June 2015 - thread 2 -- morning sickness/sore boobs and early scans a plenty! [title edited by HQ]

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Welcome aboard the June 2015 bus... Moving towards 12 week scans

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Phryn Can totally relate re planning, I am a massive planner and it helps to calm my OCD. Problem is, this early on there's not much you can do but take every day at the time. In the meantime, I have started making lists... I have to do something lol!!!!

Buba Sorry to hear that you are suffering with HG. I really hope with treatment it settles down and doesn't last long for you.

Sorry to hear so many of you are still suffering with sickness. I can't believe I've been lucky for a second time! And I'm 10 weeks now going by the early scan date. I think they say that 1 in 4 don't have any sickness so I think that this thread has had more than it's fair share.

The early scan was worth it alone for finding out early that I'm not having twins! We've both only ever wanted two children.

Hi all. The last couple of days my nausea has been more dealable with, or perhaps I'm just getting used to it! This will be my 3rd, and I have to say I really don't like being pregnant!
I will have an early scan after all on wed (will be 7+1). My consultant from my ivf treatment here offered one to put my mind at ease which is really lovely I have to say. Fingers crossed all in right place and looking normal (and there's only 1- can't cope with idea of going from 2 to 4 kids!)

Ok I braved it and have emailed my mother. She had been phoning continually and I just couldn't speak to her because she makes me feel about 12. Slightly terrified about her response.

Thelove believe it or not I hate being pregnant too. Most people think I love it, but honestly I find it very hard, like a black cloud over me. You are not alone.

Hi all. Hope you are all keeping well. Finally getting rescanned tomorrow morning, very nervous.

Thinking of you MrsKrios

Afternoon all - hope everyone is feeling ok and those with sickness are coping.

Vintage - don't worry about having a maternity check up too soon, I had both my 1st midwife appointment and booking in done by the time i was6 weeks last time. They early appointments are mainly about checking history, answering questions about pregnancy etc. they usually collect bloods, do a urine sample and check blood pressure at booking in, but it makes not difference if you are not far along.

Counting the days till Friday when we have our early dating scan, I should be 7+1 by my count.....hubby is also freaking because I'm quite bloated and he's convinced it's twins :-)

MrsE hope you get a good response from your mother.

MrsK will be thinking of you tomorrow, hope everything is ok.

Thanks glenpip. I had the appointment but it wasn't with my actual midwife. The receptionist hadn't asked me what surgery I'm from so booked me with a general midwife so I have the proper booking in at home in the next few weeks! At least it's got the ball rolling since they've sent by details away for the first scan :)

I've had a call from the EPAU and they are scanning me at 3.20pm tomorrow. I've had more bleeding over the weekend but not as bad as the original one on Friday and no red blood since Saturday. This morning it was just a small bit of v pale brown. So I am sort of hopeful as it doesn't seem enough to have been a mc but it could just be the beginning so it's hard to know.

Sorry I am finding it a bit hard to read this thread so can't say much else but just thought I'd update you. I know some of you have had successful scans which is great.

Hello everyone. I realise its really full here already but having followed the thread recently I thought I would introduce myself and not just lurk here
Its been a rather strange pg experience for me so far. Firstly as Ive had to come to terms with it, as it wasnt planned (so overcoming the shock, certain feelings of how did we let that happen) Secondly because my dad is ill with cancer, making my early feelings be overwhelmed with, how would I ever cope with being there for my dad and for my child. I didnt think any of it was fair on the child knowing how my dad is my priority. To cut the story shorter, I did go through a couple of weeks (what felt like a lifetime) of deciding whether to continue the pregnancy.
I think that time (2/3 weeks ago) was what they would call extreme soul searching. Ive always said I could never have a termination if I was ever in that situation. But you dont know anything until youre going through it. Its just personal I think because I dont have any moral disagreement with termination but it turns out my gut feelings were right. I felt these doubts all the time and I feared I should really be listening to those because how would I deal with any regret on top of everything else. We do want children and probably in the next couple of years, so as more time went on I couldnt see how I could justify it. It wasnt a decision anymore about would getting pregnant now be viable, we wouldnt get to do this and that, what about this worry it has happened and we couldnt change that, it was now about something much bigger.
I hope no-one judges me here, thats one of my fears about telling people in RL. I dont want people to feel sorry for me, strangely. Im worried my parents wont be happy/will have the same worries as me. As time goes on I feel more happy about pregnancy. Im 33 and this is my first. I seem to have a knack of finding myself in stressful and a bit controversial situations in life. Im sure its not just me.
Writing this down has helped a lot, its great that forums like this exist. Nobody else knows apart from my DP and I hate not being able to speak to my parents it feels like a betrayal in a way as we spend so much time together at the moment. My DP has been amazing through the whole period, its clear hes always wanted the child but has supported my every decision including dealing well with the total u-turn I took when deciding to keep it.
Apart from the nausea and ridiculous tiredness (no being sick thank goodness) I havent had anything formal yet that fully confirms anything and its very lonely. Because Ive been a bit slow off the mark going to the doctors the only contact Ive had with them is to speak to a nurse practitioner to tell them, to which she just said congratulations and gave me something to wee in for next app with midwife. I dont know about any scan booked or heard the term booking-in appointment? Is that my first mid-wife appointment? She is on holiday so I cant see her until Im 10+6.
Oh and lastly, today Im 9+5 and due 3 June (accordingly to LMP).
I hope everyone is having a good day, thanks for reading (Ive probably taken up a new thread by myself), and sorry to all who are suffering worrying symptoms/worries about scans etc.

Will be thinking of you tomorrow MrsK and MsJ. Hope all goes well for you both.

I think there were a couple of scans happening today, weren't there? Hope they've gone well.

I feel like I don't often respond to individuals on this thread and just whiter on about me..! It's because I can't go back and check exactly who said what once I've started typing on my phone, but I do read all your posts!! MrsE glad your children were happy and hope your DM has the same response!

I am supposed to be working while dd sleeps but am knackered after a trip to the supermarket this morning. Honestly, I've never felt so pathetic in my life!!

I have my booking in appointment tomorrow lunchtime. Does anyone know how things stand about taking time off work for maternity related things if you work part time? I know when you're full time you are officially allowed to take the time off, but being part time I feel like there might be an expectation that I get it sorted outside of my working hours. My mw only works part time herself and two of her three days are days I work, and on a Tuesday she only does booking in it emergencies so it's going to get complicated!

X post piggle. Welcome and congratulations. It sounds like you've had a really hard few weeks. I hope you can "settle" into enjoying your pregnancy now.

Sorry to everyone going through an uncertain time. I really hope you all get positive confirmation soon.

So would you believe mum is thrilled! After all that worry, she's started knitting.

Glad your mum is pleased Mrs E

Hope the scan goes well tomorrow Mrs K

Sorry you've had more bleeding MsJ, will be thinking of you tomorrow too.

Very happy for you Mrs E! It must be such a relief that your mum is happy :) I have yet to tell mine, although I'm sure she's expecting it!!

Hooray mrsE that's fab news and must be a weight off your mind!

msJ will be thinking of you tomorrow and hoping everything is just fine.

welcome and congrats piggle you have certainly had a hard time of late.. I hope you find all the support you need here, I hope your dad is recovering.

pas I work part time and still get off the time I need for appoinmrnts etc.. I do try to get things booked for Friday's when im off but sometimes it's not possible and work have to acknowledge that.

MrsK and MrsJ thinking of you and sending positivity for tomorrow. Please check in tomorrow if you're able.

MrsE so nice when the response is not what you expect. Sounds like the baby may have a complete wardrobe by next June.

Had a massive meltdown this morning. Felt so ill. Couldn't get myself dressed. Brushing my own teeth made me gag. Luckily DH here so completely cried on him and wailed about not coping and how will I manage 3 DC. He was reassuring and made me breakfast and gave me a big cuddle plus did some laundry.

Really hoping the huge stomach is due to no stomach muscles rather than two babies. I reckon I would be a lot worse sickness wise if it was two. I'm not a doctor tho! I've got to wait until 28 Nov for my scan.

pas I feel the same; like I only come on and moan about my own worries but I do try to read everything, I just can't remember usernames/who said what once I start typing on my phone!

I also don't feel especially qualified to answer many queries or questions as it's my first XD

MrsE I'm glad your mum is happy and you can stop worrying about telling her now! Must be at least a small weight off with everything that has been going on.

Good luck tomorrow MrsK and MrsJ. Fx for you both!

Welcome piggle! It's an emotional rollercoaster, and whatever decisions you make, you've got to make them for you and your situation. No-one else can truly understand exactly what you're going through, so shouldn't judge. We were ttc, have been very lucky to get upduffed on first cycle and I've still had a few moments where I have laid in bed thinking, 'Oh my gosh, what have we done?!', and then felt guilty for thinking it for all those people not so lucky and for fear of jinxing it!

I think it was eating me up, I'm not good with secrets. But the email was most definitely the right tack. It gave her time to process it. Funnily enough she opened it while on the phone to a client and then started talking gobbledygook!