December 2013 - Can we keep our legs crossed a little longer!?

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I should say hubs car has snow tyres on, it's just mine, and the furthest I have to go is less than a mile round trip. I have ironed 1 shirt today - that's an acheivement, no? got to go in an hour to get DD from childminder. Should shower at some point, too!
lots of braxton hicks today, so thinking about walking to get her.

I think ironing one shirt means you deserve at least an hours break loki

you sound like you are having a bad day nom I hope you get a chance for a quick nap soon, even a 20 minute doze can sometimes be very beneficial.

hope your heating gets fixed today bohemian

I've just noticed that the wall under the bedroom window is absolutely soaking wet. When you touch it the bloody paint comes off. Condensation has obviously caused it, but it's right where the moses basket lives. What on earth am I meant to do about it? I've text the landlord to tell him, but he is next to useless so probably will ignore it again as usual.

Move the Moses basket whisper. Not worth the risk of it getting mouldy. Then ring the landlord and tell him it needs sorting or he has to provide a dehumidifier and compensation for your increased bills.

I've moved the basket into the living room for the time being. The problem is that where it is lives is the only real place it can be and not be in the way, so we can't really move it long term once baby is here. I am ringing the landlord every half an hour but he never answers the phone. If we text he will usually do something about the problem at some point. We have stupid single glazed windows with wooden frames. Ugh I hate this flat so so much. Can't leave until April either. Winter here is going to be cold

sorry to here about that whisper. id be kicking off big time. I did get a huge 220 x220cm fluffy blanket from dunelm on sunday and it is the warmest thing ever, we have had no heating on since i brought it. definitely reccomend.
loki, that definitely means you get an hours break :)
I hope your days got better Nom, I'm horrible and grumpy when i havent had enough sleep, i hope you have a better night tonight. I think you and rose are both brave with your MILs stopping, mines lovely on the whole, but she already comments on how the dog is DPs shadow and how much the dog listens to DP etc, which he doesnt, hes very much my dog, plays with DP but listens to me. and it drives me mental, im expecting similar comments about the baby. So i definitely couldnt handle weeks of her. and even less of my own mother. :)

Feel your pain whisper. The back wall in our bedroom is the same. Landlord had to be nagged for 6 months to replace leaky guttering. In the meantime the whole of the wall is damp and mouldy. Hate it but to cure it would be more mess than I can stand. All the plaster wants hacking off and then re doing. Soooooo much mess and we are planning on moving next year.

Keep using a mould spray on it and try and air the room once a day for an hour.

Am fed up of not having the energy to do anything. Have done school run with dog, nipped around aldi, put a stew in slow cooker and vaccumed and dusted in front room and am now fooked. Laid on sofa thinking about doing the kitchen lol.

And I want to get hospital bag finished off.

Might have a little snooze for half an hour. Was awake 1 until 3 again last night so very sleepy.

Morning ladies

Hopefully gas man comes this afternoon - it was freezing this morning. We don't think it's the heating, we think it's the old cooker point leaking but sadly because it's gas, the lot has to be shut off which knocks out the boiler too.

I raided the joint account this morning and got a little oil filled radiator. It's starting to warm up the living room at least. I can then do some tumble drying of towels later for dining/kitchen and oven cooking tonight then leaving the door open might heat downstairs at least.

whisper definitely move the Moses basket - damp is not good for little one. Can you use that as a stick to beat your landlord with - that it's a health hazard for a little one. Dehumidifier sounds good too.

Afternoon all.
Hope your all well. This threat is zooming along!!

Ended up in hospital last night had really bad low pain that brought tears to my eyes never felt anything like it.
Went in and got checked had a quick scan and CTG baby is fine. They don't really know what it was but I could walk sit or stand. They said to take bags incase. So dp and I rated it like a practice run lol Didn't get home til midnight and had to be up for me appointment this morning. I am well and truely exhausted but have an appointment with my hyper mobility consultant at 230.

Feeling rather down and sore today. From all the pains. I think I'm just over tired and want dd here now. I'm so fed up of being in pain. I just wish someone could cure me. :(

Hope you all have a nice day xx

stom hope you're feeling better Hun?
whisper text your landlord and tell him mould is dangerous to everyone, especially a newborn and he needs to come fix it, that's why he's the landlord

Ill have a proper catch up when I can get on the ipad, hope everyone has a good day.

whisper could you get a dehumidifier? I would text the landlord saying something along the lines of having contacted CAB and something about his legal obligations, liability for the safety of a newborn, keeping a record of all your interactions and attempts to contact him in case further issues arise as a result of the damp, etc, etc. Then get in touch with CAB.

Hope you're ok stom? Must be rubbish to get yourself all hyped up for nothing!

Had my 36 week appointment today at 35 + 4, apparently the baby is no longer back to back and is head down ready to go! Oh fuck!

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Well I've just had about enough... I've gone through almost 36 weeks of being positive, saying that pregnancy has not been too bad, dealing with everything that was thrown my way including a non-expected transatlantic move, being by myself in London for a month, difficult relatives, being home alone all the time because DH works like madness and I'm bored out of my mind because I know no one here, etc etc etc. I kept a smile on this whole time. But now I'm done.

This just did it for me: DH got in touch with the moving company again, and there is only like a 10% chance that we get our stuff before Xmas. It has all my christmas decorations, some of baby's teeny outfits, all of my kitchen stuff, our TV, etc etc. I woke up at 2AM in tears again because of it. We tried the pregnancy card, tried everything, they say it's out of their control, plus it's the holidays (with American thanksgiving kicking it off next week), so everything is slower.

DH is being sweet, tells me to go buy whatever I want and just don't worry about the money, but that's just not the point. I'm really not mad at him, he's done everything he can. I just can't stop crying because I've just had enough. I tried to be, but I'm not superwoman.

ccsays I'm also freaked out of being a mom, I'm so overwhelmed with everything.

lady DH is an only child and a mama's boy. he does take my side, but it's hard for him. He's been enforcing the 'no staying at ours' policy though for my sake which is great, but now everyone is complaining about the cost and it's making me feel bad. But seriously, I never asked anyone to come over for 6 weeks.

nom my MIL is very helpful too and we do get along very well. But I just don't think I could take anyone for 6 weeks. It's just too long when you're trying to get settled into a routine and a new life, etc. I know I'm being really selfish, but I want DH, baby and I to grow as a family, get to know each other, etc. and he works so much that I want every moment with him - don't want his mom to take his attention.

We stayed with her for 10 days over the summer and I had enough at the end. Me being pregnant reminds her of having her little boy (my DH - her only child), and EVERY TWO SECONDS she would remind me how cute my DH's first poop was, or how he fell on his lip and he didn't cry because he was so brave blah blah blah. I'm a bit worried of her being like: 'well with my son I did it that way and see how well he turned out'.

sorry I keep ranting guys... I think I've just hit my low point. I'm so done with everything.

stom seems like you're having a rough one too. I hope you feel better hun xx

First things first: is warm! Hurrah

Gas guy reckons it is a dodgy valve on the hob - did oodles of tests. So, I have booked him to acquire new hob, fit new hob, install new radiator and drain/refill the system. Other gas engineers who refused the job need to learn from this - you turn up sooner, you get far more business. Also, I was the fifth customer of the day but the only one to offer them a cup of tea.

However, the oil-filled radiator has no been a wasted purchase, as if our boiler craps out for any reason we can keep the nursery warm for LO.

It has made up for the fact that LO has spent most of the day nutting me in the cervix, punching/elbowing my sides and drumming his precious little feet on my diaphragm.

Oh rose I'm sorry about your stuff - can you just ring them everyday to annoy them into bringing it? Regarding parents and things, my parents complain incessantly about the costs of having to travel 100 miles to see me - I think it's what parents do.
I'm freaking out too about being a mum - convinced that somehow I'm going to do it all wrong. Can you join some mum and baby groups over there? Or ask DH if any of the wives of his colleagues who have children would take you under their wing for a little bit? That's my plan to stop me feeling so low.

Hope you have had some luck with de-damping stom

I hate hospitals!! I had an appointment at 240 didn't go in til 320 came out at 325 had a prescription to pic up which is an hospital only one so waddle down the pharmacy a 30 min wait! So I wait 15 mins and the pharmacist calls me over. Says there's a problem as they tablets aren't recommended in pregnancy even tho consultant said they are fine. So she had to go and find him and ask so I wait abit longer by this time is 4pm my dad is sat in the car getting arsey cos I've been so long... She comes back says it'll be 10 mins. 20 mins later still nothing. I've had my dad on the phone having at go at me satin he's hungry and tired. (Tbf he is but I can't help it) 430 still nothing so I go up an. Say I've been waiting an hour (barring in mind I'm also 35 weeks pregnant and shattered from last night) she says someone will be checking it I'll let you know when it's ready dad calls me again! Then mum calls and I said dads having a go at me. Which then makes me burst into uncontrollable tears in the pharmacy infont of everyone!! (I've never cried in public before) the pharmacist person sees me crying and gets someone to do it straight away. I get called up and they've forgotten to put the right label but I said I'm not waiting anymore.
I didn't leave the hospital until 5pm!!! For an appointment that should have taken less than half an hour! I'm home now

dad can't stop saying sorry. But I still can't stop crying!!

I feel guilty co she's said he's going straight to bed without eating.
My whole bump hurts. My ribs hurt my lower tummy hurts my hips are killing and my back.
I'm so exhausted. And have jut had another massive cry and I just can't stop crying.
I've got to wash up and cook dinner yet and I'll I wana do is crawl under a rock

I've had it with being pregnant now :(

rose that sucks :( is it customs holding everything up? Our last move the stuff left beginning of July, was in France 6 weeks later and then we didn't get it until the beginning of October just because customs didn't shift their arses until DH put the boot in. Then we got it within 10 days.

stom it's amazing what crying in public does. I did it this afternoon and the guy suddenly couldn't be helpful enough. It sucks a bit but it does get results.

Hurrah bohemian! Glad you're warm now :)

rose that's terrible and I'd feel exactly the same, I really hope you get things before Xmas Hun.

stom sounds like you've had a horrible day, its awful to be reduced to tears when we are this far along. I hope you're feeling better sweetie.

Yay bohemian congrats on the heat and you're right, the radiator will always come in handy.

ccsays I also worried endlessly about becoming a parent for the first time but its trial and error and you'll be fine, baby will let you know what they want and I never thought I'd be able to tell between the different cries but I did. Just think if I'm onto my third it can't be that bad

Not sure who advised trying the old wives tricks as it won't let me go back for some reason but I've been walking everywhere now which feels like its pushing baby down and I'm still taking the raspberry leaf, but I have to admit I forget sometimes and much to dp's delight, we've even had sex 3 times....twice in one day

Had a lot of cramps yesterday and on the night, woke in the morning with them and eased them off by taking a shower and had a few tonight.
Tons of diahhreah and being sick yesterday but no sickness today just a couple of bouts of diahhreah which I suppose could be why I'm cramping but the cramps not stop after I've been

Mucous is starting to come out in a darker colour though, almost like its being mixed with a little bit of blood but I'm not sure.

I'm bouncing on my gym ball like a woman possessed lol and I've got a 38+3 midwife appt on Thursday so ill ask her opinion but apparently this one won't check you and wont give you a sweep until at least 41 weeks, o I have a feeling its gonna be a tear filled appt

Has anyone heard from clare or have I missed it?

alyssa I felt so silly but I just couldn't stop crying lol.
Clare had a beautiful little girl 6lb 9oz on Monday
She has a cute button nose lol

I hope all those thing you are doing gets something moving soon! Increasing my fingers for you x

* I'm crossing lol

Group hug in order I think - I would say we're all suffering end of pregnancy emotional-ness, but by the sounds of things the universe really is conspiring against us!

I'm feeling better than yesterday because the mouse is dead but I'm so desperately tired. Came home after being out from 9.30-5 running various errands, attending appointments and visiting grandparents to find our power's off. Again. Rang the power grid who said it was turned off on purpose due to a safety issue (it's several blocks, not just us) but they don't routinely inform customers unless they call up. I mean, what the fuck?! I asked what I was meant to do with my hungry toddler and my threatening-to-imminently-deliver 9 month pregnant self, and got 'well madam, that's a decision you need to make for yourself and your child'. In other words, go find someone who gives a fuck and tell them all about it. Apparently it'll be back on, maybe, by 8.30. All I want is a bath and to go to bed, I've gone past hungry and cold!

And to top it all off, I've had bad pains on passing urine the last few weeks, I've put endless urine samples in and all have come back fine. Found out at the antenatal unit yesterday that a swab I had taken over a fortnight ago tested positive for thrush, which is more than likely responsible for the pain, but no-one thought to tell me and now I'm so close to section I can't have the most effective treatment! So I have thrush symptoms on top of dealing with recovering from section, and I've more than likely given it to DH too, as I didn't know I had it.

God I'm so sick of hearing myself moan!

feather i have had the urine pain past two days also and increased discharge i asked if i had thrush they said no and urine test came back okay. This whole day iv been super duper uncomfortable i cant sit without feeling her head in my bum and her feet in my ribs which is also very painful. Cant walk cant sleep cant find a nice position to lay in even when im on my side i feel so fat heavy and stiff!

Walked 40 minutes when im supposed to be on bed rest today for a scan when i got there they told me i didnt need one because i had one whilst in hospital. Even though i asked the Dr while i was there should i cancel the one for next week and they said no! Fuming!!!!

feather glad the nous is dead. What about all your frozen good will that be ok? I gave do thrush too as I didn't know I had it - he won't pay the £14 from the chemist and won't make a dr appointment either! So looks like it's staying! So annoyed.

Oh chelsea that's awful. Hospitals are crap!!

Yup the world is definately conspiring against us!!
I think today has been shit for everyone.
Seriously December can't come quick enough !

Me too stom aw congrats to clare then.

feather bless you hugs the group is your section this Thursday?

chelsea you must have been knackered as well as fuming Hun.

I agree feather that the universe is against us.

I'm no longer paying any attention to my body, if I have pains then its quite clearly gas from here on out. Slow labour is a twat

group hugs indeed!

Sorry to hear everyone is having such a rough time and hoping things get better soonest x x x

Hooray for your heating bohemian!

Your appointment sounds epic stom, how frustrating. Perhaps a cheeky take away is in order for tea??

Hope the damp get sorted quickly whisper, a new baby on the way should be an incentive for your landlord if they've got an ounce of decency. Bloody renting, bloody nightmare!

congrats ccsays and yes I'm having the odd panic too. How will i have a shower when I'm on my own with the baby, how will i stop the cats getting into the crib with it, how will I ever manage to sleep or leave baby in another room without dying with worry? Arrghhhh!

Rose that's crap, so sorry for you. You've done so well in keeping it together thus far though, something to proud of at least x

feather hooray for the dead mouse! Sorry about the power though, what is going on at the moment!? It's sods law that all things are happening to people at the end of their pregnancies when we all need to be relaxing and resting.

Hang in there everyone, at least we've got eachother to rant and moan at

No money for a take away so I made spag Bol and dp went and got us a chocolate sponge pudding..yummy :)

I'm so tired it certainly won't take me long to sleep tonight.
meandbumpy hope you are all good. :)

On a plus I now have the anaesetic patches to put on my hip and back so hopefully they will help

Power's back on thankfully, DH is running me a bath and I'm going to have my last illicit glass of wine before the birth while I'm wallowing in said bath! Yes Alyssa, it's Thursday, approximately 37 hours away! Getting a little nervous but mainly about the epidural - can anyone set my mind at rest? I know it'll be fine really, and I suspect my brain's focussing on that one thing so it doesn't explode from worrying about everything else that could go wrong, but still!

So pissed off that, so far, my plans for a lovely tranquil few days before the birth have been shafted from every direction. But focussing on the fact that, while I know I'll be in pain afterwards, it'll at least be a different kind of pain and they do say a change is as good as a rest! Plus I'll have my baby to take my mind off things - after DS's birth where he was whisked off to NICU and I couldn't take him home for a month I'm really having difficulty getting my head around the possibility of having a baby removed from my tummy and then