:56

Hello Starky and welcome!

Morecake, yay great to have some more company for the end of Nov!

That's great news, Ladybird Smile

RaeSkywalker · 29/03/2016 14:57

Oh and Fuzzy one of my friends had awful pregnancy dreams and was told that it's a good sign too!

goldfinch01 · 29/03/2016 15:02

Fuzzy, you've just reminded me that I had a terrible night sleep last night with scary end of the world apocalypse type dreams Shock. I feel like I spent the entire night on lookout alert for baddies. I never normally remember any of my dreams!

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