May 2016 babies - thread 2!

[GrouchyKiwi]

First trimester worries and joys. Test taking, morning sickness, midwife appointments and scans. It's all happening.

Can't believe we filled up a thread already. (I'll get this deleted if someone's already created a second thread, but I didn't see one!

I'm on the train home from work but I'll give the community midwife/epu a call when I get in. It's weird as last pg I would have been freaking out, whereas I feel strangely calm and have a bit of a what will be will be attitude at the moment.

Also, ODog, a bit of brown blood doesn't get the alarm bells ringing straight away. So I think it's quite good to feel calm about it. Will be keeping my fingers crossed for you anyway - let us know what the midwife says xx

So there I was, patiently hanging around the old thread, wondering why no one was posting Idiot!

Welcome newbies
Hurrah for good scan results and bleurgh to sickness
Hugs to all who need them

I still can't stop eating. It's the only way to stave off the nausea. But it has to be stodgy and full on carb loaded. This HAS to stop!

Trying to decide what AN screening to go for. It's a minefield. Suddenly feeling my age and thinking we should go for the NT scan and bloods. I just don't know.

We still haven't told anybody. We don't live near my family and dh family won't be too impressed I don't think so we're holding off. I think dh is slowly coming around though and is at least engaging in some baby chat now.

Is it nearly bed time?

Odog personally I'd ring epu, it's probably nothing but you still may get a chance of a scan and reassurance.
Last pg I had this a lot and it was due to getting infections all the time (not sti's though haha) sorry for tmi! Ironically had epu today where scan was fine but had brown discharge so they took a swab

gizzy I came across it by chance! The nausea is horrible! And I feel your pain when it comes to letting family know!

Sorry if I'm missing out people when replying can't see much on my phone and forget what I'm putting to who by the time I post
to all who needs it though.

Welcome fluffy, and have another hug from me. Really sorry you're going through this at the moment, it sounds like the last few weeks have been really hard for you. You've had some really good, very eloquent advice from the others.

Just to add, this pregnancy has come as a huge shock to me and my DH too- after many discussions, we decided to start being less careful, and I fell pregnant immediately, much to our surprise. Both of us still feel very much in denial about it- both of us agreed we couldn't quite see our future without children at some point, but at the same time we couldn't quite see children in our immediate future, and we'd've been happy leaving it for several more years. But I'm 33, so we thought we should think about it sooner rather than later, and I fully expected it to take a few months at the very least. Since we had the positive test, I've been feeling extremely stressed.

Strangely, although I was very much in two minds about having children before, now I'm pregnant I desperately want it to stick. Yet at the same time I know I haven't quite processed the fact that if it does work out, then we'll end up with an actual baby at the end of it (I realise this is quite a key point!). And when I think about it too much, I realise that actually I'm not looking forward to any of the lifestyle changes it will bring, and we're wondering whether we've done the right thing. So right now I'd say I'm feeling worried and stressed that things will go wrong, tired and a bit sick, a bit disoriented with all the changes that are out of my control, and decidedly neutral about the actual baby part. But excited isn't really part of it for me for now. I'm sure that once I've processed the situation more, and as we get further into pregnancy, it will start to become more real, and we will manage whatever comes, and I'm sure I'll start looking forward to it more.

Excuse my rambling... I think what I'm trying to say is that it's such a big thing, I don't think you can ever be fully ready, and only you can know how you feel, and what is the best for you. You sound like you have a great support network around you, whatever you decide. And I'm sure people on here won't mind you coming on here for advice/a good vent.

Crikey! I'm gone five minutes and we're onto thread 2!

Hi all, back from our little Devon cottage break. Told my DB over the weekend and he was really excited which was lovely. We had no signal whilst there so I've been completely unable to check MN (!!).

Hope everyone's had a good few days? Feeling quite nauseous this evening, bleugh. Welcome and congrats to any newbies that have popped up since I went away!

Hi all,

I've been lurking for a couple of weeks so thought I would say hi now...
In May I had a mmc discovered at the 12 week scan. I had mentioned to the midwife at booking in that I'd had some brown spotting but as I had no pain, she didn't seem concerned.
A few weeks ago (4 days after taking a positive test) I had some brown spotting again so called up the EPU and got booked in for a scan - the scan was inconclusive as it was only just 6 weeks (but actually just over 5 weeks it turns out) by dates so still very early. I went back today for a follow up and saw a heartbeat and everything looks fine. I'm now 7+1 rather than 7+5 by dates, but my cycle was irregular so I'm not surprised about that.
So those of you having spotting, I would get it checked - it doesn't necessarily mean the worst has happened, but it's best knowing
I'm now relieved that everything is okay thus far, but also slightly dreading the 12 week scan. I think I'll be able to relax more once that's out of the way.
We just can't decide whether to tell MIL yet.... We told her first at 5 weeks last time and she was so supportive. I think she's already suspecting that I may be pg again due to noticing similar symptoms we discussed last time! We just don't want her to worry...

Anyway, really I just wanted to say hi!

We haven't told anyone yet, and I think we'll hold off until after the 12w scan. Though perhaps if I do end up getting a private early reassurance scan then we might tell my DH's parents (I'm estranged from my parents).

Toffee- it does sound quite like they already know- your dad definitely has a 6th sense!

Has anyone seen Greyhorses around? She was worried at the weekend that she didn't have any symptoms. I hope she's ok.

Hi Alaska so sorry to hear of your mmc :( I hope this pregnancy goes well for you

mollie I've seen grey on another thread im on for hyperemisis gravadium (sp?) think her symptoms are back from what I remember .

Welcome Alaska and congrats. I'm sure you were so relieved to see the heartbeat. I've had a similar situation mmc in april following brown spotting. Started the dreaded spotting again thurs so got an early scan sat and all was well with heartbeat ticking along nicely. Like you I was just so relieved but still feel anxious about it- have another scan when I'll be 9+1, I think I'll feel a bit more settled after that one if all is well....or maybe I'll just be a mess until I get my baby in my arms! haha! I'm sure the worry just never ends really.

My diet has not been healthy today- mcdonalds breakfast, chocolate for lunch (?) and managed 1 chicken fajita for dinner- however feel I might be able to manage crumble and custard?! I'm just eating crap....it helps my nausea! It's as well I'm taking vitamins really.

Tiff sounds like you had a nice break, despite Mumsnet withdraw :)

Probably a stupid question, but can you have an MMC with no spotting?

nicky333 if I am not mistaken I had a mmc earlier this year (by this I mean I only know the German term for it) and if it is the same thing then I had no spotting.

Thanks Bejeena. I was hoping the answer would be the opposite though

Nicky yes you can unfortunately some people only find out at their 12 week scan that the baby has not grew past so many weeks. Terrifying really isn't it?!

Yep. Totally

What makes you think something has happened though have you had symptoms that have stopped suddenly? If not then all is fine for sure.

Hope everything's okay nicky?

Awful cramping tonight I really hope doesn't mean another bleed :(
The last few have been after internal scan is that coincidental or could that cause it?
Too scared to go to the loo in case I see blood again :(

Thanks for the new thread! It moves so fast, I can't keep up. Welcome to newbies, my heart goes out to those of you who are struggling.

ODog it's definitely worth getting in touch with EPU (I've always got a referral through the GP). Try not to panic though as in most cases brown spotting is nothing to worry about.

mama I was looking out for your scan results and I'm so pleased they were good! What a relief! Hope you can relax a little now.

I'm 7+5 today and I've had a truly awful day. Sick at least four times, including on the platform at a tube station (thankfully in a plastic bag I had stashed in my handbag). I want to cry at everything, I'm useless at work and I've got acne for the first time in years. I'm still excited about the pregnancy but starting to get really worried about the next few weeks, I don't know how I'll get through. Thankfully DH has been amazing, I'm very lucky to have him.

Thanks for the reassurance/advice. Epu/community office was shut by the time I got home but it seems to have stopped now. I will try to call them in the morning although I'm pretty sure they will say to just keep an eye on it. I never had any complications at all with DS.

Hi everyone, hope everyone is feeling okay?

Hi mollie my symptoms vanished for a day and I panicked that it was all over but they have returned with a vengeance I have now vomited so many times I can't count! I have been signed off work but need to go back tomorrow so I just hope I can manage to get myself pulled together and actually drive the hour commute without being sick. I think the hyperemesis is just going to come and go- next time I will make the most of it and order a massive pizza!

I am now 7+4 and have an early scan this Saturday. I'm still really anxious but hoping that it will be okay and we will see something positive come out of feeling so terrible

I had ab mmc in February and like you alaska I found out at my 12wk scan. It turned out that I had mc'd at 7wks. I had no spotting and had no pregnancy symptoms at all. I don't have any symptoms now either as of yet (although I'm only 5+3). I'm trying not to worry about is as I don't necessarily think that the no symptoms had anything to do with the mc as I was pregnant up to 7wks and I had no symptoms in this time if that makes sense.

Hi, just wanted to say hello on thread 2. Am 5 weeks with DC2 edd 26/5. Have some pelvic cramps tonight but no spotting. Anybody else having this??

Thanks 29 yes I'm feeling a bit more relaxed but will be anxious again coming up to next scan, never ending really. But so happy to have a positive first scan so trying to hold on to that.

Greyhorses wow your sickness sounds awful poor thing but sounds like severe pregnancy symptoms so all should be a good sign that the little bean is progressing well.

Odog I hope you can get an early scan organised tomorrow to put your mind at rest.

Wow there has been a lot of spotting on this thread I never imagined it was so common!