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November 2014 Thread 2: Springing through the first trimester!

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Nessalina · 21/03/2014 18:26

Welcome to all you nervous November ladies! Settle in for sore boobs, inappropriate puking, and hopefully happy early scans!

The crew so far:

Just1moretime DC3 due Oct/Nov
devoncreamtea due late Oct
MammySam DC2 due 31st Oct
RandomInternetStranger DC2 due 1st Nov
Canweseethebunnies DC2 due early Nov
booksshoescats DC2 due 3rd Nov
BatCave DC3 due 2nd Nov
Hopeful83 DC1 due 2nd Nov
Annarose2014 due 2nd Nov
CraziesTogether DC1 due 3rd Nov
WinterLover DC2 due 4th Nov
weeonion DC2 due 6th Nov
alita7 DC1 due 6th Nov
caravela due 5th Nov
Littleyewtree DC2 due 7th Nov
Greenstone DC2 due 7th Nov
flipflopsonfifthavenue DC2 due 7th Nov
AussieGoingHomeSoon DC3 due 7th Nov
SazHoopz DC2 due 7th Nov
Fergie11 due 7th Nov
Snook99 due 7th Nov
AveryJessup DC2 due 8th Nov
MabelMay DC3 due 8th Nov
edwardcullensotherwoman DC3 due 8th Nov
Catnap1 DC1 due 8th Nov
Polkadotscarf due 9th Nov
RecklessLadybird DC1 due 9th Nov
Nessalina DC1 due 10th Nov
ladydolly due 10th Nov
PosyFossilsShoes due 10th Nov
LittleRedDinosaur DC2 due 10th Nov
MrsY87 DC1 due 10th Nov
Giraffeski lo DC3 due 11th Nov
BJZebra DC2 due 11th Nov
MrsCuppa DC1 due 11th Nov
nickiswiss due 11th Nov
Mathssssteacher123 DC2 due 11th Nov
HRMumness DC2 due 12th Nov
Misslaughalot due 12th Nov
LadyMillion DC1 due 12th Nov
Amyrose82 DC1 due 12th Nov
FurryScoob DC1 due 13th Nov
Tigsy DC1 due 13th Nov
Lauraparsons233 due 13th Nov
WutheringTights DC2 due 13th Nov
Grayby due 13th Nov
movingmovingmoving DC2 due 14th Nov
MrsWombat DC2 due 14th Nov
Petal26 DC2 due 14th Nov
Misslaughalot DC2 due 14th Nov
Laura1410 DC2 due mid Nov
happyjessie due mid Nov
BeetleBeetle due mid Nov
Baxter2014 due 15th Nov
33goingon64 DC2 due 15th Nov
SeaSaltMill DC1 due 15th Nov
theduchesse DC2 due 15th Nov
Barmybunting DC1 due 16th Nov
selsigfach DC1 due 16th Nov
Getyourflipflopson DC3 due 16th Nov
pinkgirlythoughts DC2 due 17th Nov
StudyFullTime DC2 due 17th Nov
Snooky17 DC4 due 17th Nov
daisydalrymple DC3 due 18th Nov
DilysMoon DC3 due 18th Nov
stowsettler DC2 due 19th Nov
Whenwillwe3meet again DC1 due 19th Nov
utopian99 DC2 due 20th Nov
robynarmstrong92 DC1 due 21st Nov
NorthernExile DC2 due 23rd Nov
keeponkeepinon DC3 due 24th Nov
maeanne DC2 due 26th Nov
ImBrian DC5 due 26th Nov
Sleepingstarsmommy DC1 due 27th Nov
WhatWouldCaitlinDo due Nov

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RandomInternetStranger · 29/03/2014 23:02

It's definitely different 2nd time round. I'm way more chilled about everything, I'm not worried about the birth or how I'll cope, I'm not frantically researching the absolute best organic natural baby grows and which cot mobile will guarantee increased cognitive development by at least 15% Hmm This poor kid is not going to have every latest must have best gadget going like DD, in fact 90% of this child's stuff will be from boot sales and charity shops - the money I spent on the last one for things that lasted all of 5 minutes was insane and I'm not doing that again - frugal Mummy this time round!!

GoooRooo · 29/03/2014 23:17

Hello!

I'm 6 + 1 due 21st Nov with second child.

DS took five years to conceive. This one only took just under two years so we got better at it!

Nessalina · 30/03/2014 00:49

Hey all. I'm still feeling inexplicably down Sad Just feel really lonely at the moment, my DH has been awesome, but I find pregnancy really isolating. I don't want to see people and have to explain why I'm not drinking, and I didn't last time, so I feel like I've had about 8 months of letting friendships lapse which I'm now kicking myself for. Worried that when I have a baby I'll never see anyone ever again!
I think I'm just getting myself worked up over nothing, but just can't shake the black mood.

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alita7 · 30/03/2014 02:26

Nesselina I really feel for you and feel similar at the moment especially with smoking friends. I keep feeling really low then an hour later I'm crying with happiness at the idea of what's inside me :p I also struggle when I can't tell people and I have to avoid them or if I see them something comes up in a way that I could say but I can't and people will be confused when I do announce it after what I said now.

Also fpund out today that my mum told my dad :/ I was a little angry as I wanted to myself and don't want him to be upset that I didn't but she did explain that I intended to tell him when I see him tomorrow but me and her met for lunch a week or so ago and I told her then but haven't seen him. She then told me how worried he is as I thought. I was a bit angry but she explained how her terminally ill brother was taken back into hospital and she needed to unload so I don't mind so much. Wanted to tell him myself though.

RandomInternetStranger · 30/03/2014 02:48

Ness I had a real black depression a few weeks ago for a couple of weeks, I was utterly miserable, crying constantly, really black scary thoughts, it was so bad I was actually considering whether I could continue with the pregnancy and whether I had made a horrible mistake and I should turn back right now. Thankfully the mood lifted and I'm OK now. I have a few wobbles but I have put those black weeks and the wobbles down to hormones. I found that I had to make a plan and commit to something every day. My lifestyle at the moment makes it very easy for me to do nothing for days on end and when I allowed myself to do that I plummeted. If I had to get out, make an effort, see people, do things then I was distracted enough and busy enough to not slip so much. I didn't see my friends for a few weeks but I made sure I had appointments with someone somewhere and made an effort to speak to people. I made a conscious effort to be positive, whenever I was thinking negatively I tried to spin it around and make a list of good things happening - I'm glad I've got the money to buy the posh shampoo I love which makes my hair lovely and doesn't have any chemical nasties in it, I love that my car is safe, pretty, powerful, reliable and has a full tank of petrol, I am grateful my 18 year old cat is still here and is so kissie and affectionate, I love that DD and I had lunch together today and had a really good talk about school... I find it does really lift me. The other thing I find which helps sounds so stupid but it works for me again, I talk to myself the way I talk to DD. Instead of saying to myself "you stupid woman, you've slipped again, you're useless, this isn't good for the baby, just pull yourself together, no one else is like this, you're useless" (the usual running commentary in my head) I say "it's OK sweetheart, this is a big thing happening and your hormones are going crazy, it's not a surprise you wobble sometimes, everyone does, it's alright, I'm here for you and I love you and I'll help you, I'm so proud of you, look what you've done so far, you gave up smoking, drinking, junk food and 90% of your beauty routine in the last month for the sake of your baby, that's fantastic and shows how much you care, you're not a failure for having a bad day darling, everyone does, but let's see if we can get you up and turn this bad day around, what would help you feel better? A walk? A bath? How about listening to cheesy 80s pop? Come on sweetheart, up you get, thereâ??s a good girl, well done I'm so proud of you..." It sounds so stupid but I feel a million times better afterwards plus I feel like I'm a fantastic mother if DD feels that good after I talk to her! Another thing I've done is make up play lists for different moods. I have the calm, relaxing music to chill out to, the burn of anger with some rock chic angst screaming stuff, some cheesy happy silly pop to energise me and lift a potential slump, some full of hope & power strength inducing soulful songs for weak moments... I find that helps a lot too. I hope you feel better soon & it's just a hormonal blip. x

Catnap1 · 30/03/2014 05:11

For all the ladies that have had bleeds, did you bleed for more than 24 hours?what colour was the blood? I'm still bleeding, not loads. The sanitary towel I've been wearing all night has about a size of a 10p piece on it but when I go to the loo there is that amount when I wipe a couple of times. I'm feeling really worried & would just like to know others experiences. Hope when the hospital call tomorrow the appointments early otherwise I'll be going out of my mind. Won't be going to work just need to know either way it's horrible not knowing

Tigsy · 30/03/2014 08:02

Ness sorry you're feeling down. I think this stage of pregnancy is really hard. I've been the same with avoiding people recently as I feel it's easier than trying to cover up feeling rough. I feel like I've been lying to anyone. Telling a few people over the next few days. I'm ridiculously nervous (no idea why as know they will be thrilled) and feel as if I'm about 16. I suppose telling people makes it seem more real too and it still feels very surreal to me, even after the scan yesterday.

CatNap hope the bleeding stops soon and that you get a scan to find out what's going on. Got my fingers crossed for you.

barmybunting · 30/03/2014 08:25

Catnap, yes, I have bleed on and off for the last three weeks. Mixture of brown, pink and some red. It goes on for a few days with spotting and heavier blood, then stops but has started again. However, an early scan on Thurs shows all is well. The nurse told me that some people just get bleeding. Having told my parents yesterday, my Mom told me she bleed through much of the first trimester when carrying me as well.

I hope you are ok. Bleeding doesn't necessarily mean bad news, but it is extremely worrying. I hope the hospital can give you a check today.

Catnap1 · 30/03/2014 09:24

Barmybunting that's reassuring to hear. Hospital have just phones I have an appointment tomorrow at 11.30 for an internal scan. Will just have to wait until then & hope it doesn't get any worse.

AlpacaYourThings · 30/03/2014 09:39

That's good, at least it's not too late Catnap. Let us know how you get on? Good luck. Smile

barmybunting · 30/03/2014 10:03

That's great catnap, I'm glad to hear you have an appointment tomorrow. I hope you don't have any more and that you are reassured tomorrow.

Catnap1 · 30/03/2014 10:09

Thanks guys it's great to be able to talk to people on here. We haven't really told anyone yet & those who we have I don't want to worry. Will let you know how the scan goes

barmybunting · 30/03/2014 10:14

Please do catnap, I totally understand your worry. It's a horrible wait to 12 weeks! Try to take it easy today and hopefully all will be well tomorrow.

Fergie11 · 30/03/2014 10:20

Good luck for tomorrow catnap. nesssorry your feeling down, it's a hard time when you don't want to tell anyone so your avoiding everyone or lying. I can't wait to be more open with everyone rather then avoiding them x

alita7 · 30/03/2014 11:09

Cat nap I didn't bleed consistently for 24 hhrs bit it was on and off for about a week.

marzipan81 · 30/03/2014 11:27

Hello all

Just joined this forum. I'm 5 weeks + 3 days for the first time! Due date is 27th Nov. How do I join this thread?

Also very confused about all the acronyms used here! BFP, DD, DC.. ??? Is there a glossary somewhere?!

I haven't had any symptoms at all apart from feeling a bit tired. If it wasn't for a missed period and positive test I wouldnt have thought anything was up! Is this weird?

AlpacaYourThings · 30/03/2014 12:40

Just been to see my GP (I know, I'm amazed they are now open on Sundays!) Last night I had really sharp pains near my right ovaries, she has examined me and said that my womb is still closed, so not a miscarriage but I should ask for an early scan to check I don't have an ectopic pregnancy Sad

Catnap1 · 30/03/2014 13:40

Alpacayourthings when will you be able to get a scan? I hope you have good news

alita7 · 30/03/2014 14:26

Alpaca it could be a cyst It's not uncommon.

AlpacaYourThings · 30/03/2014 14:57

No idea, catnap. I haven't got a clue! I will hopefully get through to the antenatal team on Monday and book my first midwife appointment. Hopefully it won't be too long. I'm going to have a private scan soon anyway, just to be sure.

AlpacaYourThings · 30/03/2014 14:57

Hopefully, alita7

CarmineRose1978 · 30/03/2014 14:59

Alpaca, I went through the exact same thing last week, they did an internal scan and the baby is in the right place, but I had a ruptured cyst on my right ovary... They said the egg probably came from there.

AlpacaYourThings · 30/03/2014 15:08

That's reassuring Carmine. Did your GP refer you for an internal scan? I was at my GP's walk in centre today so they couldn't refer me for a scan. I don't know whether to phone them this week and ask for a referral, I don't want to seem too pushy though.

Polkadotscarf · 30/03/2014 15:19

catnap my bleed was over a couple of days and brown blood. Examinations could see old blood but no concern then they did a scan to make sure and saw a heart beat. That was at 7 weeks

8+1

CarmineRose1978 · 30/03/2014 15:22

I called my GP and she sent me to A&E and then they referred me to the early pregnancy unit. I'd call your local epu and explain, if I were you. They won't mess around with a possible ectopic.

After the scan, I said I felt silly and the nurse said I did exactly the right thing and they'd much rather scan and find there's no problem than have to perform surgery for an ectopic at the last minute.

The baby has implanted on the right side too, they said that could also be causing the pain to be a one Sid. And if course, as this thread told me, it's really normal to have some cramping. So try not to worry, but do get a scan booked in the next 48 hours.

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