October 2014 - thread 7: blooming or just blooming hot?

[YellowWellies]

Hello all new thread!

Binky congrats!

Me23 I lost my Mum as a teenager. I miss her so much now I've got a kid. It still breaks my heart that my DCs and DH never got to meet her. She was v affectionate whereas DHs Ma is more stand offish so theres a lot of cuddles missed out on . And it makes it much harder as you've no one you trust as much as your Mum to ask for advice - and a helping hand. I've a pal whose Mum has her wee one two days and one night every week yet still claims her Mum doesn't really help out and claims she never gets a break!

Congrats binky!

You're all so prepared! So far, we have a babygro in the shape of a frog. I think the baby might have to sleep in a drawer at this rate.

I think DP is feeling similar puppy, I've been struggling to get him involved, maybe because everything still seems so distant. 'Oh, we've got ages yet' is his mantra. Including when I ask about saving up for paying for the birth (no way I'd trust it to the public hospital here - they can't even afford soap in the bathrooms). I may well be giving birth in the street. I think it is getting better for him the more my belly grows, so he can see something's happening. Now we know the sex too, it's more real, even if his choice of names are hideous.

It's so hot here right now, I can't cope. I imagine this is how it feels like to be a beached whale and we're not even in third trimester yet.

Congrats binky, I was the same as you but it has started to sink in now!

So sad hearing about people losing their mums, my mums difficult at the best of times but she is the only person I have patience with because you don't have your mum forever and yes it annoys me when my sister constantly bitches about her.

I officially have my maternity start date now and will take four weeks annual leave first so I'm off on 12th sept, though it is a risk because if baby comes early I lose annual leave which doesn't seem fair!

Anyone's belly button popped out yet? Mine looks like it's about too.

Mine never popped last time, it just got really stretched and soft bizarrely!

Ah yeah it is hard when you've lost a patent, never mind it happening while pregnant.

I too lost my mum as a teenager...she dyed when I was 19 & sis was 17...dad died 15 months earlier to that tho they were divorced.. Was only after I had DS1 that I realised howuch she'd done for us & how I never really got to say thank you to her for it. Pains me that she hadn't been able to see me & sis come on (get to uni, married, kids etc)...but my sisore than makes up for it with my kids & they adore her! There's now only DH's mum left as a grandparent to our kids...but it still annoys me when she says things like 'they don't know who I am' even tho we speak to her quite a few times a month & do FaceTime, as well as always pointing her out in any pics we have in frames in the living room. DS adores her too.

Haven't got anything for new baby yet...apart from new car today! Moses basket, babygros etc are all with a friend who's giving them back to me in a month or two. Another friend has bags of stuff for me from her DS2 so will wait to see that & them decide what we need.

Excuse the typos...off to my kip now!

Sorry to hear that Me and Yellow. It can't be easy.

Kirsti prior to being pg my ankles woul often swell when travelling, even just in the car, and flight socks always helped prevent it. Maybe not the best if you're enjoying the temps London is mind!

Lovely news Binky!

My belly button has been shallower and wider for ages but doesn't seem to be progressing any further than that!

The pram arrived this afternoon, SO quick, that company is on fire! I was very good and didn't even peak in the box before dp got home and it was gone 8pm by the time we opened it. Such restraint! I let him do it all. He was so into it it was really cute! He is pleased as punch with it. I'm pleased too just need to move the coat stand out of the hall (to where I don't know) so can get it out the door for a test drive!

I don't know about a bond with the baby but he has assigned himself to do one thing a week in preperation for it's arrival and even has a list up with a space for the task. He's been reading a book and asking a lot of things about after the baby arrives like whether I intend to give it a dummy (not really but ask me when it's screaming!)

Was anyone else really convinced they were having a boy/girl and got told the opposite? How did you feel? I'm a bit of an emtional wreck now. So sure it was a boy and have just cried lots as for 5 months I'd pictured her as a boy. Feeling guilty now as we should be happy we have a healthy baby, which I am just feel a bit lost!!!

I was the same binky, I really thought it was going to be a boy. I'm thrilled she's healthy, don't get me wrong, but I was mentally prepared for a boy and also felt quite lost after the scan. A few days later, after looking at names and being able to call her a 'her', I can't imagine her being anything else! I'm sure when she's here I'll forget I even thought otherwise!

Hi you lot! I'm going to have to quit travelling for work after the next trip booked. Went to bed at midnight after tidying the house for viewers today & up at 3:45 am to go to airport for flight. Feel so pukey as I'm so tired.
One consolation is that the weather is very nice this morning. Although taxi is travelling so fast I am currently fearing for our lives!

Thanks portico feel a bit better after a few hours sleep. Just need to adjust!

excited I honestly dont know how you've managed to keep travelling so much up til now. My hour each way commute floors me most days so hats off to you!

Yes binky, all my friends were asking me if I was disappointed as not only had I convinced myself it was a boy I convinced everyone else as well. I didn't want to admit it but I was, I wasn't upset but I felt a bit strange never imagined having a daughter and for some reason I feel like it's a bigger responsibility and going to be more stressful. A few weeks on and I feel much better, got used to the idea now and DH has helped as he is in love with his little girl already, I've also booked a 4D scan to help me bond with her even more. You will get used to it before you know it.

It was very tempting to ask what we're having yesterday...not sure how I will be able to resist at the 34 scan! Although I guess it would be almost impossible for them to get a good look by then!

Everyone convinced me last time (due to how I was my carrying, my cravings etc) that J was a girl. I had no strong feeling either way just listened to others. I didn't find out until the birth, I think that's the best time to get the surprise as with them cuddled in your arms you don't give a rats ass! This time I feel its a girl but everyone else reckons otherwise so I have no clue!

binky congrats on your girl!! I've not felt that as not found out but think I will feel a bit weird of this baby is a girl too - but only because I'm pretty sure it's a boy! Am working up name lists of both tho. My first dc I was positive it was a boy and thought so throughout. I told myself about 3 weeks before due date it was a girl so that it wasn't a shock when they were born! But it was a boy so I was was like "it's a boy and he's cute and I love him"! Like some deranged new mother!! part of my reason for staying team yellow is you really don't think too much about it when baby pops out as you are like 'oh my god, they are here - that's amazing' and love it entirely from day 1 whatever it is!!!' With knowing beforehand I think It's just an adjustment you need to make and then you will be fine!! Think I would feel a bit odd now if someone told me mine was a girl too.

So.... Bit excited. Just made my first baby purchase on the train this morning. I've got an ergo 360. Feel a bit nervous as after two mcs I still feel a bit nervous about everything and whether I will get to hold my baby after all this, let alone carry it in a baby carrier! But they go out of stock so quickly so went for it. I really want one for if I do go for city jogger which isn't parent facing, so when bubs is small I will take it out in the carrier rather than buggy. Easier when chasing after ds too! . I had a bjorn before - really old model without back support and can't find it anywhere so clearly I need a new carrier

I thought boy but was still really surprised when it was as I was fairly certain I'd be wrong! It is strange getting used to the idea but once they arrive and you meet your little boy/girl you really couldn't imagine it any other way.

As for belly buttons - mine popped a long time back, it is huge and visible through clothes. Showed my friend and she was nearly sick - forgot she had a bit of a belly button phobia, whoops!

Binky I felt the same but the opposite way round, I was sure this baby would be another girl but found out it's actually a boy. I felt really stunned when the sonographer said boy and it took a while to adjust as I had imagined having two little girls and reusing all DD's clothes for the second one. DH was a bit disappointed as he had hoped for a girl. I've never really had a preference for boys or girls but I liked the idea of having two of the same, and now that I'm used to having a daughter I felt like I wouldn't know what to do with a boy! It didn't last long though, I've mostly got used to the idea now!

Thanks ladies, you're all great. Feel so much better and already coming around to the idea of having a little girl!

See, we're fairly convinced it's a girl, but I'm starting to have doubts. Boyfriend refers to it as her quite a lot. I really don't mind either way - boy would be handy, since have loads of small boys amongst my friends so the handmedown clothes would be plentiful. I think if it comes out a boy, boyfriend will be a bit shocked.

I would say ignore bloke hunches! Women actually have statistically very good odds of guessing correctly if you have a hunch, but Dads don't. My pals (nightmare!) ExP throughout their pregnancy only referred to their baby as he, got 'him' a football shirt, only let them draw up a boy's name list. Lo and behold, nature gifted the chauvinistic prick a daughter!

Thanks ladies, I'll be going for a set of those flight socks then! I phoned in sick today. Woke up at 4ish with a spasm-y sore back, really need to get a new bed, I know it's down to that as my last couple of hotel breaks my mornings have been pain free! Poor DH tried to massage me while i sobbed, had a long hot shower then back to bed. Rang work and told them it was preggo related aches and pains (if you specify the magic words "back pain" you're referred to occupational health, which ironically, would be a knackering hassle to make my way to). DH smiled kindly and laughed as he asked why didnt I just tell them I'm an emotional wreck who's been crying since 4 this morning, cheeky fecker.
Congrats on your pink news Binky, as you say, it'll just take a wee while to sink in! I spent the first 20 weeks thinking boy then after my "yellow" scan I've been thinking girl (Maybe it was the pouting lips and dramatic poses), so I guess either way prepared having spent roughly equal time wondering about it being one or the other!

Captain!

Is everyone else baby mad already? I am finding it very hard to motivate myself about work and all I want to talk about/think about/look at online is baby related stuff.

Also, dp asked if a friend could stay a couple of nights in July and I felt very funny about it. Like uncomfortable with the idea. I have over-ridden this feeling with my head and said yes as there's no logical reason why not and it would help his friend out so seems very dramatic to say no. But I have been honest with dp and we discussed what I was feeling. It's not like it's later in the pg, it's just next month. I wondered if it was a nesting/protective instinct thing? But prob me just being weird!

Hope you feel better soon Kirsti