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April 2015 Thread 9: Let the chatting continue!

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cinnamongreyhound · 20/01/2015 21:23

Quick new thread as only 2 posts left on old one! Any newbies or lurkers please join us!

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ChickenMe · 22/01/2015 12:43

Good news re your scan booSmile

BrixtonBunny · 22/01/2015 13:22

Good news Boo!

Re: BF I find it shocking that anyone would be against it tbh - it's so taken for granted with my friends and family that breastfeeding is just what you do. To bottle feed would be much more shocking - DP's cousin's baby was bottle fed and it attracted lots of negative comments behind closed doors (which is equally frustrating - people should give mums a break, it's their choice what they do, and well aware some can't breastfeed for whatever reason!) So I'm hoping I'll be well supported. Definitely in favour of "ostentatiously breast feeding" - might send Nigel Farage a photo Wink

smogsville · 22/01/2015 13:34

Brixton it's the same for me. I took it for granted. We're really lucky.

Hidingthefear · 22/01/2015 13:36

haha brixton I just googled "Ostentatios Breastfeeding" and it really made me chuckle, i must have missed that one on twitter. Here's the link if anyone else was clueless like me.
#ostentatiousbreastfeeding

ChickenMe · 22/01/2015 13:46

Hehe old Jezzer Clarkson has made similar comments. Dick.
Luckily in my family it's taken for granted too but not on IL side.
I think the problem is that a lot of people haven't actually seen any BF-ing women in real life so they come out with this rubbish about "doing it obviously" as if any woman is going to start waving their boob around and dancing a jig. Actually, quite often (like that photo), it just looks like the woman is cuddling their baby and you cant even tell!

BonjourMinou · 22/01/2015 14:02

Not long back from my GTT. Bit jealous of kismac's preferential treatment, no free sandwich for me, all got was a "you're free to go"!

Still I'm expecting my friend round in a bit then we're off to the harvester for a catch up. Grin

kismac · 22/01/2015 14:08

He he. Yeah, I was quite surprised too. Didn't stop me going to KFC and buying cookies afterwards. Im making the most of binge eating before my test results come back.

Im hoping I feel comfortable to breastfeed in public, especially as I feel that's the purpose of having boobs is to feed baby. Im normally quite shy so may need to practice a few 'piss off' stares.

TinyTear · 22/01/2015 14:27

So gd confirmed. Start metformin at dinner today... Let's get this sorted!

BrixtonBunny · 22/01/2015 14:34

Tiny I'm sorry - how annoying for you Thanks

Rant warning:
I'm SO ANNOYED with work, they still haven't sorted anyone for my maternity leave cover. Just sent a casual email round to the team saying "if you know anyone who might be suitable put them in touch". We're chronically understaffed as it is and under lots of pressure as every day is one day closer to the election so ministers are getting twitchy and more demanding. Sigh. I have seven weeks left at work, and at this rate not holding my breath that I'll have anyone to hand over to. Hmm

PenguinPoser · 22/01/2015 14:40

Ah sorry to hear that Tiny
Good news on your scan Boo pleased things are looking good.

Brixton that is so annoying! What happens if they don't find anyone? I suppose that is their problem rather than yours at the end of the day but I can see that it will be much less stressful for you if you have someone to hand over to.
On a similar note my work still haven't gotten back to me about if I qualify for SMP Angry which i don't think I do, and the days are flying past if I need to apply for maternity allowance I need to get it sorted - can't afford to lose out on a penny!!

BrixtonBunny · 22/01/2015 14:44

Penguin if they don't sort it out it will mean that others in the team (who are already desperately stretched) will end up picking up all my work, and my management responsibilities probably won't get handed over to anyone. They've known about this for months, it's so annoying! Still, it's not my problem, I'm just frustrated. Hopefully they will get it sorted soon...

IvegotaCaveTroll · 22/01/2015 15:23

That's great new boomonster

Just popped into work and my consultant was really nice about me taking time off (I'd did say id still do my on calls even if I couldn't do the day shift as I'm better evening/night.

Now I'm just gonna relax and try to rest and eat little and often. I really hope baby still gets enough calories.

Also a bit worried about the fact that iv had to carry on pain killers (all be it much lower dose through pregnancy. I did a lot of reading up on them and obviously iv been supported by both obstetrics and my pain consultant but I still have a fear at the back of my head that if anything Ever goes wrong it will be my fault.

I'm so sorry for being negative it's just easier to say thing on here then in real life sometimes.

IvegotaCaveTroll · 22/01/2015 15:29

Brixton I'm sorry about ur work. It's ridiculous that we should feel guilty and stressed about going on a leave we are entitled to.

Re breastfeeding- no one bats an eyelid at people in see through tops or going topless sunbathing yet feeding a baby is this massive issue.

How bout if any of us get crap of people we stage a big MN breastfeeding sit in!!
When boobs were designed it was for feeding babies not for sex! No other mammal use boobs for sex just us supposably intelligent humans!!

smogsville · 22/01/2015 17:03

Cavetroll I really don't anticipate any hassle my mat leave with DD was full of BFing mums travelling the length and breadth of London and I don't recall anyone encountering anything. That claridges story came as a real shock.

I guess what I'm saying is first timers, don't let any of the media huffing and puffing and making a massive issue out of a basic human function into a big deal.

smogsville · 22/01/2015 17:04

... put you off.

Wineandchoccy · 22/01/2015 17:55

Just had a phone call from the midwife I have to start taking Iron tablets as my 28 week blood tests show a very low level of iron.

In more productive news DH has finished the baby's room and I've persuaded him that we may as well paint our bedroom whilst all the decorating stuff is out and he has agreed. Being pregnant has it's benefits because I'm sure he wouldn't normally agree to more decorating so easily Grin

Work haven't sorted my mat leave out either, they best not want me to train anybody up at short notice.

daholster · 22/01/2015 18:01

Hello everyone. Went back to work today, a few BHs but nothing more really, sore walking around the hospital for 15mins trying to buy some lunch but think I'll just have to put up with that. Day started off rubbishly by dd actually making me cry she was so distressed and difficult about being dressed for nursery this am, only just got a nappy on her and she eventually got dropped off at nursery not fully dressed with her vest hanging out and clutching her jumper, only for me to burst into tears again trying to explain it to the nursery staff. Dd was just looking at me all worried and didn't make a fuss or say a word when I left which in a way made me feel even worse! Nursery rang a couple of hrs later to reassure me she was fine which was nice.

Then I got stuck in traffic so 30mins late for work, lots of rearranging to do etc etc such a pain. Then odds and ends of irritation eg not printing which normally wouldn't irritate me I'm sure but today seemed like it was all out to get me!

Happily our 28 week scan this afternoon went well, no conerns over growth. The HHT means that I may have to have iv antibiotics if they think I need intervention eg episiotomy and the second stage (pushing) "may need to be shortened" since I am not supposed to push for more than 1 hour. He said "so we can use forceps or ventouse". And I thought, no, you can't! I am not artificially rushing things if its all going ok, I'll risk my brain exploding or whatever it is they are worried about!!!! We didn't even know about it last time and I pushed for as long as it took (I'm going to look it up) and it was ok.

He did say I could still have a water birth, certainly for the first stage, so that is good if I want it. Last time I wanted to give birth sitting or standing or maybe on all fours but since dd was back to back I just found it too painful to stand after I got to 8cm and gratefully flopped on the bed! Managed on gas and air from 8cm and nothing but paracetamol until that point and still proud of myself!

So ds is just over 1200g (2lb 11oz) supposedly and looks just like our daughter when she was newborn from what we saw today, he was practicing blinking and looked so cute! Will post a picture next.

The Dr also said the irritable uterus may be sore but can be ignored unless I get progressive painful contractions or fluid loss, it just might be sore. He said if prem labour is going to happen then it will, my resting now would make no difference, so I will just crack on.

So even though I feel upset from the start of my day and can't shake it, I feel so lucky to have seen our little boy happy in there today. I'd still like someone to come and wrap me up in cotton wool, bring me a bacon sandwich and a cup of coffee and help me to bed with a puzzle book...!

Hopefully less of a long post and less pathetic next time..!

28+2

daholster · 22/01/2015 18:05

Oh forgot to say phryn HOORAY!!!! So pleased for you!

Oh and ds is extended breech too boo but they said it's too early to worry and he should be able to move the right way round just fine when he's ready. All this pressure in my bum at times is his bum pressing on mine!!! Smile

Lauren82000 · 22/01/2015 18:09

Nope my mat leave hasn't been sorted by HR either, haven't had any confirmation they received my form or MatB1, our internal post is a bit unreliable so if I don't hear anything by mid feb I'll be ringing them. Still got plenty of time yet and I definitely qualify for SMP and OMP just a case of them confirming may leave starts on x date and the break down of my payments.

My manager and big boss are on point though trying to organise cover etc for when I go off.

Had a bit of a quiet bump day today. Hoping I'll get a bit of breakdancing later on now I've sat down and started to relax a bit with a full tummy. Smile

mswibble · 22/01/2015 18:28

My mat leave hasnt been sorted either. They have said they intend to get someone in on my last week so i can 'handover'! Pfft, well they best hope i dont decide to go even earlier, as is my right. Apparently they have been given the green light to get someone in 3 days a week. I dont care whether they sort it to be honest, just another example of their incompetence, however it will make my request to return 2.5 days a hell of a lot easier to push for. If they can all of a sudden manage with admin for only 3 days then they can certainly manage for 2.5. Mwahaha!
I handed in my MATB1 last Thursday and I havent heard anything yet. Apparently it was being passed to Payroll from who would get a complete breakdown with dates, etc.

londonlivvy · 22/01/2015 18:34

My boss was rubbish too. My replacement (ten years younger and with correspondingly less experience - very flattering about how hard boss thought my job was) arrived 3 weeks after my due date. Helpful. I wrote reams and reams of handover notes which probably got ignored.

Ultimately, once dd was here, it was all irrelevant and I didn't care any more. But I remember stressing hugely about it. So I feel your pain.

Heyitsholly · 22/01/2015 18:43

Why do works have to make this so hard. My pregnancy risk ax still hasn't been sorted. Spoken to HR no progress. So I've been advised to go to my union as its over a month since I gave my notice. I've mentally given them till tomorrow then I will. Never thought I'd have to.
I have to sort my own cover too.

Top it off I'm fed up with appointments. Went today for anti d they were an hour late no bedside manner and refused to do the other checks I was scheduled for. I now have to go to community midwife tomorrow. Back to the hospital on Tues for a scan and clinic whilst working full time
The midwife today didn't explain why I had to sign for it why they took bloods or if I\baby was OK. I've never seen the same com midwife either. I'm feeling pissed off and that no midwife has given me the time of day. So now I have a million questions and no one ever gives me chance to ask.
A very fed up holly today sorry for ranting.

daholster · 22/01/2015 18:50

Oh holly that makes two fed up Hollys! Rant away, I did for reams!

Oh yes, and my new consultant works every other clinic so I will always end up with the registrar. My care is potentially very complex and I would like to have met my consultant!!! My old consultant spoke highly of her and reassured me she could manage my complex health issues... Now I'm not even seeing a consultant! Feeling quite irritated by it.

minipie · 22/01/2015 19:00

Oh so glad scans have gone well Boo and daholster. Hooray and may it continue.

Tiny boo to GD. Hope the metformin sorts it. I've got to try to do it on diet - I realised today I've got into the habit of eating a lot more sweet stuff than usual, I was dying for a biscuit or six this afternoon which is not like me usually so guess that does back up the GD diagnosis??

holly that's rubbish. You can call your midwife team any time you like so maybe keep calling till you get someone who has time to talk? If tomorrow's midwife isn't helpful anyway.

Handovers: my work's not been too bad, probably because last time I popped 3 weeks before I was due to finish and left them all slightly clueless with no handover notes! So guess they are thinking that might happen again.

daholster that's interesting about irritable uterus (still not sure if I have that or not) - that resting won't make any difference. The midwife told me something similar, only to worry if they don't go away overnight or start to feel like birth contractions or if I get fluid leaking.

Squidge14 · 22/01/2015 20:06

Boo for all of you confirmed with GD, I've got my test on the 6th Feb, along with 28 week bloods and whooping cough jab...going to feel thoroughly prodded and poked that day! My mum had GD with me and i was quite a big baby (10lbs7) they let her give birth naturally but she struggled bless her, they had to dislocate my shoulders to get me out as I got stuck, so praying I don't have it too!

Brixton we are also in the process of buying a house and found out today the seller is no longer moving into rented as agreed when we put the offer in but buying a flat and because of this they haven't returned the F&F form so the draft contract hasn't even been sent...this is since early November and we were supposed to be moving in early March! really panicking now if things are delayed (normally 8-10 weeks from receipt of draft contract) we physically don't have any room for the baby here we are staying with PIL's Confused sorry for self indulgent post Wink