Due in Feb 07. It's January its all getting a bit close now

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Hi new year, new thread!

thanks, i will have a look

Hi Bubblebell, I certainly think you are right to feel that this isn't good but only you can know with what force things are being said, how meaningful they are to your son etc and therefore how big a problem it is. I think you have had some good and variable advice (diff strokes for diff folks) here from others so will just add s'thing short myself. Your DP is about to become a dad for the first time so could you use it as an excuse to get him one of the great books on being a father? I think that it might be Steve Biddulph who has a few titles that might suit: Raising confident children (all about giving love) Raising boys (if you new bb is a boy)and there is definetely one author who writes about the difficulties and importance of being a male role model for children these days. Tbh the advice is good for both parents to think about often. HTH FFT

Seems all are being stressed today!!!
Bluebell - my husband often winds my son up if he is wingey. . . . the ways he sees it is that Zak is annoying him so he wants to annoy him back. Not a very mature attitude for a 37 year old. Zak is very much a mummy's boy and always has been ie always wanted me to do everything, not dad. Cried whenever I left room between about 9 months and 2.5 years - even though my husband used to look after him 2 days a week from 7 months to 3 years!!!! However he does spend time with him and Zak adores him now ie doing car things, fixing things, riding bikes & boxing!!!! He also does call him a girl etc because he still has dummy at nite (he will be 4 on 1/03)and teddies but I just think he only has them at nite & no other time so it's not the end of the world.
I am worried how DS1 will react to DS2 - especially after a trip to mothercare resulted in him hearing a crying baby and his reaction was ' ow that crying is hurting my ears!!!! ' ALSO - am reading raising boys and it is good; bought my copy for £3.50 off ebay.
On a better note been for full head highlights and haircut today so feeling slightly more glamorous and can now go into labour knowing my roots look ok.
You can tell I have no conversation ie workmates as am rattling on about nothing.
Had a horrible light headed / shaky / sick moment yday in jesspos -yuk.

Seems all are being stressed today!!!
Bluebell - my husband often winds my son up if he is wingey. . . . the ways he sees it is that Zak is annoying him so he wants to annoy him back. Not a very mature attitude for a 37 year old. Zak is very much a mummy's boy and always has been ie always wanted me to do everything, not dad. Cried whenever I left room between about 9 months and 2.5 years - even though my husband used to look after him 2 days a week from 7 months to 3 years!!!! However he does spend time with him and Zak adores him now ie doing car things, fixing things, riding bikes & boxing!!!! He also does call him a girl etc because he still has dummy at nite (he will be 4 on 1/03)and teddies but I just think he only has them at nite & no other time so it's not the end of the world.
I am worried how DS1 will react to DS2 - especially after a trip to mothercare resulted in him hearing a crying baby and his reaction was ' ow that crying is hurting my ears!!!! ' ALSO - am reading raising boys and it is good; bought my copy for £3.50 off ebay.
On a better note been for full head highlights and haircut today so feeling slightly more glamorous and can now go into labour knowing my roots look ok.
You can tell I have no conversation ie workmates as am rattling on about nothing.
Had a horrible light headed / shaky / sick moment yday in jesspos -yuk.

Absolutely shattered today because I thought I was in labour last night. Started with contractions, very strong at 7.30pm and didn't get relief until 5am. Kids up at 7.30am. M/w visited me at home today and confirmed that bub is as engaged as he's going to get and it shouldn't be much longer. Not sure how she knows this mind. . Got very annoyed with Dh yesterday when every minute or so he enquired was this it and was the baby coming? How the feck should I know .
Alocin, so sympathise with you on the Dh at work front. Last week he said he has a very important meeting on my due date that he would find it difficult to get out of, I let him ramble on about lack of cover, blah,blah and then calmly asked him whether he would miss the birth of his son to take a conference call? He didn't look very pleased at this, so I decided to go for it and told him in no uncertain terms that if he missed the birth of his son because of a meeting at work I would change the locks! He organised a planB I'm pleased to say . Honest to god, you'd think they got no warning of the birth, they've known roughly when the child is likely to arrive for 8months.
This baby had better not decide to repeat last nights performance, without showing at least his face, is all I'm thinking .

All is now calm in the Alocin household! DH turned up at last minute for mw appointment, and lo is now 2/5 engaged, and lieing to right hand side, and I'm going to go for the homebirth option! Yay! Thanks all for listening to whinge - sending out chocolatey love vibes to all!

not had a good day today pain wise. very sore muscles around my tummy, hammock muscles i think they're called. doesn't help when all my ds's want to do is run circuits around the house with me chasing them!!

and after not getting round to any hair removal last night due to a sudden urge to go through cupboards searching for all out of date tins/packets etc, tonight i've got the cream and got a pedicure booked for tomorrow thanks to a gift from MIL so even though it'd be great to have LO tonight the thought of a pedicure quite exciting too! Then I really will be ready..... how many times have I said that.

Hello everyone. Have been around but haven't had the enery to post really so have just lurked. It's all getting a bit tricky now. Dh has been working late most nights for the last few weeks and I'm getting mighty pi$$ed off about it.He has a hugely important meeting on Saturday so the baby isn't allowed to arrive until after that. He's pretty stressed and I'm loosing it with the children on a regular basis and the I feel awful and start crying. I've spent most of the last 2 days in tears and I'm so tired that I can't physically do the stuff I need to do (nothing major, just general keeping the house going sort of stuff). I'm feeling like a dreadful mother and wondering what on earth I think I'm doing bringing another child into this den of inadequacy.

Baby is still pretty wriggly but is banging it's head on my pelvis a lot so it's very uncomfortable there as well as stretching its feet out into my side. The midwife says its 3/5 engaged and boy does it feel it!

My new problem is piles - I've always had them to a certain extent, but not for most of this pregnancy (bizarely!). Now they are here and sooooo painful, I can't tell you! Well I could but I dare say it would be TMI. Anyone else really suffering with piles?

You have my sympathy Cadbury, I do not have piles but can give you a rather detailed account of threadworms if you wish?

Oh sorky! What a thing to have to deal with now! I'll stick to my piles if that's all the same to you my dear!

Where abouts do you live, btw? I'm wondering if it would ever be feasible to organise a Feb07 mums meet-up?

I live just outside Newcastle, but I'd be willing to meet up JUST about anywhere, given we've all been together for almost a year. Be a shame not to meet at least once. Smudgemum lives up this way too I do believe.
I've let the Toddlers go until I'm able to cope as I'm feeling like you sound with the exhaustion and snappiness, I spend much of the afternoon shattered, looking at the clock for when Dh comes back to help me get them bathed and into bed, then the rest of the night feeling guilty for imagined meanness.
The threadworms I reckon came from the sandpit at toddlers btw. This is the reinfection having rid ourselves after 5 weeks of the most appallingly high hygiene levels I've ever had to endure. Went to doc yesterday and he gave me Pripsen for them so at least I don't have to go through the washing, bleaching, scrubbing again.
Have just posted on the Feb07 postnatal so plumpbump doesn't feel alone, wonder how they're doing?

shall we have a new thread for tomorrow?? or is there one already and i am daft enough to miss it??

i too would love to meet up. im in hertfordshire.

I was going to log on later to remind whoever logs in first tomorrow to start a new thread.
It's all getting very exciting now.

Sympathy for the piles and worms, I'd be up for a meet up. Im in the south east.

Well I'm in Kent - that's quite a spread over the country so far.

Sorky - the parent and toddler group thing has been another source of stress. I was campianing since August for some help from the church to take over for a bit so I could step back. I have had bu&&er all response which makes me really angry. My friend who had been helping on a when-she-could basis has had to run it solo since Christmas. We had managed to make a few changes to make things easier (like having all of our equipment and toys in a cupboard on the same level as the hall rather than up a ladder in the loft spoace of the church that we had to scale to get everything down from each week). But I'm so exhausted that I find I have to sleep after lunch each day or I just can't manage the school run (walking) so I have only been along once to help out. I feel really guilty about that but I just have to step back. I don't know how long it will be until I am organised enough with baby to start leading it again . . .

Cadbury...big sympathy for the piles. Left a message about them a short while back..ended up seeing GP as I was in so much pain I couldn't sleep..didn't know it could get so bad. Was prescribed proctosedyl, which is safe for short term use in pregnancy. Made a difference within 24 hours and I used it twice a day for 3 days. Piles haven't gone, but pain hasn't reoccured for over a fortnight now...so it worked! Prep H and anusol didn't do anything..neither sitz baths, ice packs etc. Didn't suffer with DD, but I think pressure of head from big baby has proved a bit too much in the last few weeks! Never knew piles could have made me so miserable, so was so relieved when I felt better again. xxx

DH is sat downstairs with glass of red wine, warm fresh french bread and scoops of ripe brie. Come on baby...I want to join in!

guess what - my piles have reappeared today as well - you see - we're all coming out in sympathy with each other

(don't know why I'm grinning - piles aren't really anything to grin about are they?)

I would up be for a meet up post natal as well - I'm in Hampshire - so far the only way we can all get together is if anyone has a helicopter.....

Does anyone else have like a constant pulsing type pain in their pubic bone and is this linked to baby's head pressing down, is it SPD, or something else entirely?
It's getting on my wick! It doesn't go away with change of position, tho' I have just come out of my pool and couldn't feel it then.

Can sympathise with the useless DHs, yesterday mine said it will be nice when he finds me attractive again, then today he admitted that he doesn't like me much at the moment, is rapidly losing interest in me and doesn't really care. Then he carried on as if what he'd said wasn't that important and seemed puzzled that I was biting back tears. Since then he's been civil though (having told me to f off earlier for something very minor!). I'm putting it down to the lack of sex since August as I know he can be quite unpleasant when he doesn't get any!

On a nicer note, I saw the mw today who says the baby is still LOL which is good, is still 2/5 engaged and all seems well. Hopefully I'll have popped before my next appointment in 2 weeks time...

Oh, and I'm in the south west, do we have someone in every corner?

And someone in the middle - I'm in Brum - I think you should all end up here - pretty equidistant from everywhere !

Have had a blugh day - just felt kind of sick and dizzy most of the time with no energy whasoever. This feeling is really ruining my plans to get loads done before LO arrives!

I'm in NZ. That must make me a very distant corner?!

I'm in central Scotland, and I know Suzi2 is just up the road a bit from me in Fife.. it's not much of a cluster though...

.. and as team insomniac, it seems to fall to me to be the first poster of the day and therefore start the new Feb thread.

So here you go...

new thread for Feb

(hope that worked !)

I'm in Cambridgeshire, with easy access to trains almost everywhere!