March 2016 bus chugging along, sickness and early scans galore!

[Kittykitty05]

Not started a new thread before, so I'll give it a go....

How many of us are there now?

Mrs- thinking of you hoping you got good news today.

Welcome newbies

Hi all,

So it's a bit inconclusive at the moment. No sign of any reason for bleeding, but no heartbeat on the scan and the sac was measuring 5 weeks not 7. So I'm back again next Friday for a repeat scan to see if it's changed and we can see either a heartbeat of evidence of growth.

Hospital were reassuring me it's normal for dates to move around at this stage so it's just a waiting game now x

Well this morning my stomach totally popped! Did anyone else show this early? I'm only 4+2! I'm going to end up size of a bus!!

Ah mrs so hard to be in limbo. Keeping everything crossed for you. Hang in there.

sheildbug yep the Ulster, both of my older two were born there. The facilities at Downpatrick mlu are fantastic but it's just too far from the hospital for me to go for it (and they probably won't have me now after #1 birth with complications and #2 being prem- too high risk).

Fingers crossed for next Friday Mrsrsw. As you say, there's nothing you can do now other than wait, so let's hope the week goes quickly for you! It's good that you're getting scans and hopefully it's just the dates that are wrong.

Good luck for Friday Mrs. I hope all is well in there .

Maybe I should just chill out and wait for another 6 weeks until my nhs scan then. No bleeding or anything but no symptoms either. I hate this part of pregnancy .

Mrs it's so tough playing the waiting game but try to relax and not fret. We're all thinking about you and crossing fingers and toes everything will be well x

Welcome Cherrytoes and Clumsypickle! Feeling so pleased for you, must be even more special to be pregnant when you've waited so long and maybe doubted if it would happen It's my birthday today and had some friends and fellow mums round, it was nice. This may sound really churlish, and I definitely wanted to be pregnant and I'm glad I am, but I am struggling a bit with going back to pregnancy and having a small baby. In the last year (daughter now 22 months), I've really valued being able to socialise, mostly through drinking, with other mums and be honest about all the highs and lows, and share good times with my baby free friends. I'm worried that because my mummy friends aren't planning their second for a while we might lose contact and I'll feel isolated... I'm sure it will be fine but I felt so much better for having a grown up baby free part of my life, as well as a mummy side. Any other second (or first) timers relate to this?

pannacott I'm not a second timer yet but I think it's very normal to experience occasional adjustment 'issues' if you like when you're embarking a new phase of the whole parenthood thing. Becoming a mum is so intense and certainly lots of my friendships have evolved quite a bit in the last couple of years since DD, and I've built new friendships with mums who had babies around the same time. To be honest I'm feeling too ill at the moment to miss the fun evenings catching up over a glass of wine (uuirggh want to throw up at thought of wine!!), but I do know what you mean about feeling you might be less connected to certain people for a while. But I wouldn't worry too much. We all go through the various adventures of this stage in our lives with slight different journeys and even if the regular pattern of socialising is different for a while the friendships that are special will stand the test of time. And you may meet (even more!) new friends through this pg. Plus you can be damn sure your besties will start getting pg with their seconds before too long, by which time you'll be well clear of the nausea and tiredness etc and be a dab hand at juggling two...so all your friends will be running to you for your wisdom and expertise!

Sorry that turned into a bit of a thesis. Insomnia has landed here :-)

Thanks Lilmiss. It's good to hear from other people who get that. Yes it is all normal adjustment. I've been thinking about doing another NCT to meet other parents in this situation. And more people I know might get pg, I'm only 4+2 now (so no real nausea yet either). Hope you get to sleep!

fx for you mrs, hope this next week passes quickly so you're not in limbo for too long

as a second timer I hadn't really thought too much about the impact on existing social networks but then I don't have a huge amount of mummy friends as my NCT group aren't that close, two moved away and the rest of us since going back to work have very different schedules do its been difficult to meet up. I'm considering doing the NCT refresher course to meet new people. I'm not hugely good at being social IRL (too shy) so I struggled a bit with making friends with DD, going to make more of an effort this time I think!

feel so awful today, DP is leaving for a week and DD cut a canine yesterday which explains her awful sleep the past few weeks. but means there's another tooth coming and I'm going to have to deal with it by myself I ended up going to bed at 7.30 last night!

Ooh we've moved on fast

I took the advice yesterday and stayed on the sofa with a duvet and Disney films. The youngest two made a right mess but I paid my eldest in biscuits to tidy it up.

As for the social side... this was one of the many reasons I said I didn't want any more babies... Last time I just withdrew from everybody and didn't do anything socially. It was awful and looking back I don't know how I survived. I've had some counselling as I started to get anxiety, and now I feel so much better.

I'm still going to socialise with friends, just adjust it a little. Once I'm past 12 weeks and can tell people anyway they'll understand. I'm going to take this one to baby groups from birth as I didn't go with the others until they were much older but it put structure into my day and I made friends.

All in all just remember that it's such a short period of your life that you'll have to adjust for and good friends will understand.

Also got raging thirst here! I need to buy more flavoured fizzy water as I drank a whole bottle last night...

Anyone got any ideas what I can do today? The kids are away all weekend, but DH is working normally we have a date.

Pannacott there's a couple of mums in my nct group from when I had ds who already had an older child. One of them has a 2 year age gap between her two and the other has a 3 year age gap. It is harder for them to arrange a time to meet up but those of us with only 1 dc can manage to be more flexible to fit around them, so it does work out ok. It will probably be easier with friends who only have a toddler because it's much easier to take a baby to a toddler group/soft play than it is to take a toddler to a baby group! .

Thanks everyone, I'm going to have a few days out of here as I'm struggling a bit with thinking it may now all be over and I'm trying to prepare for whichever way it will go. I'll report back x

Good luck mrs xx

Thinking of you Mrs x

Hugs mrs x

Good luck Mrs, really hoping you'll be reporting back with good news next week.

Pannacott I know what you mean! Just a couple of months ago I was telling dh I wasn't ready for a second as I felt like I'd only just got some of 'myself' back after ds, with work, socialising etc...

Then we had a 'slip up' and I found myself disappointed nothing came of it so we decided it was the right time to try. I'm lucky in that my cousin has two and is my best friend, but my other friends still only have one each and I can see it will be odd.

Hopefully they'll all see gorgeous little bundles in a few months and decide to have seconds too!

Plus, having a relatively shorter gap, we'll soon find ourselves again, and they'll all be jealous when ours are all at school and they still have toddlers

Beautiful

I am the same - Billy No-Mates today. I am not doing a lot because my back is sore so am going to chill out and watch the kind of crap telly I don't often get to see!

Haha if only we lived closer Paper!

Think I'm going to crawl around the house attempting to tidy it then binge watch Teen Mom and Desperate Housewives

nausea has stepped up a notch today urrrgh. dry heaves have made an appearance. feel proper rough. DP is packing for his flight then I'm going to drive to the SW to see my family - couldn't handle a weekend alone with DD whilst feeling like this. I feel bad for wishing away my life but hope the next 6-7 weeks just hurry up and get a move on, I want to start feeling like a human being again!

Right with you marmite.

Sat downstairs with ds trying not to throw up ????

I've just got home from my private scan! All is well. Going by LMP I'm 8+1, the baby is measuring 7+4 but the sonographer said to stick with my LMP dates as it's hard to get an accurate measurement this early and also the baby is standing on its head curled up a bit. She said that by the time I have my 12 week scan it will have uncurled itself and they will date it accurately then. We could see the little heart beating away which is the most amazing thing! And she said the yolk sac is looking very healthy.

Because of it standing on its head we could not really get a good picture but I'm just so relieved and happy that everything looks good! I haven't had much in the way of symptoms so it's reassuring to know that the lack of sickness is not a bad sign and I'm just one of the lucky ones. Planning to tell my parents tomorrow now when they come over. Best £90 ever spent!