April 2015 Thread 15: Babies galore!

[BrixtonBunny]

Babies are now coming thick and fast... Let's see how many will come on this thread!

kismac yay for asda crop top bras!!

Bit jealous of your food smogs!! Our cottage pie didn't defrost in time so ended up with trusty filled pasta. At least we have the cottage pie for tomorrow though.

DD has slept all evening... So I'm expecting a long night!

Kismac pre-pregnancy (and even at the beginning of pregnancy) I was convinced that nearer to my due date I would not be going out anywhere under any circumstances (for dear of thinking that you could just give birth within seconds, at any point!) but now, with just over 2 weeks to go, I'm finding it difficult to not go out!
Although with food shopping from now on I'll be doing a delivery which I haven't done before!
Earlier on when I was waiting outside a local shop for my other half, a lady I know came up to the car window so I opened the door and she said I can't believe you're still driving, I wasn't!
I wasn't really sure how to reply, so I just said erm I still feel fine! How else can you reply to that?! Lol.

FiRaffe I know what you mean with the movements. I almost didn't really realise the transition at the time now, and can't imagine going back to those cute little kicks! It's all full baby body moving around now!
Nothing planned whatsoever for tomorrow. I always feel a bit uneasy with bank holidays where nothing is open, like around Christmas time too. I never know what to do with myself, and knowing there's not really anywhere to go!
Hopefully that will all change when baby is here for the next Bank Holiday, though! I'm sure I won't be short of thins to do then . Maybe one thing to do is get the other half to finally move the old washing machine out of the living room, it's become a bit of a feature point now...
Just a bit of a pain being in a first floor flat and it's not like I can help him take it downstairs to his car, so it's waiting around for someone to help us (which annoys me a bit as if anyone else ever needs help, we are always the first to be asked!).

Hmm bit pissed off that other half isn't back yet .
Silly me for expecting him back for 10pm

Evening ladies. Dh is doing the skirting boards while I have a bath. We have also been talking names. Monty is off again (even as Monte which is perfect since we both LOVE Italy and he is a climber) because he thinks we'll be doing him no favours as an adult. He may be right tbh. If he's a strong boy he'll carry it... But what if he's not? I guess dh knows better than me (who went to a girls' school) what will get hammered in the school yard. Well, in his day anyway, but times moving on will never stop him worrying. So unless I can find a name that ends in -mont that he likes then its out.

Have wondered if I was going into labour this evening but things seem to be settling. Got awful backache going round into my sides when I got downstairs for dinner (lovely caprese salad with bread and olive oil/balsamic vinegar prepared by dh with tiny glass of prosecco to celebrate car purchase!) The pain was unpleasant then my bump went hard, no pain around the front though. After 30secs it eased off and came back a few mins later, it did this throughout my dinner and almost stopped me eating. At that point I decided I needed a bath! Also desperate to empty the bit of bowel I have which I refused to do at the time just in case it sped anything along!!! Have done since. Backache has largely settled, just stiff now - odd Braxton hicks which feel a bit niggly but not uncomfy like I was. No knicker alerts. Very wriggly baby at times!

I started with signs (at least that looking back I recognised) about 48hrs before last time. I really, really don't want to have the baby in Kent tomorrow! Secondly the back ache really scared me, good god I don't want another back to back labour, that was so unpleasant and the backache at dinner already made me feel slightly nauseous I think I'd just beg straight off for the epidural!!! Shall spend tomorrow on hands and knees!!! And lastly the HOUSE ISNT BLOODY WELL READY!!!! I've plans for a trip to IKEA on Tuesday!!!

We shall see what the night brings... Probably no new baby...

Lauren try not to be sad. Its great that your dd feels that comfy and confident - make the most of the rest! She knows you are there, they will always choose excitement and different if they are that way inclined, but if anything were to unsettle her she'd be running straight back to you

smogs we have all that to come I'm sure...!

Well I think I've just effectively had a hormonal rant at other half who isn't back yet, about not caring, and told him that that's it now

What do you mean that's it RL? Hope you're ok and he is back soon. Have yourself a and a bath or something relaxing if you can

kismac I have optician, dentist and dental hygienist appts in next ten days. Not sure what the risk is, just sitting in a chair and they're all v local.

Lauren you never know, hang on in there. I'd love DD to think our place rubbish. She's become very very clingy (not a nice word I know) over last few days. Seeing her old room taking shape for baby bro, with cot etc in it has obviously stirred up some uncertainty. She tried to demand her old curtains back earlier, I distracted her with a third story.

Penguin, there's nothing like a bit of filled pasta to get you out of a hole. Well done for having the trusty stuff on hand. Our food was immense but I am rather uncomfortably full now, doh. Hope your night not too disturbed.

RL sorry you're having to rant at OH. Might be that he needs to hear how cross you are though

daholster - totally understand that baby coming early would be inconvenient in the extreme. Same here! So for heaven's sake do yourself a fave and lie/ sit very still tomorrow. I don't know that you necessarily will have it coming with your DD. Some seem fundamentally calmer than others. It's probably all genetic anyway and therefore all our fault. Right time to sleep, doubtless to wake up again just before six for no discernible reason while DD snoozes on until 730.

Well he's still not back, and now his phone seems to be off or flat
Obviously I can't get to sleep at all for that reason, and because baby is moving around quite a lot too. This is going to be a long night

Hope he is back now RL and that you're asleep. If not I'm awake with you!

I can't sleep, just had to get up for some gaviscon and my 3rd wee of the night and we didn't come to bed until 11pm. DH is in the spare room because I was fidgeting so I have the bed to myself which is quite nice as I can now spread out and pinch his pillows.

Hope you are ok RL

Nope still not back. Still can't sleep for worrying. Been trying my best but it's impossible. Even the cats unsettled because he's not here and I've got the lamps on etc so he seems to think it's daytime.
Sorry for your rubbish nights sleep both

Given up trying to sleep for now. Wish it was light outside so I could justify getting up. Going to try and read a magazine

RL do you have the contact details for OH friend? im not going to say relax and don't worry because at this time of night/morning and at this stage of your pregnancy everything seems 10 x worse.

No I don't as he's a work friend, I did have a look on his Facebook but I'm not sure of his last name.
I know the name of the place he went to (in another town) but that's not any help really as it would have finished a few hours ago now.
Always end up thinking the worst at this time of night - I'd like to think he wouldn't actually turn his phone off knowing I could possibly go into labour - but then part of me wants the situation to be that he has just turned his phone off.
The only thing I can think that I can do is wait until a few hours when it's a reasonable time and try and get hold of a man that he is supposed to be working with tomorrow. He is doing some garden work and I know the person who he has arranged to help him. The only thing I can ask him though is if he has heard from him etc.
Other than that I'm at a loss

Doing work with today I mean, later on

What an emotional night .
On top of everything else I had an odd incident about half 3 whilst I was awake (haven't had any sleep all night), went to the loo and heard a car outside so thinking it might be the other half I looked out of the bedroom window as the blind was up a bit. It was a man probably early thirties in a white van who I thought might have been delivering the morning papers to the shop next door to us. However he didn't get out of the van and as I had the lamps on in the flat, I must have caught his eye so he looked up which made me feel really uneasy. He drove off and I didn't think anything more of it. Then at around 5am I went to the loo again and just as I was walking out into the hallway I heard a car again so I went into the living room and the blind was up slightly in there as well and it was the same van driving slowly past looking up into the window. I felt sick and so uneasy so I quickly got my cardigan and shoes on and went out to my car. My plan was to drive to my mums in the next village as I have a key to the house, and on the way other half decides to finally get in touch and ring me. When I answered I just burst into tears trying to tell him. I'm sure he probably thinks I made it up n being a hormonal crazy Physco, which I do feel like a bit, but he rang to tell me he was on the way back n would be about an hour.
So I'm currently at my mums with a cup of tea after having probably 15 minutes sleep throughout the whole night.
I feel so guilty on the baby that I've had no sleep n have a headache but he seems to be ok.
The whole night has just made me realise how vulnerable I feel when other half isn't there, and I really don't know what to do about it
Sorry for my self indulgent posts throughout the night.

Oh gosh RL sending massive hugs. What a stressful night. I would have felt exactly the same and been beside myself too. Don't apologise!
Baby will be absolutely fine and honestly won't mind if you've slept or not. Pleased you're at your mums and hope you feel safe now. Glad your OH got in touch so you know he's ok. Maybe have a chat with him later about what's happened and how you were feeling. For now - let your mum look after you, lie down and rest.

RL that sounds like an absolutely awful night. As penguin says your priority today is to catch up on sleep, get rested, and have lots of nice food.

I had an ex who used to do what your DP does - say he'd be back at X time then stay out all night. It's not that I would have cared that he stayed out - far from it, I got all the bed! - but it's the not knowing if he'd fallen into a ditch etc. Not keeping in touch with you is totally not on, especially as you say given that you could go into labour at any time, and knowing the stress he's putting you under by having his phone off. Rest up but then I would be having some choice words with him! He owes you a massive apology for being so selfish.

Take care and get lots of .

After two days of me wheedling out of doing any DIY, today is finally the day we do some more panting. But not before a huge Easter brekkie - not sure what to make as for once the fridge is groaning. Thinking maybe poached eggs and bacon, or a big pile of pancakes.

It was a full moon last night - wonder if anyone's gone into labour!

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RL you poor poor thing my heart is going out to you. Like Penguin I would urge you not to worry about baby, just get yourself some rest. I must say I would be having something stronger than a chat. A severe bollocking followed by a spell of silent treatment. I don't believe in being reasonable when the men have misbehaved. I think they need to hear it. Like everyone here I too would have been sick with worry, without the random man can scenario coming into the equation.

Brixton, you're 39 wks preg. You shouldn't be doing anything. Other than eating that lovely Easter breakfast of course. The only tools you need to be picking up are a knife and fork.

Now I'm term it seems I am condemned to at least five and as many as seven little piddly wees every night. So that's all good. Roll on that section I say.

Hope everyone's got a nice chocolatey day planned even if some baby prep is likely to be on the cards too. I quite enjoy the nesting/ sorting bits that I can do without reference to DH (we're not natural DIY partners as he's really good and I'm clueless so he gets cross with me). We're off to sarf London to do our clothes swap with my friend who's got an older boy and a new baby girl and then stay over with another couple and their delightful 1yo.

Sigh. Van, not can obvs.

Morning all
RL your partner needs a good slap for making you worry and not telling you when he would be back. My DH would think twice about ever doing a stunt like that, I am kinda lucky he never goes out!
As for the man with the van what a odd one maybe he was looking to rob the shop or something how very odd.
Hope you have a better Easter Sunday now and eat a nice big Easter egg
I am still in aggony with my tooth salt water seems to help the best! Waiting for paracetamol to take the edge off! Then of to car boot get this baby moving

Hope you all have w lovely Easter Sunday x

No baby here! Pretty good nights sleep though. Boys up at 7 to ask if they could look for eggs which I havent hidden yet! Dh told them to go away and we've been snoozing listening to them play since.

Sorry to hear about your oh RL20 there really is no excuse for that behaviour. I wouldn't worry about the van, the night always makes things more sinister.

Off for my last run in half an hour then will have breakfast and our Easter egg hunt and then my mums for lunch and that's it for our day. Hope everyone else has a lovely day.
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Oh RL, so sorry to hear about your night. Your OH needs to man up and realise you need him more than before at the moment. Is staying at your mums an option so you can at least rest? Hope you get things sorted.

Running again cinnamon! have a lovely time and enjoy the egg hunt.

Hope the tooth feels better soon skyra and baby gets the hint at the car boot. If not, hope you at least find a bargain or 2 to make up for it!

Smogs - baby prep and chocolate sounds a good use of Easter Sunday to me.

Sorry to the others i've not replied to. The tendonitus in my thumb is killing today.... hurts when typing on my phone more than any other time. Hopefully the doc can give me something on Tuesday as it'll be interesting with a new baby!

My DH would never go out and not keep me up to date when he was getting back. I also have him on find friends so we know where each other are. I think I would have assumed the worst if that ever happened as its just out of character.

It's kind of like what you might do when you are young.

Oh RL. I'm afraid your dp has been a complete dick. My dh made stunned faces at the story. Your dp might normally behave like that, his friends might too. He now needs to realise life has changed - his responsibilities have changed, how would he have felt if he had missed the birth, and knowing you would be devestated and frightened without him? I don't think your posts were self indulgent, I'd have been posting far more. I'm so cross with him on your behalf!!! You need to tell him that you are with him because you love him as a man, and at the moment he is not being that man that you can trust and depend on and it's worrying and upsetting. Then perhaps plan out your next couple of weeks without his friends involved. The whole night would have changed and been different for you if he'd just have rung to tell you. At least you could have rested. He was totally irresponsible and he needs to know that and to grow up.

Many dps do have a bit of a silly period before their first child when they think they are about to lose their freedom and they are fearful. Its not like his friends will be gone when the baby arrives. Maybe he needs you to reassure him that he will be allowed out again one day but you've got this exciting, personal and special adventure to go through hand in hand first and he needs to be next to you.

Hell, show him some of our posts if it helps. I'm happy for him to know my opinion! And that my partner thinks he was out of order, its not how grown up men should behave

skyra feel better soon!

I got v nervous about going to Kent today. Getting on and dressed brought my backache back with some bump twinges, and I'm quite tearful. Just managed to srop myself putting hospital bags and tens machine in the car and to stop panicking... Shall spend the day sitting... We'll be there soon.

Didn't do the painting this morning. Did sleep well though, 6.5 hrs straight!!! Dh was disappointed with his advances last night. What with the fanny daggers and the time (after midnight) and the fact I was sure it would bring on labour I said no!!!

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