We've got newbies to cheer us on, the February Warm-Up is complete, after waiting nine long months it's only bloody time for March Madness! Welcome to JS thread no. 46!

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 46th grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The 45th grads thread is HERE

The thread we have graduated from is HERE in its 59th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread HERE
for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

HERE is the stats list, please update your own spot with any updates. I really hope that worked!

Sky he sounds useless, and you are a saint for handling it so well.

Scan today at 2pm-ish - cautiously optimistic as I've been following my own progress with the work scanner, but haven't actually looked for about 2 weeks (I was working this weekend but we were frantically busy so no time to do it), so gx everything is still ok.

Thanks 5hell.

Gx for this afternoon Sock.

Ooooh gx for scan sock!

Thanks everyone. Feels good to vent.

kate £5 each (so £10 altogether)

Can I potentially bag them? And confirm after I've spoken to the miroid?

Absolutely - no problem

All looks good! They've bumped my EDD forward by 2 days, but I'm not really fussed about that. Annoyingly the little bugger wouldn't lie the right way for the NT measurement though, so I can't have the triple test. I'll need to have the quad test with my midwife later but isn't that less sensitive? Contemplating pricey private options now...

Yay for good scan news sock !

mer miroid says yes too so we'll nab them please. Will message you on Dave book with my email address etc! Thanks!

Face book!

Lol at Dave Book!!

sock I paid privately for the NIPT test, as was given the quad test accidentally (it doesnt work for multiple births)and got a stupidly awful risk factor. We had no other option from the NHS except amniocentesis, so we went to a private clinic.
All results came back fine, plus we got the sex of the babies from the DNA screen too...

Hurrah for scan Sock! Can't advise on the tests I'm afraid. FeatherFoetus wouldn't get into position for spinal checks so they just asked me to come back at a later date. Will they not do that?

Glad to hear DDog is a little better Fruit. Sounds like he's improving and so hopefully will be back on his food soon.

Glad you had a lovely time with your Mum and Sister 5hell. Those cardigans are super sweet!

Fuzzy try not to worry. Everyone is different, but my symptoms with this pregnancy kicked in around 6/7 weeks. Boy did I regret wishing I had symptoms! Try to distract yourself from worrying.

Sky you're a better person than me - or at least you have a longer fuse! How frustrating and poor little DD! Glad you're philosophical and sensible about it though - and that you can remind yourself that you did the right thing when you separated.

Had a day off today - NCT women only class in the AM and then lunch with NCT class. It was really lovely. Very glad I signed up.

Feeling a bit wobbly the last few days, which is unsettling as I usually just get on with stuff/deal with feelings and frustrations quite well. I'm not used to feeling emotionally out of control. I keep worrying about uncontrollable things - like whether we'll ever be able to afford a bigger house; that we'll never be able to extend our house if we wanted because we won't be able to get planning permission; panicking because we don't have savings; panicking because if we want another baby after this one, how could we squeeze it into the teeny tiny wardrobe room; that I'll get fired when I go back to work after mat leave because my cover might be awesome/I might not cope going back etc. I need to stop my mind running away with itself as I'm just starting to feel sad and like a failure. Urgh.

Sky I'll echo everyone else and say how impressed I am when the Ex dropped off your lass, I'd have decked him. Glad you got your cuddles in with her though.

Fuzzy I got sore norks about 5-6 weeks - I assumed period was coming before I worked out I was late! The symptoms overlap loads in the first few weeks. Keep calm love. 🍫

Feathered in my shitty wide awake 2:30 - 5:30 hours I do all my stress thinking. It's flipping awful, though I'm pretty sure it's normal to be feeling all the feels. Speak to the midwife about it at your next appt. have you spoken to your DP about about any of it?

Mermaid I went swimming for the first time since January. It was awful. My legs kept automatically trying to do the froggy swim so I looked like I couldn't even doggy paddle. I was out of breath right away and only managed 45 mins of lengths. Also, I can't decide if the bump is more buoyant or is making me sink!

feathered intrusive thoughts suck. Can you speak to your midwife maybe?

So, I've just discovered a fecking hernia just above my belly button . It hurts! I'm not surprised really, as I was born with a hernia in my stomach muscles and had an op to close it at 12ish, when I was told there was more damage than previously thought, plus I've had a laparoscopy which weakened my muscles around my belly button. Not sure whether to mention it to midwife or go straight to gp? Dr Google suggests they won't do anything until after babybeckett is born, except maybe give me a support band...

If I do want to talk to the midwife do I just phone the mobile number that's in my file?! Feels weird!

wool you only managed 45mins of lengths?!!...i just did 20 lengths in a piddly gym pool and felt v pleased with myself ;)

Think it's more a DH/financial planner issue, rather than midwife. That said, DH probably worries more than me re: finances because he's the significantly bigger earner. Ahhh. Think I have to try to live more in the moment and swallow the anxiety down and acknowledge I'm very lucky in many ways.

Kate - I'd go straight to GP, if just for reassurance of how it will be dealt with after birth. Sounds uncomfy though!!

feathered it is normal to worry and feel out of control. Everything is changing for you. Plus your hormones are going bananas so you naturally won't feel like yourself. Definitely talk to someone about how you are feeling and be honest with yourself if you feel you aren't coping. I think a lot of tjis has probably been brought on by the maternity leave fiasco at your work. I am a bit of a worrier myself and I use an exercise a lot that I find helpful. Basically, whatever it is I am worried about I take some time alone and imagine the absolute worst case scenario. I then take myself through the steps I would take in the aftermath of said scenario and prioritise what would need to be done in order to cope and move on. It sounds a bit mad but it helps. I think often with anxiety it is the fear of the unknown quantity that really gets you. Once you label it, name it, envisage it and imagine yourself surviving it, even with a broken heart or with no money/career etc. then it stops being quite so terrifying... because you have a plan for survival.That technique doesn't work for everyone but it has gotten me out of some bad spirals. Have some grape juice in a wine glass from me lovely

kate how awful for you! I am sorry my dear. Does this affect your plans for the birth at all?

Thanks to all for your solidarity on the XH front. To be honest I don't really get angry anymore because it is just who he is... it makes me sad and it's annoying but Iam going to have to soend the rest of my life hand-holding him as a parent if I don't want DD to suffer. At least I don't have to have sex with him anymore... life with a useless DH is deeply unsexy. I can promise you that!

Speaking of exes DSDs mum rang tonight and demanded to know why I haven't had the baby/when am I going to have the baby/what happens when I go into labour/will contact arrangements change after I have the baby because "don't you know SHE NEEDS TO MAKE PLANS" FFS Apparently being available to look after her own daughter is a massive inconvenience... What is even more baffling is this woman used to be a nurse so even though she has never given birth herself surely she knows these things don't happen to a schedule?! Baffling!

The only thing that I can think is that this must be very hard on both of them and that must be why they are acting so ridiculously. I am sure it must be difficult to swallow that soon there will be a family member between the girls that they are not a part of and that must be kind of horrible .

Thank you for the reminder. I am convincing myself that I know I am just being silly and will regret not relishing feeling fine once the symptoms kick in.

Oh Feathered, I sympathise. I can be so tired and will go to bed and immediately my mind springs to life with all kinds of things that I hadn't even thought of that could be massive issues. I then get wound up and anxious, so I can't sleep so my delightful mind (who obviously hates me!) comes up with even more! I try to focus on one and come up with a solution or decide that it doesn't matter so to leave it or ignore it and then move on to the next issue. A good rant often helps as well!

Sky and Feathered sorry you are having such an arse time. Sky you have way more patience than me.

I am ok really. This is the reality when you have children from previous relationships... we may have baggage but at least it's matching. I wouldn't trade our children ir my lovely DP for the world so annoying exes are a small price to pay... Now, if only this baby would make her exit...

full term today and 5th on the stats sheet...how the fuck did that happen?!?!

was properly packing my hospital bag last night (rather than just throwing possible items in it's general direction) which spooked dh a bit. have packed nothing for chubs yet though...suppose i really should wash a few of those cute baby things soon - eek!

did have a play with the tens machine - mostly on dh - freaky fun :)

sky/tea/tri how are you feeling today?

Thanks for the kind words viroids. I like the sound of that coping technique Sky - it's definitely one I'll use; sounds like it would help to rationalise some of my more fringe/ridiculous catastrophes. Sorry you've got to deal with DSD's mother's neuroses - what a bizarre rant. As per, you've got it sussed though - baby Sky will mark a new era not just for you DD and DP, but the ex-ps too.

How IS mini Sky? Any more cramps?

Tea/Tri, news?

Woohoo 5hell!! 37 weeks!! How has that happened? I've always thought of you as just ahead of me in terms of baby cooking! How did DH like the tens machine??!

Yay for full term 5hell! Get that bag packed mama!

feathered I find it bizarrely comforting in most instances to have worked out a plan. It does take the edge off the irrational fearmongering.

Uncomfy today. Wriggly baby poking me but no actaul signs of labour. However DP appears to have put out his back and we have DSD and a big playdate scheduled this afternoon so perhaps that might invoke LOS?

lil how are you lovely? Feel like we haven't heard much from you lately?

And just because it's Tuesday... all round!

Nothing to see here

Still some BH but less so. Pains have subsided, discharge has as well. Strop baby seems resolutely settled.

Might try a short walk later (if my pelvis allows), but it might only be round the supermarket. My sleep is upside down so wide awake at night and back to napping during the day.

Hang in there tea! It is good you've had a nice gentle warm up. Might mean your body is preparing slowly but surely for an epic sneeze birth! Treat yourself to something good at the supermarket!

happy international womens day everyone!

sky Keeping mega busy as usual! You are a power woman. DSDs mum sounds a bit unhinged.

5hell my cabin case only has my pjs, maternity pads and a pack of primark knickers 😮 Maybe I should get a wiggle on too!

DP came off his bike yesterday, only a few grazes after hitting a huge ice patch. I cracked open some of the woolbumps sudocreme to dab on - it smells so good!
Because he was a bit stiff (ooer) this morning I took him to work even after just a couple of hours sleep! 😩 - anyone else got insomnia?

I did loads of cleaning yesterday so think knitting and the ER boxset will be opened today.

I'm so glad I finally started posting on here. I 'preciate the company so much ☺️