February 2014 - Part 4 Beginning to bloom (hopefully)

[ChocoFrog]

New thread and ever hopeful as we move into second trimester that we'll all feel wonderful soon...

[Camwombat]

Harlem, thats great news, fingers crossed. We sold our house at the end of June and after a bidding war chose the one with no chain (who also put offer in first) so we have one person each side of us in chain. We move next week, will be nice not to be moving so far into a pregnancy (was almost 8 months last time). Good luck I hope you get it.

[misskatamari]

Just seen this on the pregnancy board - www.chinesegenderchart.info/2013-chart.html

According to it I'm having a girl - but active scan baby theory of ours says boy. OOoOooh which will be right?

[Bearfrills]

Chinese Gender said DS should be a DD and DD should be a DS

For me Active Scan Theory(TM) says boy, so does nub theory but skull theory and sibling hair theory both say girl.

I think there needs to be a definitive theory!

[misskatamari]

Lol oh my what is sibling hair theory?

[Bearfrills]

It goes off the hairline of your previous child, if the hair at the back of their neck is straight across then your next baby will be the same gender, if its pointed then you'll have the opposite gender. My aunt swears by it and was right for five of her six children (all except her first baby, no sibling to check for the first baby!), she's been inspecting DD and reckons I'm having another girl, she also predicted DD would be a girl after checking the back of DS' neck.

[misskatamari]

Wow! I've never heard of that one

[212VIP]

bear was really intrigued by the above post but having checked my two...
DS1 has straight hairline.
DS2 is a girl, who has a straight hairline also.
Gutted.
I have no idea/instinct about what DC3 is. Didn't with my either two but we found out at the 20 week scan with both.
I don't want to know this time, so hopefully (if I get my HB) DH can tell me the sex. Except he's still arguing that he wants to find out...

[Sassy20]

I now really want to leave work and go to nursery to get dd to check her hairline!

[marzipanned]

Ooh, Chinese Gender and Active Scan Theory both suggest girl for me. Tried Nub theory but couldn't figure out what the heck I was looking at, if anything! No previous sibling.

Could technically find out this weekend at a private scan...

Off to the doctor soon, fingers crossed he writes me another prescription. I had a horrible dream during my nap time this morning in which he laughed at me and told me that as I wasn't throwing up in the surgery I didn't need more drugs.

laura on another thread here a woman said how she heard a couple having sex on the recovery ward after birth!! So 10 months is doable...

[laura0007]

Oh my god marzi! That's awful! Surely it must hurt down there for a while!!!

[marzipanned]

I would imagine! And I'd have thought that for him it would feel a bit like shaking a stick in a bucket!

[laura0007]

Lol! Well I'd imagine that mine will shrink back to normal size straight away, ill have no stitches or piles or anything gross and ill be back at work within the hour so you never know!

[Bearfrills]

I was ahem back to 'business' two weeks after having DS and that was with stitches too. I'd stopped bleeding (only bled for 8 days), MW said the stitches were all dissolved after a week and that it was up to us when to start again.

With DD is was seven weeks before I even contemplated it and eight before we did it. She was an EMCS and I was far too tender around the incision to want to do any sort of funny business plus I bled for six whole weeks afterwards which put paid to me thinking "oh they'll suction most of that out while they're in there".

This is our last baby so DH is getting no loving whatsoever until I'm on the strongest pill possible and he has shares in Durex :o

[jazzcat28]

marzipanned that made me at my desk as I read that!

Just had awful moment at work. I run a project team embedded in a client's office and we have been careful to keep my news quiet so I can tell the client in my own time. The client team consists of 2 senior managers and a support admin lady, who I work closely with. I had a meeting with said lady this morning at which my bump was obvious so told her, but asked her to keep it to herself until I had a chance to tell snr bosses. Before I even got back to my desk she had phoned them and told them! Just had one of them appear at my desk and congratulate me. I am so that she didn't acknowledge my request to keep it quiet for a few hours and also a bit as to my client it now seems like I've mismanaged the whole announcement. Grrr!

Glad I bought some of my randomly baked fruit cake to work today, gonna need it!

[Bearfrills]

Sometimes I long for ye olde days of no career choice except being a housewife because working while pregnant is so much of a minefield at times.

I had to ring in for emergency leave yesterday as my lovely mum, who minds the kids while I work, was poorly. I couldn't get hold of FIL, my friends local enough to have them were either out or at work themselves, I even rang the crèche where we put them for a few days when my mum was on holiday (for forty five fecking quid a day!) and they only had space for DS not DD due to ratios. I felt like a total shit ringing for leave because of a childcare issue and I'm dreading going in today.

I've got them sorted for the rest of the week (by which point mum should be okay) but I can't go on the staff night out tonight as DH is working until 8 and we've only got childcare until 7, so I'll look antisocial too.

And I still need to have that meeting with my manager about twilight shifts which will be awful as even though I offered a compromise of starting/finishing twenty minutes earlier to catch that bus home I now have a list of reasons for why I actually don't want to work twilight shifts at all as they're not sustainable. I feel like the reasons I have won't be seen as important but they are to me and as I'm still in my six months probation I think I might not be made permanent when I bring all this up.

On a nicer note though for all I didn't plan to be off yesterday I had the most perfect day. Know when nothing really major happens but for some reason it's just a wonderful, golden day? The kids were beautifully behaved, we went to the park in the village and all my friends were there and so were the kids' friends. We had lunch at the coffee lounge then met up with DH on his way home from work and all walked home together. He cut the grass while I made tea then I had a big bubble bath with the DCs and once they were asleep DH produced a Belgian Bun from his work bag for me and we cuddled on the sofa to watch TV. It was magic :)

[littlestgirlguide]

With DD I worked full time until 13 days before my due date and she arrived 9 days late. it was very hard by the end as I was so tired, and with hindsight maybe I should have stopped a bit sooner. This time I am stopping 3 weeks before due date, and I am hoping to be able to relax a bit - only work 4 days a week now and DD will be at school. Maybe it will happen, maybe it won't!

What does everyone think to Edward as a name? There's literally 50 or more girls names I like, virtually no boys names and the ones I do like I can't use!

[Shropshiremummy2bLaFay]

bear "I ONLY BLED FOR EIGHT DAYS" What?!!! In what way, shape or dimension is bleeding for eight days ok?! Am I totally naive? I'm so enjoying the life of no periods, is that the payback? Yeeesh.

littlest love Edward. Mainly because I like Ned. On a Shrewsbury note, you know H&M have had those sale rails downstairs FOR EVER? It was only yesterday that I realised two of the rails were purely maternity! I just assumed all the maternity was upstairs full stop. You're probably a clever and resourceful girl guide who has already fathomed that, but just in case. There's approx three hundred pairs of floral shiny leggings taking up most of the rail, but I'm sure you are capable of fashioning them into a shelter for the night.

Of course assuming you really are/were a guide. And that bearfrills really is a bear. And that laura0007 really is James bonds dyslexic twin sister.

[Thingymajigs]

8 days is really good. I'd consider that an average period. I remember bleeding for a month. Wasn't helped by the left over placenta though. There were so many things I just wasn't prepared for. Can't believe I voluntarily decided to do it again really. It must be worth it.

[CubanoHabana]

Pmsl at James Bond dyslexic twin!

[Bearfrills]

Oh yes Shropshire, the payback for nine months of no periods is the mother of all periods ...

I really wasn't prepared for it and didn't know about lochia at all until an antenatal class at 32 weeks when the MW discussed pads, post birth bleeding, etc. it was like being twelve again: "I'm gonna do what?! For that long?!"

Top tip for the first few days: two pillow sized maternity pads and granny knickers two sizes too big. It'll make sense in 5-6 months.

[HarlemWobble]

LOL at your 'stick in a bucket' remark Marzipanned. I just snorted lunch over my desk!

Jazz your admin support lady sounds like a right twonk! Enjoy your fruit cake, and don't give her any!!

Sorry about work Bear, but your unplanned day off does sound idyllic!

Littlest I also love the name Edward. It's on my shortlist, but I'm yet to convince DH

Still no news on the fecking house!! Surely it can only be bad news, and the coward estate agent is scared to call and tell me incase I go all crazy pregnant hormonal on him.

[jazzcat28]

Lol at James Bonds sister!

Edward is a great name but having one in my family I'm biased... Usually shortened to Ed or Eddie.

Scared about the bleeding post birth - sounds like nappy duties for myself and baby required!

[Camwombat]

littlest, I like Edward and is our DS middle name, it didnt work as a first name for him, bit of a pain we used both names first time round. we are back to square one now.

[gnittinggnome]

littlest another + for Edward, all the shortenings are great (including "Tedward" which I really like) so if that's your only choice, I think it sounds good!

[laura0007]

Hey Shropshire you cheeky mare! I am not his sister... I am his cousin!

Plus I'm pretty sure the dreams I've had about Daniel Craig would get me arrested if I really was his twin!!!!