October 2013 - Scans, re-scans and anterior placentas!

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New thread :)

Absolutely mrso DH loved doing his feed as sometimes the dads get left out a bit when you breast feed I think. It was good bonding time for them and I'd pump milk as quickly as possible and then get to bed.

Hi all, do you mind if I join you? 19 weeks today, due 26th October and have got my 20 week scan on the 10th - so excited! Hope you're all feeling well and happy :)

Hello Hannah

Hi Hannah welcome to this very chatty October bus :-)

Please can I join too! Found this thread yesterday. Lots of very helpful tips and nice to hear others experiences. Currently 21+6 with DC1 and she's a girl.

Welcome ruby. Us that are having girls are a bit outnumbered here.

Hello and welcome to you too Hannah.

Welcome Ruby :-)

my anterior placenta is high, and have start feeling movements low down now.

had a barny with H who is being a f*^ twat. so feeling shit, eating a packet of choclate fingers followed by a packet of jammie dodgers :(

May I also join you ladies? Have just found this section of mumsnet, have got some reading to do now:)

I'm 20+1 today, EDD October 19, will have my scan on the 10th of June. All of my friends and relatives are convinced it's a girl, we'll see if the scan confirms that:)

Welcome Hannah, Ruby and Audrey

Welcome to everyone whos new looking forward to getting to know you all.

Also just come on to complain about DH being an arse GTbaby hope your ok. Apparently because Im "struggling" with being pregnant and working and having a 2 yr old everything has gone on to him... by that he means hes worked from home twice this week to take DS to nursery, went and got takeaway one night and theres been no laundry done all week because Im too tired to do it. So angry and hurt, he seems to think that everyone else whos pregnant is running around fine and Im just pathetic, please reassure me other people are tired and achey too?! if not then give me a "gentle" virtual slap and tell me to man up. Sorry for rant feel really isolated and dont really have any freinds I would speak to about this in RL.

Lovely to hear about more positive scans, and yey for baby finally co operating textbook

Hope everyone else has had a lovely sunny Saturday.

Welcome to all the new people!

Hell no pinkbuttons - you're not pathetic at all. I too have a two year old,work out of the house 3 nights a week,have full on days with my son,lots of hospital appointments recently,and run a small ironing business from home the nights I'm not out at work. So my partner has our son three nights per week - dinner,bath one or two nights & bedtime & the general tidy up,sometimes he does a bit of laundry (after some very serious crunch time talks in Dec),but it's too much to think he might push the hoover round the lounge occasionally.

He gets a bit annoyed that I am achey & utterly knackered too but now that one of my legs has started randomly collapsing underneath me for the last couple of days,I think he might be feeling a little more understanding.

It's so hard when the men start up the competitive tiredness shit. The number of times we had huge rows when our son was little-r (he didn't sleep well til about 17 months due to eczema/dietary issues) was unbelievable & I still think he's lucky he didn't get kicked the fuck out! His life didn't change very much during my pregnancy,or even after the birth - since he & his mother when she visits were able to totally ignore me doing everything & they would even sit on their bums watching tv while I put William to bed (which took HOURS) and then continue to ignore the fact that I was rinsing out the bath - took ages due to epaderm all over toys,support seat etc,washing up after dinner,cleaning the kitchen,taking laundry in & out of the garage etc etc. At the same time I'd be the one running up & downstairs to resettle the baby.

Sorry that turned into a massive irrelevant rant,I just wanted you & gt to know that you are not alone - although things are massively improved here after I really laid it on the line (after almost two years) that I was sick of doing everything & being responsible for everything. We did almost split up. I actually got to the point that I said I thought we should split up & that I thought we were setting a terrible example of a relationship for William. After that,we have really worked at things & clearly life is a lot better (or I wouldn't be pregnant!). So just hope that gives you hope that some clear communication can really help. Hugs to everyone struggling.xx

Pink. Pretty much the same thing. Thing is with SPD I'm useless. I do as much as I can because he doesn't!
I don't do it all because I'm in pain. I ask him for help. Only reason he does laundry is when i say "lo is running out of clothes" Argh. Wanker. I could give a million other eg of how exactly he is a prat. But I'm trying to calm down. Grateful that he is on a night shift.

Men don't get it. They are stupid. Other preg ladies run around doing things because their men help them! They give them foot rubs and massages so they are well rested. Well that's what I would say to your P.

Mmm,a massage would be awesome about now!

Definitely not the only one feeling tired and a bit useless sometimes pink. Luckily my DH has been really supportive. Only the odd gentle encouragement to do some exercise! Just mentioned this to DH, he said they should read pregnancy for dads is they understand how hard it is for us.

Had a busy weekend so far. On Friday in your neck of the woods, Clapham, for a Vietnamese meal with friends. Then walked around Richmond park with MIL yesterday while the men played golf (!) before they took us to dinner and mark knopfler concert in the Albert hall which my little bean enjoyed with lots of kicking. I was so relieved as it haven't moved at all all day and I was just starting to convince myself that it had died. Does anyone else do this?

MIL did the usual moaning about the state of our front garden, that we need to sort the ivy growing out the back of our house, that we should edge our borders better, that we need to buy different grass shearer things, the types of clothes pregnant people wear these days (too tight, smocks more elegant), that we need to declutter our bathroom and build better storage, clear the lime scale from the shower curtain and not worry about toxic chemicals, that I now have a nice figure and hopefully my bust won't disappear again afterwards etc etc etc. She mowed the lawn for me though. And didn't wind me up as much as it did DH. I treat it like an I spy game and find it funny to count the comments now!

I am having problems weeing at the moment. No pain/burning, just can't really go or it is slow/just a trickle. If it carries on I will go to gp to see if it is a uti but I wonder if the baby is just squashing my bladder now.

Hello to all the new bumps! audrey we are due date buddies- yay!
Totally agree on the men don't get it front. Although DH is wonderful at times he can also be a useless sod who just does not get it. I can't bear the tiredness competition and the complaint that he has to go out to work. I work! I wrk very hard at raising our son and I don't get to leave the office, I am still working at 3am, 4am and whatever time ds needs me 24hrs a day, also running the house and trying to stay sane! It's just what we do though ladies, at least we can come on here and have the odd rant!

Welcome Hannah, Ruby and Audrey.

Woo I am half way today and the sun is shining!

Orange really your mil speaks to you like that?! You must be much more tolerant that me, if DP mum started going on at me I'd tell her if it bothers her that much feel free to sort it out for me! And if not to shut up...I dislike negative people who put others down to make themselves feel better/superior....I have had the same as you with the weeing I think it's the baby but no harm in getting the DR or MW to check your urine...

Oh and I make DP do his fair share around the house, in all fairness I have a cleaner (but she's crap and spends the 4 hrs she is here chatting to me, we can't get rid because she's lovely and become a good friend now, and we love her really) we share cooking/washing/changing bed covers etc....he is quite domesticated though as he is 36 and moved out of home at 18, and I'm the first girl he lived with when I moved in 2 years ago...I am glad because I hate housework with a passion!

The silly thing is, she complains that her mil does it to her and she is doing exactly the same thing. Hopefully I will not be a moany mother in law to my baby's future partner!

Glad someone else has the same thing with weeing (though obviously not glad you have it!)

Orange I remember a couple of tips for weeing as we get bigger. One is to rock forwards and backwards gently whilst you wee, another is to do as much as you can and then do something else (brush teeth or even just get up and adjust a towel or something!) and then have another go. I've used both of these this week :o

Yeah I too like you always said I'd be a cool easy going mum, and I would not be like my own mum (although I love her too bits, she worries so much and nags me) since being pregnant I'm seeing her traits come out in me, the worrying that is, god help me!!

Welcome new people! Especially anyone in the girl club..... :o

My DP has definitely been less sympathetic with this pregnancy, but I've been less unwell. But he has told me I'm moaning about being tired and then we get competitive tiredness. But if I say directly that I can't/don't want to do something and tell ask him to he'll generally do it. I do all the washing and cooking and he does the hoovering etc. if I cba to cook he knows the option is that he pays for a take away :o

Welcome all new ladies!

Sorry some of you are having such a hard time with DPs / DHs. Men can be quite oblivious to everything and, somehow, their flu, cold or pain is always always worse then yours... I would be unfair to mine to complain too much as, with me being sick with that nasty virus for weeks, he did a lion's share of work in the house. I was totally out of use. Our main problem is that we are both incredibly strong headed so we both want things the way we want them! This problem is quite two sided though...

Did you go to Mien Tay on Lavender Hill orange? I love this place!

I am so excited this morning - we met our friends yesterday and one of them, through her connections, managed to get us into our favourite restaurant for our anniversary dinner next Friday! Such a coincidence. I have no idea what to wear though as haven't had a chance to buy anything smart and maternity yet... anyone managed to find any smart and nice maternity dresses? I need it for a few occasions - big dinners, weddings etc...

In other news, we finally found and ordered the changing unit. Need to wait two long weeks for it to be delivered though... and we started planning to decorate our own bedroom. My nesting instinct is totally out of control this time round (wasn't as bad with DS). But perhaps it's because it's a new house, we've been here only 6 months... We had a shock to get the estimate for our roman blinds yesterday... I continue to be stunned how much these things can cost...

irishfairy sounds like we had very similar birth / induction / no pain relief experience. I also believe in my body and keep thinking that our bodies are designed to do it (although not saying everyone should share this approach!!). My birth was very painful because of my induction and my waters breaking before labour, and I did it with just G&A - so hoping I can do it again this time. What this experience taught me though is that, no matter how amazing your birth plan may be, birth doesn't always go according to plan! I really wanted to have a water birth with DS but it all went to pots when they found meconium in my waters (very charming DS...) So I accept that everything may end up very differently from how I plan it this time too...