Tiptoeing into the Second Trimester... Due April 2015

[HippoPottyMouth]

Ooh just seen there is a June 2015 thread now. Makes us seem like old hands

sazzle we also have some John Lewis vouchers left over from our wedding! They price match so I think we'll probably use them for car seat and isofix base etc. - things we can get for the same price as elsewhere. I love that people's wedding gifts will be something for our first baby

Ikea stuff can be great, their Pax wardrobes are brilliant and have lasted me years, including a house move. We're getting the Lulworth range from Mothercard but purely because we get a good discount there and parents and PIL are contributing. We did look at Ikea stuff though, very reasonable and decent quality.

Off to choose nursery carpet today!

Gosh, I feel like thinking about which nursery furniture to get is still a long way off! Sure I'll get the bug soon though and it will be all I'll want to think about.

Lauren, that's rubbish about Facebook - can't think why, maybe it didn't pop up? Did you manage to have a nice day despite the bleeding? Glad it's slowed down now, hopefully that will be it!

Can't believe we're almost on our fourth thread! Shall we make another new one so we're not stuck with nowhere to go?

My back and hips and already hurting from time to time - thought this was supposed to happen much later?!

15 + 3

Brixton my back has ached for a while now, to the point I have to reach for paracetamol. I'd have a hot water bottle but I'm paranoid about cooking the baby

I've come to the conclusion that DH is having my hormonal mood swings as I have had none so far and he's just been this moody grump lump. Yelled at everyone and everything this morning.

Lauren oh no, I've been using one for the last few days, as it's really helped the pain - is that bad? I thought it was only in the first trimester that you shouldn't use one... I'm going to ask Dr Google!!

In other news DP has just come back from the shops with proper ground decaf coffee! Am very excited (shows how sad my life has become?!)

Lauren Google says it's fine to use a hot water bottle - they aren't big enough to raise your core temperature - so go make yourself one now!

Hi we got the IKEA stuff last time. And then moved to a toddler bed...

I used a changing table as I didn't want her to get used to nappy changes anywherr. Useful for potty training as she knows potty things were only in a certain room so not all over the house.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2212303-April-2015-4-time-to-start-glowing-and-growing

Hope no one minds, I've started a new thread xxx

Was AWOL as went to peppa pig world yesterday. It was actually quite good
:-)

Thanks Brixton will go and mark place

hi everyone! haven't been on for a while as work's been crazy (should be working now, sigh) hope everyone is ok.

Lauren glad your bleeding has calmed down, shame you have to wait for Wed for the scan, but it's good the EPU lady didn't seem too worried...

I've been having a few hip/pelvis issues too, I find wearing flats and switching to rucksack rather than handbag helps... Looking frumpier by the day but it's better than hurting!

Hot water bottle should be fine I thought? - it's only dangerous for the baby if you raise your core body temp a lot, so saunas aren't good but a HWB should be ok.

We got loads from IKEA for DD1 - cot, mattress, changing mat & towelling covers (these are great as the cover soaks up any wee and you can just change the cover rather than mopping plastic! also warmer for the baby), various toys (they do great stuff for 6 months+), cheap rug to protect the floor from spills, Antilop high chair, storage baskets and boxes... We have a built in dresser we use for her clothes and changing (I never hang anything up!) but their Hemnes range is pretty good and we'd have got that if we didn't have the dresser.

Having said that I slightly wish we'd got a cotbed instead as it would be a bit bigger ... Hopefully getting a second hand cot bed for DD1 and DD2 can have her IKEA cot.

Hi guys,
I hope everyone with nasty symptoms is feeling better!

I need a slight rant. I don't know whether any of you guys are worrying about difficult parents wanting to stay after birth etc but I am.
My mum moved from Manchester to Inverness when I went to uni hence we then didn't see each other so often and the relationship suffered really.
She is quite hard work when she stays at our house - my DH spends his time running after her cleaning, they use all the towels, leave food out on the surface which my dog then eats and so it's really quite stressful. My sisters struggle similarly.

She announced to me last week that she plans to move around 60 miles from us and do 3 day child care a week.
This sounds great in theory but she was planning on moving in with us for half of every week (with my dad who is 75 and 3 dogs).

She also refers to the baby as 'my baby' (as in hers), she said if she didn't like the name she would call it what she wanted (as she'd be doing half child care), and she told everyone I was pregnant when I was 4 weeks when I'd told her not too- and now there's no family for me to tell.

I do love my mum and I want her to be involved but I also want family life with my husband.

I broke this gently to my mum and said she needed to not be tied down and enjoy retirement and look after dad etc.
She told me she didn't think me and my husband could cope with a child - 1. Because I had depression in the past when I was on my own with no nearby family and 2. Because I'd said I was worried about child are costs (which everyone is).

I'm fairly angry about this - I have a great job (doctor) and so does my husband. I supported myself through uni so have a lot a debt but I'm paying it of and am sensible.

Sorry about the rant, I don't expect people to read it all but really needed it off my chest! Luckily my Dad agrees with me and my sisters all completely agree but I do not like arguments etc so argh.... I'm burnt out!!

Sorry guys

Just say no thanks. Besides if you have a good job you can get a nursery or childminders and I would most definitely refuse her offers of childcare.

I would keep my distance. If she sulks, tough

You are correct Tiny. I just hate conflict and upsetting people ... I am a doormat!

We've moved to a new thread IveGotaCaveTroll, so you probably get more answers there! See a few post up for link to it.

Personally as much as I love my mum I would not want her caring for my children regularly as we have very different ideas about things and she wouldn't be able to things my way. My boys love going to her for sleepovers and have a great relationship with her, just don't want her giving them daily rules iyswim. Hopefully your dad can smooth the way for you and you can politely say that you would prefer a professional child care. I do feel for you though!