April 2015 Thread 15: Babies galore!

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Babies are now coming thick and fast... Let's see how many will come on this thread!

I have to say I agree with daholster RL20. I'm not one for telling dh what he should and shouldn't do, if I'm not happy about something I will discuss with him why and hope that he sees my point of view. He is an adult and far too set in his ways to be told what to do anyway plus he was in a very controlling relationship with his ex and it took a long time for us to be able to compromise as he was very frightened of being back in that situation again so HAD to win everything. I know you are younger than a lot of us so assume he is too and perhaps it is a knee jerk reaction to the worry of the responsibility of another life but he should have enough respect for you to do the decent thing and let you know where he is pregnant or not. Being so close to having a baby I would expect him to want to know that you are ok and be able to contact him so his behaviour is even more unacceptable. Perhaps he feels you have your mum to rely on so don't need him but whatever the reason you need to discuss what happened and what you need from him in the future. I hope that you are currently sleeping and catching up on what you missed last night as you'll need all the energy you can get soon. I would be very angry if I were you but going in all guns blazing being mad probably won't help the conversation. Good luck with whatever you decide to do about it all and I hope you're feeling a bit more positive.

Been for my last run and cried most of the drive home feeling very frightened and vulnerable at the moment. Plus I'm quite overwhelmed at the kindness of some of the people in my life. I never feel I have good friends but over recent weeks several people have really shown I can rely on them and that I do have people who care about me. My boys seems totally oblivious about my hospital stay which is good I guess. Dh told me last night that he's been quite worried but he's being strong for me whereas I felt he was more worried about work and we had a long talk about practicalities last night which helps. He's very sad for me which is really sweet and typical of him really. Dogs are nicely contented now after a good run with their doggy pal and other dogs that were out and about, even feel guilty about them over the next few weeks! Not even really worried about induction now, just want Tuesday to be here now so we can get little man out and start to deal with whatever we will need to deal with when he's here.

RL I hope ur ok. As everyone else has said that behaviour is not acceptable- u need someone to be with u at night at the moment.
Maybe say to OH ul stay with ur mum if he can't guarentee he will be there when u go into labour- maybe this will shock him into realising.

Men are not the same as women and sometimes just don't realise. He maybe thinks as u haven't reached ur due date ur not going into labour yet?

Big hugs xx

Cinnamon- whatever happens over the next few weeks u will manage it amazingly. Ur new LO will be lucky to have you as his mum.

RL hope you are ok and have managed to get some sleep. Your OH has some serious explaining and apologising to do after last night.

Ive had breakfast, tidied downstairs now I'm back in bed for an hour while DH cleans my car

Hi everyone your posts have made me cry, thank you everyone.
Have just woken up after finally getting to sleep about 7.30am.

I don't even know where to start. The night/morning got weirder as I drove back from my mums at about 6.45 to pass 3 white doves that were wandering about in the road which I found very odd. So cue lots of googling at 7am to see if I could find out if it meant anything, but I couldn't find anything particular as a lot of the results were about seeing white doves in your dream.

In reply to all of you, I did give him a few choice words when he got back and told him he needs to grow up but I felt like it sort of fell on deaf ears, and then I was far too tired to say anything else. He's now gone to work so I'm on my own for a bit. Needless to say my mum wasn't happy at all when I told her, although I didn't cry in front of her or make it out as bad as it was as otherwise it's getting into that situation where I'd be turning her against him and making it awkward for myself.
Cinnamon yes he's around my age but a few years older at 27.
Without explaining his ex situation with child all over again, I have always excused his behaviour as being scared about being a full time (sort of) dad, as he never had that experience with his other child who is now 6.
And I'd like to think that we're not even a typical young couple having a baby, we have been together for 5 and a half years and lived together for 3 and a half, engaged, go away together, have both always worked, etc. But I suppose that doesn't really mean anything.
It's more as if I don't even know him anymore, like I said on here a few weeks ago, I feel like we've barely spent any time together through the pregnancy even though it's one we both desperately wanted after 2 misscarriages previous years. And when I say both of us, I'm not one of those delusional young girls that believes anything my partner says, it was a lot of long talks (back when we used to actually talk?). And he always said he still wanted to be a young dad with his next child (he seems to think anything over 30 isn't young for a man), so it's like he's having an early life crisis.

I'm totally fed up of excusing him now but then also don't have the strength to properly finish it, other than threats to. I suppose it'll be a waiting game of how he gets on when baby is actually here, if nothing changes then I might have more strength with an actual baby in front of me to motivate me.

Thanks again everyone
Hope you all have a lovely Easter

Not trying to scare those having an induction but im properly pissed off.
Been in hospital since 10 am yesterday. Had a three gels and been midly contracting overnight. However this morning they declare they could break my waters n get things going but wont as delivery suite is full. Not only that but theres 10 people on the induction suite with me in the same position so ir deffo wont be today and ill be lucky if its tomorrow.
Just have to stay here like a chocolate teapot midly contracting getting more and more tired untill they are ready. I didnt even want to be induced in the first place let alone in hospital for ages
Very very grumpy

RL I didn't want to say overnight and potentially make you feel worse but I agree with everyone else that he was completely out of order. 27 is an age where he is grown up enough to realise his responsibilities to you and his child. It sounds like things are really difficult at the moment and I wish you all the strength in the world to sort things out with him or whatever you decide is for the best. Pleased you have your mum close by.

Cinnamon for you too hope you're ok - you will be amazing with your new little boy and as Cavetroll says he will be lucky to have you. It must be really scary with the uncertainty about his kidney and things and I really feel for you.

Hope Easter Sunday is going ok for everyone aside from everything above. Lovely day here and just got dd off to sleep again so might go out for a walk.

RL I'm utterly shocked at your partners behaviour. Being young is no excuse, and at the very least he should have kept his phone on. If he pulls that crap again I'd be tempted to text him and leave voice mails to say you're in labour, perhaps have your mum send a few for good measure, and then not pick your phone up all morning, may well be the shock he needs! I am totally not an underhanded bitch honest

holly how bloody frustrating!! What the heck would they do if all of you suddenly progressed and ended up in active labour?

Eeek RL. Firstly BUG HUGS! Next I hope you get lots of rest today and catch up on that missed sleep. Now I'm totally relaxed about DH going out etc as the last thing I'd want is him not going out just because I choose not to but I'd expect him to let me know an approx home time and to update if plans changed so I'd be able to go to sleep knowing not to expect him until the crack of sparrow. Your OH though sounds like he's had an absolute mare in the decision making dept and having phone off/out of battery is just mental. We obviously don't know your situations and it's easy to get on our highly indignant horses so my tuppence worth is yes he's been a prime tit and to say we're all here to help each other through so post away if you need to vent. Just look after you and your impending bundle of joy. Make harder choices and cross those bridges as, if and when you get to them.

Holly hope things get motoring soon. It must be so frustrating knowing you're at the close but no cigar stage for a while. Eugh.

Hope things get going Holly. Not good that they've got so many people in but babies I guess can be unpredictable.

Hope you're having a nice restful day RL.

RL, I hope you are ok and your OH makes it up to you. His behaviour is not acceptable and he needs to learn this very quickly.

Smog, be careful. I was at dentist couple of weeks ago and nearly passed out in the chair. Oops.

Cinnamon, all the very best for Tuesday. I hope you are managing to enjoy your weekend. Try and not stress too much. Your wee one has been monitored closely and will be giving the best possible care.

Aww Holly, really hope things get going soon and you don't have too much more waiting about.

My lower back is really sore today. It just won't ease off.

penguin I'm going back to the hospital Tuesday morning for another bile acid and LFT test but I've noticed im even more itchy than before the last few days.

I'm just wondering if the increase might mean my levels have jumped up and whether I should let the hospital know. Or should I just wait unti Tuesday.

Arghh my skin!

Hmm hard to say siarie I'm not sure if the bike acid levels correlate with degree of itching or not. My levels varied from 26-60 and I don't think I noticed much difference in the amount of itching. But might be worth a call just to check? Can't hurt anyway. I really feel for you it's awful.

Bile acids. Not bike acids. Obv!

It's just horrible, I don't think you can quite understand how horrible until you have it. My blood is toxic and my blood is everywhere, I've scratched the skin off one of my fingers without realising because it was more itchy than painful.

I'm really hoping they will induce me, they said if the levels haven't dropped then induction ASAP. But I wonder how long asap will be.

oh RL what a night! hope your chat with OH goes well. I know you'll want to scream and shout at him but try and stay calm and not work yourself up. last thing you need is to get stressed out. The van driver would have prob freaked me out, night time always seems to make things feel worse even if totally innocent.

DH wanted to treat me to a day out to Blackpool today, but I just couldnt face a 45min drive, or fancied walking up and down the prom, so we went to the trafford centre for food and then he went to the driving range to have some gold practise. Going to walk the dog again tomorrow, hope the fanny daggers stay away :/

and on the baby being engaged front I also found out that baby is 2/5ths engaged. we were at a family party and DH's auntie (the midwife) had a feel for me.

any luck on the homemade prostegaldins cinnamon? what did you make them from.

on the homemaking front, someone shared a link months ago about a homemade remedy you can put onto your maternity pads to help with healing but I cant remember what you were supposed to put on them, does anyone know? I've had no luck googling coz i wasn't sure what to look for.

Hope things are sorted soon Sairie. Sounds worth giving them a ring just to check incase.

Hiding, I know what you mean about walking. i'm not too bad with driving but the walking up and down bit wouldn't be good! Hope you had a nice meal instead.

Have just fallen asleep on the sofa for an hour, seem to be unable to get through the day without it at the moment.

Hiding I think it's witch hazel and stick them in the freezer if I remember rightly.

firaffe I keep doing that too! I keep dozing off while lying down watching tele and when i wake up, an house has just disappeared from my day lol.
and yes, was a lovely meal at LaTasca seen as BarBurrito was closed :(
driving is ok generally, but being sat for too long, in car or even on sofa makes the skin under my boobs/ribs burn.

RL I missed half the posts, mustn't have been on the last page. Age is defo no excuse for his behaviour. me and DH are 25 and i'd be furious if he acted like that. DH has been out a couple of times and been longer than expected, but all it takes is a quick message to say plans changed or whatever, and I don't mind that. the not knowing is the most infuriating part like someone else said. (Boo i would be tempted to cry wolf too, but i'm totally not an underhanded bitch either )

Sarie hang in there! sounds like an absolutely awful time, fingers crossed for induction for you!!

So sorry to hear you're suffering Sairie! Hope for your sake they induce you.

So sorry HeyitsHolly, I'm slightly concerned about being kept waiting but with both my other two one gel get me going and then I was walking around with ds1 and went to delivery suite when I was 4cm and ds2 I was sent home between gels and was 8cm when I returned so went to delivery suite. Can't imagine having to wait around for so long when they've alreay started you off, hope it's soon for you.

I didn't really make it Hidingthefear, lauren82000 was right we dtd . Will try and persuade dh again today but otherwise it's ball bouncing and fingers crossed!

Thank you for your kind words, the unknown is so horrible!

Makes you wonder why they started so many of you off in induction at the same time. I was 1 of 3 induced when I had DD and one of the girls water had already broken but nothing had happened. Suffice to say the lucky girl had her baby that night while I was still mildly contracting and nothing happening so I know your pain. Took about 27hours to get it to ramp up to productive contractions and then another 14hours till DD was born.

I know Siarie it is totally relentless and I agree its hard to imagine what it's like and how awful it is unless you've had it. It's like torture. I suspect they would induce you at around 37weeks which I assume is soon?

Eek sorry missed your post heyitsholly how awful I hope you're moved soon and things don't take too much longer.

Keep napping firaffe and when baby comes continue napping when you can! I've just had an hour on the sofa kinda want dd to wake up for a feed now as my boobs are aching!

lmao cinnamon silly me, i had images of you brewing special potions haha . In that case we'll have a go of applying our own "homemade sauce"

Phew, i've missed a lot sorry ladies.
I did post onto the facebook group but my brain is scattered.
Waters broke sunday between 1 -2am, went to hosp, admited to induction, was supposed to be getting induced on the monday ha, eventually went into labour and little baby Aedan was born 11:48pm same sunday, 7llbs 11oz via ventouse.
Quite a traumatic birth tbh. Labour was luckily only 6 hours but (felt a lot fucking longer) he was too big, everything i didnt want to happen happened, the midwives did a shift change half way through, episiotomy and ventouse, diamorphine, gas & air - now confirmed GSB infection that took 4 days for anyone to pick up on the ward and get results for. Pain relief was absolutely useless in final hour of pushing, i felt everything bar the episiotomy.

Baby had jaundice, ended up in neo natal, midwives were more arsed about me breastfeeding etc and after 48 hours a nurse pointed out i had flat nipples, hence inability for baby to latch, by this point i'd already been chucking formula down him because i just wanted him to feed, with syringes of expressed colostrum in between.

Sigh. Never again.

Love my little munchkin all the world though. Partner was an absolute champ, had to make decisions for me in labour because i was incoherent and confused, poor soul had a breakdown because the pain i was in and he couldn't do a thing, ended up shouting at the midwife when i kept telling her i physically could not push him out with her constantly berating me and informing me that i could.

Im too weak to give a shit atm, but both MIL and Mum are furious and will probably kick up a fuss on my behalf.

ANYWAY - hope all are okay, im off to hosp again tonight for severe back pain and tightenings in my chest.