Due March 2007 - No. 3

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Ahem - allow me....

fatfox you copy it by highlighting everying on the bar: press right click on the mouse, go to 'copy' and press. Then you paste by doing the same, right click, paste where it says {url, so url is where you paste. you can't just copy the words of the thread or website 'cos the computer needs all the other bits and bobs too!!

here you are divastrop

I find the easiest way to do it is to cut and paste from the example on the box with the emoticions
Then I delete the news.bbc.co.uk bit and paste in the url of the thread

hope this makes sense

Is anyone else gripped by the you know what thread?? What on earth is that all about?!

If it's the HM threads...
The OP claimed to be pg via an affair with a married man
Married man was rumoured to be a mumsnetter
A man then outed himself
Since then there has been much argument and speculation

How if real, how and if trolls!

They are both regular posters from what I understand
The OP appears to lead a life rich in drama and trauma

If it's who I think it is - then I've met her!

In fact have met all the main characters!

Yes apparently they have all been to a meet up
I wish they'd deleted the thread sooner as it caused me to stay up far too late and now I'm tired

How is everyone doing?
Who is feeling movement?

I think I may be feeling a bit of movement. I'm a bit worried I'm not as far along as I thought as I have felt it much earlier with dd1, 2 & 3, and I thought the more you have the earlier you feel it. Oh well, maybe it's very chilled out in there!

You are right about staying up too late last night TheBlonde, am also glad they're now deleted or dd3 would have spent this morning in front of cbeebies while I caught up!

I finally went to bed about 12.15 - annie did you stay up much later?? What did I miss?

I left them to it at about 1.15am, I think someone had noticed that the male half of the situation had posted under a name that differed slightly to how it appeared originally (a lower case instead of a capital letter in his name) and I think there were stirrings of suspicion as to whether it really was him. I just didn't get how he could repeatedly post 'just let me get on with it in my own way' when he was clearly just sitting on MN answering posts!!

Oh what a tangled web we weave!!

Yeah I stayed up too late reading that thread too! The way it unfolded was so intriguing I got hooked!
Anyway I was doing some pretty daft things when I was 24. Now that I'm nearly 40, 24 seems very young. Poor kids though.

I am less grumpy today yesterday I had to drag myself around all day. I am just about managing the bare minimum at the moment. If I manage to keep everyone clean, happy and fed thats as far as it goes! I am fine in every other way though just no energy, so could be worse!
18 wks 1

I know the feeling rosylily!

ooooohi was looking forward to catching up with that thread this morning.i had to have anosy last night as i started reading the original b4 it was removed.i only got about 1/3 of the way through.it beats eastenders!
i was pretty daft when i was 24 but not that bad cos i already had 2 kids by then.

im sure ive felt the occasional kick now and then but i think this baby cant be bothered.hes probably sitting in there reading a computer mag

17+5

Actually it was when I was 25, I had one kiddy and I was extracting myself from my first marriage. I was in a mess for a while. I learnt LOADS around that time though it was a painful transition!

Hi all, OK - what thread is this that we are talking about. I am a bit dim at best of times...
sounds juicy!

Fatfox, if it helps, I can work the frinking web link either.... so much for my higher education !
Theblonde, I will give that a go later...

Anniediv -I am 19 weeks today - and I have felt no movement... the bump is enormous though... what does it feel like ? Should I be worried?

Fatfox and Kitty have been following your thread about mums.... I am an only child too... and come from fairly dysfunctional family as does hubby... our poor child! Its made us both over achievers... of this I am positive of. But thats another story.

I am sure the reason I ended up following various psychology degrees in a bid to try and work it all out, kind of a physician heal thyself - think growing older helps too. But I think I have worked it out enough to feel some kind of "closure". It hurts like hell though.

Basically, your foundation and developmental years end up impacting quite significantly on your adult life. You must work out the exact issues that you are hung up on regarding your parents and work out a strategy to cope with them and over time to deal with them. The risk is that the very things that you are hung up get projected onto the people you love - and usually the things you are hung up about, are throw backs from your parents and early years....Its a vicious cycle. Your parents have done it to you, and you will probably replicate the same behaviour onto the ones you love.. You have to stop the cycle and grow some coping mechanisms to do so. Easier said than done, but the only way is to deal with it head on.
I used to just run away from my childhood stuff - but found it made it worse. My backpacking stint around the world did not answer the questions, nor did moving to the States to get as much distance between us.

My mum and I are ok now, since I started speaking to her and challenging her on some of the behaviour - believe it or not, I actually understand her behaviour now, and some of it makes sense. I have to say that has failed miserably on my dad. But hey 1 out of 2 aint so bad.

Geez, this sounds like a therapy session... sorry to go into psycho babble....

I think the reason I have waited so long to have kids is that I felt so inadequate in my relationship with my parents. I needed to clear it up (as much as possible) before I fell preggers.

Being pregnant is therefore a big step in my life in more ways than one!

Sorry to get a bit too deep...

Onilly, the first movments are kind of fluttery and bubbly, you might not even notice at first (especially if this is your first). I was just under the impression that with subsequent kids you feel things earlier, so as this is no 4 I would be feeling more definite stuff rather than the fluttery, bubbly bit (what a crap description, sorry!).

I have NO BUMP, in fact have done my jeans belt up 1 hole tighter as they are slipping off. I think it must be because I am like a Tardis with deceptively capacious innards due to the 3 previous occupants being large and active!!

Wouldn't this thread be boring if we were all the same!!

Morning All. You guys had a busy weekend posting on here! Taken me about 15 to catch up with it all!

Had a good weekend, but now I'm back at work I think I need another one to catch up with the sleep I feel Knackered!

I think I've felt movement.. certain felt something a while back, felt like a little shower was happening against my insides!

Met up with my Uni friends on Sat and broke the news that I'm nearly 20 weeks pregnant and they were so pleased, as i'm the first of all the group.. then thye kinda looked at me and said "you are?".

Must get a bump soon surely???

Imagine having no bump yet on 4th pregnancy! WowEE. I am not feeling much obvious movement, just the odd flutter which could easily be mistaken for digestion flutters.

I used to analise everything but now I can't be bothered.

The thread thats been deleted was pure gossip mongering! A regular mnetter having fling with a married mnetter man and fallen pregnant. Lots of people know them and are all upset and angry about the whole thing. Don't think we are allowed to mention names hence things being deleted!

Rosylily, all evidence is now pointing to a small, skinny, chilled out baby boy, after my 3 dds, that is the only way I can account for no bump, movement and the ability to get vertical without vomming!!

I think DH may have scared bump, he's been reading his "pregnancy tips for blokes" book and on Friday started serenading bump with a interesting rendition of Bob Marley's "Exodus".

Annie, I think I get the odd prod, but no where near as much as with the others. God knows what's going on. I sometimes wonder if it's actually alive, morbid I know , but why is it so still?

Onilly, I think so many of us have mother issues. The older I get the angrier I get with her for what she has done and how she is. Trouble is that gets me nowhere and doesn't solve anything. I could never confront her about her behaviour, she's stiil very much a small child and always will be.

My ghosts are that people don't really value or like me and therefore don't like or value my children either. When I was growing up she would always tell me I had no friends of that they were not suitable and that I could have some of her frinds (nice).
This morning ds2 was supposed to be going to play at a friend's after school. Now this friend wasn't at school this morning. His mum said he had an ear infection. They have already cancelled two weeks running already because of car problems. When he wasn't at school today I felt so angey and disappointed beacuase in my mind I took it as deliberate attempts to avoid my son and me. Now I KNOW that that is simply not true, yet my immediate knee jerk reaction is to see it that way. I am reading a good book recommended on MN on changimg low self esteem. I have read a bit and if I hadn't I would not now be able to see the situation in a normal light and see that it is not personal. Does that make sense? Oh god, sorry I have gone on. Bloody mothers.

Diva, I read all of the thread as it was unfolding. It was great like crossroads but much better. Bit disappointde to see it gone this morning. I'm not sure how you have an affair with someone from MN though