October 2014 - thread 7: blooming or just blooming hot?

[YellowWellies]

Hello all new thread!

Omg it is too hot today! My phone says it is 18 degrees but it feels far hotter than that in Central London. Ive never been heavily pregnant in the midst of summer before I am not looking forward to it.

We haven't had any offers to buy any baby stuff so are not expecting any help with that. (Which also explains why we haven't bought much yet!)
My mum died when I was pregnant with my first and I don't have any other close family (my dad has severe dementia) so I think mil or sis in law might try to come for a week to help with school and nursery run.

goats how much are you hoping to get the city mini for on ebay?

My first consultants appointment today...my mum laughed last night when I told her it was because I'm too fat. Reassuring to know that other people don't think I'm a huge roly poly!

Thanks for asking :). I was worried ds had appendicitis at one point too. But he managed to curl up and go off to sleep. What an awful night. Took him to doctors. Of course no pain now! It's trapped wind or a water infection or could be a hidden hernia in his groin. I thought I felt something but had disappeared this morning. Anyhow he's gone off to school and hopefully that's that. He had a hernia repaired at 18 months so don't want it again.

lou my daughter has had 2 umbilical hernia Repairs So It Wouldn't Be Unheard Of For It To Have Returned. Hope not though! No idea why my phone decided to start each word with a capital letter!

Feeling very tearful today for some reason! Damn hormones!

Haven't caught up with the thread for a couple of weeks - wow it moves quickly!

goats we have a Tripp Trapp and dd still uses it now at age 5. They are great and worth the money - but imo not the best for 6 month olds as the back slopes backwards slightly and babies often still slump when sitting at that age. I second yellowwellies's recommendation for the Antilop at first - I think dd used ours until age 2 when we bought the Stokke TT.

me23 18 degrees sounds like bliss - it's pushing 30 here, and instead of taking dd to the pool this afternoon, dh is insisting we drive an hour to look at a replacement for our second car. My own fault I suppose for pointing out that our 20 yo Mini wasn't going to be very practical with two kids, but I was thinking more of looking at new (second hand) cars in September.

mum2kiss hope you're feeling less emotional now. I've been surprisingly unteary so far this pg. wonder how long that will last...

Goats both of mine were grand in the Tripp trapp baby set (the rigid plastic one) from 6 months. But both were early sitters (sitting unaided at 4 months). They actually sat at the table, chewing books and banging toys, from 5 months, with food being introduced from 5.5 onwards (baby led weaning). Do you mean the newborn bit that you can attach to the seat? If so, a brother used it on his youngest and we were skeptical (he will buy anything!) but it was ace. The baby was at the table and comfy and safe and his older siblings loved it. I'd be tempted but we have a reclinging bouncy seat thing already...

And everyone I know who used the antipop loved it.

Me25 it must have been tough to lose your mum when pregnant with your first . And dementia is hard to deal with. I hope your inlaws are nice! I'm also looking forward to help with the school run type stuff when my mum comes over (both will be in preschool from Sept, DS will be 5 mornings a week - not looking forward to getting a newborn and 2 preschoolers out the door by half eight every week day!). My inlaws are helpful, but both still work so will help on weekends rather than week days. DH gets a week paternity leave and is saving holiday days to take 2 weeks holiday too.

Well 2 hrs and 40 mins at the hospital clinic but I did get a sneaky peek at baby again.the consultant made a few comments about the baby being very active and I said we haven't been able to get a good scan pic. He said "oh you won't get any pics of this baby! " heaven help us!

They finally sorted out the issues with my bmi. It's actually 37 not 41.5 like the first midwife had recorded! I do not need to take aspirin daily and I don't need to see the anaesthetist to check if I'm too fat for an epidural in the event of an emergency cs.

The midwife I saw today said she is leaving get the profession after 20 years. She said there's just so much pressure on them and general politics in the work place too. I felt sad. Women have been giving birth since the dawn of time! We need midwives!

Oh and they want to do a growth scan at 34 weeks so I will get another sneaky peek at the beginning of September! !!

She said there's just so much pressure on them and general politics in the work place too.

I'd say that's public sector in general to be honest. Teachers are deserting at a rate of knots. I love my job, but if I wasn't going to need the school holiday working hours with my own kid, I'd be out of the classroom. I'm spending my maternity leave researching alternative career options so that I can retrain accordingly over the next 4 - 5 years.

And yes to people who asked about the Tripp Trapp newborn thing - I'm tempted, I like the idea of the baby at the table with us, even if it's for tiny tiny amounts of time.

And the ebay City Jogger - I'm watching lots, and reckon the further up north you can go, the cheaper - £130 maybe. Down south it's a bit different - one went for over £200 the other day, which made me think I'd just go and buy a brand new one. Boyfriend 'willing' to pay up to £150 apparently, but frankly I'll buy what I want for whatever cost, I'm the one with the savings account, and I'm the one who will be pushing it most. I do prefer the option of second hand, just because I'm environmentally friendly like that.

Have missed the thread for the past four days and my goodness what a chatty lot. I will try to catch up. Any great parenting tips I've missed?

Regarding pressure in NHS I can vouch that it is getting/has gotten ridiculous in most health settings and social care. Beyond doable and there are consequences. Teaching too, I'd love mrsthedog to leave just because I can see what it does to her.

As a dad to be I am struggling with not being able to form a strong attachment and bond with Schrodenburg. Not too much of a moan but I am bloody jealous and a heads up some of your Dad's to be may be feeling it too.

I'm not forming a strong bond with the baby either puppy if it makes you feel any better. It's still a bit abstract to me - something I've seen on a screen.

For the love of god, don't get the Chicco highchair with loads of padded layers on a plastic shell. You'll spend your entire life trying to clean out all the little nooks and crannies.

My parents have the ikea one at their house, just wipe and go! It's brilliant!

Puppy I'm glad you've said that about not having much of a bond because I think dp is feeling a lot like that. I've noticed that he's reluctant to discuss things we need saying there's plenty of time and he is upset that he hasn't felt any kicks yet. I had a consultants appointment today and he seemed reluctant to come although I told him he didn't need to as he had to work. I guess all this stuff is going on inside our bodies and all you blokes can really do is sit and watch! My dp commented last night that all I seem to do.is research baby stuff and I told him I am probably just nesting. He'd never heard of it but seemed to feel better about my behaviour once I'd explained it to him.

Would he do the research? I know that my bf 'doesn't want to get in to that', so you know... that means no say in the purchases.

flip yes in was incredibly hard to lose my mum, it's hard any time but as I was pregnant with my first I had so many questions that I had wanted to ask and after dd was born I needed her so much as I finally realised what it is to be a mother and so wishes I could hold her and tell her how grateful I was for everything she had done for me.

The public sector is a mess right now morale is so low everywhere. Nhs is so short staffed we are expected to give so much but without the resources. I think midwifery is a wonderful profession BUT not in it's current situation I want to get out too. I received an email from my midwifery union asking if midwives would be willing to strike I think it's the only way forward as we have been walked over for too long! (Also patient care actually wouldn't be compromised as bank and agency staff would be brought in to cover) in fact I bet it would be better staffed than it is normally!

The pushchair decision is doing my head in now. I keep changing my mind I now think I want a baby jogger city mini gt as it has got such good reviews and seems to be better made than the sola (I already have a city mini for Ds but want an upgrade on the tyres and other quirks you get with the gt) the annoying thing is it isn't parent facing but will have to suck it up. I looked at the versa but think it is too heavy to lift and push up curbs and steps.

Re partners feeling left out mine keeps asking when he can feel the baby kick told him it will be a few weeks yet. However I try to involve him in stuff like choosing baby stuff but he isn't that interested as he says I will just end up buying what I want anyway ;-) true! But still value his opinion.

Yep puppy my DH said he reckons his patience span must be approximately 6 months, as now I'm over 24 weeks and he can see my tum filling out and feel and see movement from time to time, he just wants the baby to be here now!

Any ideas for preventing swollen ankles? It's only from walking or generally being on my feet too long in the last couple of weeks; it doesn't feel particularly sore or too uncomfortable but they look fairly grim. I know about keeping my feet up and keeping hydrated when they're already ballooned, but any tips to stop them getting that way in the first place? I don't want to have to be resting too much these days what with my ravenous appetite!

Hi Kirsti I had dreadfully bad swollen ankles in last pregnancy & the only thing that relieved them was regular reflexology & feet up!
I second the antelope highchair from IKEA. I had a Chicco or Graco or some such fabric puffy thing and it was disgusting all the time, I was constantly taking it apart to wash it! I was so tempted by the Tripp Trap but could not justify the cost. She now has an IKEA Urban chair which she loves.
I am wrecked, I left work early (at 3pm) to pick my LO up as I will be away for next couple of days & have spent the full time cleaning, tidying & WALLPAPERING!!! We put our house on the market yesterday & have viewers tomorrow already!! Eeekk! Freaking out, have to spend the rest of the evening cleaning & packing to go away at 5am tomorrow morning. I'm going to be a mess by tomorrow afternoon.

Flight socks? After I had my DVT, I was told to wear compression stockings the whole time. These days if I'm doing something that will probably make them swell up, I wear flight socks.

Also, whenever you sit down, put your feet up - whether they are swollen or not. I also sit on the floor quite a lot. Just avoid them hanging down.

The highlight of my week - cherries have finally gone down at the green grocer. The baby will love a diet of 99% cherries, right?!

Hating muscle cramps at the moment though....

CJ when I was 6 months preggers with J we put the house on the market, it sold in a month. I was nesting so never minded dressing the house for viewing after viewing. None preggers I hate it! Good luck xx

So sorry me about your mum :( that is so so sad xx

OMG we're team pink! We were so sure it was a boy a bit in shock!

Private scan was such a lovely experience compared to the NHS one. Wish there was a private birth clinic near me, would happily pay for it!