January 2014 Thread 15-More babies to come

[Naturegirl82]

Went to post on the other thread and it was full! Hope people find this one ok.

I'm going to go for a nap so will see if she will settle in the crib now. We have a silver cross kensington downstairs that she will happily sleep in through the day, so she doesn't really sleep in the crib in the day as its upstairs. I've tried the hot water bottle and worn clothing trick but neither seem to work! Also got a lamb skin liner thing for her to sleep on which seems to help slightly but not much. Also tried white noise app but she's not bothered! I think it's definitely just the fact she's nocturnal.

OH keeps telling me off for putting her on me to sleep and keeps saying we need to start 'training her' to sleep at night and won't accept the fact I keep telling him she's only 18 days old so she's too young to 'train'. He reckons she will get used to sleeping on me and will never sleep in the crib now. Also he's not the one who has to look after her through the night and try and stop her screaming the house down when I put her down in the crib! It's alright for him as he can just sleep right through and not have to worry about it, whilst I'm tearing my hair out and getting an hours sleep a night. ARGHHH

I don't think at this point they are capable of learning where to sleep so there isn't much chance of her never being able to sleep in her crib....Otherwise co sleeping wouldn't work as the baby would only ever be able sleep in bed with parents....cue 21 year old still co sleeping lol.

I really feel your pain as the men just snooze and don't have to wake at every murmur and try to settle them when they wake up and cry. And once you finally settle them and get comfy they start waking to feed all over again.
I think we are lucky that Aurelia does settle for short periods in her moses basket at night. Last night she didn't wake for 2 hrs and i slept so well for those 2 hrs that it felt like i had slept for 7 when i woke up. Dh got up and said he didn't sleep well but didn't know why, I looked at him like a loon as he was snoozing away for the whole night as far as i could tell. If he slept so bad he could've helped with the nappy changes!

Felix I have slept sitting up with dd2 in a sling before to save my sanity. Another tip is that they like your smell so if you wear a big t shirt all day then put it over the mattress underneath them they often settle better. Also if they are swaddled in some way and then put down it helps as they retain their heat, a cold mattress wakes them up. You can put a hot water bottle on the mattress to warm it too, then just take it off before you put them down. There are also aids that play heartbeat sounds like the Slumber Bear or Dream Sheep. We used the Slumber Bear successfully for dd2, although she preferred the sea sounds.

Humpty hope you manage to get some rest later today, you poor thing :(

MrsV the 'helpful' comments wear a bit thin don't they. At least the carpet is going down today, must make you feel a bit more sorted.

Sarahleanne hope you are ok and got checked out just in case.

Went back to sleep after DH left to do the school run, just woke up. Over did it yesterday so need to rest today. It is so hard to gauge levels of activity now that I am feeling much better in myself and I have to resist the urge to do more cleaning and tidying than I should.

at gay wallpaper mrsv - of all the completely ridiculous things to say!

humpty, so sorry you're feeling crap. I didn't sleep much either, was stressing a bit about cleaning all the floors to make the twunt happy. He doesn't seem to get that there's no point in doing the hard floors (tiles or wood) in our downstairs one room at a time, the filth just gets walked from the dirty rooms back to the clean ones . I was singing a little 'twunty twunty twunt' song as I was cleaning the cellar stairs (I'm not much of a lyricist), which made me feel a bit better .

felix, I don't know whether this would help, but have you tried swaddling? It might make her feel a little more secure in the crib away from you.

OH is now ordering a cocoonababy from John Lewis to try as his mate recommended it as it worked for them. It's pretty expensive but it does have really good reviews so we'll see if it works! I'll try the hot water bottle and worn t-shirt again in the meantime. I need sleep!

Gummi we have tried swaddling and she hates it she really doesn't like having her arms restricted I've realised!

Morning ladies. Plasterers started work this morning (woohoo!) but meant I had to be up early to let them in. I only got 2 hours sleep as DP woks me from v deep sleep at 3.30 and I only managed light dozing after that. Grr!

I asked him 3 times to get up but in the end I came into Belfast on my own ( could have given him lift to work as he works in city center. His tough luck!) then heading to the hospital for 2.30 where hopefully I'll be monitored for an hour then sent home. Have put my bags in the car just in case. Tonight is open night #1 for my dd1. It's not a school that would be a top choice but figure we should see all in the area. All that means no sleep til 10pm ( back seat of car looking comfy though.. Even if it is parked in a multi storey carpark!)

sarah hoping to hear positive news from you soon.

felix can you be almost in the crib with her as she falls asleep? Head and shoulders maybe? With an arm around / hand on her? If she could settle like that, then gradually move away over the course of a few weeks.

Or move the Kensington upstairs and have her sleep there? Perhaps the crib feels too open? ( guessing it had bars Rsther than fabric covered sides?)

Off for a waddle around the shops. Think contracting thoughts for me please ( but no water braking ones!)

Hello?

MrsVDB mentioned this thread and thought I'd come & say hi! Am 38w today with second dc - have dd aged 6.... Have finished work & am now waiting for something to happen! Also have huuuuuge list of household jobs I want to get done, but am so worn out have crashed out on the bed to MN. Anyone else got any signs? Nothing here except some stabby fanjo pains on the way back from school run, and also, almost constant urge to poo (sorry ... Tmi)

Humpty I'm exactly the same. Can't sleep, can't breathe, can't walk without looking like John Cleese. Over it.

Felix DD always settled much better when she felt more confined, if that makes sense. We had her in a Moses basket which she didn't love at first as it was quite spacious (she was weeny) but we rolled up a towel like a sausage and put it round the edge so she was more snug in the space iyswim, and she'd settle really well. That said, I also used to BF her to sleep, let her nap on me, pick her up when she grizzled etc. She always was, and at 3.1 still is, a fantastic sleeper and slept through the night every night for 12 hrs from 5 months. Anyone who talks about 'rods' and 'backs' gets short shrift from me! Just do what you need to do.

Also... Gay wallpaper! Must tell my aunt, mother of two gay sons that. Clearly her decorating skills are at 'fault'!

Hi smidge! You're right to be nervous

Here we have signs, symptoms, babies popping out all over the place, not to mention gay wallpaper

But don't worry about tmi, we talk about poo all the time!

Hi Smidge! Hooray for another end of January-er! I'd say I'm feeling pretty much exactly the same as you right now! Finishing work tomorrow, hooray!

Blue the crib we have has fabric sides that drop down, but I think she does like the silver cross better as it's a more confined space and when she wriggles about it rocks slightly as probably sends her to sleep. We don't have space for it upstairs though as it's bloody huge!

Purple I'm just going to trust my instincts and tell OH to eff off. I've told him I'm going to have a night where there's plenty of expressed milk ready for her to have and he can spend all night awake with her like I have to do every night, and see what he ends up doing

Fecking MN ate my post.

Welcome smidge! No TMI here, I too have the constant urge to poo. It's fun, eh?

felix don't know what to suggest! swaddle with arms free? You poor love, it must be so hard, worrying you're not doing the right thing, but knackered. I'm absolutely certain you are doing perfectly, and will look back and wonder why you worried so much!

only soooo over it. I hate not sleeping, and I hate not knowing, I react really badly to being in the dark about things, always have done. Form of control freakery, I'm sure! So not knowing when labour will start, if it will start naturally, what it will be like, how I'll cope... Not my favourite experience.

blue two hours? Ouch. I just napped for two hours, and feel slightly less homicidal, but I don't have to drive/look after another child/attend an open day today. Respect. And good luck!

Also still at 'gay wallpaper'. Like 'gay camels' in Gladiator!

Hi Smidge! Welcome to over sharers anonymous!

Felix it is stressful, and it takes time to figure out that there really is no one RIGHT thing to do in most situations. It's just what feels right to you, and what seems to work best. I found most things first time round to be a process of elimination, and I'm sure it will be much the same this time!

felix don't panic about the settling - it's still early days. It took a week or two to get dd to settle in her Moses basket but we just kept trying it each night.

However, we went to massive efforts to avoid cosleeping with her and she has never really slept in our bed and she is STILL a terrible sleeper at 2 regardless. This time round we are much more relaxed about it and less worried about bad habits. Nothing you do in these early days counts for much long term ime.

humpty my itchiness disappeared almost immediately after the birth so hopefully not much longer.

Felix our friends swore by their Sleepyhead (only available at John Lewis I think) - sits in Moses basket or cot, is portable, and makes them feel all snuggled up without being full-on swaddled. We've borrowed and will be trying once little one arrives :)

Havnt had a chance to catch up. Hospital thinks it's a show, having regular tightening a on ctg but not painful enough . Back home bouncing on my ball and told to go back when I'm in pain.

Hi all, well I freaked out last night when I discovered a really puffy mole on my back (under bra strap) which i definitely was not aware of before, and following my eyelid bcc / non threatening skin cancer in November, now I am shitting myself that I have a melanoma. Not paranoid or anything...!! Have gp appt tomorrow but am instinctively worried again.

Labour-wise, back ache but no show or anything else. 39 weeks today and knackered looking after my nearly 5 yr old and 3.5yr old, so heading over to soft play now. Sigh.

felix no advice but I hope things get better. I do though like the idea of expressing and having your dh take a night, he needs to understand what your going though.

Ducks everyone as once I got over the horrible hip pain and dh was at work I got a good few hours of sleep Did though nearly kick dh out of bed last night, he wasn't well and kept turning over. Que loads of pain for me, think he finally got it though.

Hi smidge and welcome to the looney bin No such thing as tmi in this place. Get ready for plenty of poop, wee and foof talk lol.

felix i got dh to give an expressed bottle just before bed (about 11pm) two nights running and he just moaned that she took ages to feed and wouldnt take it for long etc. Now he knows how I feel as she comes on and off my boob all the time. Lets just say he gave up after that!

mythree am sure it is nothing serious but I would expect nothing less than panic stations after what you have been through. Best to get checked to put your mind at rest. Always good to be overly cautious.

Just had my health visitor and she was very nice. Got lots of stuff to read through with classes etc and have signed up for baby massage. Didnt get her weighed as she was only weighed on tuesday, but the HV was impressed that we had stuck with breastfeeding.

My friend from work who had her first baby last jan is on her way over. My first non family related visit and i am very excited to show of my little baby!!

Hi girls,

I've only just found this thread.. Rather late as my due date is tomorrow!!..
Have tried to read up and get to know where you're all at, hope everyone's doing ok.
Smidge- Nice to see I'm not the only newcomer!

Anyone got any tips on how I'm gonna get bubs head down and it was engaged yet at appointment yesterday was told it's popped back out again. Boohoo!
Booked for a sweep in the morning so I really want to get baby's head down to give it a better chance of actually working as MW didn't seem convinced that it would...

So who else is bored of waiting for their bubba?

Hi diminy! Welcome!

Presumably your baby is still head down, just not engaged anymore? I think that bouncing on an exercise/birthing ball is supposed to give gravity a helping hand in that situation. I'm not sure what the alternatives are if you don't have a ball. Space hopper?

Hi smidge and diminy!

Ooh, you next sarah! How is your little niece doing now by the way?

Just back from the mw. It wasn't my normal mw, which pissed me off a bit. She's booked my usual mw in for Monday to come over at some unspecified time and do a sweep. There's currently no point in doing one, because the baby still isn't engaged. Induction will be next Saturday as they only let you go 12 days over here. I nearly cried on her, because I'm just so worried that something will go wrong still and the longer the baby hangs on the more likely that is (although I know it is still very unlikely).

To cheer myself up I have come home and finished a box of Black Magic off .

book I'm also terrified something will go wrong the longer she is inside, know it's mad but can't shake the feeling. Have you spoken to your normal mw about your fears?

I'll join you in the chocolate eating corner. We have after eights left from Christmas.