JSing Grads turn 21! We've got the Key to the door, cosy wombles and a drawer of dirty spoons.

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 21st grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 38th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread in postnatal clubs here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates! It's a bit quiet at the moment, but with all these upduffed viroids hopefully it won't be for long!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

So, roll call below please, viroids!

I don't think I'm going back to sleep! There's too much going round my head! I will try and keep you ladies informed today though, but am half expecting nothing interesting to happen, pessary then waiting and nothing happening lol!

Oh, and after all the hospital stays, concerns, ambulance rides and blood pressure of the last 3 weeks, I have to be allowed to gloat - I made it to 36 weeks, yay me!!

Well done zyla! Go for a big pee before they put the pessary in. I found going to the toilet with it in really painful. Can't wait to see H!

Aargh I've been spewed on three times tonight .

36 weeks today zyla! We are all looking forward to meeting your DD! Hope it goes as smoothly as possible.

Welcome over toast. You'll probably feel shakey for a good few weeks yet. I saw that announcement too but for a husband from his wife - was cute!!

I know you're right lil and I do look in the mirror knowing the only way is up but i would be moaning about eating all the crisps and not exercising if I wasn't pg - this is just business as usual! Haha.

I looked up lazy daisy classes, which we don't have, to be an instructor you have to have had a baby. That was interesting and probably a good thing.

No sleep for me. Second night with dreamgenii - I don't like it!

Happy baby day zyla! You did it, you got to 36 weeks! Well done lovely, I know it's been a very tough journey for you. Today you become a mummy at last

Can't wait to see pictures of her and get to celebrate with you! I remember you getting your bfp, it feels like an age ago. Let us know how you get on.

My best friend is also going in for her CS today - she's due in at 8am. She's also had a very difficult pg and I can't wait to see her little girl. What an exciting day!

Toast hello! Welcome! I will add you and gaggia to stats today. Congratulations lovely, it's normal to be terrified - you think the worry is only ttc but unfortunately it carries on through. You'll get loads of support here as we are all different stages so there's always someone who can reassure you that 'yes, that's normal!'

I don't feel pregnant at all at the moment! Still waiting for movements to start. Baby is trampolining on my bladder though I'm sure as I need wees constantly. Got day off today so I'm going to take dh buggy testing.

Oh - and part 2 of wedding dress mission. I soaked wedding dress in stain devil last night then whacked it back in machine inside out in pillow case. Result...all stains now gone!!! My box arrived from eBay so I'm going to pack it away today. Up yours £150 dry cleaner quote, I just cleaned it for £17!

Yey zyla!!

DH is just in a bad mood. He hates work (always has done) but doesn't seem to be able to figure out something else to do. He's an intelligent man but everything I suggest is "no" and he can come up with nothing himself. He seems to think the only answer is to quit. He has just received his bonus which makes it the ideal time to leave. Every year for the past 10 years he has said he is going to quit but hasn't done so.

Every year I say whatever he decides I will support him, we can manage on my pay (just- there would be no luxuries which I know he would struggle with) and we have some savings.

When we first found out I was pregnant he was very excited- more so than me.

Roll on a few weeks and now he feels "trapped" in his job and he is doubting our decision.

He is barely talking to me and has shown no interest in me/the baby for over a month now.

He will probably snap out of it and he goes through phases of this from time to time but at the moment I can't cope with him. I am struggling at work too but I (try!) to leave it at the office.

I feel like leaving him to sulk it out for a few weeks and moving out, it is not helping my anxiety.

Fleur it sounds like he's panicking a bit about life - responsibility etc. becoming a dad can be opportunity for them to take stock and if he hates his job he is probably feeling trapped because he knows he needs a job due to baby coming. I think it sounds like natural wobbles and he'll hopefully snap out of it soon. Can you try sitting him down to talk about it and make sure he realises he's been shutting you out and making you feel bad?

I can understand that la it's the same for me.

I do try to talk to him but, honestly, he reverts to being a teenager. He reverts to challenging everything I say or just sits staring sullenly at the floor. I can't get him to talk properly.

Every night this week he has worked late (9pm). Last night, I was going out. I was due to be out of the house by 6pm but I had to stay late to finish something at work. He walked in at 6.10pm. He is trying to avoid me.

I asked him if we could go to the pub tonight (it used to be a Friday night ritual and we always talk better there) but he has refused to go.

I know it's silly but until recently he used to give me a cuddle at night and pat my belly, say silly things to the baby etc. but now it's a little peck and a glum "night".

I find it heartbreaking. I don't want my baby to have a miserable arse for a father.

Sh1t, I have a work meeting at 8am and am sitting in my dressing gown crying

:( poor you, it sounds like he needs a dose of 'grow the fuck up'. Send him a text or email saying how you feel and asking if he will make an effort to come to pub and you can talk. Say you know he's scared but you are too and you're in this together.

Good luck zyla

Could! How are you?

Hope you're ok zyla!

My bf is on ward and lady before her just went down for CS so she's next

Good luck zyla, hope it all goes quickly and as easily as possible!

I agree with the email idea Fleur and I wouldn't hold back either. Sounds like he can't handle the anxiety of dealing with the situation but he has to stop putting himself first and just thinking about how he feels as it's not just about him anymore. It's horrible to hate your job but he is lucky to be in the position that he can leave if he really wants to.

Happy Baby Day Zyla!! So good you got to the big 36!

Welome toast - if it's any help, for the first few weeks of being up the duff I was convinced that if I went for a poo my poppyseed would plop out. It didn't.....

Re: bumps, I think mine's pretty big, not helped by the lady at the beauticians last night who pulled a bit of a face when I told her how far along I was (22/23 weeks, depending on which ultrasound the midwife fancies going with on the day... ) and she casually dropped in that she didn't even know she was pregnant until 21 weeks!! Holy fuck. I like my big bump tho, even if it means my bellybutton has turned into something out of alien. The thing I'm not wild about is the size of my arse, which I think is trying to counterbalance said bump. and the result of many cakes

They are such twats sometimes. Agree with la it sounds like he's having the 'oh fuck I'm going to be a dad' episode, but is internalising it rather than talking about it. I had to have 'the talk' with Mr Tee a few weeks ago largely because I felt very lonely, he's also got a bee in his bonnet about changing jobs but not doing a huge amount about it, and then wailing that he was just going to quit, and then when I'd say 'Maybe you should reconsider that, given what's happening' and he'd get shitty. He said it was because he was worried he wouldn't be able to support all of us and the idea of three of us living on one salary was keeping him up at night ( This scenario wouldn't even happen until this time next year and only if I didn't go back to work). It's all a bit caveman-like I think; expectation of woman to have baby, man make fire and food (Ugggg).

Aww fleur I'm sorry to hear your hubby is having a tough time and it is impacting on you and baby too, this may be a little dramatic but would he talk to someone? Having a baby is a humongous life changer and maybe he just needs to have someone to go through things with - obviously he has you but it could be easier to talk to someone outside the situation as he may not want to worry you if he has concerns. It would be lovely for you both to be able to enjoy this time together and for him to make you feel special so whatever he can do to snap out of his unhappy place would be good, as la said you are in it together and I am sure that you have fears and concerns too - but there are also tons of exciting bits for you to share as well.

la how exciting for your best friend, planned CS must be the weirdest thing knowing exactly when you will meet your baby!

Good luck zyla - being a newbie I don't know your situation but it sounds like you've had a long journey so I'm very happy for you that you're nearly there!

Hahaha tee I am so glad you said that about the poo, I had exactly the same thought this morning but thought I was being a mental person!! I think because pooing has tended to bring out the EWCM and sometimes AF when it was due and that all comes from the baby hole!

Right, it's 0910 and I have already decided to give up on the day. I hate my job sometimes and I hate some of the idiots I have to deal with. I read an article about how so many peoples jobs just don't matter - we almost create work for ourselves. Thats how I feel today! I want to go home, eat porridge and start my sewing project!

Do it Dulcet! Walk out! not really but good to imagine.

Hehe we have the poo worry every couple of months with the newly upduffed. I think we've probably all thought it at least in secret.

Can't get it together at all today. Totally shattered.

I'm still sure I'm going to poo out my baby!

Note to self - keep concerns about pooing out embryo to oneself

Survived an extremely drunken night on holiday last night, first one all week actually - it was fun up to a point and then everyone got soooo wasted that I felt unable to participate any longer. It was quite hilarious though. No hangover for me today though

I hear you dulcet!! I have absolutely zero motivation to do anything apart from read travel system reviews and fanny about on MN. I've got all my paperwork and spreadsheets out and open so I look like I'm busy... :D

I'm still in bed got day off today

Think I just felt something flip in my womble :)

Argh I don't know what to do about early scan. I am booked in for Wed and want to see doc before my parents arrive on Thurs for some reassurance but even if they scan and see a sac that is still no guarantee of anything being OK! keep thinking that I would know if things weren't OK but that is not the case according to Dr Google as many people have no idea. Hubby wants to go for the appointment as says that it won't change whatever will or won't happen and that is true so maybe we go and I just try to assume that everything is fine unless he tells me otherwise. I hate that we have to tell family, it's stressing me out so much more than if we could just keep it to ourselves for a little while longer!

Oooooh la that's awesome, it must be an amazing feeling!!