May 2016 babies - thread 2!

[GrouchyKiwi]

First trimester worries and joys. Test taking, morning sickness, midwife appointments and scans. It's all happening.

Can't believe we filled up a thread already. (I'll get this deleted if someone's already created a second thread, but I didn't see one!

Great news ODog. I have had some brownish blood on and off since my bleed and it has now just become the normal for me for this pregnancy. Otherwise all seems well so I have stopped worrying now.

I snuck off when we had a quiet period at work today and had a lie down on a bench in the sun in the arboretum outside. It was heaven and has done my mood the world of good. Flexi time has it bonuses.

Hi all, hope everything's going ok! I have been away because I have been stressing and getting upset and being all over the place! Last weds I had a small amount of spotting so I was referred to the EPU had a scan and we saw the heartbeat..AMAZING! They dated me at 5+5 at the scan which puts my due date at 21st May! I had more spotting all day Saturday, discharge with red blood. I saw the midwife today for a booking appointment (made before I knew dates) she's referred me again to the EPU so I'm going tomorrow morning. Fingers crossed everything is ok but it's safe to say... I'm scared!

Fingers crossed emz. If you have seen a heartbeat previously I think there is a strong chance all will be well. Sounds like you have had a worrying time though. Let us know how you get on.

odog that's really interesting about the ovularion thing. I definatley ovulated around cd17 so maybe the midwife is wrong about how far I am.

emz fingers crossed for your scan, I'm sure it will be fine So many people on the thread have had scares I didn't realised just how common it is!

I had my first day back at work today after a week sick and nearly being hospitalised wih hyperemesis/ bad nausea. I have really really stuggled to get through today and just desperately want to be sick/sleep for a week now!

Hi ladies, apologies for also going awol for the past week or so. I too was spotting (brown) and have been having cramps on and off since finding out about the pregnancy. I've got endometriosis and been stressed out to the max. Thank you for all your lovely advice(sorry for not naming, I can't find the old thread) i decided to contact the EPU and had a scan yesterday. Thankfully baby had a heartbeat and measured me now at 7+4 strangely it's not really made me feel less stressed, because I know how many of you have had awful experiences later on in pregnancy, but I need to just get on with it all.
I've now got a cold (definitely man flu ) and feeling rotten, does anyone know if there is anything we can take to relieve congestion? Left work early and felt ridiculous as it's just a cold, think everyone thinks I've gone mad, as they don't know about the pregnancy and nausea
Hugs to all having difficult times and hope you've all got any support you may need
Emz- glad your scan was also good news and fingers crossed for your next one.
Grouchy- thanks for starting a new thread, I wondered where you'd all gone!
Grey - your symptoms sound terrible, is there any way you could do a graded return to work so you get time to relax too?
I would definitely recommend anyone who is spotting/ having symptoms that don't feel right to contact their EPU even to just discuss it through with a midwife and discuss an early scan.
Take care everyone.

Hi blil, it must have been fab to see the scan! Hope the cramping stops soon- if it helps I also still get cramping and I am 7+5 so almost the same as you!

Unfortunately I only get paid for what shifts I work, I already lost a weeks wage sick last week and really can't afford to loose any more hours. We are just able to pay bills as it is and need to save for baby coming so each week I take off really impacts us. I think I would get SSP but even that is a tiny amount. I wish I had a normal job

Great news ODog, you must be really pleased. And glad you had a good scan result too Blil.

It does seem like so many people on here have had bleeding, and almost as many have had early scans. I wonder if we're representative of women generally? I had no idea that there were all these potential issues in early pregnancy, how on earth do other women just seem to breeze through it all? Or perhaps they're just putting a front on?!

Is anyone else learning to drive? My driving instructor wants me to practise emergency stops next week, so I told her I was pregnant and she asked if I'd rather wait until after the 12 week scan. I need to learn it, so need to do it at some point, does anyone know if it's okay to do in early pregnancy? Do you think there's any benefit in doing it at 12 weeks rather than 10 when I'm past the riskiest stage?

I'm probably overthinking this and it's all absolutely fine, but advice is welcome!

Phone your midwife and ask her Blue. That is what she is there for. Mine have been brilliant so far the one time I had to phone them. I had to phone back as I had left the wrong number and they all knew who I was and had been worrying about not being able to answer me. That made me feel really welcome to do it about anything.

Tonight I am baking many, many cakes. One girl in my work has a birthday tomorrow and one in DHs is retiring. The house smells amazing.

My cramps have started again and so has the brown spotting :( feeling terrified again, I don't feel like I'm coping too well :( such a nervous wreck, haven't had a chance to look back hope everyone's ok. Going to try and sleep now and hope things are ok in the morning

Fingers crossed for everyone having spotting and waiting for scans. Good news about your scan ODog

Blue you should be totally fine to emergency stop - otherwise it would be recommended that pregnant women not drive (had to stop suddenly myself today in fact). Good luck with your lessons!

I'm 8+3 today, waiting for first midwife appointment next Tuesday. I have heard the heartbeat already, on a Doppler I bought during my first pregnancy, which is very reassuring and exciting.

Also starting to feel less nauseous, although my diet hasn't improved much yet! Hope those of you with HG are feeling better very soon x

Hope you get some sleep southy and that the spotting stops soon x

Hope things are all okay in there, Southy. From what I've read, cramps and brown spotting is normal.

I posted about my lack of symptoms and we did another test tonight. The first one, on the 25th of August, showed 1-2 weeks. The second one on Tuesay last week showed 2-3 weeks. The one tonight also showed 2-3 weeks.

According to the date of my last AF, I'm 6 weeks today. According to when my app says I ovulated, I'm 5 weeks. It shouldn't still be showing 2-3 weeks, should it?

These things are not that exact. I wouldn't worry based on that alone.

Spotting and cramping yet again! Aghhhh

Morning all. So glad your scan went well Odog, that's great news.

ICant, sorry to hear that. Try not to worry too much. Sending good vibes. How far along are you again?

Feeling a bit sad today. Went to a choir rehearsal last night and afterwards mentioned to my DM that since I've been pregnant I've felt short of breath when singing. She said that as I had such a big tummy anyway my body must be struggling.

I am overweight, but I don't necessarily want this to be pointed out by my DM, especially as she knew I was feeling worried about it. I stressed out for days when I first found out I was pregnant (I made a thread on MN) but I had sort of made my peace with it, and accepted that my body must have decided I'm healthy enough if a baby had been conceived. Now thanks to DM I'm wobbling again and scared that I'm doing the wrong thing and that people will judge me. I wish she had just kept her thoughts to herself.

I hope you're not too stressed Icant - Have you phoned the EPU or your midwife? How are you feeling now? is it still happening?

Southy - how are you feeling this morning? I hope you managed to get some sleep.

Blil3 - I seem to have a cold as well, it's more of a very painful sore throat and cough and I sound like Darth Vader! This is the first time I've not just reached for the usual concoction of ibruprofen etc. I'm going to stick to Honey and Lemon and hope the steam helps my nose! Hope you feel better soon - Fingers crossed this cold will mean our immunity increases so we don't get any more colds over the winter months

Tiffany - Your DM sounds like an evil witch (sorry). I'm a size 16 and so not supermodel sized and I'd been doing really well with my healthy eating and losing weight so am struggling loads with the fact my body will change as well. You are completely right, you managed to conceive a baby and I doubt your baby has an issue with how your stomach looks (which I bet is fine, anyway ).

I'd suggest the wrong thing is listen to such bile - What kind of person says that to a pregnant woman? Noone who is normal would judge you, it says more about her than it does about you.

Do you think this will go on through your pregnancy and she'll say a lot of hurtful things like that? If so, is it worth trying to nip it in the bud or remove yourself from her company as much as possible?

Thanks Fluffy. She's mostly really supportive but has always had a huge problem with my weight. I'm more like a size 22 so I do accept that I'm much larger than I should be. But still - I don't think telling a pregnant woman they ought to be losing weight is helpful.

I snapped back and said "Well, you're not supposed to try to lose weight when you're pregnant Mum" and changed the subject.

I was contemplating sending her a message this morning saying something like, 'Your comment has made me feel really stressed so please can you not say anything like that to me again'. Do you think that's fair?

Yes, don't worry Nicky - I don't think the dates on those things are 100% reliable. Don't take it as a bad sign.

Icant - stay positive, lovely lady! Give the EPU a ring and I'm sure it's all fine. I know it's super stressful though - hugs.

Tiff - don't let your Mum's words get to you. Like you said, she's probably trying to be supportive but in a round about way. Like you said - you conceived so your body is ready for this. Your midwife will help you through and give you the best advice so just listen to her and you'll be fine. Maybe the breathlessness has something to do with blood pressure during first trimester too? Doctor told me today that blood pressure usually drops in the first 12 weeks as your production of blood increases. So many changes going on, it's bound to affect your voice.

It's up to you if you want to send the message - I'd probably just let it be, but I'm not good with confrontation and would rather avoid causing anymore upset or risk it being taken the wrong way.

As for me, I had my GP appointment this morning. It went really well! She was very reassuring and gave me my green antenatal book (which is huge! And you're meant to carry it around with you always? I'm going to need some bigger handbags!). Been referred to midwife so should hear from them soon hopefully and my maternity prescription exemption thing has been sent off. All feels a little bit more real now!

Hi All,
Cant believe ye are on a new thread already! I only manage to post once in the first thread as I was suffering badly from sickness could barely manage work let alone other things but hoping this time I can keep up bit more as sickness has abated a bit.
my stats are:
EDD 14/05/15
DC This will be #2 I have a 6 year old DS
Age 26
From Ireland
Not married but have a lovely OH. together 7 years

I am 7w+4 today

Sorry for lack of personals so much to read up on and I hope to get to know ye more!

jesus meant 14/05/16 not 15, baby brain already haha!

toffee you take the folder to apps related to the pregnancy. I always was told to take with me if travelling in the 3rd trimester

nicky333 hi there! They are not as reliable as the pregnancy test itself. It shows as 2-3weeks and that means 4-5 weeks in normal pregnancy counting.
I had that happen to me in different pregnancies with a good outcome and a bad one. Could you phone epu?

Thanks people and hi. We have our appointment with the midwife today so I'll ask her.