Babies due in November 2016 #2

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Ants so sorry to hear that take care of yourself

Morning 0/

Woke up during the night with bad period type pains. No bleeding but still concerned :/ have been crampy many times before but I'm still so anxious. Much better after a shower and am at work now. Still, I hate cramps that actually wake you up.

Told my husbands parents last night that we're expecting. I knew they wouldn't be quite as emotional as my parents (my mum cried solidly for like 30 minutes lol) but although they seemed really pleased, they kept talking about a miscarriage my MIL had before she had her two boys. I understand it's probably still a painful memory for them but it was a bit of a downer when we're clearly very excited about reaching 8 weeks, having a lovely positive scan and then being told by the midwife that we're very low risk. I told them all of this but they were still saying it's still way too early, we should still be prepared for the worst etc. They went for their 12 week scan and discovered she'd miscarried so they were saying we should be really cautious and don't be too upset if we miscarry....
I get it. Miscarrying is awful. It plays on my mind every single day! But I don't want his parents literally just talking about how we're going to miscarry the whole evening we tell them they're expecting their first grandchild! It was really difficult to not get too upset when they were here. When I said I just had a feeling we're having a girl, she said 'oh, the baby I lost was a girl and the doctor said I can't carry girls. I hope you don't have the same problem'. That's weird right? I guess she thought she was being supportive but it's totally bummed me out! I'm looking forward to seeing my mum today with her as she won't stand for any pessimistic talk like that. I wanted to shout TODAY I'M PREGNANT!!!

Has anyone else had this sort of reaction?

Oh jamjar what a shame, understandable you feel this way. I guess it may be self preservation on her part, the 'pessimist is never disappointed' philosophy, but that's for her to consider on her own time, not when you're there with happy news and in a good frame of mind.
Do you have the sort of relationship where she might write or call in a few days to say sorry and how excited she is? I do hope so.
Keep on feeling good and focus on the scan and what the mw said; don't let this wobble you.

beel I had this the other night and was a bit scared. I have found the microwave wheat pillow really, really soothing for body if not for mind in case that's useful.

That sounds like quite an insensitive reaction Jamjar, just try and remember the positives like the scan. Statistically if you hear a heartbeat at 8 weeks you've got a 95% chance of the pregnancy continuing. Also you've only got 4 weeks till 12 weeks, not long (although it feels like eternity). At least you have your Mum to talk to :)

When I told my Manager at 5 weeks (I was ill so had to tell him early) he started talking about his miscariages. Really annoying and a bit of a downer. Luckly he's the only one that's been negative about it, we've only told a handful of people but they've all been positive.

Beelzebubble I've had similar cramps, don't last for ling though. One night a couple of weeks ago I had them most of the night but everything was fine. I found a hot water bottle eased them a bit.

Morning Ladies,

I am having a bit of issue and not sure whether I am over reacting.

My MIL has taken to tapping my stomach every time she sees me and saying stuff like bumpy bump. Even before I was pregnant I hated my stomach, secondly I don't actually have a bump as I am only 10 weeks, mainly bloat. I did tell her that hate people touching my stomach and then when she left my house yesterday she tapped my stomach and arrgh-ed. I find it really really annoying and my DH is not that bothered. I have asked him to have a word with her, in the meantime I have recurring visions of throttling her.
Its a shame as I actually get on really well with her, maybe when I have a bump I won't mind as much!!! Any thoughts?

I think the only thing you can do that will have any effect is telling her Woody. Try saying something after she's done it and explain to her. If you do it enough times I'm sure she'd eventually get the idea.

woody I think, since you two get on, that you can afford to be straight with her. Perhaps say you're feeling sensitive and self conscious (she must remember the same from her pregnancy etc) and would she mind not...
Also good to set a marker down now about how you deal with things like this so you know how to get around them later in the pregnancy/when baby is here.

Woody I hated people touching my bump in both of my pregnancies, can't imagine it being any different this time round. Tell her!!

I'm in a grump today. I'm 10 +1 and I still don't have a scan date and I want one and I want to know it now!!!

Think I'm ready to join you ladies! 9+3 today and feeling pretty relaxed after a very healthy scan yesterday. It was our third after having some scary bleeding early on and daily spotting since, but I have a haematoma so apparently that's to be expected. Really looking forward to my booking appointment next Wednesday! I have been really lucky with symptoms, only felt rough for about 2 weeks and now I basically just want all the food, all the time. No bump yet thank goodness as we have been/are at lots of weddings this month and all my dresses are very fitted!

Woody, I would smack her hand if it came anywhere near me and repeat as necessary, or if you're really brave, tap her tummy and make a comment. Great that you're close but I would hate someone touching me like that.

Thanks ladies! I will tell her again when she does it, or worse burst into tears!! lol!

Think I am being over sensitive, just had a row with DH about why he is keeping his golf clubs in what will be the nursery. I obviously ignored the fact they have been there for the last three years and want them removed NOW!!!

I can understand that lack of scan annoying the hell out of you likeawestern, that would irritate me too! I think I may have to open the wine gums and make myself feel better with a sugar rush! Then walk my dog in attempt to kid myself I have 'burnt' off the calories. Hormonal is probably an understatement today !

Ah jamjar :( I hate negative nancy's!! Of course you're aware of what could go wrong but you have to have hope and excitement!

Thanks almond. I think my mum has one of those. I might borrow it! I actually stuck on the electric blanket on low and the relief from that was immense! Fingers crossed it's just stretching. I've my first antenatal on Tuesday. Eek!!

Sorry thanks Bob too!

I think I'd have to slap a hand that touched my belly! Even the thought makes me squeamish!

Thanks everyone! My mum was really annoyed so that's made me feel better. It's funny because I've been out for afternoon tea with my mum and MIL, and my mum's enthusiasm seems to have rubbed off on her! She's only mentioned the mc twice. She lives 4 hours away so has been saying she's going to keep coming to stay with us while I'm pregnant and then when the baby is born. Errr, great?? Haha, she drives me a little crazy and is pretty difficult to put up for prolonged periods of time. They arrived yesterday and are leaving tomorrow- I'm absolutely shattered already but ploughing through.

Woody, that would really annoy me too. Especially if you don't have a bump yet!

Oh Jam I think I would have cried! Glad your mum's enthusiasm has rubbed off on her and hopefully it stays that way.

It would really annoy me as well Woody. Hopefully you can say something to get your point across without crying or shouting, like I think I would.

Congratulations and welcome smells.

jam how bloody selfish of her!? I'd have struggled to bite my tongue!

I'm not sure how I'd deal with that woody probably I'd make a really loud noise to make her jump every time but I'm in I'm of those moods today, so that's probably my arseyness talking!

Welcome smells

I don't feel pregnant at all today. My boobs keep going not sore at all, I'm really disappointed with myself that I'm so anxious. Worked out my headaches were from me clenching my jaw so tightly all the time. Been dabbing vicks on my temples and trying to do deep cleansing breathing!

Has the top of anyone's stomach's felt really tight? It feels like the top half of my abs are clenched constantly. I need to loosen up or I'm going to worry myself into a state.

Jam that's really a horrible thing for your mil to do. I'm really careful not to share negative stories with newly pregnant friends ever! It's not something that is needed or wanted.

Woody pat her back on her stomach and yell grandma! Why do people think pregnant women are public property?

Starky, yesterday I didn't feel pregnant at all this morning I woke to really sore breasts, can't get comfortable and nausea when I brushed my teeth and eating my evening meal. Also had intermittent pains in my side after I sneezed whilst lying weirdly. As FuzzyO says PMA.

Starky, I'm finding my symptoms really come and go so, as hard as it is, give it a few days because I'm sure you'll start to feel worse again soon! And yes, my stomach is doing the exact same thing. It feels like when I used to come home from gymnastics training having done an hour of stomach conditioning- it's muscle fatigue. Things are stretching and growing and your muscles are trying to keep it all together! I've been on my feet most of today and I'm really noticing it right now.

Oh thank goodness smells I was starting to get freaked out! That's exactly it, my abs haven't felt like this since I was training! It's so odd, I'm waking up and poking my boobs to see if they're sore! Cupping them to see if they're the same size as they were yesterday! I feel really lucky not suffering with sickness so far, I felt slightly off colour last week! Feel like I'm getting off really lightly with a side note of "you've imagined the bfp".

Pit your feet up and have a chill out day tomorrow ☺

Congratulations Elderberries I remember you from the ttc thread!

Bob wishing you the best of luck for your scan today.

I got up an hour ago to go to the toilet and now I can't sleep. So tired though which is annoying!

10 weeks today, I've got my fingers crossed for a scan date soon! By this time last time it was all over for me so im trying to be positive about it all but it's hard.

Had the midwife on Thursday and she does the scan referral so hoping the letter won't be too long, I'm feeling quite anxious so I could do with another milestone to work towards.

Morning ladies. Bad night here: awake at 1, 3, 5 and 7, which I guess is good practice... Couple of times I woke up because I was absolutely freezing despite warm covers. Just woken up again and ran to loo to be sicker than I have been in weeks (I have all day nausea but not usually vomiting).
Really, really looking forward to these symptoms calming down a bit -- it's been five weeks and they're starting to get me down.

elderberries welcome welcome, hope everyone else is having a good weekend.

I was absolutely freezing despite warm covers. Just woken up again and ran to loo to be sicker than I have been in weeks (I have all day nausea but not usually vomiting).
Really, really looking forward to these symptoms calming down a bit -- it's been five weeks and they're starting to get me down.

I could have written this word for word Almond! We do sound like we're in the exact same place.

Welcome elderberries

Morning everyone and welcome elderberries.

Jam your MIL sounds like she needs to keep her feelings to herself, of course it is sad she had a miscarriage and we all know that sadly they are quite common, but going on about it the way she did was inappropriate.

Woody I would have to say something immediately, j couldn't handle stomach touching!

I had a terrible nights sleep, just couldn't get comfy. I felt sick lying in my back or right side and after a while lying on my left just got uncomfy/numb. I know they say to lie on left side, but I thought that wasn't until MUCH later on. I usually lie on my front so sleeping comfortably when pregnant is a big issue for me. I have ordered a pregnancy pillow, I wanted to wait until after the 12 week scan but it takes a week to arrive and I need all the help I can get to sleep a bit better at the moment. Also having really vivid bizarre dreams.

almond that sounds like an awful night/morning. I hope you can rest today.