Hello gang!
Just popped in as I remembered that we were talking about matenoty bras - if you're thinking of ordering some from Figleaves, use this code - FREEDEL13. It'[ll give you 10% off your order plus free delivery. I ordered some yesterday from the 'sale' section and they arrived this morning - speedy and bargainous! I'm pretty sure that Figleaves have a US site too so it's worth seeing if the code works there.
Gah - I'd signed off last night and missed which thread it was that featured the pad sniffing. Will have a quick look now as it sounds hilarious! And I missed the fashion show too!
Sky - really glad to hear that you've made a decision that you're happy with. Good on you, lady.
As for Christmas, I've a feeling that it might be a bit tricky for us this year. Normally, the MIL comes to stay with us as she's on her own (FIL passed away 5 years ago and my husband is an only child). She also comes on holiday with us every summer to Cornwall. The thing is, she's quite a moody person and normally goes into a huge, inexplicable sulk after a day or two. In previous years, I've rallied round her, cajoling and coaxing her out of her mood and, after a coupld of days, things are beack to normal again. This summer, I just couldn't be bothered with it. I got angry instead - I was annoyed that she does the same thing every year and ends up ruining the holiday for us. What should be a fun and enjoyable week ends up fraught with tension. So I thought to myself "sod it - let her be in a sulk then. She's an adult and I'm not babying her anymore." After a day, she ended up getting up in the middle of the night when we were all in bed and driving off back home. This was back in July - she hasn't really had anything to do with us since, although she does see the children fairly often. In fact, it was through the children that we found out that she doesn't want to come over this Christmas - she told them that she wouldn't be staying with us and naturally (they do love their nan), they were sad.
My husband has been over to see her to try to sort it out (it really upsets him and I hate seeing him upset, so I've encouraged him as much as I can to try and speak to her as I know that she won't speak to me) - she either keeps him on the doorstep, not letting him inside the house or she acts all chirpy and as if nothing is wrong, making it difficult for him to raise the subject. When he went to see her to tell her about the baby, she just said "Yes, I remember you talking about having another one back in the summer" - she didn't say congratulations nor did she phone me to say she'd heard or anything. She hasn't shown any real interest in the baby at all. I've tried to build bridges with her too - in October, I invited her round for dinner on my birthday and she came and I made a meal and we all sat together but she was very quiet. When the baby was mentioned, she would look away and not comment. Then, when I had a bit of a scare with a bleed, I phoned her to ask for some advice and she was really helpful and supportive and I told her how much I appreciated that and thanked her. When we had the first scan, my husband brought her some scan pictures, to try and get some maternal instinct going. When we had the nuchal scan, I told her about it and invited her around to have a look at the pictures from that. She didn't show up.
I'm really sorry to have ranted on about this but it's bugging me and the closer we get to Christmas, the more upset my husband is going to feel. We don't really have any other family (none on my side) and my husband keeps feeling guilty about his mum being on her own. I try to reassure him that she's a grown woman who has made her own choice - it's up to ehr what she does - but this doesn't make him feel any better and I just feel like a heartless bitch.
God. Families, eh?