Tiptoeing into the Second Trimester... Due April 2015

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Ooh just seen there is a June 2015 thread now. Makes us seem like old hands

Very abrupt EPU lady on the phone. Basically have to wait it out. She said if I have a haematoma and just had a fresh bleed it may be the end of it and it'll calm down. Basically have to wait till my scan on Wednesday to see if the baby is ok unless it gets worse then they will see me on Sunday.
Would of been nice of them to explain this when they found the haematoma in the first place! I wouldn't of got stressed out as much if I was expecting red blood.

Fingers crossed it settles down but still worst birthday ever! Far worse than my 22nd when I was having chemo!

Hi I'm keen on trying reusables but I can't get my head around how they work - despite having read a lot on line.
I get that you use liners. But doesn't exploding poo go all over the nappy and what about wee? Doesn't that soak into the nappy and smell?

Lauren. I feel for you, especially on your birthday.

Lots of positive thoughts coming your way. And , seeing as you can't even have a glass of wine.

blimey Lauren sounds like epu lady had some useful info, although totally rubbish lack of empathy and sensitivity. Can well imagine not the best birthday. sorry. telly to distract?

Only problem with tv is there is nothing on! I rarely watch tv, DH bought me a kindle to stop me reading on my phone so need to get the laptop out in a bit and set it up so that's this afternoons activity. Just mooching on the sofa at the moment trying to decide what to eat.

Sounds like you you deserve a fabulous lunch out somewhere Lauren, what a stressfull time.

I am unsure what to do about nappies, I have a friend who is using reusables, think I need to pick her brains a little.

I heard the babys heartbeat today..such a good start to the day!!! 4 weeks and counting till the 20 week scan!!

Fingers crossed for you Lauren.
I had heavy bleeding two weeks ago which luckily petered out but only stopped completely (no brown now) a few days ago. It was terrifying. No explanation. Three scans later and all was normal but still paranoid. Don't think the NHS are mega bothered-the gynae seemed to think bleeding was fairly normal. I said "what even big clots?" And they said yeah. I was lucky to get the scan although two of them were in the U.S. (on hols).
Now have to wait till end of nov for next scan so v paranoid.
You're doing the right thing distracting yourself.
I ended up talking to loads of people about the bleeding. Funnily enough two people told me they had the exact same thing and my OH's work mates wife has a haematoma too. People don't really mention bleeding unless you do and then they all come out of the wood work!!!

(15+6)

With reusables the liners catch most of the poo (all of it if your lo doesn't have loose stools) and you flush it down the loo (though bin the liner unless you want to have infinite call outs for clogged drains) the wee does soak in but so long as your washing every three days in winter and two in summer it's not that bad, or keep the nappy bin in a perpetually cold room and that tends to help, though a good nappy bin should keep in most of the smells anyhow, sometimes I forget and go up to 5 days... If you have a net in the bin you can just unhook the net and dump the whole lot into the way so you don't even have to touch the nappies.

Happy birthday Lauren - thinking of you, I'm sure the blood means nothing but still, how stressful for you.

I just saw consultant at hospital (am asthmatic so the midwife wanted them to have a chat with me) and I got to have another little peek at our baby! Wasn't expecting a scan. Lovely loud heartbeat and happy looking little babe. This makes the wait till the next scan a bit easier!

15 + 2

Haven't posted for a little while, had what I thought was my (nearly)12 week scan a couple of weeks ago but wasn't as far along as they thought so had to go back this week.
All looking good, with a new due date of 22nd April. Will go and hunt down the stats thread to update that. Just have to wait for the NT results which hopefully won't take too long.
Very wiggly baby, kept turning round every time the sonographer thought she had a good position. It did mean the scan then took ages, so we got to see lots!

Happy birthday Lauren and so sorry you're having such a tricky time. Get on netflix and watch some pointless films or have a bath - hope ur ok sending u lots of good thoughts x

Aww Lauren hope it all sorts its self out very soon.

You have all spurred me on and I've spent the morning googling reusable nappies. I'm thinking of trying TotsBots (they are local company) and they've won loads of awards. Feeling really good today after my 17 hour sleep! Eek!

Got a bit of a dilemma. My friend is having her hen do on 9th May and baby is due 19th April. My mum has said it'll be fine for me to go along for a couple of hours but is that really terrible of me? I'm not sure how I feel about it all.

Hope everything is OK, Lauren. What a rubbish thing to happen on your birthday.

Today I have mostly been freaking out about maternity pay. I didn't get the job I went for last week . Currently I am only temping 8 hours a week (4 hours Monday and 4 on Friday) Today they sent me home nearly 2 hours early because they ran out of work for me to do.... Even if I am still doing that job in the run up to the birth I would only qualify for maternity allowance - which is 90% of what I currently get paid - which is a pittance! If they decide they don't need me any more, which wouldn't be remotely surprising, I wouldn't even qualify for that.

I need a job now, basically: to qualify for SMP I need to have been working for my employer at least 4 months running up to the birth. Factor in the fact that I'm already 3 months gone, I need to give 2 week's notice and the elective section will make me 2 weeks early... I have no time to find a job!

I'm going to be broke, aren't I.

Happy Birthday Lauren
Very sorry to hear you are having a stressful one - I second the Netflix advice (and you are going to love your kindle once you've got it up and running!)

In the meantime, have a particularly awesomely-awful Cake Wreck to distract you (they always cheer me up, anyway)
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It's a bloody mentally exhausting worry-fest, this whole business of having kids, eh?

MissV - I can relate to the cramping terrors. It happened to me just after my 12 week scan and was bloody scary! The nurse on the 'worry-line' seemed unconcerned though and everything seems to have been fine since, tho i guess I will find out at my 16 week appointment next week. (Also: I don't know how your periods are, but she mentioned that worse cramps seemed to her to be more common with ladies that had heavy periods. Mine certainly are, and my cramping was a dull ache that lasted for about 2 hours, piquing at the end of the first.)
Sorry the speculum was a bit traumatic tho!
(Hmmm.. never seem to have problems with those.. starting to suspect I might have a bit of a Wizard's Sleeve going on down there! )

Lauren I'm another who's had something similar. I had a sudden heavy red bleed a couple of days before 12 week scan for DD, it was a weekend and they told me there was no point seeing me before the scan on the thursday (and if it kept getting heavier & very painful, to go to A&E).

At the scan, they said they could see a bit of a hematoma which probably caused the bleed and could cause another one later.

Lo and behold, a few weeks later I woke in the night in a total mess, bright red through the pants and into the mattress :-( No pains though and cleared up within half a day or so, and all was fine.

Really hope its clearing up for you too x

Bonjour you will still get maternity allowance won't you? And don't forget child benefit and working/child tax credits it might not be as bad as you think. Why don't you use the benefits calculator on the direct.gov website and run some scenarios through it. I've used it to check if I can go part time and how much help we will get (which by the way turns out to be manageable but would need more accurate figures and facts before I went for it.)

We have gone from red to dark pink/brown so guess panic over for now. Was having a lovely nap on the sofa and my aunty came round to drop off my present and card. Kind of skirted why I was home as the wider family don't know yet. Got a right headache now but can't remember what time I took paracetamol this morning think it was about 10.30 so should be ok to have some more 20mins early?

Yeah, Squatting that's what I'm thinking. I'm the first of the group to have kids or to even be thinking about kids, so not sure how understanding they'll be but hey ho that's the joys of being a grown up.

Oh no, Bonjour really sorry you didn't get the job. Fingers crossed that something will come up soon to ease your worries. Who needs money, surely babies just need cuddles and boobs!?! I'm so naive!

Haha Nukie wizards sleeve made me chuckle. Me n DH joked around about sex after we had DD and I asked him if it was like throwing a sausage down an alley! I was pretty self conscious as I'm sure we all are after being so stretched but he replied like a true gentleman and said it just felt normal.

Personally I wouldn't commit kismac, if you're bahy is 2 weeks late it will be less than a week old! It's not terrible, there's nothig wrong with going out if you want to but you may not want to once it's here. We went out for our anniversary when ds1 was 3 1/2 months old and I spent the whole evening checking my phone and couldn't wait to get home! A friend of mine had a full weekend away without her baby at the same time and had a fab time, we're all different.

Sounds like it isn't something to worry about Lauren82000, although I know you can't help it!

Obviously depends on what you're earning but loosing 8hours a week wouldn't be disasterous would it? you'll get child benefit as well don't forget. Keep looking and try to be positive, if you get a job you'll be entitled to mat allowance even if you're too late to get smp.

Glad you got see your little one again BrixtonBunny!

I have three people tell me they think I'm going to have a girl now! I think they think that's what I want to hear though. All this speculating is driving me mad, I want to know!!!!!!

Still full of cold and thoroughly fed up! Off out to the cinema with hubby tonight, yay! Not sure who's going to be asleep first as he's had a really tough week and I've been keeping him awake, not to mention waking him up Wednesday night to tell him that he'd left my pushchair out in the rain and he needed to get it in, I don't remember a thing

Have looked at the calculator and if I lost my current job I would be entitled to JSA and council tax support. Otherwise I get nothing but child benefit.

I need a job! Must stop panicking.

Just called the agency to see if there was anything else available and they said they were going to call me to say not to worry about coming in next week, but they didn't have any alternative work to give me.

Haven't told anybody at work I'm pregnant yet.

Fuck. At this rate I won't even get maternity allowance. Fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck...

I should stop freaking out but I'm used to earning money and the thought of months and months with nothing and not even maternity pay is making my head spin.

Tried calling my old work and they said no jobs until January, but send in your cv. Didn't feel like I could say but I'm preeeegnant!

Waaah. Sorry for all the swearing. Should probably just get a grip and go make some lunch before MIL comes back with the baby.

Not eligible for anything, (we're not super rich or anything, but we definitely are "the squeezed middle!") we'd just have to really cut back. Sure DH will calm me down when he gets home.