Due in August - part 6

[sarahlou1uk]

thought I'd start one off girls (and Salamander!)

I have learned that lesson Olivo, and I always choose an end space now so that I can definitely get out/in the car!

Olivo you poor thing!! Have you recovered from your unfortunate incident?

Purple - I couldnt wear one of those braces right now! i can barely bring myself to get dressed!

Pink - good luck with your scan! Hope your placenta is behaving itself!

BHM - Sal is good to me like your husband. I have a fan I take from room to room with me, and one that is always on my bedside table so at night there are two fans pointed at the bed. Poor Sal says he gets totally blown away but he knows I couldnt cope without it! I'm so you are getting a car with a/c!

Frodo - glad they werent stretch marks! Let us know when you have got your fan!

Aussimama - that's cute! Kids are so much fun when they arent being little tyrants!

Phew! Wow I was determined to remember all the things I was thinking of saying while I was reading all the posts.

Had our first parentcraft class tonight - it was good. I know this might sound foolish but I am not really scared of a 'normal' labour. I am TERRIFIED of any complications. Just wish I could fast forward a few weeks!

Morning all....I've been putting off posting anything for a while cos all i want to do is winge. One last winge then i will promise to be positive. ANKLES!!! Got in the bath last night and tried to kneel - OMG it was like when you try to make balloon models - my limbs so engorged it was not possible. My skin is like sausage skin with all the meat sizzling and swelling inside - what can i do???? burst into tears like a big wuss thats what.
Anyway scan tomorrow...do you think they'll try to imprison me at the hospital because of my ankes/feet. Somebody should apprehend me - its criminal. Should be a tad cooler today - all enjoy .x

Morning everyone hope your all ok

Lol at Olivo's incident on the car park, I've done that too, its so embarassing isnt it? My parking has gone awol noe and have decided to start parking over the lines so nobody can get near me lol, I do it while nobody is looking though .

Know what you mean Eeny about being scared of complications more than normal birth itself as our bodies cope with labour but we tend to panic at the mention of any complication dont we? I know I'll cry if they say baby is stuck or in distress and then go into panic mode and think the worst?

Lol Bumble at sausage skin! Good to know we are all feeling similar then as my skin feels like its gonna split on my legs and feet...but mine look more like uncooked sausages - white n pasty with hint of pink! mmmm

Managed to have a decent kip last night we put the fan on a stool at end of the bed so can feel the full force and also slept with wet cold flannel on my pillow - worked a treat! (Saw the tips on GMTV yest morn lol!)

hi ya not gonna say much so hear goes

had a lovely day with dh yesterday and had second parentcraft class which was much better

have booked to see mw tomorrow so i can discuss my hormones as they have taken over

glad evereyone is ok

booby hope your hormones calm down - if your MW gives you any advice please pass it on to me!

bumble - sorry about the ankles!! you made me laugh with your description though.

BHM - the problem is I am planning on giving birth in a MW unit, not a hospital. So if anything goes wrong mid-labour it will mean an ambulance journey. I am really scared about this and am having trouble coping with the idea. I wish someone could just reassure me there will be no complications.

It rained here for like 3 mins - hard but then it stopped. I want A LOT more, I want it to rain all day, for the rest of the week for that matter so it cools down.

Eeny, only advice I've been given is to keep as mobile as possible and walk around as this gets baby into best position and also try to relax, not sure if I'll be doing either tbh. I definatley dont want to have epidural as I think this may lead to intervention which could cause the complications but at the end of the day everybody's birth experience is going to be totally different and we've just got to go with the flow I suppose. Let nature take its course and pray! I'm not allowing myself to worry about the birth as I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. I'm sure you will be in good hands and if you need that trip to hopsital it will only be for the benefit of you and little Alex.
Sorry I think I rambled far too much then oops!

Booby glad your 2nd class was better! Hope you are more positive now.

No rain this way

o no, i don't want rain! if it's hot i can go to the beach and swim, but when it rains i'm stuck in the house and it's still all hot and muggy... ick!

had hosp app this morning, long tedious and once again no proper answers to anything! i might have an infection of some kind as there were leucocytes(sp?) in my urine, they're doing more tests to find out. placenta has moved thank god and baby is well down but we didn't get to see anything on the screen as it was one of those little portable scanners and the screen was small and filthy and the room was too bright so didn't get the look we were hoping for . differant doctor this time and he also made a very random comment on baby's size 'he's a fine size' (fine in ireland often being used to mean big) but didn't say what size that was. last time from 30+ weeks i had somene tell me roughly what size dd was everytime i went in. especially when my dates could be miles out i'd like some indication of how big he is as it might mean he'll be a bit early!

anyway, moan over... how is everyone? booby, sorry your still feeling hormonal pet, hope things get better soon.

how did your therapy go yesterday melsy? and arabicas scan?

nice to know other people are having trouble getting into cars, it's people parking next to us so that i can't get past the mirrors that drives me up the wall, one of our neighbours keeps doing it and i have to walk the long way round the back of the car everytime... v. embarrassing!

glad your placenta has moved PT.

Arabica, how has your scan gone?

Feel very dizzy and tired if I walk over half a mile. Feel like an OAP.

know what you mean luna, decided to stroll with dd from hospital to the landlords office to pay the rent after my appointment, it's only 1/4 mile away and i almost collapsed before i got there! although dd wanting to be carried most of the way didn't help!

Luna, I cant even walk around asda for 5 minutes without getting backache and feeling like I need to sit down! My right ankle looks like its swallowed a golf ball and it is achey today! Didnt think it would come to this!

Take my hat off to any of you lot who are coping with a toddler too! PT how did you manage to carry your DD all that way? A carrier bag of strawbs n cream was bad enough for me lol! Nice to know your baba is well head down and placenta moved out the way, bet your glad!

BHM, carry a while, let her walk for a while, carry a while, let her walk a while... we don't get there fast but we get there

HI everyone!

booby - sorry you're feeling so hormonal - hope your mw gives you some good advice.
glad I'm not the only one struggling to stagger around at the mo - had to very patiently explain to some students why i wouldnt be able to do the school's 10 mile sponsored walk next week

another embarrassing episode at the supermarket today - parked the car well away from any walls and other cars but nearly fell into the freezer leaning over to reach for something where has my brain gone? I'm going to have to employ a personal shopper or something - cant humiliate my self any more

we had big rain overnight so its nice and cool - well, 24 - today even work is bearable!!

glad to hear your placentas moved pt

its rained all day hear weve had thunder and lightening and everything

i must say im shocked my elective c section thread has made it to the home page lots of good advice from both sides along the lines of vag births are normal you'll be fine or ihad an horrendous birth c sections are fab and much better

ive almost 99% sure the only way ill get my hormones and feelings under control will be to arrange a c section i then have a definate day to focus on and no what ifs to stay up worrying about

much of my fear im sure is from the fact im under the perinnatal mental health team and if i go there on monday in the state im in i just know they will want me in hospital for obs after ive had baby they will want me to go on antinatal depressants which means i cant breast feed i just need to sort my head out

sorry to burden you all

booby - sorry to hear you are so worried. havent seen your thread but will look in a sec. remember we are here if you need to sound off/ rant/ panic etc
take care x

thanks olivio i feel that random its hard to explain must say tho my dh is being fabulous very very understanding

Olivio...Sorry but PMSL @ you nearly falling in the freezer (i know how you feel lol)

PT...I know how you are feeling too with the coping with the toddler, my dd is 2.6YO and she fell asleep on the sofa last night (the heat and bouncing on a bouncy castle for 2 hrs lol) and ended up carrying her up to bed, almost killed me!! 2 and a half stone in weight and terrace stairs - not a good combination

Boobylicious...I can't imagine how you are feeling what is it about having a vaginal birth that is worrying you? I am fretting about having a elective section, even more so after reading that thread about the mother who had a section with twins who collapsed and died on the ward.

If you want someone to offload to or just chat to email me on [email protected] I am a good listener and it may help to have someone neutral to rant and chat to.

Booby - will check out your other thread. Can you explain what exactly you are afraid of? Is it the unpredictability?

Olivo you and shopping just dont mix at the moment!

Pink glad your placenta has moved!

I cant work out exactly what it means when someone on MN says 'parp'

I gather it is sort of derogatory but other than that?? anybody care to explain?

Evening all hope your all ok, just sat in front of window on pc-only time i get when dh isn't here-waiting for him to return from his first driving lesson!!!! I'm like an anxious mother waiting to see how her little boy got on with his first day at school....i'm pathetic!
Booby-sorry your all over the shop at the mo, i'm on fluoxetine at the min and G.P has said he will change my meds about 2 weeks before due date so i can start on anti depressants that will also allow me to breasfeed. Can't remember what they are called but i'll keep you posted!

Eeny i haven't a bloomin clue what half the abbreviations on this thing mean, i like to just make my own up..

Anyone else keep getting stuck in the bath? Keep finding myself in a half sitting half lying down position and then that's it! I can't move...have to then lay down flat and roll on to my side...not very clever with a deep bath, i'm going to chuffing drown one of these days!

Still not got a fan because been lugging loads of shite to the tip again i've filled around 30 sacks of soil today and now achy and knackered!

Many posters have particular 'pet hates' or 'hobbyhorses' - subjects guaranteed to wind them up. Only example I can think of is hunkermunker and breastfeeding - if anyone has an encounter with an HV who doesn't support breastfeeding well, for example, and they post about it, then Hunkermunker is liable to go off on one. In this instance, she can employ the use of 'parp' to alert us all to the fact that things are about to get heated. Does that help?

It made a first appearance a few months ago. I think it was Cod's idea. I'll go and see if I can find the original thread...

Typical - no-one's posted on the thread for 3 hours, and then I cross posts! Can't find the original parp thread, but it's been in use since before Oct 05 apparently. Which is longer than I realised.

ok my main reason of anxiousness that ive amnaged to identify is ........

control

if my mw was in the room when i gace birth i feel i would be confident to tackle anythign as she is on my level and very understanding
other wise the very thought of getting to hospital not being able to use pool means active birth using pethidine and gas and air or epidural stuck on a bed and then episotomy and either forceps or ventouse

i just dont want all the what ifs im sturggling coping with the very idea if you see what i mean and fact icould be in pai for such a long time is scaring the shit out of me and makes me feel very vunerable

i beleive if i can negoiate a c section i will have a day and a time to focus on then all i worry about is looking after baby

my family are very supportive apart from my mother who thinks im being LAZY and doesnt understand

i feel i will lose it if i have a bad experience and with me being under the perinatal health team they will fill me full of drugs and i will be a numb mummy which i dont want id like to go into this feeling empowered and in control
not thr nervous scared anxious wet mess ive turned into who i must say i dont recognise

sorry if ive gone on maybe this explains how feel

sorry to be a downer