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Babies due in May 2014 - Definitelies enroute to the Drop Zone....

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ClearlyMoo · 28/03/2014 17:19

WELCOME! Cake This thread is for ladies expecting Maybies babies in (and around) May 2014! Please come and join us.

Everyone welcome, especially if you're new to MN and are just peeking in. Pull up a pew with a (non alcoholic) Wine or (decaf) Brew.

Our group Stats Page is here and for fruit & veg comparisons check out The Bump

If you're new please introduce yourself and join us as we head towards the "Drop Zone" 37-42 weeks! This has been likened to the classic Top Gun

Headin' into twilight
Spreadin' out her wings tonight
She got you jumpin' off the track
And shovin' into overdrive

Highway to the Danger Drop Zone
I'll take you
Right into the Danger Drop Zone

Happy Chatting Maybies

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hobbjobb · 04/04/2014 14:22

Hello everyone, sorry can't name check but sending positive thoughts to everyone, we are so close!

My SPD seems to have improved but I'm struggling with GD, my numbers are going up and up and it looks like I may have to go on medication for it which I really wanted to avoid. I will know when I next go in at 34 weeks (weeks after next)

We had our last NTC session yesterday so all done there and we are off to a spa hotel today for the weekend. I've booked myself a load of treatments tomorrow which I absolutely cannot wait for!

I hope you all have a good weekend xxx

pickletalk14 · 04/04/2014 16:18

Warning long post coming

Nesting my scan today was originally to check the placenta had moved away from the cervix. The good news is it has!

The less good news is baby's stomach is on the 97th percentile so there is a GD concern. Hospital is booking me in for GTT next week as needs to be done before 34 weeks or it's a week of finger pricking! Nice diabetes midwife isn't too worried as head is also 97th so could just be a big baby. So fingers crossed not GD but not mentioning potential natural delivery of a giant head!!!

Anyway doesn't stop there- also spoke to nice midwife about my care in the community. Raised the concerns about visits and she said to check the NICE guidelines (done) and to write in.

BUT this is where I get really annoyed with my community mw- yesterday she had a student with her who did my fundal measurement. The student measured twice, felt carefully and came up with 35... big for my weeks but I know it can be inaccurate etc. Mw re measured, barely looked, didn't feel and said 'no no it's 32 and absolutely spot on'. Given what I've found out today I'm inclined to think the student was right? And what might have happened if I wasn't due a scan for a separate reason today? Could my health and baby's been at risk?

I'm not worried for myself necessarily, something has been picked up and it will be what it will be. But what about other people under her care and what about that poor student who might have been right all along?

Anyway. Rant over. I will write in.

And a quick note to impatientlywaiting I am also splitting mat leave with OH you're one of the first I've seen doing the same. I'm also worried that being back at 5/6 months will be hard... hopefully see you on the postnatal board to see how we get on.

Bornin1984 · 04/04/2014 16:28

Have spent the afternoon painting my living room, well my mum has!! House is freezing all windows and doors open to take away the stench!! Bloody hungry now!! Off to look for cat nets online so mini me can lay in the garden over the spring / summer I'm anticipating lots of lovely weather!Grin

loopylou52 · 04/04/2014 16:30

Sorry to hear about the GD concern pickle. I can understand you being angry with the mw. I don't have huge amounts of faith in mine to be honest - I didn't believe her when she measured me under earlier this week but then it turned out there is an issue with baby being small so she was right - though when I told her yesterday what the hospital said her main reaction was to be delighted at the fact that she was right! Hmm Hope they can get you in for the gtt quick and everything is fine.

PotatoPolly · 04/04/2014 17:06

hello may mums! ive missed so much, we talk so much a few days not reading and it's moved so far! hope you're all feeling positive! Thanks

CoventGarden75 · 04/04/2014 18:46

Hi Everyone,

It's been a while, glad to see the Maybies are growing strong.

After a difficult time last year and a long wait, I've been reunited with by frozen embies, and got BFP this morning.

McRed so happy to hear you've got some good news too. Still early days so I'll be also waiting to see how things go, but fx we'll meet again in the Dec bus in a few weeks.

Good luck all, and a happy healthy time

MoominIsEightNinthsManatee · 04/04/2014 18:50

Why is this baby so bloody quiet! If OH wasn't at work tonight I'd probably be back at the hospital plus I'm scared they'll think I'm wasting their time. Struggling with intuition at the minute as it's all screaming at me that something isn't right, but I'll sound like a right idiot if I call them up and say "my baby is quiet and ive got a bad feeling that something is wrong" Hmm

kally195 · 04/04/2014 19:08

moomin call them. They are not going to think you are an idiot, because you are not.

My colleague's wife (midwife) told me that they would rather deal with 1000 worried mums where everything turns out fine that the one person who didn't want to bother them.

Please call them if you are concerned xx

LongTailedTit · 04/04/2014 19:23

Congratulations on your BFP Covent! More stickiness sent your way IYSWIM! :)

Mommin yes, it's worth calling them tonight, don't make yourself wait overnight - they won't think you're an idiot, they'll ask you if you've done the counting movements over an hour/juice/cold drinks etc, so ring them and see if you can go in this evening. X

Chip86 · 04/04/2014 19:38

Congratulations covent that is great news all the best
moomin give them a ring even if it is just to put your own mind at rest it is worth it let us know how you get on

MoominIsEightNinthsManatee · 04/04/2014 19:40

False alarm, about to call labour ward, lo and behold baby gets ridiculous hiccups. So relieved it's moving but it's a little pain in the bum already! Grin Just want it to be here now! Bump seems to have dropped today and can't walk anywhere without pressure down below and tightenings, fingers crossed for a pre-due date baby!

Congratulations covent, all the best x

Isean · 04/04/2014 20:13

I'm having a bit of a wobble and have spent the last hour crying and I don't really know where to go with it, so here I am with you lot in the hope you'll sort me out and tell me to get a grip!

I feel lost.
I am now on mat leave and felt very disorganised finishing work as I was hospitalised and hadn't finished my handover, no-one else really knows how to do my job and I am worried it'll all be a mess and reflect badly on me. I miss being useful.
I miss my parents, it's been 6 weeks since I saw them last. They live over 2 hours away and cannot come to see me as my mum is disabled and needs a lot of care, they don't have a mobility vehicle and it's difficult for my dad to come to see me at this time of year as he has cows calving and sheep lambing and no help on the croft. I'm too nervous about things happening with baby to travel to them, due to the few wee complications I have and as baby is still breech if I went into labour I have been told to get to the hospital immediately due to the potential risks to both me and baby. Before my mum had her accident I always imagined her being by my side at this sort of time.
I got in touch with my brother (my only sibling) when I was in hospital and although he is working abroad at the moment I know he read the message, but I didn't get a reply. I also got in touch with my sister-in-law and she didn't seem bothered and hasn't been in touch again to check if I am ok, still in hospital or anything.
My best friends are both teachers and their Easter holidays started today, they are away to a wedding and then to Portugal for 2 weeks, so are unlikely to be here when my baby is born.
My OH has gone on a night out with work people. After originally saying it was a "straight after work" thing and he would drive and be home by 9pm, he went for a pint after work after saying the night out was cancelled, then he came home a wee while ago and said he was getting changed and heading out and not sure when he would be home. I don't mind him having a night out, he works so hard and needs to blow off some steam.
I just feel alone. And I worry I will feel very alone when the baby is being delivered and afterwards. Yes, I'll have my OH, who is wonderful, and his family, who are lovely, but I won't have any of "my" people.

Is it just hormones and am I being silly to get upset about this?

MoominIsEightNinthsManatee · 04/04/2014 20:51

Oh Isean it's not silly at all!

If work can't figure things out, that isn't your fault at all - you've been in hospital! No-one can reasonably hold that against you, and I can empathise with missing feeling useful, but my OH pointed out to me today - we're growing humans! It doesn't get much more useful than that Grin

As for feeling alone, it is horrible Sad my parents are coming to visit me for a couple of hours this weekend and knowing it's probably the last time I'll see them until my mum is my birth partner is horrible, and my friends are all going home for the summer from next week onwards. But I'm trying to keep thinking that the next time I see them will be all the better for the wait :)

If you do feel alone at any time, we'll be surrogate 'your people' yes I'm volunteering everyone on the thread, deal with it Grin . I know we're just names and letters on a screen but there seems to be always at least one person here night and day thanks to insomnia and late night toilet jaunts. And I've ranted at three in the morning on the April facebook group before and always had such lovely, quick responses.

You don't need a grip, you need Cake and Brew and Thanks and a Biscuit (a dunky biscuit, not the passive-aggressive Mumsnet biscuit).

Squiffie · 04/04/2014 21:11

Wow, so much has happened in 24 hrs!

Congrats and lots of sticky dust McRed and Covent.

Your midwife sounds wonderful pickle! Glad you've got the sense to complain and hopefully help other mums to be and future student midwives under her supervision.

Sorry to hear you're feeling rubbish iSean. Huge hugs and as moomin says you know we're always here for you.

I know I've missed loads of people but can't remember everything Brew and sugar free Cake all round if I can't have the sugar nobody else is either Wink

Hope GTT proves negative too pickle as it's a pita.

Bornin1984 · 04/04/2014 21:33

I want an isofix car seat base for my car, they 140quod tho!!! Shocking

loopylou52 · 04/04/2014 22:03

Oh isean, sorry you're feeling so down. You've been through such a lot over the last week or so though, it's hardly surprising, so don't beat yourself up about it - maybe you need an evening of wallowing with ice cream or something. Tomorrow is a new day. And as others have said, we're here for you! Thanks (As an aside, it's really annoying that the cake icon isn't on the phone app!)

Congrats to you convent, and fingers crossed for stickiness!

mrsmummytobe · 04/04/2014 22:35

Congrats covent! Fingers crossed for a sticky bean for you.

isean I know exactly how you feel & you're not being silly at all. My family is 3 hours away & you do feel vulnerable & alone at this sort of time. There's nothing like having your family round you.

bornin we've just bought one on amazon. All these hidden costs are ridiculous!

Hope everyone has had a nice Friday!

pickletalk14 · 04/04/2014 22:52

Thanks guys.. nice to know I'm not being the crazy pregnant lady. GTT booked for Tues morning so very pleased with the hospital team. Had a glass of wine this eve which was yum

Isean hugs for you and loads of good advice from the others. Regarding the work hand over.. obviously you are under no obligation to, but I would probably put together a final e mail of the things you think you've forgotten to hand over and send to your boss. (I'm probably crazy but I've done this on leave before and it helped me relax (yes I'm a control freak))

pickletalk14 · 04/04/2014 22:54

Also- great new name moomin!

dobedobedo · 05/04/2014 02:41

I was sure I posted on here before I went to bed earlier. I was very tired though, maybe I dreamed it! Hmm

bornin I didn't know you had to get separate bases for car seats, isofix wasn't really a big thing 9 years ago as far as I remember. Shop about though. Kiddicare and argos can be cheaper than other baby shops.

Last day of work is done! My boss cried. Which shocked me as I thought she was a heartless witch. I felt bad for her though, maybe I'll pop in and see her in a couple of weeks, when enough time has passed for me not to become involved in work stuff.

I've become very very swollen this week. I have been very busy so I'm putting it down to that. After a couple of days rest, I'll go and see midwife if it doesn't improve for a BP check. My ankles are so swollen they have what looks like fat rolls. On my ankles! Shock I do keep massaging them but it doesn't help much. Anyone any tips?

NHS antenatal classes. I've just remembered something which bothered me and I wanted to see if it was normal. The midwife taking the class said that they would cover breastfeeding but they weren't allowed to talk about bottle feeding at all. She was very apologetic, but I was shocked.
I'm as pro breastfeeding as you can get. I breastfed ds and I'll breastfeed this one. But what if you can't breastfeed or don't want to? Surely you should be able to learn the safest and best way to bottle feed your baby? There's loads to know I'd assume, about temperatures and storage and sterilising and amounts to feed etc. Just because someone feeds their baby in a way the NHS deems "not ideal" they shouldn't be left to figure it out for themselves. I'd have thought they have a duty of care to EVERYONE. I get they're supposed to promote breastfeeding, but this just seems wrong. Angry

Sorry I'll get off my soapbox now. Has anyone else found similar at their classes?

It's the middle of the night, I should probably get back to sleep....

Bornin1984 · 05/04/2014 02:48

Dobe I have a mamas and papas car seat, I bought a base from eBay for 25 quid refused to pay 140, if it's crap it's crap if it's good then ill try it!

As for bf/ff our hospital is a gold standard baby friendly hospital in regards to UNICEF with breast feeding but they let u know all information to parents can make informed choice! My bf workshop is the day I have my elcs, I need to ring them to see if they can fit me I this week of possible! Our ante natal class is on the Saturday before my elcs! Because my job role does bf and some stuff from the class I'm happy enough but it's for dh who is clueless!

Single figures!!! 9 days to go!!! Sorry

Bornin1984 · 05/04/2014 05:19

I have had absolutely enough of not being able to sleep!!

Me and dh have had a massive row about an hour ago! All these little stresses I have and he just says we will be ok, it will work out!! I said he was being selfish by not giving me proper reassurances!

I just want to be able to have a day where I'm not worried about anything!

I'm tired! I cried! I'm even more tired now I've cried! He's sleeping I can't switch off and plus I'm hungry

dobedobedo · 05/04/2014 06:59

bornin I have days where I cry and get so upset over things. It's normal at this stage of pregnancy! Or any stage of pregnancy really. Hope you feel better soon. Thanks

My spd is absolutely fucking killing me right now. Just taken some paracetamol, not that that will do anything. I definitely need a few days of total rest.

SarahJinx · 05/04/2014 08:23

bornin nine days!!! Blimey, how do you feel? Sorry you're feeling low, I guess it comes with the territory when you're so tired, in pain and most importantly, unable to feel better by scoffing cake and treats!

dobedo that's shocking about ff. I'm also a BF'er but I ended up mix feeding because my milk didn't come in for agggessss. There are so many grey areas between exclusive one thing or another, I know at least ten people who have said if they had even thought about topping up here and there it would have been enough to keep them BF'ing. My DS was 90% bf it was an ounce here and there at the end of the day but it got us through, it's a shame that ALL the information isn't available.

On pain, I had to succumb to painkillers, I got co drydomal (sp), I take two before bed and can now at least sleep, I can cope with the daytime now I can sleep. Two isn't enough to affect anything but it is enough to take the edge off and get me some much needed rest. Just in case you hadn't considered?

isean hugs, you've had a really tough run of it, it's not of your doing and you had no choice but to give into it, you're bound to feel like this. Echo Moomin, talk to us whenever you need xx

Congrats covent lovely news, sending more sticky vibes!

I appear to have some sort of sickness bug, it's odd because it isn't constant, a few hours of lovely vomming here and there, then hours of queasiness and general feeling crap and a bit fluey. The nausea is a bit like morning sickness again where I feel hungry but don't want anything, my sense of smell has gone crazy again too....nothing nicer than ending hunched over the bog at 3am at 9 effing months preg I can tell you! Baby rolling around all the time whilst stomach churns, ummm delightful! Got so much to do too, and all I actually feel like doing is laying in my bed. Happy days.

Hope everyone has a nice weekend, gloriously sunny here today xx

MoominIsEightNinthsManatee · 05/04/2014 10:26

Shattered... Woke up at 4 this morning thinking it was all kicking off, really painful tightenings every 7 mins or so, lasting 30 seconds each time. Thankfully they eased off so I could get some sleep but my scar isn't doing very well today, its a real burning ripping pain which is slightly worrying Hmm

wow bornin that's so soon!

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