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weeonion · 07/08/2014 14:05

I have read that baby's patterns in utero will mirror their patterns of wakefulness when born. I know with DD this tended to be true but as this one is so different - who knows. It did go crazy when,I was swimming / in pool last week.

Strawberryfield12 · 07/08/2014 14:40

Mine is kicking every other day, starts about 4am and goes on actively till late evening, the next day mainly is quiet, just sometimes some small nudges inside.
Suppose I am growing the future marathon champion. As for counting kicks, I think I would go nuts trying to do it on the active days as it is literally non stop

Miskate · 07/08/2014 14:43

Ladydolly - you make a really excellent point there re not making him do something he's uncomfortable with. I've been really disappointed with our lack of sex life since getting pregnant, particular as all of last year when we were TTCing we were obviously at it constantly, which is my preferred state of being. I've taken the constant knockbacks in the last 3 months really badly, but I think I need to take a more considered look at the situation like you say.

ladydolly · 07/08/2014 14:52

miskate I've felt the same way, I was disappointed and felt a bit rejected and unattractive, it took me a few weeks to see the bigger picture. I'm a still a little annoyed that he never actually said/explained he didn't want to but he was probably trying to spare my feelings.

It does cross my mind now though that if I go overdue it's the best way to get things going!

Annarose2014 · 07/08/2014 16:17

I basically had a lot of pre-emptive talks with my DH at first about me psychologically needing it for my self-esteem. He was going on a lot about wanting to take care of me and how that was his job, and I basically said that if I felt unattractive for months on end it would all be for naught.

So he really took that on board as part of the package "Anna needs rest, reassurance.........and occasional shags so she doesn't get depressed about her changing body"

Also I bought him that Pregnancy for Men book which had the classic line "Unless you've a knob like a traffic cone, you won't do any damage, mate"

But I strongly suspect that without all of that bossiness encouragement he would have gladly let it slide out of sheer nervousness. I think he's glad though. Its good for both of us.

TwigletFiend · 07/08/2014 16:51

"Unless you've a knob like a traffic cone, you won't do any damage, mate"

weeonion · 07/08/2014 17:27

hey folk s- ta for your messages. over it today - in scheme of things it matters litle. it was more the presumption that she could do what she wanted with our stuff. i have no problems about lending / giving stuff away but do make it clear when i want stuff back.. Also - i firmly believe in passing stuff on to charities but like to decide myself where it goes - it is always women's aid / refuges, asylum seeking / refugee projects or projects that work with directly with young or vulnerable mums.

another pal has offered to lend me her monitor so all is well.

miskate and ladydolly - I hear what you are all saying re sex in pg. i think it is impt to have some level of activity to stay connected as a couple and yep as a reminder that whilst we may have a huge belly baking a baby - we are still woman who may enjoys rumpy - even if it is not full on sex. DP and i were at it right up to last day of pg with DD. A good reminder is that it helps bring on labour in final days, orgasms help your womb prepare and midwives actively encourage it.

Plus - as this the only time we can have sex without any form of contraception - i wanna make the most of it ( we practice natural method so no pills / IUS / coils/ implants / condoms anyhow!)

I may well tell dp this evening that my mumsnet thread has said we have to do it ...

weeonion · 07/08/2014 17:28

on another note - DD has taken to asking me if i am online chatting to my net of mummies - that's you folks!!

Loaf99 · 07/08/2014 23:04

Thanks everyone!

utopian99 · 08/08/2014 07:13

Ha for your dd weeoinion!

Agree with the sex in pg (or in general), I had an ex who had a rather lower sex drive than me and the constant knock backs really affect a relationship. Thankfully never an issue with dh, although we did change positions a bit when I was super massive at the end with ds, for practicality reasons.

He told me the other day he thinks I'm in the 'blooming' stage now, which is nice as it was entirely unprompted and I've been a bit hacked off with weight gain this time round..

pinkgirlythoughts · 08/08/2014 08:02

Lovely of your husband utopian - I wish I was 'blooming'..... I know it took a while for me to stop feeling like crap last time round, but I'm sure I had more energy by now! Also feeling a bit down about weight gain this time. I don't feel like I have a proper nice round bump like I did before, I just feel massive all over. Maybe it's a second baby thing?

ladydolly · 08/08/2014 08:27

My DP has always preferred me with a few extra pounds so I know it's not the bump/weight gain that's putting him off so that's reassuring.

I have a very big bump but don't feel like I've put much on elsewhere but I'm worried I'm just not seeing it, I've gained loads of lbs and they can't all be in my bump... can they?? On 9 months later one of the ladies gained 6 stone and said she just couldn't see the weight gain while she was preggo and now I'm worried that's me! (I've not gained anything near 6 stone thankfully) Will be interesting to see how much goes when baby comes! I'll deal with the rest later.

Vicky5910 · 08/08/2014 10:13

While the chat is on weight gain can I ask how much everyone has put on? I'm about a stone heavier, the last 6lbs have appeared almost overnight. In the first trimester I lost weight from all the sickness! I'm worried as if my BMI goes up too high I will lose my home birth :(

Annarose2014 · 08/08/2014 10:24

I haven't a clue how much weight I've put on, and won't be weighing myself - ever. Am just staying active and thats that.

My brain won't thank me for putting a specific number in it - not when its largely out of my control anyway.

Vicky5910 · 08/08/2014 10:42

I wish I could be so relaxed about it but I wouldn't cope if I had to go to hospital for this birth, I really do need to watch my weight :(
Last time I put on 4 stone. I'm so pleased I've only put on 1 stone so far, but the 3rd trimester is the biggest gain. I am worried about that...!

Miskate · 08/08/2014 11:22

Weighing myself is my best motivator so I am keeping an eye on it. I've put on nearly 2 stone, and only 27w3, so can't really put on much more for the rest of my time. For this reason I am now sticking rigidly to my healthy eating and walking plan, and I've got a fitbit to help me monitor it all. The reason I've put on weight is not baby related - it's greed related, I just sit around all day scoffing cake and chocs - I wouldn't do this if I wasn't pregnant so there's no excuse for me now!

ladydolly · 08/08/2014 12:13

I've out on nearly 2 stone as well. I only weigh 1 a month or so. I'm really not eating too badly but I was so so so careful about what I ate before I was pregnant I think some of it is bread and pizza based :)

I knew I'd gain loads, big babies in our family and I'm prone to it, I set a personal goal of less than a pound a week over all which I'm still hoping for!!!

Hopeful83 · 08/08/2014 12:30

I last weighed myself at 20 weeks and I had put on a stone. I'm 27+3 now and haven't weighed myself since and have no plans to, as it will depress me. Like someone else said, I can't really blame the pregnancy, it's my fault for the amount of ice cream, cakes and chocolate I've eaten. Feeling a bit miserable about weight gain, keep trying to focus on the baby and not think about it.

On a related note (I think) it was my wedding anniversary yesterday and we did not DTD (sorry if TMI). Normally my DH would do it every day if I wanted to but I can't remember the last time he initiated it. So I didn't bother initiating last night to see if he would and he didn't. Which makes me feel even more fat and unattractive. He also didn't bring any flowers, got me a generic card, not a wife one, and fell asleep at 10.15 on the sofa. I am also irrationally worrying that he is having an affair (there is no evidence to suggest this but I am paranoid). I could talk to him but like someone else said, I don't want to force him or make him feel obliged if he's not comfortable. Sorry for the moans, think I'm just having a hormonal day.

Annarose2014 · 08/08/2014 13:13

Hopeful there's a difference between expressing your concerns and pressurising him?

For example saying "I'd love a shag, I miss it" is very different to saying "You'd better shag me, mate"

blamber · 08/08/2014 13:52

Hopeful talk to him! Tell him how you feel and don't blame him or anything just try and understand the reasons behind his behaviour.

Last week I weighed myself and gained almost 4 kilos at 24 weeks. So I'm worried I'm not gaining enough! I'm sure it'll all come in the coming months though. My mum and sister never gained loads either. And most importantly, baby is growing fine.

Alita7 · 08/08/2014 14:45

I'm 27 + 1 and I have definitely put on 2 stone, maybe more as I last checked 2 weeks ago!

weeonion · 08/08/2014 15:51

Not weighed myself, not interested in doing so!

Whenwillwe3meetagain · 08/08/2014 16:01

I have put on 10lbs but I had a BMI of 30.1 to start with so I think in total I'm only meant to put on 20lbs max so I really hope the last 15 weeks wont see me piling them on. I haven't been too careful but due to horrid sciatica which has only just got better I haven't been able to do any exercise at all which has been a real shame as I enjoy the gym and walking.
I'm hoping the baby is a good breast feeder and I get lots of extra weight gets sucked out of me too! I'd really like to get to a healthy BMI while I'm on mat leave which should be possible as long as I don't hurt my back again!

Whenwillwe3meetagain · 08/08/2014 16:05

Is anyone starting to get Carpal Tunnel Syndrome? My hands have been sore in the mornings for the last week or so. I'm seeing my NHS physio on Monday for my sciatica and will ask about it then.

Strawberryfield12 · 08/08/2014 16:10

I have put 4 kilos up to now (24+5), the first two kilos appeared literally overnight. I am short and size S, and the bump looks massive on me. I am really worried what will happen with me next few months. I think I might just another item of our family, women dont gain too much weight while pg, but we have big babies somehow, and the bumps also.
My sister gained 8,5kg, last months looked like she would fall backwards at any time how big was the bump and then she gave birth to a boy of 3,9kilos. Looks like I am lined up for the same here...

And I am definitely turning into my mum - knitting, baking, making preserves, jams, pickles. Never used do canning business of my good will before!!! Have had this afternoon off, so have made preserved lemons, pickled garlic and grapefruit and rosemary jelly. Dont recognise myself...