RANT ALERT: We had our home birth assessment yesterday. They seemed surprised to see us on a Sunday and it turned out the midwife who had booked it wasn't in (for snow reasons, so legitimate). So it meant that we had to go through everything again with a completely new mw, including what happened with ds, (those teardrop stickers are useless and ALL midwives should have bereavement counselling), etc., urgh so annoying! Anyway, so she was saying my notes hadn't arrived yet and none of the equipment is at my house, so until they arrived I couldn't have a home birth (despite the consultant writing in my green notes: 'yes to home birth') OR a maternity unit birth. If I go into labour they'd have to send me up to Carlisle. There was no time limit put on when I might actually become properly eligible. At which point DH and I looked at each other and then I basically said that if I went into labour I felt it would be detrimental to both mine and the baby's health to go to hospital because of my anxiety. Medical reasons I'm happy to go but not on a technicality. I said it a number of times, essentially meaning 'there's no effing way I'm going up there'. She was lovely actually and really listened and once she'd established that my issue wasn't with that particular hospital but hospitals in general she said she was going to try and fast track things. It's just so annoying! I've been clear about my home birth for the entirety of this pregnancy, I've been clear about my ptsd, I've done my part and made it to full term and they just haven't got their act together! Hopefully she'll come drop stuff off today and she going to see about getting my notes scanned, but I'm not holding my breath. Just trying to keep my fingers and legs crossed. Argh!
Sorry, rant over!
It sounds like DHs and DPs are getting jittery. Mine is doing brilliantly in the face of my hundred moods a second but has definitely been grumpier and more twitchy recently. I got him to move things around in the nursery yesterday and then put it back as it didn't work - usually that might piss him off a little but it seemed to annoy him more than it should have... we also tried out the new car seat in both of our cars, seat belt fixings, and got so pissed off with my car's short seat belt (poor kid would have been upended a few times) that we walked straight back into the house and bought a belted base. So at least one problem is solved!
Right, extra long post over, sorry!