March 2016 bus chugging along, sickness and early scans galore!

[Kittykitty05]

Not started a new thread before, so I'll give it a go....

Mrs - keeping fingers crossed for you!!

Me - glad all seems well!

Pannacott - I don't have any yet and am worried about social life etc. Not that I'm fussed about not being able to go out clubbing much anymore etc but more that none of my friends have kids, loads aren't even in relationships. In a way though I think provided you get on well you'll find a way to socialise, even if it's not what you're used to. Try not to worry!

Also going to do NCT classes and baby groups. Have heard lots of negative stories but trying not to dwell on them and hope I see the best in people! If I make just one mummy friend I'll be happy :)

Came on the coach up north to DP's parents last night. Coach was delayed and I cried because I wanted to get off and felt sick and was uncomfortable and tired hahaha #hormones

No sickness here, thank goodness as currently running cub camp and had to get up to do cooked breakfasts for 40 kids plus several adults. Not sure what I'd have done if I'd been sick!!!

Glad it went well Me624! Only three days until my scan :)

I also worry about my social life, none of our friends have kids and socialising usually means either playing sport (makes me feel sick even thinking about that now!) or drinking (not bingeing but still, it would be obvious if I said no to a glass of wine). So I have been a bit lonely the last 4 weeks, don't feel like meeting up with people because I feel sick, and I can't even tell them why!!

Am hoping to make some pg/mummy friends later on, but I live in Germany without speaking German so making friends would probably mean I have to learn the language first... Not making life easy for myself am I?

Weirdly quite a few of my friends have babies, many pregnant with their second, and for some reason I feel a bit strange about telling them. I think because DH and I are a few years behind everyone else a bit of a divide has sprung up and I am rather expecting them to be a bit know it all about everything if you know what I mean? So I'm hoping to do NCT and meet some other first time mums who are equally as clueless as me so we can all muddle through together.

No sickness here yet either. I do occasionally get flashes of queasiness but nothing major. I'm 7 weeks tomorrow so I suppose it could still turn up!

Me624 that's brilliant news about your scan. So thrilled for you!

I've been getting lots of 'you're 8 weeks pregnant!' alerts from the ridiculously number of apps I've downloaded. Don't know why but I get quite excited when they all come through. Like it's another small but important milestone along the way. And of course I read every one very carefully even though all the apps say pretty much the same thing just in different ways. What is it about pregnancy that makes us just crave information?! Any info even vaguely new or not at all new and I'm lapping it up!

We didn't do nct first time for various mainly silly (on my part!) hormonal reasons. I didn't feel I missed out as I met lots of lovely mums through the GP practice where there was an amazing crew of community midwives who ran lots of fab antenatal sessions and we all got to know each other through that. Made some amazing friends who I'll have for life I know. DH husband occasionally moans that he didn't get to meet and bond with dads in the way that nct makes possible, but he's pretty shy at the best of times and I don't think nct would have changed that!

I have similar anxieties with friends and this second baby. For many reasons. For DD I had a great NCT group and I feel v lucky as none of my friends had babies when I had DD (despite the fact I was 30 at the time and lots of our friends are married) so my NCT friends have been a lifeline in the day times, even though half went back to work a year ago there are 2 still about and we've met other mums too. I've definitely become more distant with many of my old friends since having DD, it's been a gradual thing and no falling out its just their child free lives continue and a lot of the things they do I can't or don't want to join in with any more like weeknight dinners out after work and weekend drinking etc. Two of my friends have had babies now (the majority still haven't - wish they would hurry up!!) but they are a year and a year and a half behind me and we don't live that close in London so I only get to see them every couple of weeks, but as a full time SAHM filling 5 days a week with seeing someone each day (so I don't go crazy!) and with no family nearby and no old friends about has been hard hard work - hence why I'm so grateful for my NCT friends! But things are changing, of the two girls I see almost daily, one girl is having her second baby next week, the other is putting her baby in nursery in September, as in fact are a lot of my other mummy friends. I'm not putting DD in till next April so I'm going to have 6 months where loads of my usual friends and babies are unavailable and I'm still with DD all day - and pregnant - and I'm worried about what I am going to do! Also we are planning on leaving london once this baby is born (fingers crossed all goes well of course!) and so I kindof feel any mum friend attachments and friendships I'm making are going to be lost anyway when we move away.. I found it v hard leaving the house etc when DD was born (don't think it helped she was a November baby so it was dark by 4pm each day!) and I'm worried with this baby all my mummy friends will have moved on in various ways and I'm going to be going a bit stir crazy stuck with baby and toddler and 5 full days a week to fill. Sorry long post but basically just to say I have worries about the future and change with this baby too! But for now just focusing on fingers crossed a sticky bean and then will see how things go when no 2 arrives!

I am probably going to be a social outcast with four children then!! Although on the plus side I suppose, if you invite us to a party it's instantly a party..
if that makes sense!

I've had McDonalds for lunch and will have a curry for tea... naughty baby!!

beautiful dp is away and I don't want to cook - really want a mixed kebab for tea, I blame my little jellybean.
just woken up from a 3 hour nap, but have done all the housework, had the car valeted and been shopping and found a dress for next week's wedding all before napping so I'd say it's all ok.
congratulations me that's great news!

Have your kebab! Sounds like you've earned it I've barely moved today...

Thanks everyone

Beautiful and Q I had a McDonald's breakfast on the way to the scan and we're going to the pub tonight where I'll probably have a bowl of chips ... Eat what you want!

Oh and great news Mrs

Don't worry, I certainly will eat what I want. I rang DH at work today and said I'm going to be huge in a few months. He was all "I'm sure you won't be!" and then I informed him that for my first breakfast I'd had 8 jaffa cakes he pissed himself!

Sorry Mrs, I meant to put Me. Hope you're doing ok xxx

I'm going to be a defo outcast if all these 2nd babies are making u lot outcasts lol I have DD's 8 and 11 - will be 9 and 11 (a month off 12) by the time baby is here. My 11yr old has taken her first period today and I really feel like sitting in a corner n crying. She's too young and making me feel ancient

Silently freaking out!

In the last hour I've had 'TMI WARNING' very thick browny discharge with blood in it! In my underwear and on wiping! I've also had mild period like cramps! Trying not to freak out but I have been feeling less sick today too! Dunno what to do, part of me thinks this is all normal and not to panick the other part of me thinks I should call epu!

Aww misdee that's so sweet. I can't wait to look after my girls when they start all this as my mum totally humiliated me throughout those years!

Bless her. Do they know about the baby yet?

Call them, smirking. Just to put your mind at rest xx

Defo give them a ring smirking. Sure all will be fine but best to get checked out, you will just worry otherwise.

No, they don't know about the baby yet. Trying really hard to hold off telling them until we've had our first scan at least. They're not daft though and I'm pretty sure they'll figure it out soon. Especially my older dd. I'm so glad I'd already had the growing up/period chat with her a few months ago. We were out for a meal and she came out of the toilet with a panicked look on her wee face n said she had red stuff on her pants. She's really relaxed about it though which is more than can be said for me and dp (her stepdad). He had a nightmare (his words) last night that she was 14 and was sneaking a boy in yo sleepover without us knowing

Smirking I'm sure its OK but do call to get reassurance.

No harm to call smirky - it will put your mind at ease.

We're on the sofa again under the duvet watching Frozen. Two days in a row. And that's after I slept from 1 until 4 while DH looked after D. I forgot how hard going early pregnancy can be. Feel.so.grim.

smirking not smirky sorry!

smirking def worth a call I think.

missdee mine will be 8 and 12 when bubs arrives. My friends' kids are all much older, in fact my youngest has always been the 'baby' wherever we go, so this one really will be. Certainly will need to start over with baby groups etc!

Need to have a little rant.

DH is now 99% sure, due to working away, that he won't be able to go to the 12 week scan. I'm gutted.

I can't imagine going alone, but the only person who knows I'm pregnant will be on holiday that week.

Feel seriously

Oh no beautiful, that's really upsetting for you. Could you maybe tell a close friend and take them?

I've also told my best friend but she lives quite far away and works all hours as a vet, plus she's pretty disappointed I'm pregnant (don't ask!)

Can't really think of anyone that a) I'd want to tell and b) would be free. The other good local friend I've got has agreed to watch the kids while im being scanned (she thinks I've got a hospital appointment!).

Angry at him even though it's not his fault, he said this wouldn't happen...