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April 2016 Babies

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Issie339 · 22/07/2015 19:07

Hi! Anyone else around yet who's expecting in April 2016? I've searched Mumsnet but can't find a thread- apologies if I've missed it. Just got my BFP today due date would be 2nd April (so the NHS website tells me). Would be great to have company on this journey!!

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Sophia1984 · 27/08/2015 10:46

Hi everyone, thanks for all your good wishes. Sadly the ultrasound just showed a nicely lined womb and a tiny dot. So it's either very early pregnancy (which makes no sense datewise) or the embryo just never developed. I also have a retroverted uterus. My urine test still shows a faint positive so they've done a blood test and will retest in 3 days if it's high, but I'm not hopeful. At least it won't be as big a miscarriage as if I were further along and at least I've found out before my 12 week scan. Sitting in the hospital chapel now.

PallasCat · 27/08/2015 11:00

Flowers Flowers Flowers So sorry, Sophia xxx

TriJo · 27/08/2015 11:00

So sorry to hear that Sophia :(

/offers hugs

MsTea · 27/08/2015 11:19

So sorry Sophia. Thinking of you x

PallasCat · 27/08/2015 11:22

Off to see the nurse today to register at my GP. Made the appointment before I knew I was PG. I called them earlier in the week to see if I needed to make a separate appointment with a doctor to start the ball rolling on referral to midwife, booking in appt etc, and the receptionist said not, but that it would need to be a doctor to confirm my PG before a referral Confused. Seems like mixed messages. Maybe the nurse can give me a test, and pass it on to a doc without the doc actually having to see me in person. Well - I find out shortly either way! Really hope I don't have to make a separate appt to see a doc. Saving up my pee in case I do need to POAS!

MrWriter · 27/08/2015 12:06

oh no Sophia

Hopefully its just early days. Flowers

spottedquoll · 27/08/2015 12:14

Sorry to hear that Sophia. X

CarrotVan · 27/08/2015 12:24

I'm so sorry sophia - do you anyone with you? Look after yourself

Sophia1984 · 27/08/2015 12:28

My partner is here but he's sleeping as he works nights. He's being supportive but I don't think he really understands as it isn't his body that's been going through all these changes, seemingly for nothing. He says it just wasn't meant to be and we can try again, but I just feel so scared of going through this excitement and disappointment again. I feel like I want to talk to my mum but I hadn't even told her we were trying, so I don't want to upset her for nothing. I can't stop crying - stupid hormones.

meganlilly89 · 27/08/2015 12:52

Sophie your experience sounds very much like my mc back in April. So many people knew then I found the support so helpful from people. And it helped me to talk about it.

Thinking of you x

CarrotVan · 27/08/2015 12:52

Tell your Mum if you need the support. MrVan wasn't that supportive and didn't understand but my sisters were great

DizzyMerry · 27/08/2015 13:01

Sophia I'm so sorry you're going through this. Thinking of you. Hope you've got lots of support around you.

Sophia1984 · 27/08/2015 13:02

Sorry to hear you went through this meganlilly89 Do you mind me asking what happened next after your scan? Did they tell you anything more clearly than they told me?

PallasCat · 27/08/2015 13:03

Sophia in your place I think I would definitely tell my Mum, despite how painful it would be. It sounds like you are very close to her. For me I know that it would really upset her of course, but I think she would be the person whose support I would need more than anyone else. Your instinct is not to upset her, but with something like this don't feel bad about putting your need for support first.

KnitsBakesAndReads · 27/08/2015 13:56

So sorry to hear that Sophia. Flowers In your shoes I'd definitely tell your mum. You must be close if she's the person you first want to talk to about this, and I'm sure if she had a choice she'd rather you talked to her even though she will find it upsetting than not know and you be upset without her support. Take good care of yourself.

FussyHendricks · 27/08/2015 14:14

So sorry Sophia. Please talk to your mum. Like others have already said, I'm sure she will want to support you through this Flowers

waxweasel · 27/08/2015 14:15

I'm so so sorry Sophia. I can't imagine how horrible that must have been to find out. Sounds like it might be helpful to talk to your mum about it Flowers

MsGlitterJunkie · 27/08/2015 15:34

Sophia, I am so, so sorry to hear this. I have been through something virtually identical back in Nov so have some idea of how you may be feeling. I can give you more detail on my experience if you think it might be helpful but don't want to hijack this by going on about it. You will need friends and family around you to offer support, don't be afraid to lean on them and please be kind to yourself over the next while. x

Sophia1984 · 27/08/2015 15:56

That would be really helpful MsGlitterJunkie if you could share your experience. I'm feeling really confused at the minute as I don't think the nurses wanted to tell me much until they've done the blood tests, but it's got me worrying I could have anything from an ectopic to a molar pregnancy to a tilted womb caused by undiagnosed endometriosis!

MsGlitterJunkie · 27/08/2015 16:20

In my case I had a blighted ovum, so there was a pregnancy sack in my womb but nothing in it, at some point the embryo stopped developing or didn't attach properly.

Initially I was scanned at 5 weeks and they asked me to come back in a fortnight as it might be too early to see anything within the sack. Then at 7 weeks they saw that the sack had grown but there still wasn't anything in there so they asked me to come back a week later as some embryos are slow to develop but at 8 weeks they would be able to say definitively that pregnancy wasn't viable. By the time I got to 8 weeks I'd started bleeding really heavily so when they scanned me they could see the sack was an odd shape and had dropped down from being high up in the womb.

They offered me medical management or surgical management I wanted a day to think about it but that night I miscarried naturally anyway. I had to go back a fortnight later for urine test which was still faintly positive so they scanned me again to check my womb was clear which it was thankfully.

The thing I really want to stress is that everybody is different, my experience is worst case scenario. You don't know what the case is with you yet so please don't automatically assume the worst. Molar pregnancies are very rare I understand and if there is a sack in your womb then it's definitely not eptopic. A tilted womb shouldn't cause any problems in pregnancy from what I can tell either. Ask the nurses all the questions you have, they will try their best to answer them as best they can. Have you got a friend or a member of family who you can talk to/ who can be with you if your partner doesn't get it? Sending you huge hugs as this is just a horrible time no matter what the outcome. x

Sophia1984 · 27/08/2015 16:36

Thank you so much for sharing MsGlitterJunkie It's the uncertainty that's hard isn't it? I feel like everything else is on hold.

I've just heard that my HCG level was 280, which is high enough that they want to retest in 48 hours. Apparently the technician couldn't even see what she would call a sac on the scan, just a dark 'area', and she's written that she can't see definite evidence of a pregnancy. But the nurse still seemed to think that HCG levels could go up and it could still be viable. I don't know if I should still have any hope. I can't see how it could be less than 7 weeks, as we only had sex up until Day 14 of my cycle, and then after I had had a + result. More waiting... I'm going to tell my mum and hopefully she can come with me on Saturday, especially as I live in middle of nowhere and had to get 3 buses to get to hospital this morning!

Want2bSupermum · 27/08/2015 16:49

Sophia So sorry this has happened to you. Do speak to your mother and also the hospital should have someone you can speak to who can help you process this.

woundbobbin · 27/08/2015 16:49

So sorry Sophia. Much love to you.
Sorry if this message comes out funny I have never used anything other than the app and thats offline at the moment. Trying to get used to the desktop.

Sophia1984 · 27/08/2015 17:01

Came out fine woundbobbin Thank you :-)

Thanks Want2bSupermum I've texted my mum to ring me when she has a chance but she was volunteering this afternoon and is out this evening (she has a better social life than me!) and is bad at checking her phone! I rang home but my dad picked up and I didn't want to talk to him about it. Nurses are being a bit rubbish at the minute as I think their main concern is confirming pregnancy is over/that I'm not having an ectopic, rather than treating me like I've definitely had a miscarriage and offering support. I just don't see how it can be viable with such low HCG and nothing on the scan. Would only make sense based on ovulating when I'd already had a positive test :-/

Want2bSupermum · 27/08/2015 18:23

I didn't see your last message about the HCG levels and the scan. Hoping for the best for you. When I had my scan yesterday it took the obn herself to get the heartbeat and I am 8 weeks along. The technician was hopeless, couldn't get anything but a big black hole, once the obn decided to help train her on finding an embryo she measured incorrectly. Lets hope the technician you had was also hopeless. FWIW (TMI alert) we DTD on a Saturday night and, by the dating done yesterday, it looks like conception happened 4 days later. Just because you DTD on a certain day doesn't mean that conception happened on that day. Obn was saying up to 5 days after is very normal.