Due May 07 - Thread for w/c 04/12/06

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Morning!

has anyone elses pregnancy brain taken over the normal brain yet ?so far this week I have left the house without my handbag containing keys, money, nappies etc & had to get dh to rescue me, asked for a decaf toastie in the coffee shop, stolen 2 bananas from m&s (by hanging the bag on the buggy and forgetting), stolen a bag of cinnamon sticks from hobbycraft (see above), left the keys in the front door for the whole afternoon till dh came home TWICE! and got a parking ticket - HELP whats happening to me!!

Ok remember when I posted about nephew and his reflux problem, well they don't think he has reflux. My sister has to take him to the Childrens Hospital because they think that his tongue is too big. They have to do some tests while he's eating because they think some of his food is going down his windpipe and not his throat and that is why he throws up so much. Weird.

Poor little mite MKG. I will be thinking of him- no mean feat to get food to go down your windpipe. I hope it something easily fixable.

awwww poor little love - hope they sort it out for him

Got my doppler tday, found h/b quickly then later on had couple of good kicks - quite a good day for little sprout, although l/o has still benn making me sick on and off

Hope evryone is having a good weekend

Lisa x

Worst part of being pregnant. Damn bloody noses. Every time I blow my nose, which is a lot because it's cold, blood comes out. It's gross.

Awwww MGK that cant be nice I've never had a nose bleed, hope they dont last too long hun xx

Lisa x

Trying out my new name, what do you think? I was having trouble thinking ofone but then Cliff came on the radio and my problem was solved (its not great though so if any of you have any other ideas !!)

MK Ive been getting the nosebleeds, nothing too bad just when blowing my nose, driving me mad now though as its been going on for nearly two weeks. Hope they find out what is wrong with your nephew soon so it can be sorted, must be very worrying for your family.

I have officially finished my christmas shopping MIL has just bought FIL his present from us so all i have to do is pay her. He is so awkward to buy for it was easier doing it like that than me trying to go round the shops andbuying something he doesnt want/need/like. Now all i have to do is wrap them all, that should be fun as ds2 wants to help me I am officially getting into the Christmas spirit. Ive got a Christmas ringtone and pic on my phone and also a Shakin Stevens calling tone so when anyone phones me they get to listen to 'Merry Christmas Everyone' My MIL thought it was great when she phoned this morning, Dh wasnt so impressed though, he thinks ive gone mad

My LO has been moving quite a lot lately, its great especially when ds2 is sat on my lap. I dont know whether its trying to tell him to bugger off or make friends

Hope you all have a nice weekend (well whats left of it anyway!)

Pebble, I like the new name. Two thumbs up.

I like the new name too, Pebble!

Maybe it's my hormones but this year I really seem to have caught the festive bug! I just couldn't wait to put the Christmas tree and lights up and managed to persuade DH to fetch a tree yesterday and hang the outdoor lights, even though it's too early for him. I'm really looking forward to Christmas this year.

MKG - really sorry to hear about your nephew. I hope it's sorted out soon for him, poor little fella.

Doris - I'm starting to get the whole forgetting words thing. I'm forever saying stuff like "You know, the thing, the thing with the whatsit, on top of the thingamimmyjig....." to DH. Luckily, he always seems to know what I'm on about! Actually, I made him laugh last night when I told him about some of the stuff we talk about - putting keys in fridges, wearing old Y-fronts etc. He thinks we're all mad.

Well ive had an eventful afternoon, had an arguement with Dh as he had promised he would be here today but then buggered off to his Mums and then MIL told me that im no longer a part of her family and im not welcome there Christmas It had nothing to do with her anyway i was upset with Dh for letting us down (we had a lot of things that needed to be done today)not her. I was going to let it slide but then Dh came back home to tell me that she meant every word and that he would be having Christmas there and i was to make alternative arrangements. He has now buggered off back up there to sleep and although im upset with Dh and his attitude Im more upset at MIL. I have never been anything but polite to her and thought that after 6yrs i was part of the family. She has also told Dh on a number of occassions that he should put us first, we are his main priority and need him here but then she goes off on one when i ask him to do just that

Ive now decided that I am going to give them what they want. My parents were going to be spending Christmas Tea time on their own which i felt bad about but now they can come round here. Problem solved!! And even if things get sorted beforehand i am still going to stick to my new plans, I would not feel comfortable going to the IL's after what she said. As for Dh he can do what he wants, if he wants to be a mummy's boy all his life then he can stay there, if hes going to be a husband and dad he can start acting like one.

Its funny but being pregnant actually makes me feel stronger when it comes to DH, i know its not good for the baby to get upset so my attitude is 'whatever!!' when he bugs me and right now i know that if he never comes back we will still be ok, it wont be the end of the world. Yet i cry so easily at stupid things. Must be the hormones

Anyway enough of my fun life. I hope LVB&T had a good ball and is enjoying her Dh, perhaps mine should join the navy we might get on better

Awww Pebble what a mare, sounds like you have your head screwed on tho, I would definatly stand my ground over that one, what a plonk your DH is being, hope he wakes up after his sleep and realises the trouble thats been stirred up, hope things get sorted hun

Got up the xmas deccies, and knackered now my bones ache and I have my pj bottoms on as my mat trousers were doing my head in today, having a sit down for an hour before I get tea ready, then do more tidying before mum arrives tomorrow, cant do it tomorrow unfortunatly I have to do my housekeeping job

Enjoy your evening ladies, Lisa x

Poor you Pebble. you sound like you are doing the right thing - just keep the high moral ground then you know that you are in the right. I think when you are a mum and esp when you are pregnant you do become stronger in many ways because you know that it is not just you.

I don't mind so much about runny noses - although they are gross! I mind about all the other leaky bits....and I have lost the ability to speak (which is unusual for me). Particularly embarrassing when standing in front of a bunch of 16 yr olds in the classroom, trying to sound as if I know what I am talking about and all I can say is "ok turn to page thingy in your whatchamacallits" - they look at me as if I am mad.

Off to see consultant on Tues. Not quite sure why I have an appt now but, hey, will take anything they offer......

PS whenever you hear about MILs being a nightmare don't you think "I'll never be like that" - I bet we will and we will be on a thread like this complaining about our poor daughters in law....In the same way that I vowed I would never spit on a tissue to wipe my child's face...ok not quite the same level....
Actually, seriously though, I don't think we will be like that when we have seen what harm it does. My Nana was an AWFUL MIL to my aunt and I am v determined not to be the same.

Pebble sorry you are having a time of it! Agree with the whole moral high ground. Just remember that by sticking to your new plans it will piss your MIL off even more :D I dont really get on with mine and it has bothered me in the past but quite frankly i dont care whether she likes me or not. All she has to do is be nice to me or i will stop her seeing her grandchild(ren).

Sooooo wanting to put the treeup, but we are having our carpets cleaned on Tuesday so will have to wait til then. I am going to put it up in the evening so that Jack gets a nice surprise when he wakes up.

Got loads more xmas shopping done today and only have 3 more presents to get. Although one of those is my dad. The hardest person in the world. When you ask what he wants he says 'a kiss and a hug' he would be a bit gutted if that was all he got though! Wrapped everything i have bought so at least thats out of the way!

Update on my wonderul afternoon, it now appears that i am to blame for everything that has happened even though I havent said a word to MIL and it was her who has caused all this friction. Apparantly i made her cry WTF what did i do? Dh had the cheek to ask if he could take the ds's to his Mums for Christmas Day, hello if im not welcome im not going to allow my kids to go there leaving me stuck at home all alone. What planet are they on!!

To give him his due though i think poor D?h is stuck in the middle. On one side he has his wife and kids wanting him to spend time with them and do things at home and on the other he has his mum wanting him there doing stuff for her, he cant win either way. I have spoken to D?h just now and from what i gather his mum is making him choose between us. Whatever she said to him earlier has made him feel hes not welcome round there either, or at least while we are together. She hasnt said it in so many words but that is what she has implied. He now feels torn. Of course i want him to choose us, i love him despite his faults but at the same time I would be disappointed if he turned his back on his family, i would never forgive myself but thats the way it seems to be going thanks to her. Now we just have to wait and see what his decision will be. Im hoping more than anything that his mum will see how unreasonable it is to expect him to choose (its something i would never ask of him, he just need to organise himself a bit better)I doubt i will ever forgive her, she has really hurt me, and as far as im concerned id be happy never to darken her door again but it would be nice if we could come to a compromise so my children dont suffer and Dh isnt made to feel he cant have both of us in his life. As it is she has already made it clear that he is expected to be there on Christmas Day (but obviously we would like him here with us). At the moment it feels like Im fighting a losing battle, I cant win either way, if he chooses us I will always be the one who broke the family up and if he chooses her then I will lose a husband. It seems so petty, such a stupid thing to be going on but theres nothing i can do, as far as the IL's are concerned im the bad guy yet ive done nothing to them my only crime was getting upset with DH

To top it off tomorrow is the one year anniversary of my Nans death, it just gets better and better

Right im off now to pour myself a nice strong Apple Raspberry and Grape juice, its the closest thing ive got to wine so with a bit of imagination im going to drown my sorrows I promise i will do a happier post next time. Its nice though being able to vent without actually having to get other family members/friends involved, thanks for listening

Snowymeadow, thanks for the MSN, ive only just seen it when i went to turn pc off which is why i didnt reply. Im ok, the grape juice didnt quite work maybe it was the lack of alcohol in it Ive decided not to let what happened today upset me too much its not worth it What will be will be. If i spend too much time getting upset it wont do me, the baby or the boys any good. Plus its nearly Christmas and i intend to make it a great one for the boys whether dh is there or not, they will be having so much fun they wont notice Although if i dont get out and buy the food soon they may notice that we are eating pizza and chips instead of the usual christmas goodies

Pebble,

You mil sounds like a bitche and your dh needs to give her a kick in the ass. However I think you probably know that a man will never turn against his mother.

Take the high road and forget her.

Hello everyone.....im back....

I had a lovely time at the ball and i have my Dh home!!!!!!! It is fab, i am a very happy girl. Have had no time to catch up yet, will try this evening though.

I hope you are all ok, i have missed you >> Hugs for all ))))))hugs((((((( >>

glad you had a good time at the ball lg its great to get dressed up and go out isnt it x

imsat here crying ,best laid plans and all that no where near the problems some off you lovely ladies are having but enough to tip me over the edge sorry to moan going now

OMG just had to say, can't believe NJ actually had here baby! How many people must've thought it's all a hoax??

Morning all

Welcome back LG&T, glad you had a good time.

What a horrible weekend Pebblemum. Hope he makes the right decision for you and your DSs! I really can't believe MILs can be so bad. I never got on with my ex MIL but not to that extent thank god and I rarely see her now.

All our decs are up and all the DDs pressies wrapped and hidden in the loft. I still have a few family pressies left to get but not too many.

The letters from santa I ordered on the internet arrived this morning. I can't wait to see DD2s face when she arrives home (DD1 no longer believes but goes along with it all and I am sure will make a play of reading hers!)

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Does anyone know of good B&Bs in Seattle (WA), somewhere handy to places of interest?