Due August 2013 - Part 5 - The Final Stretch - We're nearly there duebies!!

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Welcome to the thread in which we will meet our babies - woooooooooop!!

Previous thread - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1709005-August-2013-Part-4-Half-way-there-already?msgid=39205443

Congrats locket. U have chosen the exact same name as me! Only we are spelling it Poppy Mae. My hubby is hoping she will have ginger hair!

We have been debating all day Mae/May only thing that swayed it in the end was mine and dps family have all spelt it may so thought might aswell go with it as wasn't fussed either way aww they must be teeny, looking at her in a month I should expect a stone baby! (Maybe slightly OTT ) she looks massive compared to ds1 who was 6.5lb!

Labour vibes to those who need them and congrats to those already mummies

ijust you are certainly not alone with the not knowing what's going on down there!! I had a forceps delivery with an episiotomy and 2 tears. A couple of days ago I was crying with pain and today I'm practically pain free (still taking diclofenac and paracetemol now and then). It does get better, although it feels like an age waiting for it to happen! Humphrey is 9 days old today.

As for feeding, I'm definitely with the others, the rugby position is by far the easiest for me. Cradle position left me with very very sore nipples as he just wasn't latching properly. Now its still a little tender, but a massive improvement.

Do we have a postnatal group yet?? I don't want to put off all the lovely ladies waiting for their sneeze births with my moans of pain and exhaustion!

Good luck all those waiting, sending you labour vibes.

[Shock] Humphrey is 10 days old, not 9. I don't even know what day it is!

Congrats Locket

Congratulations locket, the August babies are flying out now!

Has anyone changed their mind about their birth partner(s) at the last minute?

From the very start it was almost assumed that as well as DP I'd have my DM with me, but I'm really starting to wonder if I want her there. I'm close to her and thought she'd be great at spurring me on, as she's as tough as old boots (but a softy deep down), but her attitude lately is putting me off.

When I told her about my false alarm on Sunday night she said she was "seriously concerned about my pain threshold if [I] thought braxton hicks could be real labour"

Braxton hicks were relatively unknown when she had me and she never experienced them. In fact she slept through most of labour after being induced. I politely told her I'd had braxton hicks a lot and what I felt Sunday night felt totally different and was really rather painful. She just scoffed at me. She's had similar attitudes when I've been in for monitoring due to reduced movement - telling me I need to stop reading so much as it's making me a worrier.

She just makes me feel as though I'm such a wimp that I'm never going to get through labour without screaming for the drugs - this may be the case and that's fine but I don't want to go into it feeling like a failure already.

DP is so great and really comforts me and listens to my point of view, but DM (like a lot of mothers I imagine) has very strong views based on her own experiences 25 years ago. So I'm wondering if I should make this about DP and our baby, and leave DM out of it, until LO is here and she can come visit in hospital.

Thing is, it would break her heart, she really has her heart set on being there and seeing the birth.

I know none of you can really tell me what to do, I just needed to vent as it has been on my mind a lot. Sorry for the essay!

Well D day has arrived and no signs yet got the mw this afternoon for a sweep if she can do one. Baby's movements are causing me so much pain as there must be no room left for them by now!

Gerty I am only having DH my older sis was desperate to come with me but I just felt like I didn't want anyone else there DH knows how I think and feel about things which have been discussed for a long time and I didn't want there to be any confusion during a potential serious/stressful situation.
However my friend had her DM and felt she calmed her better than her DH who fell apart and was useless!

MrsLianeB I find it bizarre that you're being offered a sweep on your due date - is this standard practice in your area or do they have a specific reason? I won't be offered one until 40+10... don't particularly want one any earlier just find it odd.

One of the reasons I thought I wanted DM there is I was worried DP would fall apart, but he's actually been a rock throughout and I think I totally underestimated him. I have no idea.what to do!

PS good luck! :)

Gerty, I was offered a sweep on my edd. Standard practice here to be offered sweep at 40 then 40+7 and induction at 40+12.

I am only offered one sweep then induction at 40+14. Hopefully it will happen naturally way before then!

My midwife has offered a sweep tomorrow on my due date. Just can't decide whether to have one or not. My DD was induced a week early as my hind waters went, so I've no experience of going naturally.

Oh, and having other people in the room. When DD was born, it was just my OH and I, plus the midwife. More than enough people. I was completely focused on my OH and it is such a special moment I feel it would have taken away from OH's role if anyone else was t have been there.

Gerty if your DM has her heart set on being there then she needs to know the ground rules and how her reactions and comments are making you feel. Maybe you should sit down with her and explain what her comments and attitudes have made you feel like - she may have no idea!

In terms of sweeps and inductions, practice across the country is very variable. I will be offered a sweep at 41 weeks with a second a few days later and induction at 40+10 but hospitals down the road will have completely different protocols. Just one of those oddities I guess.

Hope everyone is ok x

Gerty the mw offer a sweep at 40, 40 + 7 and induce at 40 +12 in my area. She did say she wouldn't do one if I didn't want one or if she couldn't but I wanted to give it a go.

The sweep wasn't too bad actually, I took 2 paracetamol an hour before my appointment and just did lots of relaxing breathing. I wouldn't say it hurt as such just a lot of pressure and very uncomfortable but after having 4 mc I have had a few internals and it wasn't so different.
Came home and bounced on ball for an hour and baby did some gangnam dance style moves so I had a nap but nothing since!

I told the mw about the movements being painful and she agreed with me that there is very little waters and baby is measuring on 85% and it feels long so it is to be expected. She said my cervix was very soft baby's head was low and I'm about 1cm dilated so fingers crossed I will have had the baby before needing another sweep!

Just wrote a whole message and lost it - after my inexplicable smoothie explosion earlier (don't ask!) I'm on the verge of hormonal rage!

baking I agree a conversation needs to be had. This may sound mean but with any luck maybe it will happen next week when she's away for a few days, three hours drive away - problem solved!

My only concern with going the full two weeks over is I'm not 100% convinced on my EDD as it has changed twice! From LMP dates I'd be due a week earlier.

Ooh mrsliane sounds promising!
I've had midwife appt today @39+4 and I'm gutted baby has moved lower but barely, from a '3/5 possibly 2/5' 2wks ago to a definite 2/5 :-(
She is my 2nd so she may not shift the last few fifths til I'm actually in labour, but it was just disappointing.
I will be offered a sweep next week @ 40+5 and we will also book an induction date for the following week. A sweep got me going with my first, but would really like to start in labour spontaneously.
Lots of downstairs pressure this evening

Purple try not to get too disheartened about the number of fifths. I was 3/5 palpable last week and this week was only 4/5 palpable and this is my first! If the baby has engaged at all then it means that he/she can do it, they might just need a bit of a shove from your first few contractions to convince them! I got so hung up on this for ages (not helped by everybody else's obsession with the amount of 'engagedness'!) - its really not worth wasting your energy worrying about it, especially if its your second as some of them don't engage at all until labour. Can empathise with your disappointment though - but don't be sad - sure your bubba will be along to meet you soon

Thanks baking. It was just exciting at first cos midwife was saying stuff like 'oh she's well engaged & in a really good position' & then started talking about if I have her later today or next couple of days she will be the one visiting me at home. Then I see her write 2/5 palp and my heart sank. Oh well. I know it won't be much longer now.

Yes I know that feeling too! On Monday the student midwife examined me first and said she thought the head was all the way down (and I nearly burst with excitement!) and then the qualified midwife checked and said 4/5 palpable and I was sad... But they will come soon!

I was 3/5 palpable last week but he has definitely dropped further today, I think I can feel his back (fairly low fluid so can feel a lot) right down the front of my bump right to my pelvic bone. Could be wrong but there is so much pressure down there, I feel like if I sneezed he'd fall out!

Seems like a lot of due dates today! Wishing you all lots of luck :)

Damn, reading back through it seems the lots of due dates comment was clearly meant for the 'due any day now' thread... damn app, can't read back what you were replying to!

i was still only 3/5 palpable a few hours before having my son and he was my first, so don't read too much into the fifths!

Could anyone else happily eat all of everything? I've not had much appetite through pregnancy and have only gained 1.5 stones overall, but today I can't seem to stop eating! I don't by any means feel guilty as I know I'll need the energy stores, but I think I'll have to do an impromptu top up shop as I've almost eaten us out of house and home :).

How is everyone today?

Didn't go up to bed til 2:15 last night wasn't tired at all, got up at 6:05 and feel fantastic however my kitchen looked foul so far I've let dogs out, put a load in dryer another in washer, fed dogs, put dishes away, had tea and toast and just run DP a bath for his 7am wake up call. Feel like superwoman

I was polishing lightswitches with a microfibre cloth at 11pm last night... whilst having either another false labour or a very long and slow early labour. I also happily ironed (most hated task), polished everything in sight, batch cooked and finally completed my hospital bags.

I think nesting has landed for us gonnabmummy, let's hope labour follows soon!