Babies due in November 2016 #2

[FuzzyOwl]

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Good luck Tarts and glad to hear your DH has been useful.

Hello Slumber. Sorry to hear about the nausea, but, as you say, it's a good thing.

I think I may have depression again.

I don't have the motivation to do anything, can barely get out of bed, personal care is out the window, not excited by anything, waiting for it to all go wrong.

Shit.

Albus have you spoken to your GP about this, please do & get yourself the care you need.

Still lacking in symptoms here but delighted with each day I progress too.

Hi Fuzzy, been here before. GP doesn't help, I know what I need to do to get through it so am doing what I can. I don't take ADs and certainly wouldnt with a little one on board (not judging others who do) and NHS counselling has always left something to be desired in my case.

Can you speak to your midwife?

Do you have friends and family near? Rally around support, you sound like you could do with practically and emotional support.

Hi all,

I started the original thread and then just disappeared. Thanks for the new one FuzzyOwl.

I should be 9 weeks by my calculations tomorrow although the scan I had showed me as being 9w4 last Wednesday which would make me 10w4 tomorrow. Don't think they are right though as I know exactly when I ovulated due to the Clearblue fertility monitor.

I have had the most horrific morning sickness and wasn't functioning at all for 2 weeks but it seems to be a bit better although still awful.

Hoping to be a bit more present from now on. Xxx

Sadly there is a lot going on in my family at the moment, DGrandad being so ill, DSis is moving back in with abusive husband, so not much space to look after me for just feeling a bit grumpy.

Will plough through and am sure it will pass.

Sorry to hear you're suffering Albus. You aren't alone, so many people suffer from depression, especially during pregnancy. I've heard that midwives are really helpful with this so definitely talk to your midwife about it when you see her, even just to make her aware of it if nothing else. I'm not depressed but have definitely had low moments over the last few weeks and found it difficult to get motivated. I'm just taking each day as it comes and whenever I start feeling down I force myself to go for a walk (my partner also knows to get me out too which really helps as he won't take no for an answer!). Our hormones are going crazy so it's no surprise that our mental health gets affected by them too. Hope you find some relief from it soon.

Hope you manage to find some space for yourself Albus I don't feel the same but found myself feeling very alone yesterday. I don't think my DH quite gets how ill I am feeling right now.

Good luck with your second set of bloods today Jo hoping everything is looking positive.

I've also been lurking a bit as not had much of an update but I'm still here! I'm 5+6 today so a couple of weeks behind many of you.

Really sore boobs, lost appetite and exhausted but no morning sickness yet. On one hand I'm pleased not to be feeling sick but also a bit worried that I'm not.

to everyone who is struggling or feeling rubbish.

Sorry to hear you are suffering Albus. I had prenatal depression last time and it was awful. Could you look into private counselling or is that just too expensive?

Hi Summer and sorry to hear you have been feeling so sick. Hopefully it will all pass for you soon.

I am the same fuzzy. Completely lacking in symptoms but really pleased with every day that passes even though I know it doesn't necessarily mean anything.

Hope your walks help flamingo and I hope your DH starts to be understanding soon Fedup.

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling low, Albus Do you have a midwife appointment soon?

And sorry you've been so rough, Summer. Do you have any meds? Is it easing now?

I feel stuck in a work/rest quandry at the moment. 4 days and home and I was so ill, throwing up a lot again etc. I'm desperate for a nap after lunch but if I have one, it seems just enough time not eating to make me sick for the rest of the day. But at work I'm more distracted and find it easier so just sit here and munch constantly - but with a 1hr commute either way, I know I'm going to be too exhausted after a few days of this!

Never mind, first world problems and all that, and I know I shouldn't complain as I don't have it anywhere near as bad as many people on here, or as I had it last time.

Midwife appointment was a couple of weeks ago, I cried whole way though it, so imagine ti was pretty obvious I was feeling low.

She basically told me to pull myself together, so, yeah.

She sounds awful and really unsympathetic, Albus. Can you change to see a different midwife? I wouldn't want to see her, even if I wasn't going to discuss being depressed.

Sorry to hear that you are suffering as well Thurlow. If you find things are better at work, could you do shorter days to take into account your commute?

Albus I am so shocked you've been treated like this! for you.

I've just been signed off work for 2 weeks with HG. GP is hoping my midwife will refer me for an early scan to check for twins. Booking appointment is Thursday.

I feel so sorry for DH. He's doing everything for me atm, I'm just laying in bed and occasionally getting up to be sick!

Sadly I can't do shorter days, but I can wfh if I need to. I'll just have to reintroduce some caffeine into my life, I think

That is shocking, Albus. Is there a different midwife or GP you can see? I understand if you don't want to take any medication. It's a big decision to make when pregnant. However there must be some support somewhere, an antenatal mental health nurse maybe?

Sorry you're sick soo, Rae, but glad you've been signed off.

Albus have you read this? www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/mental-health-problems-pregnant.aspx

I know it's the last thing you want to do now, but I would suggest going back until you get the help you need. I've seen 3 doctors in 3 days and have finally been offered help for HG! Would you be able to attend an appointment with someone who can explain how much you're struggling if you get too upset (saying that because I was sobbing so much this morning- DH told the doctor what was going on in the end).

I also just found this charity- they have a helpline you might be able to ring? www.pandasfoundation.org.uk/help-and-information/pre-ante-and-postnatal-illnesses/pre-antenatal-depression.html#Treatment

Thanks Thurlow. I think I'm going to have to stop fighting it and accept help, which is most unlike me. Having said that, my DM has offered to come over and do a bit of cleaning- I'm not sure how I feel about that one, I don't want to take advantage.

Thanks so much for the suggestions Rae, will look into it.

Hmm, really interesting NHS link.

MW wrote on the booking in form I have had depression in the past, and that I am wery anxious now, but no plans or support put in place.

Gosh Albus how awful for you .

Definitely stop fighting it. Your body is doing so much at the moment - growing a baby and growing a placenta, it's time to just rest if you need to and take all the help that you can get. Hope the rest helps you feel better.

Thanks FedUp I've just got to wait until tomorrow now to compare the results

Can't believe its nearly April. 12 week scans are going to be coming up soon!

I had some sad news this morning. My sister found out at the weekend she had a miscarriage. She was 5 weeks further on than me and had her 12 week scan booked for Friday. She doesn't know about me. I'm so sad for her. It would have been her first and when she told us (at 10 weeks) she seemed so well. My mum was crying and she never cries. It feels doubly sad as I told my parents at the weekend and saw them getting so excited about have 2 new grandchildren by Christmas.

I'm still virtually symptom-less so trying not to worry but almost wish I would feel sick to let me know its real.

They are really useful links Rae.

I agree about getting somebody else to speak up on your behalf of necessary Albus. I also think it is awful that notes were taken about your depression and nothing done or suggested about it.

Hopefully working from home will get you through the worst days Thurlow. Really hope you start to feel better soon.

Hope the news is good tomorrow Jo.

How awful theAnts and there seem to have been so many MC recently. I think that when you are ready to tell people perhaps you should say quietly to her first of all so she can prepare herself. Depending what she is like, she might prefer text so she doesn't need to compose herself afterwards. I know that was how I preferred to find out after my mc. I am also virtually symptom-less and longing to feel sick - so glad quite a few of us feel the same, which makes me feel it is a bit more normal.