Feb 2016 babies: Welcome to the 3rd trimester - the final stretch! (in more ways than one)

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I'm struggling to keep up too and then worry I'm not remembering details or being supportive! I'm not very good at this!

I am still planning vaginally delivery. Starting to have wobbles about a lot of things though - am I capable (I keep telling myself all the positive stuff but the voices creep in), can I get the house ready, is this baby gonna be huge.

Also falling out with DH as I need us to really buckle down and he keeps trying to get me to rest - which is fine but he's not doing enough (for his contribution let alone mine too)

Dishwasher broken and he hadn't told me - we have loads of identical plates so just kept using them apparently planning to catch up at some point. Cue an enormous melt down and have done a ginormous amount of washing up in the bath ( which was the easiest way to do sat on my yoga bolster)

He's stormed out to his brothers and is probably getting pissed to annoy me (one of my fears is not having someone to take me in). He thinks I'm being unreasonable as he was "going to sort it" & "didn't want to stress me out ". Great job.

Possibly will have to kill him over this though allows me something new to stress about I guess

madsaz I can highly recommend Bosch dishwasher, I've attached the one I bought. It is the best one I've had. It is identical inside to the expensive Siemens one the kitchen company put in my new kitchen. Had to leave the good one behind as couldn't be integrated. My previous dishwasher had been repaired several times and I was sick of spending 50% of the cost of a new one each time it broke!

yes I think urgent new dishwasher neccessary :) will take a look. THe old one lasted 14 years to be fair!

tumble dryer on blink too - will do some online shopping tomorrow as cant be arsed with domestic bickering.....

What is it with appliances breaking down at annoying times?! We had our perfectly working boiler serviced in the autumn and then the thermostat broke before Christmas. Fixed after the new year and now the hot water has gone. Not helpful when planning a home water birth! We've also just bought a freezer (the house we moved into had two integrated fridges but no freezer... Don't quite understand the logic myself) and getting our heads around that has been a bit of a nightmare. But it's done, and hopefully the water will be fixed after the weekend (works sporadically so no cold showers, fingers crossed and hopefully no labour before then).

hello to the other naturals! I was thinking I'd be last waiting for bubs to get a move on!

I need to rant.. I know everyone's views are different but I hate hate hate this post that's going around! I see it daily on my Facebook. If you don't want people congratulating you surely you just come off Facebook. I personally won't care what my Facebook is up to whilst I'm looking after my little bundle when she arrives. It was much the same when I got married, people before there weddings made huge deals about not having any pictures on Facebook before they posted themselves.. I was delighted that people thought I was special enough to post pictures of me!

I think it's the pregnancy hormones but really it annoys me.. I'll take any congratulations I get, in any form :p

I am the super rant queen today sorry!! I have however just read a thread about a poster who puts her bin in the dishwasher to clean it.. Top tip!

Vaginal delivery for moi. Unless I need an emergency section for any reason of course.

I won't say natural birth though, as I intend to fully embrace the epidural experience that has previously served me so well. Especially if this baby is back to back too.

I deliberately avoid the word natural cos in all honestly I have no idea what I am going to do till I work out exactly how painful contractions are.

midnightrun they are good rants though. We will control our first announcement (having put no pregnancy stuff on facebook) & then I fully expect a free for all style frenzy as not posting about my pregnancy has driven my sister mad!

I really don't care once bubs is safely here - FB silence started wit my fear that it could all go wrong and now I am very much looking forward to surprising a few people who probably assumed we never would

midnight we have kept completely silent on FB about pregnancy and very few people know. DH very much wants it to be suprise we have a baby. I think he would be very upset after 9mths of keeping it a secret for him not to get to do his big reveal. All my photos have been cropped to hide bump whenever he posts us.

I've not posted anything on Facebook either, I always thought it was cool in the past when someone announced they'd had a baby without posting about their pregnancy beforehand.
I'd never post something on someone's wall if they'd not yet mentioned it publicly - I'd just message them privately, don't get why people don't do that seeing as it's an option

I'm hoping for a 'natural' labour. Like madsaz I don't want to get too focused on that, but at the moment my baby is in the wrong position!

I'm going for vaginal birth too. Had the other two with just paracetamol but have an open mind about drugs, will see how bad it is. I'd need to be transfered for an epidural though and doubt I'd have time as the other two were fairly fast.

I've not put anything on Facebook either, dp has one picture with a bump in it. For us it was mainly the problems we had at the beginning and it being a supposedly higher risk pregnancy but also just not feeling the need. All our close friends and family know, don't really care about anyone else.

It was funny though as when I started to show I had a flurry of friend requests and it was obviously people going is she/isn't she and hoping to find out through my Facebook but there was nothing on there.

We had a very simple post on FB announcing the pregnancy. Probably do the same for the birth.

Another here hoping for a natural delivery. Epidurals scare the crap out of me so really hoping I can cope with the pain.

Hoping for a natural birth here too but VERY open to pain relief!

We hadn't put anything on Facebook either due to previous MCs, difficulty conceiving and meltdowns when other 'cutesy' pregnancy announcements had appeared. Did put one Xmas photo up that was very obviously bumped-up and felt a bit weird about it...

I'm planning a waterbirth with gas&air and hypnobirthing, will see what actually happens!

Love you all this morning! We are exactly the same, the first mention on Facebook was a picture my dm tagged us in where I clearly have a bump at Christmas.. It's lovely to meet people shopping etc and they still get a surprise when they find out your pregnant. Dh said it was the best thing ever telling people face to face.

Regarding the birth.. I'm hoping for a natural birth, with gas & air and hopefully just paracetamol.. But realistically I'll probably be screaming for any pain killers they can give me! My birth plan litterally says 'go to hospital, do whatever needs done, come home with baby'. I fancied a water birth until a colleague told me she did the loo in one and the midwives couldn't scoop it all over very quick so it was all around her for a few minutes.. Just not sure how I feel about that! :p

I think not mentioning on FB has become more common actually as my cousin hasn't, my hairdresser hasn't and I certainly haven't after all my losses.

Actually slept a bit better last night so at least I feel more normal today. We have also picked a name at last 😊

Hoping for a vaginal birth here too as I want to get back home as soon as possible, really starting to panic about going into hospital.

We haven't put anything on Facebook either, we figured people we truly cared about we would see/tell.

For a variety of reasons, mainly connected to work, I'm not on social media at all; I like MN because it's hugely supportive but still with a degree of anonymity. DP's on FB though, although no family pics really: sure the odd one of DD-to-be will go on there.

I got my date for my section, the 18th ! I'll be virtually at my due date, which is 21st/22nd...rather of all you having them earlier both in terms of the month and how far along you are in your pregnancy.

Baby is still clearly 'free', going from up and down to across.

Hope your OH came back sober-ish and has reconsidered his position mad. I'd've throttled him too, I hate dirty stuff building up, and for him then to have a toddler strop about it and stalk off...! I hope he's going round the shops/internet and sorting out a new one as we speak.

I swear things breaking down is some 1st world/ baby due "thing" my eldest's arrival came a day after the suspension on my car went, the oven gave up and the freezer randomly went onto defrost cycle and would not actually freeze! It was very stressful. I hope the dishwasher is sorted soon x

I hope all goes well with your depivery plans. I am still loathe to make any as I am unsure (unclear) whether I am high risk or discharged to usual midwife care (nothing in writing but one consultant said that). And my midwife works in a different district so no access to my hospital records (well, easily).

Hopefully I'll be birth centre but we shall see.

I used a carpet cleaner today. The jobs are getting more and more pernikity (and i am left horrified as to why some of them never seem to get done. Yuck.). Nesting it seems (and my frantic response) has been keeping my gd well in check though. I've now lost most of a stone overall. So probably a stone of me. My mum is freaking out (apparently my face is thinner) but I am fine, baby is fine. Medical people are encouraging which has calmed dh.

We are all getting really twitchy lol, not long to go now!

I think unless my results from Tuesday coming are bad, as in placenta shows sign of giving up bad, I'm going to wait until 39 weeks before I opt for induction. I started a separate thread and I had no idea that induction increases your chances of having an emergency c-section or going on that bloody drip that I hate with an excruciatingly painful passion. I want to avoid both if I can. Obviously if the consultant suddenly starts saying we should get him out I shall just agree to anything!

I agreed to try and have sex with DP lol to see if we an encourage him out that way. Only problem is I have totally forgotten how to be attractive or sexy and we are now living like flat mates having not had sex since conception. It's really really weird😁 I also have no idea what position I'm even capable of and leaping into doggy seems all wrong when we haven't had sex for so long.

It's actually fascinating to watch the group psychology the closer we get!

Yes he wandered back a bit shame faced and we have commenced a cleaning spree together. He wasn't too hammered & we have agreed to try and avoid the usual bickering pressure points at least till bump out. We've been together for 20+ years so are skilled at pressing buttons.

Today's "trauma" is blocking big sister from my Facebook. She's been borderline alcy for years and an attention grabber. I used to really look after her, pander to her etc. Had problems when mum dying as she was prioritising her social life (can't visit tonight cos I can't let the darts team down when mum in hospice etc)

92 year old dad in hospital. First she handbag calls me at 1.30am - my first thought is something has happened to dad and end up with rib pain +++ from jumping out of bed.

Then drunk posting on facebook about dad being in hospital. Brother is divorced and hadn't seen kids to tell them grandad is in hospital so I suggested she took it down. Predictable drunken nastiness but this time I don't give a toss.

Makes facebook a bit easier actually as rest of family rspect my wishes about sharing info on pregnancy etc so her loss is my gain.

I may hate families sometimes....

I keep doing this thing where I position myself in front of the mirror in such a way that my bump can't be seen. I'm trying to get an idea of what way my body will be after the birth, in terms of weight gain.

I could try pulling pre-pregnancy jeans up over my thighs but I think I know how that would end.

(Me sprawled on the ground trapped in a pair of skinnies stuck somewhere round my knees.)

mad that sounds hard and definitely not what you need at the moment. Hope you ribs are ok.

maisie don't do it!

Glad he came round literally and figuratively mad. Sounds bloody hard with your sister though, and on top of your Dad being ill

Got my new bedding for baby's room, used Xmas money to treat myself. She may surprise me and prefer the Moses/cot, but cosleeping made the BF so easy I really want to do it again!