Due May 2007 - Thread for week commencing 11/12/06

[Juicythe2ndnotsowiseman]

Hi Girls,

Back from Geordieland!

Glad to hear you're having a fab time with your DH LG&T. Assume the ball was fabulous too and the champers flowed.

MKG - Got the nose bleeds too, but only intermitently. Thank Goodness.

Bethnalhembub - my 20wk scan is on the 16th too. Is your's at the Royal too?? Mine is 9am.

Got my mw appt today. Hoping she listens to heartbeat. Am getting anxious as little weight gain and it's too early for me to feel movement as this is my first, so convinced all is not well - pure pg-panic mode.

Pebble - sorry your DH is being a bit of a tw*t. Sounds like he needs to grow up a bit and make some grown up choices. He needs to put you and the kids first and give his mum a good talking too. She's only bluffing with the ultimatum. If he tells her how it's going to be she won't risk loosing him. MIL's - ARRRGGGHHH

hey pinkjenny, have fun tomorrow night! i love love love george michael. it should be an amazing show.
letitshnow, congratulations on your fabulous day. i loved reading your post. so upbeat and positive. opposite of how i feel today so it was very welcome in my little brain. (everything is fine in jessinwaland, just a bit down today) i am so impressed with your three degrees. wowza.

Yeah, old guy working on a fairground is killed by a broken ride. Maybe give it a while and try again, really very touching book.

New house is a 3 bed Victorian terrace. It's lovely- wood burners, wooden floors, big kitchen and garden but needs a complete make-over. I'm so excited. After renting for 8 years, having our own place is going to be unimaginably exciting (perhaps a wee bit stressful too but hey, what's one more thing?). Lots of painting parties with pizza and music I think. Anybody fancy coming along?!?!

Somebody's going to have to peel me off the ceiling, so excited and I'm hungry so need to calm down enough to do something with some onions.

Hey jessinwa, chin up chick! You have the most adorable and photogenic little boy. Is he still being a bit of a tyke at the moment?

don't know what a tyke is, but if it means something like terror child then yes he is being one. i exaggerate, admittedly, but the kid is having very long days with no sleep. he is sleeping right now and has been for about an hour which is why i have been able to chat a little today.
i need a break and there is not one in sight. dh just got word that he has to go out of town tonight but he will get home tomorrow. then next week he will be gone all week. i would just like a few hours to myself to get some things done, you know. can you tell i have a lot on my mind? i feel like a spoiled brat complaining. munch is a great kid and it makes me so happy to be able to be with him all day. my life is so good. i should focus on the fact that my biggest problem is that i feel like i need a few hours to myself. all the people i love are happy and healthy and i have a group of ladies in a far-off land wishing me well. what more could i ask for?

Oh Jess, don't be so hard on yourself. Happiness is a relative & fragile thing. You're smart to realise what it is that you need - just some me-time. Can you book a sitter for a couple of hours & go for a walk, or get your nails done (always cheers me up, sorry if you're not a nail lady). Or when your DH is around, inform him up front that you'll be going out for a half hour, and just do anything except tow Munch around? I've even found solace in going to the grocery store sans child. Sad, true, yes...

Shnow, I'm an ace painter! And pizza eater You moving anywhere near London? Your place sounds like a fairy tale. It will be stressful but just keep reminding yourself, you'll get what you want in the end by doing it yourself!

Yes jessinwa, by tyke I mean a little person (usually means a boy) who is a bit naughty! Just checked it out and it's an English term- never realised that! It's quite cute though- usually used affectionately. Sorry Munch is being a bit trying at the moment. I probably shouldn't say this- feel free to roll your eyes- but it's probably an age thing. All of my godchildren have behaved in a similar way at this age. I know that doesn't help you right now, but he's probably getting more and more curious about the world and sleep is quite a boring concept to him. I'm rambling, probably not helping (hey if I was there, I'd watch him for you so you could have a day to yourself, but unfortunately I'm across the pond!). We're all thinking of you!

Kel thankfully not in London (country bumpkin me). I'm in Norfolk, but it's a quick train ride and I can show you the sights of Norfolk (that'll take half an hour then!). Come on the rest of you. I reckon a bunch of hormonal women could decorate my house in a most interesting fashion. I'm thinking we plump for a colour that most represents the food we are craving, so red onions and spring onions- yummy colour combination! A chocolate room and a KK coloured room?

In all seriousness, I'm going for quite traditional- love Victorian flock wallpaper and big squashy cushions, sofas you sink in to, lots of rich colours. What DH calls chintz!

Jess, i know what you mean about having a bit of me-time now and again. The other night i had to pop round the shop while Dh had the kids. Its only 5mins there and back but i took the long way and walked very slowly. I normally hate going out in the dark on my own (where i live its all dark streets and alley ways, very spooky) but on this occassion i loved it. I was so desperate for a few minutes to myself that i didnt care that it was bloody freezing, blowing a gale and starting to rain, to me it felt like heaven. Dont get me wrong I love being a SAHM but sometimes i think people forget that we need breaks too. I know my Dh works but he forgets that in his spare time he goes out to golf, goes to the pub etc but im always with the boys, i dont get to socialise as easily as he does but now and again i could do with it, if only to stop me going mad!!!

SOH great news on the mortgage, i cant wait for the day i can get a house to call my own, prices round here are disgusting so it will be a while yet. I love decorating. Im so of you

Well things with Dh are a bit better. I think he realised why i wasnt happy with him on Sunday and that his mum was out of order butting in and saying what she did. I stil havent spoke to her but from what i can gather she does want me to go for Christmas Day afterall, Dh is trying his hardest to convince me. Ive told him ive got my parents coming for tea and hes said we can go for dinner but be back by 3pm for my parents (which would mean only being at MIL's for 3hrs) Part of me wants to go both for the kids and to show im not the petty one but on the other hand i dont see why i should, she was the one who turned funny not me and she hasnt made any attempt to sort it out. Ive still got over a week to decide so im going to play it by ear. To be honest i quite liked the thought of being here all day, i havent done that for 4yrs (that was the first and last time i cooked Christmas dinner )At least Dh is willing to travel around on Christmas Day this year, he normally hates it as i dont drive so he cant drink, he likes to relax which is understandable but at the same time it means we are stuck in one place, only seeing one set of parents (normally his even though im really really close to mine )I think it he probably feels caught in the middle, no matter who he spends the day with he will upset someone else so this way he can try to please everyone, perhaps he is growing up afterall

Pebble, things are looking up and if you do end up going to MIL's for dinner then I'm sure you'll do it graciously and without malice on your terms- you sound like a much bigger person than she is and I'm sure you will make your point very well by showing her that you don't give a stuff about her games, but all you want is to give your children a good Christmas. Save up all the frustration for when you're back with us and vent all you like!

And you can come and help me decorate too if you like it so much! . Children welcome, the more the merrier.

Got given a bottle of red wine- Cabernet something or other- from my big, big boss today. I'm teetotal so I'll save it for the painting party...

Speaking of MIL's at Christmas, DH shouted at his mother last night. Very basically (so I don't bore you) in eight years together we have spent one Christmas with my parents, six with his parents and one alone. This year we thought DH would be working again but have just found out that he has the day off. ILs are going out for the day so we've agreed to go to my parents' (I repeat, second time in 8 years). MIL found out and shouted 'it's not fair', moaned and said we don't want to spend time with them. I love her dearly and we get on very well, but she is very irrational about Christmas. Can't worry about it as 'I'M GOING TO OWN A HOUSE AND HAVE A BABY AND DECORATE IN CHINTZ'!!!

Its so hard to please everyone at Christmas isnt it? Until i met dh i spent every christmas with my parents but since then ive only seen them twice on the actual day. We are always going round IL's but very rarely does Dh want to go round my parents. Its not that he doesnt like them, he does but he just hates going round peoples houses especially for meals, his own mums is different as he grew up there and feels comfortable

The decorating party sounds great although with kids there too it could be very interesting

Hey everyone. Don't be jealous of my dilation, I was induced, and once I got going it was fast. I read that the pitocin drip doesn't help dilation at all. I think that is why so many inductions end up with "failure to progress". I went in a half centimeter dilated so I think I needed a kick start.

Went to doctor today. Everything was fine. Urine good, bp good, weight up 7 pounds, but still good, bloodwork from downs screening was good. My office doesn't call or send a letter unless there's a problem so I never know results until I get there. No news is good news I guess. Next appointment is Jan 10, when I'll find out what this little bean is. Even though I know it's a girl.

Congratulations LetitShnow. I'm delighted for you about the house AND the MA. That's fantastic news.

Also glad to hear Pebble, that your DH is getting some sense!

Pinkjenny, I'm so at your George Michael tickets. I asked DH to get me some on ebay for my Christmas present and he never got around to it. (They block ebay at work so it's impossible to bid on anything, otherwise I'd do it myself.) Booo Hooo.

Morning ladies

I find out the sex of my little bean on 2nd Jan, cannot wait. Dh still doesnt want to know so i will have to be extra careful for the remaining months not to let it slip, or hide any clothes I buy for the baby, should be a challenge The only problem is I have several people that also want to know (ie parents, friends other family), do I tell them and swear them to secrecy or should i keep quiet. DS1 wants to know as well but dont think he could be trusted to keep it a secret so he will have to wait (may tell him on his birthday,my due date, if the baby doesnt arrive by then

As for dilation I was slow to dilate with ds1, seemed to take forever, well it was 22hrs labour from start to finish so it was foreverWith ds2 I was 5cm dilated when my midwife gave me a sweep, I was 8days late, hadnt had any contractions beforehand to show i was dilating, so I was quite shocked and excited. 13hrs later labour started and he was born 5,5hrs later with 20mins pushing so i guess i dilated quicker last time around Hopefully this time will be even quicker, 2hrs would be fine as long as i get to hospital in time, dont fancy giving birth enroute {pebble hopes if she says it enough over the next few months her body will listen!!}}

Morning all

I had my 20 week scan last Friday but nobody much was around to appreciate the news you all had a much better weekend planned!

All the news was good and it is supposed to be a boy! Chinese Prediction thing said girl I think. Anyway we won't be buying anything blue just yet, I couldn't see what the woman was looking at on the scan but she seemed quite sure there was a little willy. I am now trying to call the baby "he" and "him" to try and come to terms with it. "He" will be very much loved whatever "he" comes out as.

That's fantastic news SKY. Hurrah! First baby flavour of the May thread.

No worries 12DOC, this is such a chatty thread I struggle to keep up with it all and just can't comment on everybody's happenings!

Better news Pebblemum on DH. Good luck with your decision as to whether to go for lunch or not!

It must be LVB&T's turn next tofind out the sex, shes got her scan soon hasnt she? If she can drag herself away from Dh that is

It was my turn to have the strange dreams last night although it was more weird than sexy and it had Lionel Richie, Pauline Fowler and Matt Willis (busted/im a celeb)in it as well as Paris Hilton, Nicole Richie and a few others instead of Daniel Craig or Jordan lol

I was apparantly friends with Paris and all that lot but Nicole didnt like me and we kept arguing but her lovely Daddy was on my side, took me under his wing, than after a lot of weird things happened i found myself hiding in a shower (in a bikini) with Matt Willis (who had been going out with Nicole) hoping that Pauline Fowler didnt catch us when she did she made us go down this giant (about the height of 2houses with great big drops in it) water slide. I hate them so Matt held my hand (it was quite fun actually) Next minute it skipped forward a bit and i was stood with Matt and Lionel Richie waiting for a coach to take ds1 on a school trip, Nicole and Paris turn up and we announce that Matt and I are now married and im 6months pregnant Lionel was offering me to build me a giant waterslide in my back garden and Matt was promising to buy me a big house. It was all very weird and think maybe i need to check into a loony bin Its not even as if i actaully like any of the people in my dream Why cant i have sexy dreams like the rest of you, I didnt even get to have sex with Matt it must have been an immaculate conception

Anyone else got an outy?

My poor old belly button hasn't been the same since DS, has already popped out at 19 weeks and I've hardly got a bump. I hate it. Am going to a posh party on Sunday and an seriously tempted to tape it down so I can wear something clingy.

Thanks so much for the medised tip off last week, DS has had a horrible cold and was so tired and grumpy on tuesday that I gave him some and he had a three hour drug induced nap, woke up very cheery and his nose stopped running for the rest of the day. Fantastic... will have to take care not to abuse it.

So sorry to hear about the out of order husbands. Makes my DP seem like an angel, he is Mr PC himself and has been brilliant about looking after DS while I was finishing up my PhD, but he still doesn't seem to get that if DS or the childminder is ill it's just as much his responsibility to take time off work as mine. It's really hard not to fall in to a 'traditional' relationship where I end up with doing all the domestic stuff while I'm working from home. Just got to keep fighting our corner girls.

Pebble - I want to eat what you're eating before you go to bed! Your dreams are much more interesting than mine!

Benson - LOL at taping down your belly-button

Off for a posh meal Christmas meal tonight with some friends at La Gavroche, a posh restaurant in the West End. Should be interesting trying to find some clothes in my wardrobe to make me look the part. Oh boy.

Oh and forgot to congratulate SkyTV on good 20wker and flavour outcome - were you both hoping for a boy?

What's the percentages on error on the sex prediction thing. 1 in 20?? And is more often wrong one way or the other - anyone know??

If they tell us it's a girl I just know we'll get all pinked out and then get a shock! If they say a boy we'll be in so much shock we probably won't buy anything until it arrives

Lucky you Juicy! From squaremeal.co.uk (just been on looking for lunch venues for my boss for today. "Oh didn't I tell you its five for lunch not two? Can you up the booking at Nobu?" "No I bloody can't. It's only the sodding most popular Japanese in London. Arrgghh.") Anyway...

Le Gavroche: As it nears its 40th birthday, this French fine diner continues to leave most who cross the threshold smitten. It?s an ?awesome gastronomic experience?, sigh fans, where ?the best French food ever tasted? is served by waiting staff also hailed as ?the best in London?. Chef-proprietor Michel Roux Jnr is behind the ?delightful? dishes &, following in the footsteps of his famous father & uncle, serves luxurious classics ranging from foie gras terrine with French bean & truffle salad to rib of veal with a creamed morel mushroom sauce & mashed potatoes. To finish, it ?has to be a soufflé?, says one in the know, as ?they?re out of this world?.

You'll have to be rolled out!

Good morning cyber friends!
You have been busy this morning. Ive had to make notes on everything thats happened so I dont forget, but now Ive misplaced the bloody note.
Congrats to you Shnow - I am very jealous of your domestic bliss and academic mind! house sounds amazing. Having rented all my life I just cant wait to be in yout position. But theres the problem of that pesky deposit. Anyone got £20k laying around they can loan me??

Pink how was Mr Michael? He was in my dream last night but dont know what or how.. oh hold on.. everything she wants.. and now you tell me that youre having my baby, i tell you that im happy if you want me to.. that was it! he was singing that song. Cor, moment of dream clarity.
Pebble your dream sounds brilliant, like an episode of Hollywood Wives meets Eastenders.
I dreamt that I was at City Airport with a briefcase and someone pinched it and this morning i was telling DP about it and he asked what was in the case, and at that moment it came back to me that it was full of gorgeous little girls baby clothes and it upset me so much I burst into tears there and then. God I can cry on demand at the moment, its pure comedy.

Congrats on your flavour news Sky. My hospital have a policy of not telling, and I didnt think id want to know, but at my 21 week scan I will most def be paying attention to see what I can spot. Very very curious. Convinced its a boy.

More good news - It seems I have the beginnings of Carpal Tunnel syndrome. Every night when I lay down my arms and wrists start buzzing and I get pins and needles, and usually I wake up in the night with my hands useless and throbbing with P&N. No pain yet, but according to the helpful ladies on the pregnacy board, I should be wearing splints in about a month. CANT WAIT!

12DOC you've got me all excited now! Must remember to wear elasticated trousers - oh hold on a minute they're the only ones that fit anyway

Sadly the fois gras will have to be tried by DH and the others (not that keen on it anyway - too rich for me).

Ooh and Juicy, La Gavroche! Oh la la! just remember no Foie Gras and no oysters and, erm, oh f*ck it, get stuck right in. Amazing place.

SOH - congrats on the mortgage. I really want to find a new place to live. V. , but in a "happy for you" way IFSWIM!

Pebble - glad your DH has seen sense. Stand your ground and decide on your own terms if you want to go to your MIL's - maybe under condition of an apology?? If she's realised she's been unreasonable, least she can do for upsetting a pregnant woman IMO.

RRBK - sounds awful. Poor you. Is there nothing that can be done / you can take?

JL - I was quite hoping for another DD (have 2 already) - but DP would love a boy. I was told at the 20 week scan with DD2 that she was a boy but she obviously wasn't! Thats why I'm still optimistic for anotehr DD but whatever it is, it is much wanted and loved. Its just that me and the DDs will have to get our heads round football etc!! (DP is a fanatic and still plays each saturday now and he is 40).