Feb 2015 - Creeping closer towards the third trimester!

[hanflan]

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I think I'd kill hubby if he was telling people gory details of my labour!

Bangles maybe just use a carrier bag andhook the handles over your ears to stop splash back

Hahahaha like a suffocatey nose bag

God I've just thought of the pooing in labour issue too - will i ever be able to look at my front room in the same way without thinking 'right there, just in front of the telly, i pooed there'

Hahaha I did not poo... I went about an hour after I gave birth! I kept asking everyone after if I had. You planning a waterbirth? I remember being pg with ds and on One Born every minute they gave the dh a 'poop net' to fish it out, dh said uh oh you don't want a water birth do you

those last few posts actually made me lol - not common for me when reading something.

Oh reading this does cheer me up on a lonely evening sometimes!!
I was sick afterwards but managed to get it into the bowl luckily, although i do wish i'd gotten it all over the mw who was pretty mean during my labour telling me i was selfish for wanting to give up pushing!! The cheek!!

My whole boobs were throbbing and had a bruised kinda feeling eurrghhh i was totally in love with the size of them WOWEEE but sadly dp wasn't allowed anywhere near and i had to wear a triangle bikini top until they 'went down' so to speak. Selfish of me not to try for the sake of my babies perhaps i dunno..so this time i really want to just force myself through the pain!

I wasn't planning a water birth mainly because of the fear of pooing in it- the indignity of having dh fish it or with a net/a vision of my in labour self scooting around the pool while the poo chased me.

Suffice to say, I'm a particulate pooey person and the possibility is all to real! (Didn't mention it at the time, but last week i did one that I'll swear was bigger than my unborn child. Was actually quite proud of myself. Not to mention relieved )

Bangles that really made me laugh! Chasing you like a shark in a cartoon!

exactly like that (jaws music optional)

Or possibly the benny Hill show theme tune

Helkat I couldn't wear a bra either as milk came in but I think once you get latch sorted the pain usually subsides? And thr whole boob doesn't hurt because the milk is leaving boob rather than just fill up? Obviously something I am not too sure on though as I didn't even attempt it.

benny Hill oh bloody hell I am snorting away like a pig at that!

"Selfish of me not to try for the sake of my babies perhaps i dunno"

I disagree. If something like bf makes you miserable because of the pain it causes, then its not good for your babies either.

I put a lot of pressure on myself (and so did every HCP I came across) to breastfeed DS. I kept it up until 9weeks - I regret not stopping sooner. DS had severe silent reflux and couldn't stay on long enough to get past the foremilk, which in turn made the reflux worse. His weight gain was barely there. He also got terrible wind being bf. It made me miserable. FF was 100x better for him, his weight went up nicely (although he's always stayed slim built), he wasn't windy and didn't reflux so badly. FF made me feel happier, more relaxed and better bonded with him.

I do intend to give bf a go again this time but have no qualms about swapping to ff, if things aren't working out.

Tis a good point, why, though in my own case i wonder if I'd just be using it as an excuse to not even try just because i don't like the idea of it... i do think I'm pretty weird for getting grossed out by the concept of breast feeding- everyone else i met seems to think it's a lovely bondy mothery thing but it just makes me feel a bit odd!

And i was convinced i wouldn't like octopus until i eventually tried that... Maybe this will be the same.

Think my dh will be a bit sad if i do try it and get on with it though because he'll feel a bit left out, not being able to get involved with feeding

I breast fed DD for two weeks, I hated every moment of it
She was tongue tied and no one noticed.
I'm going to give it a go this time but won't beat myself up if it doesn't work and have got bottles etc.
I wasn't prepared for how horrific I would feel after birth, I felt like I had been hit by a train! I'm hoping knowledge and experience will get me through

28 week appointment tomorrow!

Im of the belief what is best for mum is best for baby and every one is different.
I read about a study about pnd a lot of women are so desperate to bf and if they can't they beat themselves up about it, I think a relaxed approach is best, you are relaxed which will help with feeding and if it doesn't work out then your not beating yourself up for failing. I had pnd and a lot of that came from others having easy births yet I couldn't get my under 7 pound baby out myself. I don't want the pressure of trying to bf.

Bangles my dh loved feeding ds, he helped with night feeds too, he gave ds his first ever feed. He said it helped him bond but you could express milk for him to feed the baby if he wanted to do feeds?

Lying in bed and just realised i have no health insurance yet for out holiday...I also need to pack eek

I feel alot better about it now i've spoken about it briefly on here! Thanks why
In that bounty pack (i'm in wales do they have the same in england?!) it's crammed full of bf this and bf that, and all over the antenatal ward is pictures of mums with boobs out in various different places (cafe's, parks, trains etc etc) Alot of the mw's here seem to be of the view it's the best ever thing ever to do for your baby

I will try it and see what happens! I've got 12 bottles ready! Bargain in asda today 6 down from £25 to £10! I think £25 is ridiculous but then again everything seems so much more expensive than it was the first time round!

Has anyone got a crazy itchy scalp?! I'm actually itchy everywhere especially at night - my god it's driving me insane!

Expressing might not be a bad idea all round for me, tbh... Another bit of kit to investigate though!

Also, i have the sodding benny hill theme in my head. Only myself to blame for that one! Night all

Sorry I've been a bit quiet...trying to get my hteas round things and not be too paranoid about movements etc.
Thank u for all the hand holding, and for making me laugh out loud at the poo and vomit comments!

That should read 'get my head round' bloody phone! lol!

Bangles my DH never felt left out or that his bond was affected during those bf weeks, but he used to take DS to wind/settle him after feeds and also did most nappy changes. He also got lots of time with DS cuddled up asleep on his chest.

Oh and Memphis midwife said I have a really good attitude this time with a I'll try it, but if it doesnt work out, that's fine too. Said like you, the relaxed approach is best, gives a better chance of things going right and stops you feeling unnecessary guilt if they don't.

Helkat I think it is taken too far, last time I had it really forced on me, even though I'd said I was going to. They were also never honest about the difficulties, and made out like it was simple - ha! Then once I'd had DS there was no support.

Welcome to the weird mind of someone with a phobia, I'd rather shat a dozen times during labour than throw up once... Yeah. I'm not normal :p

Erm frenetic just to mention 2 on this thread with weird phobias one is scared of sticky stuff down to post it notes and I can't even do paper cuts without crying and nearly fainting...oh and when it comes to vomming I am so pathetic the rare times I have thrown up from booze I cried for my mum....my dh had to rub my back and pretend he had called my mum to stop me sobbing 'I want my mummy'.....I was 29 so don't sweat it

I'm totally OK when others are sick now, but I still cry like a child when I'm sick!