Due in August - part 6

[sarahlou1uk]

thought I'd start one off girls (and Salamander!)

Have you seen the MW today, or is that tomorrow?

no its tomorrow as she is only at the surgery one afternoon a week and i never can get hold of her any other time and its only a 20 min appt

booby please dont worry about being a downer! Really we all care about you and want to be here for you. I can understand how you can feel that way. I dont think its lazy at all I think it's scared. Have you decided you def. want a c-section, and if so are they willing to give you one electively? Is there any way of getting your MW to promise to be there and/or hiring your own pool to be used at home or in the hosp?

Purple thanks for explaining the parp thing! It's a maze sometimes as Frodo seems to agree!

Found it - that's tomorrow.

You do seem to be worrying about things that might not happen, but we all know that they do happen for some women, so it's natural to worry about the what ifs.

I think if your midwife supports a request for a CS then you should just go for it. It's great that your family are being supportive. FWIW, I don't think opting for CS is being lazy - I think it might make afterwards harder work because the recovery is longer. But that's me. Your mother will cope. Once she sees her grandchild she won't care how it came out.

I do feel quite limited in advice-giving though, and you have to talk everything through properly with the MW. Do you have stuff written down so you don't forget to discuss it tomorrow?

there will be no named mw and i cant have a home birth as im under consultant led care

btw hope im not scaring anyone on here

Booby - from what I have read on your other thread and what you have put today, IMO you would be better off booking a cs. I don't say this lightly, but as you say, control is what you need and if the factors aren't in place, you will only panic more. Yes, the recovery rate is slower than a vaginal delivery but if it will mean that you can 'relax' and get on with enjoying your new baby, then go for it! Don't worry what other people say - it's your choice.

Hi everyone! Gosh its busy on here....

Right, anyone else getting period like pains? They are coming when i have a BH but very painful. Feel really hormonal and keep panicking when dh goes off to work every morning, when i walk i have to stop as it feels like somethings gonna give and i feel sicky with it. Don't remember any of this from ds's birth but i have actually forgotten everything about it.

And i have fat elephant-like ankles!

Oh has anyone heard from Arabica? I know she was having her scan today and wondered how she got on....

PT, what did they say about the leucocytes? I had them last visit but all they said was to drink water....

Hope everyone else is doing ok in this heat.

SnowBoo, I'm having period pains with my cramps and I assume these are Bracken Hicks, as my mum always had painful ones too.

Snow, nurse said it could be sign of infection and made me give another sterile urine sample to be sent to lab. doctor said it's probably nothing, happens to loads of pregnant women, drink loads of water. so no help there then! will check on google as it's annoying me now

olivo, pmsl at your supermarket difficulties!

Snow, just found this - 'Leucocytes are white cells and these are usually seen in the urine as a response to an infection. Other findings that might suggest infection are blood in the urine or protein. Leucocytes may be present in the urine as a result of vaginal infection or bladder inflammation, and often no cause is found. It is normal for a sample to be sent to the laboratory to look for infection in this situation, but if the test has come back negative there is no reason to be concerned. Urinary infection is common in pregnancy as a result of the effects of the pregnancy hormones relaxin and progesterone. Both of these cause relaxation of the smooth muscle in the urinary tract so that the tract dilates. This effect makes infection much more common than usual. If you have symptoms of urinary infection, such as frequency of passing urine, or pain or stinging when you pass urine, or vaginal symptoms such as itching or heavy discharge, you should let your GP know, so that you can be examined and investigated if necessary. Your GP or midwife will test your urine again anyway when you are next seen. If you are well at the present time there is no need to worry'

Hello all.
Am pleased to report a v positive hospital visit for once. Baby still has far too much fluid, but the good news is the head circumference hasn't increased. There is therefore no need for an early delivery and I can go ahead with 27 July. They also think it less likely now that the baby will need a shunt. However, have been told that fluid levels and head circumference can increase in last 2 or 3 weeks. They will whisk baby off to special care v quick after the birth for a thorough going-over but I will be able to hold him/her and say hello provided its breathing is OK!
Really pleased, plus my consultant says he thinks this may well be just one of those cases where there is v close monitoring after the birth but no developmental delay ever detected. Even better news--no more scans! I don't need to return to the fetal medicine dept unless it's to show them the baby!
If we are having big sausage legs competition, btw, mine are defo a prize-winning super-salami. They don't even bother to go down at night any more!

excellant news arabica!

Awww thank god Arabica , everything goes ok now , but still sending positive and heaing vibes. xxx

Morning all

WINGE WARNING, WINGE WARNING , WINGE WARNING , WINGE WARNING !!!!!

Have got up in a really bad bad mood , not helped or even started by the fact that dd started crying in winge mode at 7am. Shes now in the most horrid way and wont stop asking for HER telly ,and throwing herself on sofa in a temper. I just dont want her google eyed at it all day. It could also be that it looks like a really grey stagnant day. OOOH am I cheering anyone up yet ???!!!

I also spent the night tossing and turning in much the same way as Booby , so I know how you feel hun , I really do. I just couldnt face the prospect of a cs. Im really not the best to talk about these things, considering my past experiences.

How do I lift this dark mood today Im so zonked and achey, my feet and ankles have also swollen up really bad and they hurt and are itchy.It seems that we are having the same symptoms alot of us,so mut be a beyond 34+ weeks thing but Im still worried about it.

oh and Ive just relented and put cbeebes on , what a rubbish mum Im being right now , as must try and do online shopping before all the delivery slots get booked. I really have left it late this week.

see I warned you !!! This poor me feeling is really tiresome for me , let alone others. I was doing so well the last year , now Im just miserable.

Arabica - excellent news!! So pleased for you.

Booby - have had a good look at your thread, and I have to say it has become a bit more about the pro-vaginal delivery people vs the pro c-section people. Just remember that this birth is about YOU, your baby & your husband, and your mental health is an absolute priority. I am so pleased you have a supportive DH, it can make all the difference. For what it's worth, if you have his support (and maybe the support of another non-judgemental family member?) whatever you choose to do will work out just fine. Hang on in there & take strength from whatever you need to.

really glad it was good news Arabica.

melsy, sorry for your crap day - i'm worried about the swelling thing too, its my hands mostly, i'm only 33 weeks today - my doctor said that if you're the kind of person whose feet swell on a flight, not to worry too much but to keep an eye on it but I'm still scared they'll find something in my wee or my blood to suggest otherwise. 2nd anti-d next thurs so i guess they'll do more bloods.

yuo'll be pleased to hear I havent been to the supermarket today - dh is reluctant to let me go agian on my own after my recent escapades - for once, i think he might be right....

should I be having BH by now? not sure if i have had any - have had what feels like a stitch a few times - is that it? its usually when i walk too far or too quickly though.

Hi Everyone hope your all well

Olivo I havent had any BH's yet, if I had I havent noticed them? And I'm nearly 36 weeks. My bump still looks very high and getting loads of kicks to the ribs and something like a bum sticks out a lot at top of my bump so I think baby is still head down thank god!

Arabica, great news on your scan hun, so happy that you will get to hold him first too, bet your feeling more positive now x

Sorry your having a crappy day again Melsy and stop putting yourself down chick! Bet your a fab mom, you cant be expected to do everything while your feeling like shite and heavily pregnant and looking after a little one. Hope your day gets better x

Booby I cant really give you any advice on what your going through but try to stay positive, you seem to focusing on a lot of negative's at the moment. You may go on to have a fantastic birth experience and wonder what you were worrying about? If you want to go for an elective CS then you go girl, dont let anybody else put you off what you want to do as its your body at the end of the day and nobody should presure into doing something your not comfortable with.

Loving my new car - feels like I'm driving a bus lol (switched from Ford Ka to a renault Scenic).

Is anybody experiencing pain in between their chest if you lie on your back for a while and try to get up?? Only happens if I'm slouched on settee in a sitting far back position or lying on my back? Its been happening for the last few weeks just hope its nowt serious!

thank you all for your postive comments they are on what i was asking about my mental health not my choice and my thread has turned into vaginal birth is best and that was not the issue
yet again

but thatnk you all arabica im so glad things are looking up at mw later so should be able to make my mind up on a plan of action to avoid meds so wish me luck

good luck booby hope it's useful xxxx

Arabica I'm so happy for you that you had such good news!!! You deserve getting some of that! Will your DH be able to enjoy the rest of this pregnancy more? Was he with you at the scan?

BHM I havent experienced the pain you described although if I am lying back I find it nigh on impossible to get up again! But I should think we are all like that these days!

Olivo - I have had a few BH but that's it.

I am now having to sleep sitting up which I am a little bitter about. My heartburn when I lay down is SO bad I can not bear it. I keep gaviscon by the bed and drink it all night but lately it isnt even taking the edge off in the middle of the night so I have to fall asleep propped up on loads of pillows. I just think it's ridiculous!

Great News Arabica!!!!

Am enjoying my pregnancy today for the first time in 36 weeks! Well, except for the swollen legs/face/arse/ankles/boobs, that is.
Melsy, I'm going to put my therapist-in-training hat on here. I think pregnancy really throws up a lot of emotional stuff (especially when there are absolutely bucket-loads of hormones around as there are for all of us right now) and it sounds like there is lots going on for you about being a competent mother. You don't have to be perfect, you know....just 'good enough'. There's nothing wrong with a bit of CBeebies (or hell, a whole week of it) when the weather's overcast and unpredictable, you're havily pg and just can't do the more hands-on things. Take it from a fellow neurotic Jewish girl. You're doing just fine!

Well done Arabica, I'm so pleased for you!

Booby, the thought of a CS terrifies me, but I think it's what's right for you. You need to think what's best for you - if you can't eliminate your anxiety now, you'll be at real risk for severe PND after....

Eeny - this might sound silly, but have you tried those soft mint rennies? They do more for me than gaviscon. Other than that, if you are scoffing fruit or fruit juice or similar before bed might not be helping too.

olivo - it sounds just like stitch tbh. I never had braxton hicks with first pg, but have had one or two severe ones this time where I thought I was in actual labour. Water makes it worse for some reason.

melsy - sorry you are having a rough morning. My ds's behaviour has gone skewif - everything's 'mine' he demands tv food toys and its driving me nuts. On the upside, today is my last day minding my two under-5s, which I'm somewhat sad about as I've had them for ages now, but I'm looking forward to a little bit more peace. Although panicking about money......

Trying to get hold of as many baby hangers as I can. Bought all ds's clothes when he was born (well before) in Next sale, and they come with the hangers attached. Haven't been to next sale yet obviously (I'd imagine it's soon???) but as I've been given tons and bought lots off some friends with girls I have no hangers as I can't find what I did with ds's! Plus I guess whatever I buy will need to stay on the hanger....

Eeny, yes DH came too & was v relieved and happy. One of the doctors was from Cairo and asked if we'd been there. I said I hadn't but my DH had spent a lot of time in the Nile (denial)!!!! LOL It's the way I tell 'em.
Afterwards I think we were both a bit shocked. We were going to go for lunch together and then we both had the same thought--because we have been so scared we haven't bought the baby anything. So off to Ikea for chest of drawers, a comfy chair for me to sit on and bf, and, er, a few packets of smoked salmon.

Oh sorry Melsy, I also meant to add that your LO will have picked up on the fact that family life is going to change--they might be too young to understand exactly how, but they do sure as hell get it that something's up! Most of my friends' older children became extra challenging in the final weeks of their pregnancies. Even my DS who is pretty laid-back, has thrown some wobblies. Although he did enjoy his trip to ikea yesterday. He said to me this morning, 'I love you even more than ikea mummy!'