January 2015 Thread #9 - Crossing legs and fingers for the final stretch!

[KateTheHuman]

Welcome to the third trimester ladies!

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In the summer we were looking at mamas and papas sola - any thoughts? Or experiences? I change my mind everytime I see another pram!
Need to decide on one pronto tho!
30+3

Due to cutbacks our NHS don't offer any antenatal classes so think I'm going to go with a workshop offered as private by a local midwife, it's not expensive and as I don't know what I want from the birth - other than a healthy baby - I'm hoping it'll help me understand my options as I'm also currently in the 'just see how it goes' camp.

Pesto, I've not looked at the Sola in detail but it was recommended to me as a good compact lightweight city buggy. It looks lovely and seems pretty versatile. It's a great price too, especially as it's currently on sale! I'd say the basket doesn't look huge, but depends how important that is to you.

Ooooo, I decided on the Vista, after looking at it in Lewis and a really helpful assistant showed how it collapses, stores and how easy all the attachments fit on. Its not as large as I thought which is important as although we have a car, I dont drive and live very close to the city centre so it looks perfect for parks and getting onto a bus. Is it terrible Im leaning towards getting it in orange simply to annoy my mother? That is bad isnt it!

I havent been to any antenatal classes yet, did view the birthing centre the other day when I was there for a breastfeeding class (really informative) and its so lovely. Think Ive made the right choice there. Does anyone have any good tips for antenatal classes in Birmingham? Im at City hospital but out of area so my GP midwife is linked to the Womens. I know I can get them from the hospital but just wondered what else is out there.

Im annoying my colleagues as my counting down to maternity leave is also a countdown to Christmas!

Thanks for that sk28
Didn't know it was on sale- was planning to wait till December to buy pram anyway but might have to bring that forward.
Is it on sale on mamas and papas website?
I'm so indecisive
Dh has left it to me as I'm the one who is going to use it all day everyday.
My carboot isn't the biggest so I think it'll be good for that.
Tackling the nursery today
Clearing our rubbish and making space in some drawers for baby purchases!
The carrier bags are piling up in one corner!

Pesto Yes, seems to be £339 reduced to £289 on the M&P website: www.mamasandpapas.com/range/sola-2/9304/ It also says you can save another £40 if you buy it at the same time as selected car seats. If you're fairly sure it's the pram for you, it might be worth going for it now! If you've got a small car, the compact fold of the Sola is probably a good thing. Are you urban or rural? I guess if you're on country lanes or muddy fields a lot, it's maybe not sturdy enough but it gets good reviews on M&P.

My DH was the same, said it was mostly my decision because I'll be using it. But at the same time he was making such a fuss about how expensive they are. That's why I ended up buying one that was a super good price deal but wasn't really right for us, and we're now in the position we're in of looking at buying a replacement before baby is even here!

It actually really annoys me - he makes a big fuss about the cost of painting the house (to turn it from magnolia box into something homely and 'us'), the cost of prams, everything - and doesn't really acknowledge that I try and cut costs generally where I can. I only buy clothes for myself from cheap shops or on sale, I've done very similar with the baby clothes on the whole, all that kind of thing. And he spends so much on watching Arsenal at home and away, on his nights out, and stuff, and I never complain at all. Grr!!

Our weekends are so busy from now till Christmas it's actually really stressing me out. The decorator is coming end of November but I need to have done some clearing and sorting before that so he can actually get in to paint. I'm so tired all the time, and so hormonal/in tears so much of the time, that my evenings are not at all productive. And I'm barely keeping on top of work. I think I might have to move a couple of days holiday from Christmas to sometime in the next week or two, just to have days at home tackling this stuff and getting it out of my head and off my shoulders! I could probably go to the doctor and get myself signed off for a week, given the lack of sleep and SPD pain and general instability right now, but I feel kind of guilty about doing that.

Oh you've got to take care of yourself. Move some holiday dates and have some days off now ... December is gna be busy busy.
Yes my dh is only worried about the cost!

I was supposed to go and look at the pram section of John Lewis but got knackered after buying sleep suits and blankets!

We are just gna feel more and more heavy and tired as the weeks go by so either get yourself signed off or book some holiday dates for the coming weeks.
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Just checking in :)

7 and a bit weeks left of my main job – but only 5 days of swim lessons (only do this on Saturdays).

Between appointments and annual leave its not long at all left in the office – plus I am expecting this baby to arrive early, so ensuring I have kept my diary clear from the 15th December so if anything happens sooner, I don’t have anything to worry about or handover via phone etc. If baby turns up late I have a lovely couple of weeks just sitting here on facebook/mumsnet :)?

ooh thread no 9 must mean the ends in sight ladies xx

SK28 changing some of your holiday sounds like a good idea. The more stressed you get the less you'll be able to rationally think about what needs to be done - then it will seem worse than it is. I'm also starting to get concerned about getting the spare room into a nursery and other bits done around the house, you're not the only one who doesn't have a lovely calm nursery! The room has been a dumping place for my husband's crap over the six years we've lived in the house so it needs completly emptying and painting. We are actually having to hire a skip as there is so much rubbish. He keeps telling me we have time but with each week that goes by, I'm finding it harder to bend over or reach up to high shelves! The longer it's left, the more I'm struggling to help with it and I really want to see a space for the baby.

I'm totally fed up! This cold is getting worse! I ache so much and now it looks like I'm getting an upset stomach too!! I hope it won't affect bub. I just wanna pass out. Argh!!!

Ah, glad to hear good thoughts from those of you who have gone for the vista or pioneer. Although as you're all saying good things about both, that's not helping my decision making!

Feeling really stressed about work right now. I have a massive workload of various multinational projects which i'm managing and there's no end in sight. My workload is actually going to get worse throughout Nov and Dec and i'm starting to panic a bit. I've tried mentioning this to my line manager but he hasnt really done anything about it. I've got a one to one on Thursday so i'll try to explain how worried I am. I had a little moment earlier when I was in the middle of at least 6 different things and more emails/tasks were coming through than I could deal with. Actually felt like I could cry . I would love to be able to relax a little in the run up to when I finish but I think it's going to be mega stressful .

Birth plan???! Haven't even had a chance to think about that! I know it's important and i'll need to give it some serious thought at some point but for now i'm definitely head in sand about the whole scary birth/labour bit!

Kate hope you feel better soon. Are you at home? You dont have children already that need looking after do you? If not, take yourself off to bed with a pile of magazines, a cup of tea etc. Make your husband/boyfriend etc cook you a light dinner if poss which is easy on the stomach and spend the evening alternating between dozing and doing other lazy things. Basically put your feet up and relax for a bit x

Thanks Pesto and Jobrum - I've had a look at my schedule over the next few weeks and I think I can afford to take a couple of days next week off so am going to speak to my manager about shifting holiday around, even though it's short notice. After that, it would become quite tricky to do so.

Hopefully, two days to just get sorted at home will make me feel better and more on top of things. Especially if we can get to IKEA this weekend to buy some of the bits we need around the house.

Thanks for making me feel a bit better :)

Emma, I've had countless incidents of tears at work lately (and that's even though I'm working at home 2-3 days a week!). One of my lovely colleagues is also a good friend and is quite good at noticing the signs and ushering me off to the ladies or outside for fresh air and helping me calm down, and/or making excuses for me to other colleagues. I can definitely sympathise - my workload has been heavier since August than it's been since I joined this company 3 years ago, with no real sign of let-up before Christmas. My manager is well-intentioned but handovers are gradual so there's not much he can do that has immediate effect... Hope it's not too overwhelming for you, and if it is maybe you need to consider taking some time off/getting signed off if it's making it hard to cope and there's no other way to give yourself a small break...?

Oh Pesto it looks like the M&P sale ends tomorrow so not long if you do want to benefit from the lower price on the Sola!

sk28 sorry to hear you've been having a tough time at work too. It's rubbish isn't it. Hope you manage to get a few days off next week. I sent my line manager an email earlier asking to discuss it and he called me later to tell me he agrees and we can get another project manager to support me on various projects. Then he told me i'd got a small pay rise as of this month too. As soon as we finished the call I burst into tears! No idea why!

I havent had any emotional meltdowns so far before this apart from chocolate gate when I thought my husband had eaten my snickers (he hadn't) .

Need a bit of chill out time I think!

Got home about half 4 emma. Had some soup. Now in bed trying to sleep but needing toilet every 5 mins. Thankfully no kids. I don't know how I'd cope. Hee.

As if you've all been chatting away in here for a week!! Lol - I've still been checking the old Fred.... Can you believe we're the third trimesterers now!?!?!?

Great to see some old names again : )
Third trimester and 3 Trips to the loo in 5 hours :(
I neeeed sleep

Don't know how ppl with young children do this!
Dh wants a big gap between children but I don't. I want them all close together... Not sure now... Worried about getting the first one out let alone any future ones!!!

Pesto I have a 2 year old and you just do it! Having a small person around becomes the norm so being pregnant with a child already there sort of feels the same as being pregnant without an existing child - you're just starting out from a different place!

Kate what a pain that you're feeling so awful I'm just coming out the other side of a cold so just dealing with mild snot and tickly cough at night (doesn't help the insomnia!).

SK28 totally with you on the emotional stuff. It seems I'm on the verge of tears for one reason or another most days at the moment.

Really not long to go now. I suppose I ought to think about packing my hospital bag but I keep finding excuses not to do it! Need to buy changing bag too and my research seems to have ground to a halt on that one! I think I got as far as narrowing it down to a babymel big slouchy and a pacapod but no further! Non work day tomorrow though so after a morning at the park with DS (will be packed as it's half term - gah! Rotten children... ) I might employ the electronic babysitter and do some internet shopping!

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I'm so with you all on the work front. Pesky work (and uni work for me too!) is getting in the way when all I want is play housewife and prepare a nice nest (whilst still being paid of course )

We have the vista too! In bright red! We got it as it's a little higher than others and DH and I are tall people. It looks rather bulky when folded but we have a big boot and rarely take public transport.

Kate Soup and hot water with lemon (and lots and lots of honey!) works really well for me to take the edge off a cold. It's not going to get rid of it instantly but it's soothing. In fact I remember reading that colds are mainly caused by a deficiency in vit C so I may indulge in my lemony concoction daily now, just in case

I don't know for you but I think it's exhaustion that's making me teary. I just can't sleep for more than 2 hours in a row, can't go into deep sleep at all and it's driving me crazy. Baby is doing jumping jacks in there through the nights as well, which doesn't help

But apart from that, I'm getting rather excited at the prospect of welcoming our little bean in the next few months!! How far away the 12 week scan seems now! I used to religiously record my pregnancy countdown and now I have to double check what week I'm in!! Never mind days!!

Morning all!

sk take zome time for yourself. I've just finished half term and feel all the better for it (even though I was dealing with a 3 year old for most of it!)

kate hope you're feeling better soon. DH has a cold and am keeping him at arm's length!

chinese everyone tells me that newborn and toddler is easier than pg and toddler. I bloody hope so!

Now that nursery is basically finished I feel like I can relax a bit on the baby front until I strat ML in just over 4 weeks. Need to focus on handover to colleagues now. (Though still neec to get my hospital bag sorted!)

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It's so exciting to see old names on here!!! I've been wondering how you are all doing as time does really seem to be flying. Our first trimester threads feel a very long time ago...

How are the others? People like saraswati? camsie30? Afraid I can't remember everyone's names?

Sleeping is also proving difficult here, and work is super busy, so finding the tiredness overwhelming. I admire those of you who are looking after other children as well! 8 weeks until maternity leave (I'm working until Christmas Eve), which doesn't feel nearly long enough given everything that needs doing.

If it makes anyone feel better, we haven't even started the nursery or buying anything yet...

30 weeks today

Good Morning!

You've made me feel better sunshine !!! I keep telling myself 10 weeks is ages and haven't organised anything yet.......but full intentions of getting a wriggle on (esp as its closer to 9 weeks for me now!)

Is anyone else getting more squirms and pushes, rather than kicks from their little people these days?

30+5 and only 5.5 work weeks left!