May 2015: Thread 3 - Let's do this :)

[plinkyplonks]

Thread 1: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2166619-May-2015-Hello-Anyone-out-there?

Thread 2: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2188580-May-2015-Thread-2-Let-the-sickness-begin

Stats: docs.google.com/spreadsheet/ccc?key=0Ajyv-zM-ASvUdHg4TVk1ZmlZbGk5RWJsVklicE80X3c&usp=sharing

[post edited by MNHQ]

Yes to nightmares! I had a dream I had pulled James May from top gear and was ripping his clothes off. I woke up rushing to the loo to vomit. Dp thinks it's really funny too.
I think the main reason Im having scary intense sex type dreams is the massive increase in my sex drive this week and the lack of opportunity to do anything about it haha.
But eww James May? My brain could at least have made it Michael Buble!

Ha ha ha!! James May???!!! Haven't laughed so much in ages Thanks Fluf! (Carlton comes a close second )

Urggh! Another early morning wake up...

James May is hilarious! Weird sex dreams here too, Stevi (the funny but awful one) from the X factor and one with a work colleague which is embarrassing!

Also got a huge unfulfilled sex drive here (sorry tmi!!)

Last night DH had an emergency incident at work so ended up staying an hour later, so I took the opportunity to get DD and me out of the house and we went and had dinner in town with DH and it was fab :)

Sorry to hear friends are being crap, I found myself a bit alienated when I told certain friends and once baby was born and they could see that I was very much the same me coming out partying once in a while and having them all round like we do for occasions our relationships went back to normal! DH and I married at 22 and had DD at 23 so we are in that range where only a few of our friends are married and most are still doing masters/PhDs/finding themselves! Will be 26 when DC2 arrives and many of our friends have started to appreciate DD now they are a bit older and thinking of families themselves!

Another one having vivid dreams. Thursday night it was giant blue bottles trapped all around the house. I also have to avoid watching anything too grim and graphic.

Pregnant - I was speaking to a group of people at a wedding the other day. We were all pregnant or new mums. The mums all agreed that through maternity leave and baby classes, they had all met more new friends than they had since uni days. I think you situation changes when you have babies - some friends will stand by you, some new ones will come into your life and some might drift apart. I think it's particularly hard for some young, single friends as it might remind them or what they don't have yet or perhaps they're a bit scared by it and not ready to consider losing their 'freedom.' I also don't think you can understand what it's like to be pregnant until you have been through it yourself. That I why I have found groups like this most useful for support since I became pregnant. Give yourself permission to focus on you and baby and what you both need to get by. Talk to us, talk to your midwife or gp and talk to anyone you have to support in real life.

Morning ladies.

Stroppy kids, stroppy DP here today. I don't think I can handle a whole weekend of it.

Dreams here too although no sex ones, my libido has firmly packed a case a gone on a long vacation it would seem.

We found with "friends" where we have a lot of joint friends in a big social group, only one to have kids.
I got alienated and quite bluntly pushed out and ignored from things (by a massive Wendy ) where as they tried in vain to convince DP his life could continue as normal so his Invites still come thick and fast, he won't accept them though because the way I was treated for daring to bare a child.
Luckily most of my other friends have a child or several, I'm not a hugely social person anyway though so I'm happy with the odd lunch or something here and there.

Vivid dreams were one of my first symptoms but not so much nightmares, sorry for those having those.

I agree with everyone re making new friends. You're around in the day all of a sudden, for a start, and suddenly there are lots of people in the same boat looking to make friends. And strangers talk to you so much more when you have a child. I know all the shopkeepers now and I live in London! Doesn't mean you can't be hurt by your old friends though, pregnant, they're being horrible.

I have been dtd lots . Making up for later when it gets a bit more - ahem - interesting. I don't think there's any medical reason why you shouldn't have sex if you want to.

I have been asked to be a bridesmaid in march. Meeting the bride today so there is bound to be wedding chat. Do you think I should mention the possible bump now or wait till I am 12 weeks? Friend knows I have been trying and about previpus mcs so must know it's a possibility and has already said she is thinking of different styles of dress Iin same colour for each bridesmaid. Then again, mught be silly not to just tell her. Several people do know - it's been on a need to know basis (when I have needed childcare for appointments or cant come up with a decent nit drinking excuse)

And it begins! Sorry for the forthcoming rant but it's only 8am
and I'm already in tears through stress.

I hate weekends!
One of my older children will have a tantrum about something which will lead to a full 2 days of tantrums.
DP will either act like a sergeant major being so strict it's ridiculous or he'll mope about how awful our weekends are.
I automatically withdraw because otherwise the stress makes me feel so unwell, which means DP is left to deal with the kids and he then gets more upset with me not engaging.

We can't go out, because which ever child is taking his turn to be a complete hell beast will behave so badly in public we just can't have them out anymore so they'll get cooped up and get worse.

Weekends are a time where I wish I could jump on a train and not come back.

Sorry about typos. Fat fingers +phone

Oh, the dreams! I had a spate of really rude ones a couple of weeks ago which wasn't nearly as much fun as you'd think.

Off home today to tell all our families the good news. Here's hoping my parents aren't too weird about it and dh's aren't too morbid!

Another slightly negative, downer post...

I've bust been lurking around for the last week or so - still feeling so ill (I don't care if morning sickness isn't really an illness it feels like it! Give me an ear infection or a cold any day over this...)! I feel so guilty for saying it (because I am really happy to be pregnant and do want the baby) but I really hate being pregnant, it's so not fun.

I've also noticed friendships changing pregnant and I'm also the first in my group to get pregnant, but I'm putting it down to feeling so ill and not being able to hang out so much - I've turned into the most boring, unsociable person ever.. I'm really hoping that when the second trimester glow and energy hits (if it ever does..) I'll be back to my normal self and able to show everyone that I'm still the same person I just happen to be growing a new person!

I think we should all just hibernate until 20wks/Christmas when we'll all be feeling better and starting to be more positive!

Morning ladies, sorry for everyone feeling crappy. With the friend thing a lot of my friends/family already have children there's only about two of my close friends and I that haven't, sometimes I feel I can't join in chat as it's all about children giving birth etc! Not for long tho, and if anyone was rude or avoided me just because I was expecting id be thinking there not real friends to begin with and be better of without them! But I know everyone's different. I'm looking forward if meeting new ppl in classes etc.

Sorry your having a tough time tits can't even sympathise as I haven't got any DC's yet. I hope u can enjoy your weekend.

Good luck telling the family kittiker

Finally 12 weeks today!

Hugs tits. How old are your children? Dd is 3 and going through a difficult patch. Or I have lost patience while the pregnancy hormones are raging, or a combination of the two. Normally when she's like this it turns out she was unwell in some way and I feel guilty for getting cross but it's been weeks now, though she is possibly still unsettled by new nursery and our mammoth trip down under. Am hoping it's temporary anyway! Will join you in the tears if it lasts much longer.

Morning everyone. I am feeling really sick today, and have headache from hell. think I'm gonna go back to bed.

You have my sympathy tits because my 3 are an absoloute nightmare, been tied to the house the whole school break, I cant even let my middle child out in the garden. And ds3 still gets up a million times a night so stress levels are through the. Roof at mo. Your partner sounds like mine I call him seargent major too. But hes working 7 days outa 7...in a way I like it in a way I dont cause im left to do it all on my own aswell as HIS puppy that at the moment is almost as worse behaved as the kids. This morning though iI am debating if to have a walk to bakers with them as am craving a well done bacon n mushroom sandwhich even though I feel sick as a dog lol.

Smiley great scan, id say a boy, going by the nub x

Morning ladies,
Sorry some of you are having a tough time atm.

Tori - getting past mmc gestation is a great milestone, mine was 9+3, i'm now 10+4... Finally got my dating scan through, its on 13th nov so less than 2 weeks to wait until i see the hopefully healthy bean.

Pregnant - most of my closest friends now i have made in the last 4 yrs since having ds, i found out about all the local baby and toddler groups locally before baby arrived and as soon as i was feeling ready to get out i knew were to go. Local childrens centre will have all the info you need. Try not to worry about your friends, you truly learn who is close to you when you have a baby.

I'm another having vivid dreams, about all sorts.... Had an i'm a celeb style eating one, woke up hurling, one about kids being kidnapped, afew sexy ones but all generally disturbing my sleep.

Wave to fellow end of May person jazzy. Knackered today. Made gingerbread skeletons with dd and now feel like that's wiped me out for the rest of the day, but now we have lunch put, a Halloween party, fireworks and then a christening 2 hours' drive away tomorrow. Not sure how I am going to cope tbh.

On the friends thing we have struggled. We met through a hiking group and they are our main friends. There are lots of couples but very few have children and are now of an age when it's unlikely. We have struggled with the isolation of having very few people in our boat. They are still out climbing mountains every weekend and we now rarely walk more than five miles or so. And clearly this isn't going to change for several more years. We spend a lot of time on our own and have met few people who share our interests.

While I'm happy about this baby I do dread it in so many ways as well. Work is pretty much my only social life and I don't look forward to
Maternity leave at all really.

I am motivated by the fact that in five years or so I can climb mountains with my children!

Hi all - I've been lurking for a while. I'm 10+1 and have my scan on the 14th. Been keeping it very quiet as this my first and its a bit of a shock! So good to read that people feel the same way. I have to say I don't think I'm going to be one of those women who love being pregnant. The nausea and worry are almost overwhelming. I'm hoping it'll be better once it's 'out'. Lovely to see the scan pics. Can't believe I might have one in two weeks!

Hi ladies. Sorry to bring a downer on to here but I've started spotting. Why does this kind of thing always happen at the weekend. Trying not to freak out. Feeling light cramping but not sure if that just my imagination.

Diddly hope your ok, I'm due 2 days before you and had cramps for last few days so if you were having them they may not be anything to do with the spotting, could anything have caused it, dtd or straining for the loo? It could be nothing xx

diddly how are you? Did you call your midwife to ask her advice? I had spotting last Saturday, & know exactly what you mean about possible imagination cramps. I had a scan & all was fine, so spotting is not necessarily bad. If you are really worried (like I was) I'd contact your A&E. Thinking of you

Welcome scottish this really is a stressful time isn't it? I'm thinking along your lines, just trying to hold my nerve till the 12 week scan & then I think everything will be better when I'm out of the pregnancy closet

I too am having seriously weird dreams, in RL my sister is angry I didn't tell her I am preggo - haven't had 12 week scan yet, but my mum let it slip. Had a dream that she was in a swimming pool swimming away from me and I was crying and trying to catch up. woke myself up sobbing and my pillow was soaked. Never sleep cried before, but woke up screaming once with DS's pregnancy.

Thanks mslad. I know its common. Called our local maternity unit as I know I need a referral to be seen at epu. They've faxed it over so just a waiting game now til they open on Monday. Previous experience is they'll scan me prob mid week. Just hope it doesnt get worse or buggers off by then. This bean is so much wanted and loved.

And thanks snooky. Cramps have just been today. If any thing the constipation has been easing off the last few days so no strenuous activities here. Pregnancy is such a glam thing find it hard taking it easy and doing nothing.