December 2013 - Can we keep our legs crossed a little longer!?

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Well, I seem to have caused a shitstorm at work! And I'm not even in there. I work with DH, and I discovered on Friday he got a bigger pay rise than me. So I emailed and asked my boss what I hadn't done to deserve the biggest raise (given that I let them change my contract after I started, had trapped time in my timetable so should have been paid an extra half day a week, but let them off, taught a full timetable for my hours while no-one else in my department did AND in one day saved the school about 12000kronor, which is less than my payrise will be over a whole year) The emails from the big boss came through about 5:30 Friday evening, so I emailed about 6. Boss replied with "It's Friday evening, give it a rest!" SO DH went to big boss before work this morning and told him, while I emailed our union reps. I got an apologetic email this afternoon, and boss apparently went home sick.

Of course, as the apology email came, DD started having the biggest tantrum ever, so I started crying at the email and the tantrum, and that's it. We have had tears on and off for hours.

To top it off, I was so annoyed at the whole thing I didn't post on facebook all weekend, which started a flurry of "does this means something?" messages. Yes, it means my boss was a bitch and I didn't want to post something about her that I would later regret, it does not mean I am in labour.

Oh, Stom don't worry about if baby is back to back now, most spin at the beginning of labour. And back to back doesn't necessarily mean terrible, terrible labour - my first was back to back and still delivered within 4 hours of getting to hospital. I did have an episiotomy, but it can't have been too bad, I'm having a third!

Good for you loki I would be bloody furious!

whisper two fifth engaged or two fifths palpable? Either means baby has started to engage :) Five fifths engage would be fully engaged, five fifths palpable means head is completely free.

You still here and crampy alyssa? :( I heard a theory that first your body doesn't know, second your body does, third your body knows and starts trying before your baby is really ready, fourth and subsequent your body is so practised it just evicts the baby!

Oh yy to back to back not being that bad. DS was back to back and okay labour was slow, but then he turned and it was quick, and then he turned again the wrong way while descending and I tore a bit but just get a local anaesthetic for any stitches you need Don't let them fob you off with G&A.

Go the gas and air and the local! Or local and cuddling baby, which is just as nice as the gas and air.

I think she said engaged. nom How exciting. I have a sneaky feeling baby Whisper might make an appearance quite near to my due date as it's doing everything else at the correct milestones. The one constant in this pregnancy has been the little jellybean being healthy and happy. It's me that's been so damn poorly haha.

I hope things kick off for you alyssa must be so frustrating for you

loki sorry your boss is such a wankbadger. Have some chocolate, it'll make you feel lots better.

whisper and nom it's so very frustrating.
I'm at my mums and been having really strong cramps and more mucous and out of nowhere as normal they have stopped
I am so fed up.

Hope everyone else is having a good day/night

clare how you doing Hun?

I am shattered. it's only 11am. uuuuuuuggghh

had a shit sleep, but we have nothing to eat in the house so figured i needed to drive DH to work so i could have the car and do groceries. so i got up at 7AM (although i wasn't sleeping since 4) and got out of the house at 8 to drive him, off to grocery store, then costco, then came home with loads of stuff I then had to carry into the flat. then had to take all the recycling down since there was so much, and now it's 11 AM i am starving and i can't even get off my behind to make myself some decent food.

I just want to lie down for the rest of the day, but the fireplace is broken and waiting for the fireplace guy to come. i would not feel very comfortable to have him over in my pjs.

To top it off, I have to find my parents a place to stay when they are here and it's stressing me out. it's out of the question of them staying with me as they decided to arrive so close to my due date and I don't want to have to deal with them plus a new baby. So they are using the excuse that they've never been to california to put all the responsibility on me. they also decided to arrive december 31st which is the stupidest thing because everything is so expensive, and i told them when they asked my opinion but just went ahead and booked anyway (why you ask then, arrrrg). so now my mom keeps reminding me how expensive it is for them that we live here, so i need to find her a nice place to stay in a very nice area, but not expensive. REALLY? on december 31st to boot?!?! I'm so sick of the money guilt trip. I swear to God I will be so pissed off if someday they leave me money in inheritance, and they've guilt tripped me all my life because it's expensive to come visit. I don't want anything, I would just like to not be made feeling bad, that is not what I need right now, plus I never asked for them to come, especially never asked for them to come that early.

Rant Over. sorry.

on the positive I have found pasteurized camembert and I am now indulging on crackers and camembert which i havent in over 8 months!

loki did they explain why they ended up giving you a lower raise? if it's because you're pregnant, that's complete bullshit and i would sue them.
whisper exciting if your bump dropped!! I keep hoping mine did and in what i was wearing yesterday it kinda looked lower, but now it looks the same again, and i get the same amount of kicks in the ribs (ouch really)

oh my alyssa seems like you've been dealing with this for a few days now - I would be so fed up if I were you as well. thinking of you.

I hear you on the finding accommodation for parents, rose. I has to do the same thing for mine. At least I've lived for a year and have some idea of where the hotels are and what's a reasonable price. But FFS everywhere is expensive at NY!!!

Not to piss on your Camembert parade btw but the risk isn't from non-pasteurised milk, it's from listeria in the rind so you still have to bake it :( if over the next 72 hours you have stomach cramps or a temp please go to the emergency room as listeriosis is very serious.

alyssa it sounds like things are moving even if it's a bit start stop

whisper that's a pretty healthy attitude :) I'm of the labour will start when it starts and last as long as it lasts persuasion and it sounds like baby whisper is pretty textbook!

nom i was told the milk pasteurisation kills the listeria bacteria? is that not right?

hm if that's the case, i like baked camembert so tonight's dinner is sorted!

It kills it in the milk, but then the way soft cheeses and rinded cheeses are made has the potential to reintroduce it. If you are strong of stomach then read about rind washing but if you're worried about being put off soft rinded cheese for life then don't! Basically the rind is produced by specific mould/bacteria (depending in the cheese) which could ve contaminated by listeia and you can't pasteurise that because the heat treatment would melt the cheese.

there is a man outside our flat. He's been there for nearly two hours how screaming at the top of his lungs. He is shouting "chastity (could be chardonnay or Saturday) give me my CD" the flat downstairs is known for having not very nice people there and drug users hanging out there. I wish he would shut up and go away because DP will be home soon and I'm worried he won't be able to get into the flat with this man being aggressive outside next door.

Thanks for the soothing words everyone, after a day of pointedly rejecting his calls DH came in with flowers and alcohol-free beer, along with a kicked puppy expression. I don't have the energy to be cross any more but I feel so flat and meh. Hope others who are suffering are having more success at feeling happier!

Went for my pre-op appointment this afternoon, then had scan and clinic appointment. True to form for my hospital, this took 4 hours. Have had bloods done, told I'm MRSA negative (how on earth I haven't picked it up I honestly don't know!), had baby's heartbeat listened to by 4 separate people, had a needle in my arse, made to show a doctor the pad I was wearing and had a speculum examination. Not the most fun I've ever had in an afternoon I must admit, but at least the next time I walk through the hospital doors I'll know I'll be leaving with my baby! Apparently my fluid levels are low and they think I've sprung a slow leak, but as I'm all booked in for Thursday they're happy to let me stick to the original plan as long as the leak doesn't develop into a geyser, and the contractions don't settle into a pattern. Baby is on about the 40th centile and allegedly weighs approximately 6lbs 8ozs, so expecting him to be under 7lbs at delivery - who wants to bet he'll be a 9lb whopper?!

mum Thanks for the advice Sounds like there are pros and cons for both... I was initially thinking that going for the injection but if there are risks involved then I might have to look into it a bit further.

Alyssa Bouncing like mad sounds like a good idea! And if that doesn't work, it might be time to start trying every old wives' tale in the book

Whisper That all sounds really promising! I've been thinking the same thing as little one has been measuring bang on average in terms of size, heartbeat, position, etc at every single appointment... Obviously he'll turn up whenever he wants, but surely ticking all the boxes can only be a good thing!

Bohemian That's ridiculous! I'm so angry on your behalf, what a shitty attitude to have towards their customers! As others have said, definitely worth kicking them into action by giving them a bit of bad press via social media. A flurry of tweets and Facebook posts mentioning that quote and the fact that you're pregnant will definitely get a response!

DP's friends bought us a baby bath and top and tail bowl which arrived in the post today, so I think that means we've got everything sorted now!
I'm actually a bit disappointed that I don't have any baby bits left to buy... Ah well, I'll just have to go spend my money on nesting bits instead

Bohemian, that's crap, I hope it gets sorted for you soon. Our heating went on the blink a few weeks ago and I was in a foul mood until it got sorted. It just isn't what you need when heavily pregnant!

I'm glad your DH has seen the error of his ways feather, I could always add him to my list of people to poke in the eye in future if you like?!

Thankyou all for your sympathies after my rant.....I went into my local shop today and the woman behind the counter said 'ooohhh how long to go now?' So I replied probably another 3 or 4 weeks, and she looked like this and said 'still?! I'm getting fed up of waiting!!!' Erm, she's fed up?! How does she think I feel?!! Aaah!

In better news, I went on a big asda and mothercare run today and got a few things we were missing so I can finally start packing my hospital bag and feeling a little more prepared. For whoever was feeling like they were the only one not experiencing any Pre labour symptoms, you're not alone as I'm not either!

itsliz I think with the injection as long as the MWs are competent you can always opt to have it whether that's 5 minutes or 15 or 50 minutes after. I didn't have it, didn't need it. Also if you're planning more than 5 pregnancies there's an indication it becomes less effective each time (but that really doesn't affect most people!). And it makes some people sick.

oh my goooooood, to add to the lodging crap I have to deal with to find my parents a place to stay, I just found out that my MIL has also booked her flights and is coming for 6 WEEKS!!! ARE YOU JOKING?!
Oh and her criteria is also very simple (sarcastic): she wants to be walking distance from where we live because she doesn't want to drive and 'wants to be able to help'. This is not London, nothing is walking distance here!! Also, helping me would be going to do my groceries, etc (i.e. driving). so basically it will be me having to deal with her for 6 weeks with a newborn, DH back at work, and right at the time when I'll probably have to start looking for a job / want to start socialising with moms, etc.

I know I should be thankful to have a family that loves us, and wants to be with us etc etc, but there are limits!

Rose get DH to deal with finding his mother a place - it is the downside to moving to another continent that when in-laws and parents visit, they really tend to visit! Perhaps MIL will be like my parents - they stayed with us for about 6 weeks around the birth of DD, so they could look after DS when I was in labour. They organised short trips all around, so they never stayed for more than about 5 days in a row. We bought a house where we can make downstairs into a little kind of guest suite - no cooking facilities, but own bathroom, living area and comfy sofa bed, so we can have them stay without crowding us so much.

jävla helvete! It is meant to snow tomorrow night. I haven't got snow tyres yet, I was waiting for DH to fill in the paperwork to sign over his parental leave days for DD to me, so I can get paid for November! As it is, my November pay will be 4 days. which won't cover buying winter tyres.

Oh dear rose 6 weeks! Can your DH not intervene? Even if the flights are booked it's not impossible to change them on long haul. We've certainly done it for trips to the states.

Morning all.

Brrr chilly here this morning in South Yorkshire. Pretty though with all the frost.

Had mw last night. Baby doing fab. Measured at 36 weeks which I am on Friday which is a massive difference to the 31 weeks I measured at 2 weeks ago. I don't feel that much bigger so taking it with a pinch of salt. Got final growth scan next week so will wait for that.

Rose poor you. My advice will be to make the most of your visitors and the help that is offered and also the company. I lived away from family when I had dd and found it pretty lonely. And get your dh to do the accommodation for her.

Can't believe I am 36 weeks on Friday. 1 more week and he is fully cooked! Going to finish hospital bag and get moses basket ready today I think.

It's freeeeeezing!

I've got a persistent period painy ache in very low abdomen and occasional sharper more unpleasant pain lasting a little while then going away but not regularly... Ligaments and BH? Or baby engaging?

I'm normally really blasé about niggles and mucous (mmmmucous) but feel like I've been stressing last few days!

that's what i had on Saturday crunchy it was a uti or so they think. It's started coming back today so who knows. I imagine baby shoving its head in your pelvis to be painful so it's probably that. or you know, you could have a baby tomorrow

I am eagerly awaiting my exercise ball to arrive today. Had a text to say it'll be here between 11.15 and 12.15. I should be getting up and dressed and being productive. I really need to put the washing on as I have no clean underwear. Instead I am drawing penis's on the back of an envelope and drinking coffee. I have quite a lot of things I need to get done today because I have a group of uni friends coming to visit tomorrow and staying over night. I need to go to town and buy bedding for our sofabed and buy some food for them as I'm not sure they will appreciate my current diet of spaghetti hoops/beans and toast. I haven't seen my friends since I finished in april and on the one hand I am excited to see them, but on the other hand I am nearly 36 weeks pregnant and don't really want to have to show them the delights of Nottingham city centre and be on top form all day. I want to sit in my pyjamas and eat crisps whilst moaning about how fat I am. Can someone come and give me a kick up the bum please?

Hope everyone is well today and nothing unexpected happens to any of you, unless it is a good unexpected thing, then I will allow it

That sounds like fun whisper Hopefully you can just lounge (or bounce) and catch up and they will shower the pregnant lady in

I have been horrible since I woke up this morning. I had 3 hours sleep, after not being able to even drift off until 2 DS woke up 5 minutes later and wanted various things (water, a wee) which carried on until 5 when I took him to our bed still not having slept where he proceeded to run his toy car up and down my arm and I got cross. Whereupon DZh finally woke up and cuddles him back to sleep and I feel into an exhausted slumber until DH role me to say goodbye at 7.30. Thankfully DS dozed until 8.30 but I've just been in tears since then. First DH hadn't done the washing up, then it was something else and now I'm just counting down until I can get DS to nursery, although I then have to go to the garage with the car, but if I could just get a quick nap that would make all the difference in the world to me.

Jeez rose you are brave! 6 weeks of MIL... Mine is coming for 3 weeks from early December to after Christmas but she's staying with us and is very helpful. She always does all the housework which usually I feel bad about and like it's a reflection on my slatternly ways but this time I shall accept it gratefully!

loki get those snow tires on!

bohemian how are you doing this morning? Still no engineer?