January 2014 Thread 15-More babies to come

[Naturegirl82]

Went to post on the other thread and it was full! Hope people find this one ok.

only you are not alone in the worry stakes. Had a tiny massive snotty cry on DH earlier because I'm so fed up with waiting, and convinced I'll go more than two weeks over, have no choice but induction, then be on the path to epidural, forceps etc etc. I know (I really do!) that a healthy baby is the thing to focus on, but I so badly want to try a natural birth with water and G&A, and feel like it's slipping away.
Hysteria over, have made sausage casserole to freeze and about to make a lovely healthy dinner to perk me up.

If it helps, i was induced and only had codine and paracetamol. I was totally against having an epidural, i wanted to just get home after and didn't want to wait longer than needed. I would have had pethadine/diamorphine if needed.

so it doesn't necessarily follow that induction means epidural. I'd say keep mobile as much as possible

Frizz you are so right. I remember last time at the first twinge thinking, right, let's get this done. I was so focused on the endgame. I think that, having been so busy with DD I've kind of forgotten that I have to actually Give Birth, and losing my mucus plug was a bit of a reality check! (Obviously the never ending BH, chuff-kicking, giant belly etc weren't enough of a sign for me!)

Humpty I was half way through prepping a chicken leek and mushroom thingy when I had my meltdown and had to go lie on the floor! Ultimately I think we have to give ourselves up to the fact that what will be will be, and that the results will be the same for us all, a lovely healthy baby. It's just the journeys that will differ. But it is just that. A journey. I think that's it for me - the lack of control. I cant plan it to the nth degree and dictate the details and timeline, therefore it freaks me out.

Talk about 11th hour realisations! Who would have though getting pregnant means you will have to at some point give birth!!

I'll have my fingers crossed for you Humpty the you'll get the birth you're hoping for. And same goes for everyone else still left.

Congrats to all those with babies!! Been busy nesting so haven't kept up with all the details ... They seem to be coming thick and fast now!

40 weeks tomorrow... Been off since 37 weeks, thank goodness we had Christmas in the middle otherwise I would be going even more mental than I am.

I'm getting lots of lovely people messaging and texting me to find out where the baby is... It seems very ungrateful but it is getting a bit tedious saying 'nothing as yet' over and over again!

No plug lost and ongoing BHs & tightening. Am going to wait as long as possible before any sweeps or inductions!

Don't sweat it humpty. I had drip induction with DD with no pain relief whatsoever, not even g&a or paracetamol, and honestly wasn't in pain. Then last week with my spontaneous labour it hurt like hell and by 4cm I would happily have sold the baby for an epidural. Best laid plans, eh? Seriously though, the biggest difference between labours was that I was relaxed the first time and beyond stressed the second so do try and push those worries away. I'm sure it was the stress that made the difference this time round.

humpty and only I feel exactly the same. I'm desperate to avoid an epidural and forceps, but with so little happening and already overdue it is looking increasingly like induction here too. And I know it is really about having a healthy baby, but I am 10 months pregnant and therefore allowed to be irrational

Also, everyone that texts me asking if I've had a baby yet is going to be killed once I'm a bit more mobile. I'm even getting hassled about it on Twitter now!

Rally hoping that you are all able to have the births that you planned/hoped for.
I think once baby is here you really do start to forget whether it went exactly how you wanted. I was lucky having my water birth at the MLU (although I will go for more than gas and air next time as I just wanted to at least do it once) but one of my reasons for MLU was to be able to stay for 24hrs with Dh to relax and enjoy bubs arrival. Well that all went out the window with the tear.
Just hope that the labour's go well enough that you don't look back on it with regrets.

Well Aurelia just fed for 1hr....1hr!! I did not know that happened. She wasn't continuously suckling but didn't come off the boob once and was having a few sucks then a 5 sec break and then going again. Do u think she just wasn't being effective with her sucking so it took longer or maybe the boob was running dry. Hope she sleeps for ages now.

frizz. The hour long nurse is normal for my babies especially when building up my supply but also because it not just about the milk but the closeness too

saw midwife today. baby 3/5 engaged but this is number 4 so don't think it's hugely relevant. she did stretch and sweep and been crampy all day (beforehand too) but not sure it's going to make anything happen unless it's already meant to iyswim. sleep is crap and I'm feeling quite clingy and emotional atm, poor dh. re the worrying , me too

Ladies worrying about epidural. It is possible to have a lower dose 'mobile' epidural so that you can vary your position. I had an epidural sited for my c section delivery which they left in for 72 hours to control my pain levels and I was able to mobilise off the bed and into a chair with help after two top ups on the lowest dose.

You are all ladies of great sense. Feel much more positive now, and going to focus on having some fun the next few days, not on every twinge. Might book myself a pedicure tomorrow.
Thanks lovelies, you are all ace.
Oh, and I made a scrummy dinner . Salmon with pesto crème fraîche, on smashed potatoes with curly kale. I am feeling virtuous and pleased with myself.

humpty, only and book, I'm just the same (although not overdue yet). DH has already told me off for looking into the pros and cons of induction, he says I'm stressing and I don't know whether it'll come to that. I pointed out that it's best to look into this now, rather than have to make an on the spot decision with no information.

I want that water birth so much, though, so maybe I am stressing just a little bit!

Anyway, that was yesterday, when I was calm. This evening I had my meltdown and threw my mobile phone at DH . It missed, obviously. Is there some rule that I haven't seen that says they're required to behave like a complete twunt just before the baby's due? He told me that I'm pathetic because I don't want to unpack my beautiful new pram until we have cleaned the filthy floor, so it won't instantly get dirty. RAGE!

Congrats toby!

Just went for a wee and I am spotting bright red blood without any mucous, I'm confused. I have been losing my plug for about two weeks on and off but there's never been any blood. I can feel baby move so not too worried but wondering if anyone had had the same? I also just totally cleared out, sorry tmi, dh is totally taking the piss out of me and said he has temporarily fallen out of love with me lol.
The bleeding seems to have stopped for the minute but I was wiping for about ten mins and there was spotting everytime . So sorry for tmi .

humpty I too have been induced twice without an epidural, once with the pessaries and the other time with pessary and then the drip, it is possible :)

Hi sarah, how are you doing now? The clear outs are lovely, aren't they? There was a lot of surreptitious spraying of air freshener round here.

Have you called the maternity ward about the blood? May be nothing but it would probably be better to get checked out. I had bleeding but earlier in the pregnancy and went to the maternity a&e and they said it was the right thing to do because they like to identify the cause of the bleeding and make sure it doesn't pose a threat to you or the baby. They weren't able to work out where mine came from but after monitoring the baby's heartbeat for a while and scanning me they were satisfied that it was fine. I was still told to do the bare minimum til 34 weeks though. I would definitely give them a call, bleeding was one of the things alongside waters breaking or contractions every five minutes that I was supposed to go in immediately for. Good luck, and maybe this is the start of something!

Hope everything is fine Sarah and you got checked out for peace of mind.

I've been awake for the past hour, hoping to get some more sleep soon. Feel ok when lying down but definite pains still there when I stand up. Fx this is the start of something.

Sarah did you end up getting checked out? I hope all is well.

Had a bit of a nightmare moment last night and I feel sick at the thought of it. Sylvie wouldn't settle in her crib (as usual) and ended up sleeping on my chest again. I dropped off and when I woke up she had managed to shuffle down and was laid across me but under my duvet she was really warm and I am so upset at myself. What if I'd not woken up and moved her??? I've really scared myself now and feel like a failure. I don't know what to do as she won't sleep in her crib at night but I can't have her sleeping on my chest any more after that. I've tried every suggestion I can find to get her to settle but nothing works

On a more positive note - we are going to register her birth today so she will be an official human!

How is everyone today?

Morning

No sleep again. The second I switch out the light I am WIDE awake, then if I do manage to lie still for long enough to feel sleepy, I either get the itches which mean I can't fall asleep (GOD I am bored of being so fecking itchy) or I start getting cramps pains. Which I was determined to see as a good thing EXCEPT that last night, I had time to experiment, and found that they only happen when I lie on my right hand side. So they can't be anything to do with labour. For actual fuck's sake.

sarah did you get checked out? Hope it was a positive sign, and you're okay. Thank you for the reassurance about inductions too.

gummi your DH would have got a slap and this face: from me. Twunt.

I can foresee a day of being quite cross. I'm so knackered, nothing is fucking happening, and I want to be able to sleep,breathe through my nose, turn over in bed, pick things up off the floor, walk without being kicked in the cunt etc etc.

Sorry ladies, feeling like shit today. Hope you are all feeling better.

Gah, and forgot to reply to felix.
No idea from experience on co sleeping, but do you have a stretchy sling? Could you put her in that to keep her in place? I have no idea if this would be safer from a temperature point of view though.
Hope registering goes well!

sarah hope you got checked and all is fine.

felix will she sleep next to you in the bed rather than on you? can you wear a jumper and not use a duvet maybe?

Just a quick check in to say congrats toby looking forward to hearing the details :)

In laws around yesterday and today helping with DIY. Very grateful for the help but fed up of comments such as 'if he turns out gay it's because of the wallpaper you chose (it's cream and burgundy toile and its s spare room too), these are the wrong brushes (they work fine for me), your a hoarder (um no the things we've had to move are a clothes rail each, broken down wardbrobe, bed etc, pretty sure these are normal), you've done things in the wrong order (um 7 month rewire dictated that) etc etc. also being told I must wash baby clothes yesterday for hospital bag which I ignored as wardbrobe is going up today so will do it then then dh getting told in evening he must do it as I'd ignored instruction. Also my cast iron fireplace which I said isn't getting repainted has loads of white satin on it now (more than an accidental splatter) ggrrr. Also had to sleep on mattress on floor last night as we had to pile up our bed to clear baby/ spare room. Painful hands made it very hard to get up :( ok enough pity party

Carpet is being fitted in baby/ spare room and stairs this morning and need to lay some laminate at bottom of stairs before he gets here then pick up in laws. Why did dh have to be at work today?!

We have one of those NCT bednest cribs so she's literally laid right next to me in it but she still won't settle. Tonight im going to wear lots of clothes and just have a light blanket in bed just in case. I don't have a stretchy sling but that sounds like a good idea. It really scared me!

Humpty poor you what a big pile of steaming dog shit! Hope your day improves and you can get some sleep at least.

MrsV that sounds stressful! I don't know how you have managed to put up with the comments take no notice and do things your own way!

MrsV bloody in laws. Do you want me to unleash my rage on them? I have plenty spare

Felix have you tried a hot water bottle in the crib before you lay her down in it? It's one of many tips I have read on here and stored up in readiness for my (almost certainly non sleeping, given how shit the last month had been sleep wise for me) arrival.

Argh mrsv thats sounds bloody rubbish!

felix dont get too upset about it. I fell asleep last week with aurelia on me and woke up stressing as something bad could have happened.
All is ok so forget about it and look towards things to make her sleep in her crib.
I would first test if she doesnt like the crib. Have you tried putting her in it to snooze in the day? Remember that babies are nocturnal for a few weeks so it might just be that she likes being up at night but if she lies on you, your heartbeat and warmth send her to sleep. If she willsettle in the crib in the say then at least you know she can do it.

If she wont settle in the crib at all (even in the day) then i am not sure tbh but some others will prob know more what with me being a first timer.

If its just that she wont settle at night a few people have given me some advice from their midwives......
Put a piece of clothing you have worn all day in there as she will get your smell which might comfort her.
Others suggeted co sleeping.