Babies due in May 2014 - Definitelies enroute to the Drop Zone....

[ClearlyMoo]

WELCOME! This thread is for ladies expecting Maybies babies in (and around) May 2014! Please come and join us.

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If you're new please introduce yourself and join us as we head towards the "Drop Zone" 37-42 weeks! This has been likened to the classic Top Gun

Headin' into twilight
Spreadin' out her wings tonight
She got you jumpin' off the track
And shovin' into overdrive

Highway to the Danger Drop Zone
I'll take you
Right into the Danger Drop Zone

Happy Chatting Maybies

Chatty those comments would make me feel evil and crap in equal measures! DS did at least go to bed like a dream tonight, it's the little things...! I wish xx

Wow can't believe we're on a new thread already! Thanks clearly :)

psynl hope they can change the date of your CS.

moomin sorry to hear you're having a hard time. & to everyone feeling down.

everything is changing for all of us. sarah and chatty I just keep thinking these last few weeks is a relatively short amount of time in our childrens whole lives so hopefully they are ok and know we love them dearly. I keep hearing myself say to dd "sorry for snapping AGAIN" and ive done my best to explain im in a lot of pain and am very tired and that it wont last forever...but I have had a few I am the worst mum ever moments and yes...how on earth will I cope with two children.. but im sure we will.

I cried so much on wednesday and thursday. our bodies must be getting very tired now. I cant really play much with dd now due to pain but I make an effort to read and cuddle at bed time and try and un do any hurt. its crap isnt it feeling so guilty.

Ohh I'm further back moob - only 30+6! But due date is not when we'll be having Bean if my glucose management is anything to go by so we may well have an appearance as early as 38wks!

No BH here, don't think so anyways, maybe the tight stretching feelings I've been having are BH actually. Thought they were Bean having a good old rummage around, doing spectacular acrobatics maybe...but on reflection they're probably BH

Place marking, thanks clearly

Place marking.

Thanks for new thread Clearly

Hi ladies! Hope everyone is doing ok?
Thanks for the new thread Clearly

I'm looking for some advice please. So as some of you know I was admitted to hospital on Wednesday evening due to consistently high BP (for me), headache, dark spots floating in front of my eyes, sickness and because I also have cholestasis. They wanted closer monitoring so I'm having my BP checked regularly & it has been high regularly and the a couple of times it's been borderline/normal. I was pretty unwell last night and had to get an anti-sickness injection, had tightenings through the night, but they settled. Was ok this morning, but then sick & needed another injection this afternoon. I pretty much stayed in bed all day & my BP was ok.
I've seen a few different doctors, registrars & consultants since Wed & they have all said things are pointing towards pre-eclampsia developing, though blood results have been fine, that the baby could come anytime & it is a balancing act between mine & the baby's health. They've all said they wanted me to stay in hospital indefinitely, certainly over the weekend. The one this morning even wanted more CTGs done through the day, indicated the baby could be delivered in the next few days & arranged for a paediatrician to come and talk to me about possible issues with early babies!
Earlier this evening I had tightenings, nothing regular or consistent or too painful. After a while I went out into the corridor to make a call & when I came back a different doctor I hadn't seen before was waiting to see me. She gave me a row for leaving my bed while I had tightenings as I could start labour proper & baby is breech & it could cause complications, etc. She said she had to go off & perform a section, but she would come & see me later. Well she's just been and as the tightenings have eased she has said she thinks I could go home tomorrow, I am not in her opinion pre-eclamptic because it's not showing in the blood results, that the headache could be down to a number of things, the dark floating spots are because it's bright on the ward, the sickness is just a pregnancy thing, the tightenings are Braxton hicks & I have nothing that warrants me staying in hospital.
She said she will see me in the morning, so I'm nervous she could discharge me.
I don't know how to feel about what she has said as it seems to contradict what all the other doctors have said since I've been admitted!
Should I listen to her or question it if she wants me to go home? It's the weekend so there might not be any of the other doctors I've seen around.
Thanks! xx

Hmmmm isean that does sound odd for her to completely ignore the other dr 's opinions.... On one hand home would probably be less stressful maybe? And you could get rest but then not if you need the reassurance of monitoring and sickness injections! Could you see your pg notes and sort of gave 'proof' that the other dr 's are worried etc ?

Are you close enough to hospital to call back in if needs be/ an emergency (god forbid) ?

Sorry no real advice but what I would do in your situation is to probably listen to her and then clarify the symptoms that indicate you need to go back in? Eg so if I get nauseous do I ring delivery? And clarify also that you are going against other drs advice . You are entitled 2 a second opinion and well within your rights to ask for it. Maybe cite distance from hospital or anxiety over childcare or something?

Isean -
That's shocking!!! Can't u ask to speak to the consultant on calland explain your reservation!

Hope
You ok

Isean I think it depends if you would be more comfortable at home. The tight bongs may or may not lead to early labour I had them for 24 hours at a time from 26 weeks last pregnancy and towards the end I was getting them most of the time but my DD was born at 41 weeks. So they were not labour contractions. So from her point of view you have had the steroids and they would let labour happen now anyway (if baby turns)!

I guess if you have to go I. For regular monitoring to check BP and oc even daily would that be preferable and more restful for you than staying in for potentially the next 3 weeks?

You may get a different doctor this morning who has a totally different opinion. Really hope everything is ok.

I woke nearly at 3.30am with some mild pain low down on my front, which got a little worse and tightenings across my bump. I am hooked up to the CTG and baby is fine, but it was definitely showing something going on with the cervix. The same doctor came back to see me & said the discomfort is ligament pain & baby's position & the trace from the CTG is totally fine. My BP bottom number was up to 102 before I went on the monitor, the highest it's been I think as I don't remember them saying it was ever over 100, but she didn't even look at that.
That doctor is the registrar doing rounds this morning, so I suppose all I can do is express my concerns & ask what is different to what the 2 consultants I saw on Thursday & Friday said.

isean if what she says is at such odds with what the other docs say, raise this as a concern, it's perfectly valid. And ask for a second opinion.
And if she does send you home, make sure you just go right back the second you get worrying symptoms again! Hope you're okay, it must be such a worry.

Thanks for the new thread clearly

Nothing much to report here. Am a hormonal mess. Went to see ds in a play last night. Cried because I was proud. Then cried when I got home because I was so tired. I'd been on the go since before 6am yesterday and didn't have a break all day. And this morning I've been crying at the pics of the first same sex weddings, they're just so lovely!

Feel like a right twat. today I have to pack for ds's THREE DAY school residential trip next week. I'll probably cry then too. He told me they're having a pool party and going caving and abseiling and canoeing and I am trying to tune it out because I don't want to hear about my pfb doing death defying stunts! (may as well be as far as me and my pfb are concerned!) Although i hope he has a lovely time and blah blah. Hope next week goes quick!

I need to stop using these threads to ramble on and on and on. Sorry!

Sarahjinx and chatty for you both, I have ds2 (3.6) and dd2 (2.2) who just have to amuse themselves and get screeched at for jumping on my. I can honestly assure you that THIS part is the absolute worst and it will be no where near as bad with toddler + newborn. If you're on your second time round you will remember the newborn phase as a complete life overhaul and it's not quite so drastic after the first as you're more confident and are used to prioritising another person. My advice would be always sort toddler first and keep their routines and the newbie will slot in nicely xx

Oh isean if you do get discharged make sure you relax at home and go straight back as soon as anything worrying happens again.

Oh and 35 weeks today! 2-3 weeks left!

Thanks Xavielli, that reassurance is much needed and appreciated x

Thanks for the new thread clearly
welcome to the new bies
thinking of you isean

Isean.. write down your questions and where the info conflicts so you can discuss with the registrar this morning. Writing it helps you make sure you dont forget anything and then have to call them back. They may not have a lot of time on the ward round and will def have less docs around so you might need to ask to go through your questions later in the day. Even if the consultant isn't around they should be on the end of the phone.

Echo everything everyone has said- think about if you would be more comfortable at home and make sure they give you a plan at discharge. Did you have a home BP monitor? Might be worth getting one for your own piece of mind if you go home.

Keep safe and remember it will all be worth it :-)

Thanks to everyone for your comments, advice & kind thoughts.
I just saw the same consultant as yesterday (she's lovely) and no sign of that registrar. She said she wants me to stay in hospital for monitoring, baby is completely happy so not looking to deliver right away, but as I am still presenting symptoms I should be monitored as I am not stable enough to go home. The cholestasis & raised BP could cause liver problems if either escalated.
I told her what the registrar said & she thought if I went home I would be more anxious, which could raise my BP, I would be on my own a lot as my partner is working, and that if I phoned the hospital with anything they would want to see me immediately & all that going back & fore would be far too unsettling. I discussed my concerns with her and also with the doctor who was on rounds with her and she left to take bloods. I feel more relieved now as I feel I was listened to. xx

Really glad you got to see the lovely consultant isean. Sounds like a sensible plan for you to stay there. Hope you're managing to get some rest.

So glad you got to see the consultant isean and feel you were listened to! I was think of you while walking the hounds this morning and thought 'hurrah, it's sat so the steroids will have worked their magic and isean can have her baby now!' So know you're in our thoughts! Sounds like little one is still pretty comfortable in there but must be reassuring tokknow that everything is in your favor now if things change. Rest well and keep us updated

Welcome chatty you're we'll named for this thread!!

to all feeling tired, hormonal or at your wits end!!

Xxx

Drat....has started to rain...better get over and done with quick as dh has a polo tournament starting later this afternoon, I'll not be happy watching in the rain!! (Especially when I'd rather be playing!,)

Morning ladies! Hope the new thread is ok! I'm lying in bed like a lazy arse! It was antenatal class curry last night then I slept lots. Breakfast with hubby then did tiny amount of long over-due tidying. Now I'm tired. It's a perfect drying day so I should REALLY be washing our sheets but I'm lying in them instead!

Dobe ramble away, it's what we are here for!

Welcome newbies!

Going next door to PILs for lunch with SIL,BIL&DN but I can't really be bothered the socialise (they are visiting here third weekend in a row!) but I also can't be bothered to cook. So I accepted invite! That's awful of me isn't it!!

Just tired and overwhelmed. I should really be working as have stuff to finish which will make my Tuesday better but duvet seems a better option!

I swam half a mile (32 lengths) yesterday and need to go again later as I can't swim tomorrow with DN Christening party.. I think I'm addicted to swimming, there's worse things right?

Sorry for rambling!

afternoon all. Sorry for the me me me post (especially as I hardly ever post )

I'm feeling really stressed this morning and cant stop crying, has anyone got any experience of a slow growing baby? I started a thread over in Pregnancy. I just dont quite know what to do with myself and am getting more and more anxious

Afternoon everyone.

I'm glad the consultant seems to be,listening to you Isean make sure you express your opinions.

Can I ask anyone about tiredness?
I know it's to be expected but the last cpl of days I feel absolutely drained, yesterday all I did was go to the hairdressers in the afternoon and when DP got home I birst into tears as I was so tired. Today I have had a shower and am now sat on my sofa and I literally feel like I could sleep all day (I slept til midday

Thank god I font have to work I really don't think I could cope.

Is this normal?

Oh im 32 weeks tomorrow xx