October 2016 babies

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Wow! First here. Well actually mine #2 is due 30th Sept by dates but as DD was 10d late I guess Oct is the place to be. I was in Oct 14 so Oct 16 seems to be the right place to be. Anyone else?

I'm Epsom.
I know of a fantastic doula and breastfeeding counsellor who covers south London and Surrey if anybody is wanting one

Ah thank you merkin.

Orangeblossom I'll take a look at that website. It could be helpful as I'm not sure if our offer will be accepted.

A private midwife seems a great idea if you can convince your husband, given your anxiety around it. Would you consider a doula? I seem to remember there was some sort of indemnity issue surrounding private midwives about a year or so ago, possibly relating to cost of indemnity which meant many were choosing not to do it anymore. I guess that must drive up for the demand for those who are (and possibly the price too).

Just spent 5 minutes staring at my boobs in the mirror. I'm pretty sure they've grown and are starting to look a bit more veiny. As I've been on holiday the veins are shielded a bit by increased freckles so difficult to see!

Merkin I grew up in Epsom. My parents are still there so I imagine I'll be spending a lot of time there! Do you think you'll be having your baby at Epsom hospital?

Crazycat I'm NW London too (NW3) but moving SW in April.

Merkin cheers for the tips, could well come in useful.

Bloody insomnia again last night but then fell asleep at 6am and have woken up a bit later than is good for getting to work on time should prob get off MN

Yes if not an independent midwife then we will hire a doula to be my voice and support DH in supporting me.

Yes Lisa, there do seem to be pregnant women everywhere! I got on the same weeing schedule as a pregnant lady at work yesterday. She smiled at me after our third or fourth time meeting and I wonder if she guessed. (I know, probably just being friendly or nervously wondering why I was always there while she was weeing).

I had a wonderful doula last time, I would highly recommend having a doula. I laboured mainly at home and then for a while in a stand alone MLU which doesn't exist anymore. But I ended up being transferred for an emergency c-section so think I will just opt for another section this time.

5 weeks 1 day today, I can't help but feel really anxious about this pregnancy. I wish time would hurry up and get to 12 weeks already!

crazycat DD1 was born in Epsom hospital - in their newly opened birth centre. It actually opened 5 days before she arrived - if it hadn't opened I was going to boycott Epsom hospital as their stats are terrible, especially around intervention rates. I hope to do the same or a home birth this time but there's a good chance I will be high risk so mightn't be an option

I was tempted by a home birth. .. but currently having new carpet fitted... 😂

I'm in London too.. but south.

Ah, lots of Londoners! I'm in East London.

wetsnow we have a really light-coloured carpets in our bedroom and upstairs hall. We just covered the whole room with plastic sheeting with a plastic covered path to the bathroom

Merkin - thank you for your advice and comfort, that really helped last night when I was getting in a tizz! I think it's the same for me - it's the thought oppose to the actuality, although I'm petrified of catching a bug/constant vomiting. It's silly because I always felt if I knew WHY I was feeling sick and could make the distinction that it wasn't anything serious, I'd be OK - but I still have that horrible gut wrenching anxiety when it happens. Yeah, I'm the same about DDS being sick - this was one of the reasons I put on having a child for so long because I didn't know if I could cope with the sickness aspect of children - I know I'm going to be a wreck when it happens, purely because I can barely deal with it now - but I have to learn and overcome it! I'll mentioned the medication to the midwife later in the month, sooner if the stress really gets to me.

Celeste (not sure if I've congratulated you, so welcome!) - I barely bleach at the best of times as the smell makes me heave without being pregnant Can someone else do it?

Lady - I think that may be a good idea for me too, I have intermittent episodes of anxiety (manageable most of the time, but hormonal waves are hitting me like a tonne of bricks). I'm like Lisa with the fear if I'm honest, I had to have a quick read of "Am I normal to be afraid" threads this morning at 6am because I was starting to convince myself I was abnormal. I think because it's my first I really have no point of reference, and me and DP took a long time to emotionally get to this stage with a lot of bumps in the road from his past.

All you Londoners! I'm in country bumpkin land (Norfolk/Suffolk border).

Symptoms wise - dunno, seems to come and go. I had a lot of stretching/cramping during the day and intermittent nausea. I just sort of feel spaced out really more than anything, like not really here or as if I'm dreaming. I've been having crazy vivid (and fucking terrifying) dreams. Boobs just feel different - seem to alternate between aching, tender and just plain old soft and warm. Weird this pregnancy lark, innit

Hmm soundsystem dds birth was quite fast so it would be nice to not have the stress about driving to the hospital. We are about 25 mina away.
I was an East Londoner/essex girl but moved south to live with sh.

*DH

Has anyone arranged their booking in with the midwife yet ? I haven't yet I know it's early days but I like to be organised.

Yup eve - my first appointment is 16th Feb - as she only works one day a week at the surgery and the surgery caters for about 5 different parishes, I needed to make sure I was on the books!

I know how you felt, it's early, do I want to jinx it, but then I realised me booking an appointment wouldn't make the difference really.

wetsnow a home birth might be the way to go then. DD1 was quick as well, and the midwife did say afterwards I'd probably want to have another home birth if I had a second as in her experience they're twice as fast!

My booking in app is this afternoon. I'm feeling very stressy today that something will go wrong so going to ask for an early scan, if she refuses I think we're going to book a private one for 2/3 weeks time (I think I'm about 5/6 weeks).

Oh ok good luck with booking in apps it all starts to feel a bit more real then doesn't it ? I only got my BFP Saturday so wasn't sure if they would think I was a bit eager if I called today? I remember feeling like this last time but can't remember when I has its. My gp surgery gave me community midwife number as apparently they are doing home visits now.

Good luck this afternoon Simile

Mine is on the 15th Feb. Have seen the doctor today for some anti-sickness meds - will report back on whether it has any effect in case anyone else is considering it.

My doctor booked my booking in app right away, allhallows, it's on the 18th Feb.

I'm having the spaced out thing, too, missy. I'm glad today that my job isn't awfully demanding, it's definitely affecting my focus.

Are private midwives more for home births? We're going to look at hiring a doula. I am very fearful about the birth (GP sent me for counselling for it before we TTC), and I would like the support, but also very much want to be in the hospital, with an epidural. I'm very impressed with you natural types, but I want to do everything I can to make sure I'm not one of you!

I didn't really like gas an air last time and I definitely don't ever want an epidural.
I think the first time you get to find out what works for you... I gave birth on a birthing stool. It made pushing much more easier than laying on the bed.

I was in the pool too and that was good for the early pain.

I'm going to get this week with dd's birthday and work stress out the way then sort out midwife stuff next week.

Thanks sounds - is that cyclzine? (sp?)

I've noticed I've had a fair bit of yellow/green discharge today - I had it just before BFP, after getting a lot of itching, which I had over the weekend too. I am so prone to thrush, I get it quite a lot, no idea why - I'm not pre-diabetic, not allergic to anything and all blood tests come back bang on. It's annoying and affects sex life and all sorts. It's probably just remanents of thrush, as I usually get it like this, but it's the sort of burning, uncomfortable feeling in my uterus and the fact I'm not actually peeing that much that's worrying me - I thought I'd be on the toilet constantly by now

I rang the doctors, I dunno, fear maybe - I really don't want to be on antibiotics and I was hoping it would just ease off as I'm so used to it, but the burning/uncomfortable feeling has really concerned me, and I know if you leave UTI etc untreated you can MC or end up with serious complications.

I'm starting to get a bit teary now, as I don't know what's best to do - part of me wants to fly down A&E just to appease my worry and the rational part of me knows to shut up and calm down. I guess because it doesn't feel real, having a medical professional verify it would help. I keep worrying I'm not progressing properly, my HCG, ectopic, all sorts. That's why I feel bad about wanting to be checked out properly, as I know I'd relax if I had those checks...

Hi

Can I join too?

I got a BFP this morning after a year of ttc, had blood tests the last few months as was 35 last month and it appeared that I hadn’t been ovulating so I was freaking out and I think the Dr was sick of me. I could tell I had OV’d last month and so hadn’t called them for results was going to do it this week. My cycles have been all over the place for some time now last year they were around 25/26 days the last 2 months I have been 33 and 39 days. This month was a nightmare DH was ill, had no idea where to pitch ttc due to varying cycle length, I have been out socially for the last 3 weekends this month was the month I was thinking there was absolutely no way I would be pg but here we are.

DH and I have a 4yo DS already he was conceived when I just turned 30 and it was in 6 weeks so the length of time this has taken has been a shock. My DS goes to school this year and had been hoping that we would be able to have me off for all or most of his first year to help him into school so that is now looking hopeful even if I might have to finish a month or so early.

I recall last time being very paranoid about something going wrong so have that to look forward to again this time ………eek!! Getting onto my pregnacare plus tablets asap I credit them with the fact I sailed through last time with no symptoms other than carpal tunnel in later months.

Because of cycle lengths not sure have an accurate date yet calculators suggest 7th October but my dates were pushed back by 10/11 days last time so not pinning much on to them.

Off to read the rest of the thread now ladies will be back later 

Oh and PS I am still very active with my first antenatal thread people from 2011 so I have high hopes for you ladies

Welcome figgy congrats on your pfb.

Congratulations figgy. The pressure's on!