Due March 2007 - No. 3

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New thread because the last one was giving me "Sorry, this thread is too big to accept new messages".
Onilly - sorry, yes I am sure it's due date - see here - "the Regulations apply to women expecting their babies on or after 1 April 2007.... If an employee's 'expected week of child-birth' falls before 1 April 2007 the old rules will apply."

I'm here Eids!! Dd is sleeping - on the couch. Poor thing wouldn't admit defeat. It was great to see her again today but after a couple of hours it was like she had never been gone .

Hope you ladies with the braxton hicks are ok!! I didn't know they could come along so early - in fact, I don't know if I would recognise it.

Is that good news from the HA, diva? Hopefully it won't take too long for your home to be ready. Love your comments about 'middle class couples'. Reminds me of Desperate Housewives - what you don't know that goes on behind closed doors .

I felt the same about getting a fetal monitor Muppet... I wouldn't be able to resist it. The sudden change in movement is frightening tho. I had a quiet couple of days this week.

... glad I decided to leave my brolly in my handbag

When I had my scan yesterday baby was seen to be kicking me furiously, little feet really thumping away, however, I could not feel a thing because he was kicking upwards.

I was amazed that I could not feel what I could see happening. So at this stage the baby is still small enough to move alot without us always feeling it. Whenever you haven't felt movements for a while it is more than likely just the baby's position

Cath, are you out there? How did your scan go yesterday?

Rosy - I'm feeling all soppy about my DD too - after finding out she'll be my only daughter. She already has all my old dollies though, so I've just been hugging her loads. Main problem at the moment is she is so convinced she is PG! Do you think I should tell her she's had a missed MC? (only joking )

TBH if I could guaruntee a girl, I'd seriously consider fitting another one in, so she can have a sister . Just as well DH doesn't read this isn't it?

Half my maternity clothes are hand me downs ans the other hald was bought in the sales or is from 6 years ago, when PG with first baby!

Are Braxton Hicks when your tummy goes all hard and pointy? If so, I may have had one about wo weeks ago!

Diva - I loved your comment too! It reminds me of when I overheard a Mum telling this other (very posh) woman to get her naughty little prince to stop throwing sand. The posh woman just gave the other Mum a deadly look and said "oh, just Fuck Awwwf!". It was very funny.

Yeah come back Cath! Come and moan. I spent the beginning of this pregnancy in the depressed threads!
Guyfoxie, we are up to our necks in debt, from dh being made redundant and going into business and also we are both chaotic.
we own one house which is lying empty cus it needs work done on it and we are renting 3 houses, one for me and family in Belfast and two for him and all his staff in cork! He spends half his life driving between us and I am constantly either pregnant or not sleeping and depressed and useless! I am driving a car with its back end bashed in, dh has 3 clapped out bangers on the go. All the cars and houses are hideously messy. We aren't very middle class, we are more like a cross between wayne and waynetta slob and the trotters! We are a total disaster and need 10 life coaches, trinny and suzanna and Kim and Aggie!

21wks 6 (boy)

guyfoxie - have been to Bicester a few times (quite quick to get to it as striaght down the M40 from us) - but clothes-wise it's a bit too designer for us. £200 instead of £700 might be a great bargain - but no way can I justify that much on one item of clothing anyway! There are some good (and more reasonably priced) outdoor shops (Tog24 and Helly Hansen) and china (Wedgewood, Villeroy & Boch). Also culpeppers I think, a candle place, etc. tbh I like the one at Swindon more - I can take dh and ds and send them off to the attached railway museum whil I shop. And if you go on a Sunday they have a farmers market at it too, which is nice.

Foxie - sounds as though you may indeed be having some braxton hicks. I just don't remember having them this early b4.. ho hum...others seem to be getting them so I will not worry!

Eids - do you live in Brisbane? Sorry to ask it's just my folks go there every year (they hope to move their in a couple of years). They used to live in Sydney b4 they came back to England but are forever banging on about how wonderful Brisbane is! In fact they are flying out there in a couple of weeks!

Foxie, they sound like BH to me. I am getting them now.
Is it going to stay this cold forwver now?
20+3 (boy)

BTW anyone thinking of names yet?
How many bad arguments have you had about them?

hi everyone thanks for all your kind comments and reassurance that your lives are not picture postcard scenes of happiness!

i was in a really foul mood the other day when i posted what i did and i'm sorry if it wound anyone up. things are so hard for me right now and i think it's easy to get into that mindset when you've been abandoned; you start to think everyone else is really lucky just because they have a partner, which is the one thing you want. you don't stop to think that all relationships aren't wonderful because you just want yours back, whatever state it might be in!! i didn't mean to take my resentment out on MNers you've all been really lovely i feel slightly but i suppose i had to say how i was feeling!

kitty, eva, blonde, muppetisacat, fox, rosy, thanx for all your posts, it meant a lot to me to have that support.

diva and piffle it is good to know you have been thru something similar, it just feels so isolating! some days i am absolutely fine and other days, like the other day, i just feel so depressed!

becs21 i'll look for you on the feb thread but if you're reading this do CAT me i'd LOVE to be in touch as everyone on this thread can vouch for (lol), would be nice to email. hopefully we'll locate each other, hope you are doing ok?

eidsvold good news on your scan you must be relieved.

well i had the scan yesterday and the baby is definitely a boy. he is doing fine, yes it was really nice to see him again, though i found the whole experience hard without my dp. i had a 13 week scan too and i think that's when the bonding/magic experience happened. yesterday was more pragmatic if that makes any sense. i took a good friend along with me but she wasn't asking questions about the baby so i felt a bit pushy asking all the things i wanted to know, the sonographer was less than forthcoming, the 13 week scan was private and more thorough, there were some specific things / potential problems i wanted to know about yesterday which she didn't really answer well enough. i wanted my dp so much as he is so good at being assertive! so it was quite hard.

i hate the way health professionals can make you feel silly just for voicing your concerns does anyone know what i mean?

also does anyone have experience of low-lying placenta? they said mine was low-lying and i needed to be re-scanned at 34 weeks. with dd i had an emergency c-section and was really hoping this time to try for a natural birth. i read up last night about the placenta thing and apparently it usually sorts itself out as you get to 3rd trimester.. still worried me a bit though! also the idea that i could trigger a bleed through lifting or whatever, as we are due to move house (me, dd and bump, don't ask me how we're gonna manage it but we will!) in early jan, it's got to be done as the place i live now is just too small..

anyway hope you are all doing well and thanks again for all your support, you're right, it does help!!

would people mind just posting their details again, it'd really help me sort out who is who, there are so many of us on this thread! i'll start a new thread for it and hopefully it'll make things a bit clearer!

Cath - glad your scan went well

At least one other person on the thread has had the low placenta thingy but I can't remember who
I think most of them "move" up by themselves

aww thanx - it is a relief the scan is over for sure! i've started a thread 'march 07 details/stats' would just be good to get my head round who is a first-time mum, what age other dc are, etc etc,

morning bumpy ones!

glad to hear your scan went well,cath.i went to every appointment on my own when i was preg and alone,but thats cos i really hate asking anybody for help and i was very depressed and didnt want to speak to anybody anyway.

i think braxton hicks get earlier with each preg,IME.

was going to put more but dd2 is smelly...antibiotic poos!ewwww.

21+3

Brilliant news Cath... glad you're still posting here - we didn't want to lose you.

I have a low lying placenta & have to go back to re-scan early Jan. Had one with dd 9 years ago and it moved up fine. Did have big bleed with this pg at 13 weeks - now they are saying it must have been cos of the placenta. I think we just have to avoid overdoing lifting etc...

Glad you're having a boy too!
22 weeks (boy)

Hi, Cath so glad you are still with us and that the little man is doing well.
My Dp is here in some ways, as I have said and is supportive to a degree, with the other kids etc, but he has never shown any interest in my pregs and if he ever comes to a scan he never says anything.

I had a low lying placenta with no.2 and it moved up fine, they nearly always do.

hey cath if u want to email my addy is tinnies at o2 dot co dot uk as i dont hasve full acsess although i may do that now x

I tried to bring up the subject of what will happen about work after the baby comes. Hmm. Will need more discussion. Got told "you said you wanted to go back". I believe that was 16 years ago when DD was 4 years old, not this pgy. I tried to get across that I was worried sick about the idea of dumping a 6 month old baby in full time nursery and going back to full time work. He doesn't get it. Apparently that's what we discussed. Perhaps we did 3 or 4 months ago while the baby was more of an abstract idea but now I know it's a girl and it's getting closer it's not quite such a simple idea. Unfortunately he's one of those people who hears what they want to hear.

Anyone else facing this sort of dilemma? I've done the sums and I know that I'm going to have to stay full time but I'm trying to find a way of delaying it a bit.

While I think about it, has anyone tried asking their mw to push their date on to 1 April? Are they allowed to? (it makes a huge difference of an extra 13 weeks SMP) I'm thinking of asking because by my LMP date (22 March) I'm only 10 days out, and DS1 was 11 days late so it isn't entirely outside probability that this one could turn up in April.

muppetisacat - yes i'm worried about the lifting thing! think i'm going to get my shopping delivered from now on good excuse anyway. i guess it's one of those things that you can't do anything to influence, so other than be careful as much as poss, there's not too much point worrying ..

.. well i'm on my own tonight gonna have a bath and relax, my parents have taken my dd for the weekend so i can have a much-needed break, trying to use it positively and not mope around the whole time well maybe a bit of moping.. but not too much..

kitty with your dp is it that classic thing of men only getting excited once they actually see the baby i.e. it not being that real to them till it's born? i know dd's father was a bit like that in my last pregnancy though he was excited, but he never really saw it as a reality till she came out! (hmmm maybe that was part of the problem with him, in retrospect..)

thanks becs for the email addy i certainly will email you soon. hope you are ok.

Cath, how lovely for you to have some time to yourself. Instead of moping why not grab the chance to treat yourself to a bit of pampering. Try to remind yourself of why you're a great person no matter what man is or isn't in your life.

My dp gets interested when they get a bit bigger. He's quite used to newborns now but they don't really do much for him.

Hello! Havent been online for a couple of days...had our scan yesterday afternoon. Everything is fine, and it's a litle boy - I had a strong feeling it might be. I was quite amazed how easily I could spot his little willy - well before sonographer pointed it out!

Now we are just facing the dilemma of having to come up with a name that sound nice both in English(as we live in the UK) and German (as rest of family live over there). not easy - for some reason much easier with girls names

Evenhope, April 1st...I thought about it!!!Would be so nice wouldnt it, but I am 14 dasy out. Also, the reason I definitely decided against it is, that I want to start maternity leave asap so that I can join dh up north (and cant wait to leave my job!!!). If EDD was April 1, I'd have to go back to school for another couple of weeks after Xmas, whereas now I could have my last day before we break up fir Xmas. Not long
But if I wasnt planning to leave my job and move up north, I'd defintely give it a go - the worst response you can get from mw is "no"....

cath-have you seen this thread?moving house 9 weeks before due date
enjoy your quiet evening.im its not fair i live so far from my mother and never get a break from the kids.i am fed up as i spent all afternoon in the soft-play place(not the wacky warehouse but the more expensive and cleaner version) and it was full of weekend dads with their children and im there having to drag all of them out every week cos ds and dd1's father is too much of an arse to be able to look after his children

sorry for the rant

cograts on the boy eva
i was waiting and waiting for the willy to be pointed out to me untill it gradually dawned on me there wasnt one there.

did u say your dh is at lancaster uni?my dp did his degree there,that was before i met him though.

Eva, congrats on your baby boy.

I did my degree in German and spent the most fanatastic year ever there as part of the course. There are lots of names you could use like Theo, markus/marcus, Christian, Thomas. But you probably don't like them