December 2013 - Can we keep our legs crossed a little longer!?

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Italics fail. Again.

Can I just ask, you know how a lot of people are having bowel clear outs? Well, when should this happen and is it a problem if I'm not having one? What if I go into labour and i'm constipated, will it make it harder and will I poop everywhere during the birth?

feather I had an epidural when I had two slipped discs in my back so they could do steroid injections so in a different situation but it's absolutely fine, feels a bit strange. You have to stay lying down for a while after and they very slowly work you up into a sitting position over some time because doing it too quickly can cause headaches- can't remember why though.

meandbumpy I worry about our two cats and the cot / Moses baskets situation

Really sorry some people are having such bad days, Tuesday seems to be a write off on here today!

I just thought, when I have my MW appointments I'm always closer to the next week eg thurs I have my 36w one but I'll be 36+5 so closer to 37, that means at my 40w one I'll practically be 41weeks, will they adjust things slightly thinking about when to do sweeps etc?

I've never had a c section feather but I've had an epidural. I'm not sure how much help I can be as I was 9cm at the time and the anthesitist didn't wanna give me one but apparently found out later my bp was sky high and they were trying to lower it, hence why he gave in.
I can't even remember feeling the local going in never mind the actual epi but my dp says I never flinched although everyone kept asking if I was pushing while he was putting it in yes I was me? No way!

As I was too far along he warned me it may not work and it was 20 minutes after I'd pushed ds2 out that my right leg went numb lol. So it turned out or me to be an utter waste of time.

My sister had an epi with her dd2 and she said the local stung a bit but then all she felt was pressure when the epi went in.

meandbumpy my loose ones only started when I hit 38 weeks i think but I've been having a number 2 4/5 times a day for a couple of weeks now. With both my last 2 births just before labour I'd literally either vomited or pooed there was nothing left in my body to come out during labour lol but my midwife was kinda pushing/covering my rear end while I was pushing. I guess in case I did poo so she cokd wipe it straight away. I never did but apparently its quite common but believe me you won't care either way.
You will have left your dignity at the door on the way in. The entire sanfrancisco 49ers could've been in watching me deliver and I wouldn't have cared

That reminds me, I must remember to pick my dignity back up when i leave this time as I just left it there after ds1

Thanks for the reassurance Mrs and Alyssa, sure it'll all be fine it's bloody well going to have to be ! Off to bed now, busy day tomorrow. Hope everyone manages some sleep!

mrs shrubs I'm walkways a week behind. I had my 36 week appointment and I'm only 35+3 So I don't th

Think it matters too much. But you could always mention it to your mw see what she says

The really bad period pain is back again. That how it started last night :(. So fed up now

mrsshrubs apparently you can get a cat net to go over the crib but not looked into it yet. I just know ours just won't get it's a baby person and treat it like a hot water bottle to snuggle with. Am quietly having palpitations about it.

Thanks alyssa, I've got a few weeks for evacuation to commence then! God I really don't want to poop infront of dp but I understand it's a common occurrence in labour. Will have to take your word for it that I won't care at the time. I might write 'pick up dignity on way out' at the end of my birth plan. Along with 'agree never to speak of undignified happenings EVER'

Good luck feather update us as soon as you can!

Wow feather 37 hours that's amazing to know when you're gonna approx get baby snuggles.....I'm jealous its my turn next people lol

Bless you on the period pain stom I can relate although mine have completely bloody stopped now its so annoying to think maybe this is it and then nothing damn Mother Nature lol.

Well I have just mopped all my floors twice, they were filthy. I must invest in one of those steam mops soon.

Lol meandbumpy that's a great ending to a birth plan.....I love it

Can't believe its after midnight and for once I'm not tired, I just want to clean. putting down the cleaning stuff and forcing myself to bed before kids have me up in 5 hours

Wanting to clean's a Very Good Sign Alyssa, I got a mad urge to iron things the day before DS arrived! Not strange you might think, but I even ironed vests, and I don't believe in ironing as a rule, I NEVER iron at all, ever. DH moved the iron to a different cupboard once and I didn't notice for a good 6 months!

Tired but can't sleep. DS came toddling into our room about an hour ago and cuddled in, I'm enjoying sleepy warm toddler cuddles while I can, after tomorrow it may be a while! Only thing is, DS is a 'love me, love my soft toys' kinda guy, so I'm also cuddling a stuffed rabbit and a turtle.

Morning all

Lol at ironing. I'm the oldest out of 6 and there's 11 years between me and youngest sister. I always remember my mum ironing like a mad woman when she was due. Always the morning before she went in.

Feathers I had an elcs with dd. I was very needle phobic and petrified. However I didn't feel anything at all apart from a cold spray they used. The anethetist should come and see you before so tell them you are really worried and they will take their time and make it easy as possible for you. They need you really still for it so will do all they can.

Think we are all ready for the end of being pg now. I know I am. Think I might use car for school run this morning. Got loads to do and am knackered by the time I get in.

Shit I just accidently pressed report on someone's post whilst I was scrolling down, bloody touch screens!! I cancelled the page loading so I hope it didn't actually go through, surely there's a confirm button or something!? very sorry if it did though

Haha, I'm loving the sound of your birth plan meand
So tempted to add some similar notes to mine!

Big hugs and all round! Sounds like everyone's having a tough time of it... You can definitely tell we're nearing the end now!

Alyssa It was me that suggested the old wives' tales, so hope all that walking has helped! Will be keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Went to another yoga class last night which was lovely and relaxing. The whole idea of these classes is to promote a positive mindset and prepare you with thoughts of a nice easy, straightforward birth. Only two weeks in and already it's starting to ease all my worries about labour

Halfway through the session I started getting really bad period pains. No tightenings or anything else, and they eased after about 30 mins, but still got me worried. I'm only 34+2 so definitely not ready for any symptoms yet!

Picked up our new duvet, pillows and mattress protector last night too. DP kindly made the bed while I was at my class, so I came home to a lovely snuggly bed and slept so much better!
My back's killing me this morning so I'm going to use that as an excuse to crawl back into said snuggly bed now...

Hi all- not fully caught up yet but thought I'd check-in. Went to first ante-natal class last night which was good but I'm the only second-timer so I feel like some kind of guru which is very strange .

feather so close now. No advice on epidural as not had one. Very exited for you and wishing you a chilled out day today.

meandbumpy I ended up with an enema at some point in labour as midwife thought this was slowing down progress. It worked and poo was in toilet so no pooing during pushing. Still not massively appealing though.

Am full of cold today and wish I was off work now instead of in three weeks . Maybe baby will come early and rescue me- don't want to jump my place in the queue though- alyssa you're next!

itsliz I'm finding that I get period pains when baby is settling deeper in pelvis so I wonder if your yoga did similar by opening your hips/pelvis? This is my second and she's up and down like a yo-yo so I get some cramping most days but more sustained bouts of cramping once or twice a week. So long as they aren't rhythmic then I think it's ok. Disconcerting though.

Arrhghh!!! So much for my nice tranquil last day as a mother of 1! DH drank quite a lot of wine last night (going by stench in bedroom), which I wouldn't ordinarily mind, but it meant he was unwakeable when I was stuck in the bathroom with the shits and DS was roaming the top floor freely, shouting 'daddy!! Tumpy!!' which is what he says when he's pooed. By the time I could get off the loo there's shit everywhere. Seems DS also has a dicky tum. I've literally had 2 hours of broken sleep. Going to try and get another hour now, DH has gone downstairs with a showered child and orders to produce a bacon sandwich at 10am.

Bless feather you get some more sleep if you can Hun, I've had ds1 in bed with me from 2am as ds2 decided for no reason as he was sucking a dummy and had another in his hand that he would scream non stop until 4.15am, I had to turn monitor of in the end and let him get on with it and I could still hear him loud and proud.
Dp was on night shift and i know if he goes in that he gets him out....it's spoiling him and I can't/won't do the same, he went back to sleep once he realised I wasn't getting him out.

feather my ds1 is a hug me and I'm gonna squash your face with both my hands until I fall asleep little person lol. I really hope my wanting to clean was a sign like yours was. Lol about the iron as I'm the same, I let the dryer do the ironing

Yes itsliz me too Hun, I'm going to drop ds2 off at future pils and take ds1 out and do more walking but knowing me, my water will brake ll over my newly washed floor lol.

better I was watching an old one born last night and she said on there that she would still give the enemas as if your too loaded up with poo that it narrows the birth canal making it harder for baby to come down, I'm not sure what I'd choose though lol.
How far are you? What week are you finishing work for mat leave?

Hope everyone has a lovely day.

Ds2 is sitting there eating his toast laughing at me as though to say i got plenty of sleep he only got up 10 minutes ago.

Oh no feather I hope DH brings the bacon and does the washing too to make up for it. Shut yourself in the bath for a few hours and leave it to him!

Know I have no right to complain but everything is beginning to hurt and so I'm just going to rattle off today's rant list (feel free to add your own bitches and whinges)

• I'm sick of having LO nut my cervix so hard, nearly bringing me to my knees and reducing my bladder to the size of a peanut
• Sick of being unable to take people to task sensibly when I'm unhappy - I just burst into tears.
• ... and when I'm in tears people saying "are you all right?" I'm sick of people saying 'oh nearly time then' - no sht really? I haven't been counting ...
• ... and saying "oh you'll never sleep again..." and those kind of things
• I'm fed up of dropping things on the floor and thinking 'yeah that's gonna have to stay there'
• The yoga positions you have to do to get a pair of socks/leggings on
• I want to sneeze without thinking "oh no was that ..."
• Fed up of not being able to walk around town without going 'toilet toilet toilet'. John Lewis must think I'm a shoplifter the amount of times I go in there.
• Sick of sleeping on my sodding side and then needing to roll over anyway because my hip's gone numb
• I'm sick of LO believing genuinely that he can exit through my stomach setting off nausea.
• Sick of the crapness of maternity/BF bras - not supportive, not comfortable, not in the least bit attractive. Putting a bow on it doesn't make it anymore attractive
• Sick of the constipation, the healthy eating and the constant fouf analysis
• Fed up of the keeping-active-but-needing-to-rest conundrum: "You must be active! But not too much!"
• Fed up of waking up thinking I'm leaking waters but realising it's actually sweat from from the exertions of moving my whale-like form around the bed all night.
• Fed up of not being allowed to do ANYTHING other than domestic drudgery (no lifting, no moving, no exertion) and needing a rest after every little thing.

That felt good try it yourself

And the worst part? I need him to stay in there until next Thursday as our new hob and radiator arrives next Monday.

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Well I might end up with an enema too as try as I might I can't sort out my constipation and for the past few weeks I've been fed up with trying so all but given up. I've had it pretty much all the way through so by now there's probably no room for bumps to get out at all!
I just hope I'm getting a lot of goodness out of my slow digestion and it's not been in vain.

Bohemian I'm with you completely, ready for it to be over now. I know it's not the done thing but in all honesty ladies . . . 'I don't like being pregnant' . . . ahhhh, feels good to say it!
I've really tried to enjoy it and obviously I'm over the moon to be having a baby, but if I'm entirely honest it's been a very unpleasant, uncomfortable, tiring, worrying, stressful experience. Not what I expected at all, what is all this shit about blossoming and happy hormones anyway!!!???

I hate being pregnant! But I especially hate being pregnant with a toddler. Totally knackered!

meandbumpy have you tried orange juice? Maybe it's just me but everytime I have some I go to the toilet...

Someone told me about dried apricots the other day. They're a bit of an acquired taste but pretty effective! (Especially on DS who ate rather a lot under the watchful eye of DH and erupted. DH won't be doing that again )

Speaking of constipation, I had 36 week appointment yesterday and have been advised to take iron supplements. Iron count is 10.9 and they consider low to be 10.5 so midwife said to avoid it dropping further, I need some iron.
Can anyone recommend any supplements that will not block me up completely? I stopped pregnacare a few months ago due to blockage problems. Or would a iron rich diet do the trick?

Also, midwife measured my fundus height with a measuring tape and gave me a fright when she said its only measuring 30cm. I had to have a scan which said baby is above average size and already 6.5 pounds. Looks like this baby is wedged so low in my pelvis and scrunched up that it makes the fundus height very inaccurate. Not an exact science!

Ok bohemian here goes

1. I don't like being out of breath at every little thing
2. I don't like not being able to have a drink and a tab if I crave one.
3. I don't like feeling like I've pissed myself all the time
4. I don't like being hormonal im not a cryer
5. I don't like walking like a fucking duck
6. I don't like the shouty, short tempered bitch I've turned into
7. I don't like not having the energy to watch both my kids and tryin to palm one off on the in laws constantly
8. I don't like feeling like I can't cope with 2, so why have I been blessed with a third?
9. I don't like being this tired

10. I don't like how even going to the toilet is tiring 11. I dont like not being able to paint my own bloody toe nails and shave my own bikini line 12. I don't like moaning all the time

I could unfortunately go on and on. I love being pregnant but I loathe the last 2 months and hate the last few weeks even more, over analysing every twinge and ache, wondering how much friggin mucous plug is there to come out I mean seriously its been 2 fucking weeks.

Ah felt good to write it down xx