Oh and also, we had the screening last time, risk for Downs was 1:17000!!! Which was very reassuring. We would have worried if we didn't have some idea. But then, she still could have been that one in 17000, which we accepted. I personally feel that if you have the tests and the news is good, you reassure yourself. If it's not it doesn't mean you have to have the extra tests but you can prepare yourself for in case.
However, things like Edwards syndrome and Patau syndrome are so life limiting and often non viable that in my opinion it is worth knowing sooner.
Having said all that, everything in pregnancy is a risk - a good result at 12 weeks doesn't rule out your child having a disability at the end of it all. But at least if you get the risk result for this bit you can be a bit more prepared for some eventualities. Especially with dc1 to prepare too.
I can understand why it might be a hard decision for some couples/mums-to-be, but it isn't for us - we wouldn't want a child with a severely life limiting and disabling condition to suffer. Downs is not incuded in that bracket for us (in general) but even for that it would be nice to be prepared. And on a selfish note, I want us to be excited and happy and ready for our new one (however they may be) the day dc2 is born, not horribly upset, if it can at all be avoided.
Heavy topic people!!! Now I'm crawling to bed!!! Good luck with your deciding Lauren.