December 2013 - Can we keep our legs crossed a little longer!?

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Bohemian- am sure you've already thought of this but do they know you're heavily pregnant?

We're having a new boiler and I managed to get the install date moved fwd a few weeks as apparently British gas class me as "vulnerable".

I might try that with British Gas - I've forgotten to mention it tbh. I might try when I ring again.

I'm afraid my pity party is ongoing. Had an absolutely shitty night's sleep thanks to bladder, contractions, DS deciding 3am was party time and worrying about the mouse. Gave up and got up at 6.30. Was just about to switch on the coffee machine and the power went. This is the 3rd cut in a week, they keep Elastoplast-repairing it without finding the root cause. DH has been in a foul temper, behaving like Kevin the teenager again. I got upset because I wanted to Hoover (remove source of mouse food!), do washing, dye my hair and clean the kitchen this morning, none of which I can do without power. Also went into kitchen to find DH had left all the greasy elements of making a roast for me to wash - all sitting in a bowl of cold water. In full dickhead mode, he storms about ranting about my lack of reason (I'm 9 MONTHS pregnant for fuck's sake!), how I don't know how hard this pregnancy's been for HIM, how impossible I am to live with and now I'm crying again and how I should be thanking him for doing the rest of the washing up before he came to bed last night. After reducing me to a sobbing mess he then decided to make up just before leaving for work, but as this was blatantly just to assuage his conscience I'm afraid I told him to fuck off as a quick apology wasn't going to make me feel any better. He left, slamming the door so hard he woke napping DS.

God I feel wretched. I also have a sore throat, monster headache and the house is like a fucking freezer. SIL is coming for tea and with no power I can't set the slow cooker away as I was going to. My mum's coming up with a flask of coffee, but I have my pre-op and scan and clinic appointment this afternoon, I can't even have a shower. Apparently the power company have ignored the fault to the point where it's going to take them until AT LEAST 3pm to get the power back on. Sorry I'm so pathetic at the minute everyone, I just feel so low this morning.

alyssa hope things progress soon for you lovely. Must be so frustrating!

bohemian that's ridiculous, like mildred says tell them you are heavily pregnant, should shake them into action!

hope your thrush clears up soon lady

Hello to the newbies, welcome to the cursed thread

I've just got back from the hospital and am in such a bad mood. There was no bloody point in me going AT ALL. Got asked by the MW if they knew what they were supposed to be testing. My BP was perfect, as it always is apart from ONE slightly high reading when I was there on Saturday. The midwife today kept apologising as she couldn't see a reason why I had been asked to go in. I wouldn't mind, but it takes me a good 40 minutes to walk there and walking is getting hard work now. I get breathless so easily and my poor ankle that I broke last year is suffering with the extra weight I have. Least I have had my exercise for the day I guess.

Ordered an exercise ball today so I shall be joining you lot in bouncing away. What's the betting I fall off it and hurt myself? I am the most accident prone person in the world so the odds are high

Morning all

Lady think its due to extra blood supply to the area that makes your flu and bum look different colour. Did the mirror steam up though? Mine did the last time I attempted to trim. Freked my out that my fanny needs to breathe!

Good luck to all who re crossing legs or wanting an eviction! Hopefully everyone goes when they are supposed to and not a minute early or late!

Can I join in with the moaning? My hips and lower back are agony if I stand or walk for too long. The most I can manage is 10 minutes at a time before I have to sit down or do a weird stretchy thing. So need to be fit and well for the next few weeks as I have THINGS TO DO!

I want to move our bedroom around and have a good fettle in there. I have some new nets to hang in front room and want to move furniture in there. DD's room is ready for a pre-christmas de-clutter and I want to give the bathroom a thorough bleaching, including the grouting. And I really need to have the kitchen cupboards out and fettled.

On top of that I have the urge to bake and cook really stodgy food. And I am tackling a load of paperwork today.

I have the Christmas tree to get DP to get out of the loft.

I have christmas shopping left to do. And can't do any of it for at least 2 weeks as DP just swapped contracts at work and we are now fortnightly pay instead of weekly. Also darent calculate what pay we will get between now and christmas as I suspect we are going to be short somewhere along the way.

And what presents I have bought I need to wrap and hide.

And if this baby doesn't turn I will be having him in approx 3 weeks and 4 days.

So not being able to walk/stand/be active just isn't an option! As much as I would love to spend the next few weeks watching daytime telly and slobbing out I just don't have the time.

When I have done my paperwork I am going to do a LIST and a PLANNER lol. I always feel better with something to work towards.

Midwife later. Should be interesting. Last time I went she told me baby head down and in the right position. Scan a week later showed him breech. He's been transverse since friday night and is currently trying to kick my fanjo to bits so suspect he's gone back to breech again.

Does anyone know if he does go head down for a scan (got one next monday) but I think he has moved again if they will re-scan? Have been pretty accurate so far about how he is lying and he seems to move around every few days. Just a bit concerned that if he goes head down and they don't book me in for a c section and then he turns before I have him I'm going to have a battle on my hands.

Have also looked at transverse babies and its impossible to deliver one so my main concern is that he will go transverse (he seems to like it there) and then its going to be a mad panic emergancy c section.

haven't been able to keep up with this thread over the weekend- it moves so fast!

Just read that thread about ECV and had a cry- so awful. Must admit, I wasn't sure how I'd feel about an ECV (baby was head down when mw checked last week and I'm hoping he/she stays that way!) I've always thought it would be awful as even when mw feels the baby for position I find it hurts so how would it feel with someone trying to yank them round the other way??

It just seems so unnatural and probably very distressing for baby. I think despite an ELCS not being ideal, it's probably far less stressful for mum and baby.

HOpe those of you who aren't feeling great/are suffering that you feel better soon. Alyssa hope your labour starts properly soon as it sure sounds like your body is trying to get there!! And was it you who mentioned being angry/shouty at kids- can sooo relate to that. I seem to have major preggers rage atm and I just want to scream and shout most of the time!!

the only thing that cheered me up this morning was coming home after food shopping to have a parcel delivered - we won a competition- a fisher price walker and stacking toy for baby so that's nice

oh and lady that's one scary sculpture- lol! I'm sure you don't really look like that!!

Morning all!
Just catching up after my 34 week MW appointment this morning. It was the first time I've had a student nurse in the room and the first time DP has been able to come with me since about 16 weeks, so it ended up being more of an event than usual!
Good news is baby is bang on average for everything as per, and is still head down and ready to engage so I couldn't be happier!
He even gave the MW a swift kick in the head when she was trying to listen to him with the pinard Cheeky bugger!

I'm told I need to sort out my birth plan this week and think about whether I want a natural or managed third stage. Got a rough idea of what's what, but if anyone wants to share their experiences or any tips on writing a birth plan then I'm all ears!

Feather Sending you lots of hugs. You really shouldn't have to be putting up with that sort of stuff whilst pregnant, let alone at this stage! Don't apologise for feeling rubbish, you're allowed to be upset so do whatever you can to cheer yourself up and in the meantime use those pregnancy hormones to either shout or cry at the power company until they sort everything out for you!

Same goes for you Bohemian - play the pregnancy card and either get angry or teary with British Gas until something gets done! That's an awful situation to be in at the best of times, but since you fall into the 'vulnerable' category at the moment it's their job to make sure you're top priority.

Alyssa I really hope things start to speed up for you soon! Maybe join in with everyone else and get bouncing?!

Pistachio I wish I had £1 for every time someone's told me to "get plenty of sleep while you still can" Arghhhhh! I've decided that people either have no idea what it's like or just think they're being funny...
Either way, I just ignore it now but DP has taken to telling people that he's sick of hearing all the negatives and only wants to talk about the happy parts of having a new baby

I thought I was getting over the whole insomnia thing but after getting up for a wee at 3am and lying awake for 2 hours, I'm not so sure... I've ordered a new duvet, pillow and a mattress protector though which should all turn up tomorrow, so we'll see if that makes sleeping any easier...!

Bloody hell, Feather, that is just NOT FAIR. Sorry you're having such an awful time

btw anyone 35 weeks and not done their hospital bag yet? feeling like I really should pull my finger out and get a move on! (only nursery to finish painting and decorating, furniture to move, clothes to wash, moses cot mattress to buy etc etc!...)

its I've had both a natural and managed 3rd stage. I'm still undecided as to what I'll do this time. First time round I was really keen on a natural one but after a while the placenta wasn't budging then the mw started pulling and tugging on it rather forcefully (I told my mw that when I was pregnant 2nd time and she was shocked and said they shouldn't tug on it in case it broke apart!) anyway so that ended in an injection to get it out. So second time I didn't want the discomfort and pain of it not coming out easily so I had the injection straight away. It was much easier and less painful. HOWEVER- I have read there are small risks associated with the injection- i.e. the womb can contract too quickly and retain the placenta before it has a chance to come out. So it's a tough one! (not sure what the exact stats/risks are on that tho)

anyone else have any theories/experiences on this??

oh and btw- to those having their 3rd I'm getting bloody sick and tired of people saying 'you're brave' or 'you're mad' having a 3rd. For gods sake, its not like I'm on my 6th or something?!! It used to be normal to have 3 or 4 and now people look at me like I'm crazy. My poor DH had a few people @ his triathlon club comment and now I think he's gone into a panic thinking what are we doing/are we mad! I'm worried it's making him distance himself from baby- I'm sure it'll all be fine once he/she is here but just frustrates me.

yes and feather sorry you're feeling so crappy too.

feather have some cake
mum I'm 35 weeks and had my bags packed about 2weeks lol that only cos I can go into labour at anytime
itsliz mw went through mine with me last week but I'm going to stick one to the front in like bullets points so they can't miss it! I'm going to have the injection for the placenta. And skin to skin. I want a water birth but I'm quite open minded as I don't know how I'll be. Because ican tire extremely quickly I may have to have stinger painkillers or I may be fine. You just never know :/

Had HV come today. She's lovely went though a few things. (I don't see many people and think I talked to much lol) things in the past can be brought up in pregnancy memories etc and she wants me to know Talgarth she is there and to tell her if I feel down etc. Which nice to know.
She also told me I'm going to be a brilliant mum which was so nice to hear!

Yeh I didn't want the ECV but I definately don't want it know after reading that thread. I find it hurts when me presses too and like someone said it seems really un-natural

I would much rather have a longer recovery with a CS than have a ECV and risk the health I my baby!
They can't see what they're doing either so it's all guess work!

Can a mw tell if I a baby is back to back? I'm worried that baby is (I d

Urgh sorry!

(I don't think she is just been over thinking stuff) lol

Mums popping over shorty ad we are going to wonder around the range. Get me out the house lol.

Hope all those feeling rubbish start to feel better

Bloody hell feather you're really going through it at the moment. Don't feel bad at all for how you're reacting, you deserve a good rant and a cry. Being pregnant is hard enough. Hope you're looking after yourself as best you can.

Agreed Bohemian play the preggas card!

Glad you got some rest whisper and at least it sounds like it's not too serious.

Frouby I so know how you feel. I'm constantly wrestling with myself because I need to rest but I've also got so much to do.

Congratulations to dizzy and glad to hear baby is doing well

I've been feeling really emotion and out of sorts too for the past few days, a lot of mixed feelings. I'm 37wks tomorrow and I know it's not true but I feel like I'm the only one at this stage that isn't having any signs of things happening. I am getting more pressure down low but not dropped or had any change in discharge etc. Just feel like things aren't happening and I really want my baby now!! ...But then on the other hand we're not ready for it to come at all. My hospital bag is only half packed, all the babies furniture etc we have is at my mum's and she's not bringing it til Wednesday. We don't have half the stuff we need, not even sheets for the mattress, car seat or pram. Dp is working so much overtime and wrapping up an old freelance job so has no time to go through the birth plan and I'm starting to panic that I'm going to go into labour and he's not going to have a clue what's going on. Aaaaarrrgh, need to chill my my beans but hormones keep going into overdrive!!

Had a proper fit at our girl cat lastnight as she attacked the boy, ripped the bin apart all over the kitchen and scratch at the beautiful antique doors in the house we're renting. She had her face splashed with cold water and all her front claws clipped off. Feel like a right bitch as it's only because she's frustrated at having to be shut up in the house for a few weeks before we can let them out. I now feel like I'm going to be a shouty, impatient horrible mum. How am I going to cope dealing with a child when I loose my temper so easily with a bloody cat!?

Sorry for the rant when others have much more important things going on! It must be hormones but I can go from crying with happiness to raging with anger, then wallowing in despair in a matter of minutes at the moment! humph!

Well I seem to have shit some miracles today lol.

Done 3 horrible business returns including the vat one which I hate.

Made a list.

Moved sofas around in front room. Don't really like them how they are but it uncovers the radiator this way so hopefully room will be warmer.

Put new voile up in front room so I can bf without half the street watching.

Ordered some new cushion covers for front room from Amazon. 25 pence each ffs! Same ones I keep seeing for a fiver each. Need 7 so would be 35 quid normally. Want a new sofa next year so don't want to spend too much especially as they are likely to get sick, poo, wee and god knows what else on them pretty soon lol.

Also tidied around, done a couple of loads of washing and filled my mat allowance form in. Just need the matb1 form off the midwife later and that can go later.

Feathers it sounds like you and your dh are a bit stressed out. The good thing about having a c section is you will get a couple of days in hospital to concentrate on the baby and you. Hope your dp has booked a couple of weeks off work to pamper you and take care of ds whilst you rest up.

Just contemplating either a cup of tea and the rest of the apple pie I made or starting emptying the dvd cabinets. We don't ever watch them so was going to shove them in a storage box somewhere and use the cabinets to store stuff like nappies and wipes and all the rest of the bits and pieces you want to hand when you have a baby in the house.

Think I might scoff the pie first. For the baby you see lol.

FFS I am so upset. First of all can't find the bloody letter for my ultrasound anywhere (for boob lumps) just vanished in thin air. So been crying uncontrollably about how useless I am for the last hour, picked ds1 up from school and he hit his brother he's on time out and screaming at the top of his lungs. I just feel like walking out the house, fuck the lot of them. Obviously I won't but god....

mum sympathy. I know the bloody feeling. I was ready to lock DS in the car earlier so I could sort some bloody paperwork out in peace without him destroying the place, screaming, rolling on the floor or kicking me. I know he was bored - so was I! - but aaaaaaaaaargh.

British Gas apologise but they cannot make it happen any faster. No matter if I am pregnant - "We cannot simply move appointments around.", and I am not on their super-duper-homecare thing so that makes me ... and I direct quote this "even less of a priority". Charming.

However, Legal and General, our insurance providers have said that they can get someone out tomorrow/Wednesday if the guy we have booked already doesn't show up. DH has earned his brownie points back by being hyper-neurotic about things going wrong back in May by taking out the extended home emergency cover so they can help organise things for us.

Hopefully will have heating by Thursday at the latest - I live in hope. I have three loads of washing ready so I can at least huddle by the tumble dryer and tiny fan heater.

Now all I need to do is try to keep Junior calmer so he will stop beating up my insides and trying to escape through my belly button.

Can you take them to task on Twitter,bohemian? That attitude stinks.

Hope everyone who has been feeling down/hormonal/angry has a relaxing night!!

Just had a cry over the fact that all bras my size are ugly...im 19 i dont want to be wearing a bra that looks like something my nan will wear!! Iv bort some nursing bras but i need normal bras anyway just cant find any anywhere it seems if you are not a DD or less then they assume you dont care what a bra looks like!

To make matters worse for the past two days i keep feeling like im going to wet myself from the pressure of babies head and i need a wee every half hour now:(

Did someone else ask the other day about sharp pains through their frouf? Had quite a few of those today.

Sorry you're having a hard time feather bohemian and mum hope things get better soon.

Went shopping with mum & MIL today, I am exhausted we were there nearly 5hours- with a good lunch stop. One hip is aching and baby feels heavier lower down other than that feel pretty good, got baby a few bits and treated myself

chelsea Figleaves and Bravissimo are your friend... I passed the DD line at 15 and am positively evangelical about comfy and gorgeous undies!

Omg cramps if your not gonna get worse or come in any frequency then fuck off

itsliz I have a gym ball Hun but I've only been rolling my hips around so I'm gonna bounce like mad tonight lol.

I sympathise too mum yesterday I could've done the same thing.

chelsea mothercare has some ok ones in hunny.

bohemian that is rediculous, you shouldn't have to be in any special thing for them to do there job and I agree......twitter trash them lol.

Ill have a better catch up when I get home as I'm on my phone and can't go very far back.

mrs I think that may have been me lol but I can't remember.
Got sharp pains again now but like really low. Can you tell if baby is engaged? I'm not sure but mum says it looks like my belly has dropped. Got mw tomoz so hopefully she will tell me.
I thought I was supposed to have baby brain... Mum only went and left her handbag in tesco! Lol maybe it's rubbed off on her lol.

Hope those having crappy days have a better evening xx

I've noticed my bump has dropped too. Well DP noticed and the MW today said baby was 2 fifths whatever the hell that means. I suppose it means it is a bit in the right place but not completely? Peanut feels a lot lower though and getting more head butting of my cervix which isn't a pleasant experience!