December 2013 part 2.

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Just starting a new thread as we're starting to run out of room on the first. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/a1716486-December-2013#38680515

Good Luck Late

Queen would you be covered for healthcare costs in Texas? I found this and it says 4-6 weeks after applying, both parents have to go in person and I guess you can\t apply until you have birth certificate.

I do have personal health insurance in Texas (mother is a military doctor and managed to get some amazing federally funded insurance that pays ridiculous amounts to military familiesI have NO idea what the underwriting of this plan isbut when I called yesterday it covers me even though I'm 29; married and have lived outside of the continental US since 2006). At this point, I think I'll have to join the military just to get insurance like this for my children.

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I don't get harmony results till tomorrow. I am freaking out.

So pleased others are getting good news!!! At work so just a quickie update, scan was fab, new EDD 5th December, baby performed for its daddy waving and wriggling away!

Well we had our scan, it was great seeing mini moo moving around but it's like it's daddy akward, wouldn't sit in right position for the measurements! Cue me having to jump, thrust, lie on my tummy etc.. Got there in the end! Now to do the announcing

Harry it might be round ligament pain. I've had it a few times- just stretching to acommodate baby like someone else said. Sometimes it really hurts when I sneeze or move, catches me by surprise as it's quite a sharp pain.

Just got my maternity clothes out of the loft. All my jeans are over the bump ones so I guess I'll be using the waist expanders for a while! Feel like it's going to be ages till I use any of them but then the leggings will probably get used soon.

11 wks tomorrow...seems to be dragging. I just want to get to that stage where I feel baby kicking...seems so far away...

Bleeding again, sent home from work after bursting into tears in a very embarrassing fashion. Have consultant appointment tomorrow anyway, the gynae I spoke to says I'll get a scan then anyway if I tell them I've had more bleeding. I'm so, so, so fed up. Every time I allow myself to relax and think about trying to enjoy being pregnant, the rug gets pulled from under my feet.

So sorry to hear that Feather, everything's crossed for you and bean.

We are a right bunch of chatter boxes so I can't reply to people specifically, been lurking for a few days.

Re names, Isabel or Sebastian which we picked even before we started ttc! We're not finding out the gender of bean, despite pressure from everyone to find out. We just think it's the biggest and best surprise ever and people have managed perfectly well since the dawn of time without knowing. New born clothes tend to be quite gender neutral anyway and for hand me downs, I don't care too much! I'll have owt for nowt!

I feel like I've had a personality transplant too sometimes. I'm definitely MUCH moodier than normal. I flip out and get really angry at stupid things, usually when I'm hungry or tired, which is ALL the time at the mo! I'm more irritable, with silly things often. But then suddenly I feel amazing, really happy and all sweetness and light. I get really bad PMT so perhaps it's to be expected. Like just now, the phone rang, how fucking annoying!

Lush shower gel is too expensive. There are some real bargains in there if you know what you're looking for though. The soap is excellent value, as are the shampoo bars. And the exfoliators really are second to none.

I look pregnant if I let my gut hang free, I can still do a good impression of a thin person otherwise. still having a nightmare with maternity clothes. Over bump trousers are too big (though you can roll the extra down usually) and I haven't found the right pair of under bump jeans yet. VERY frustrating. I love coming home and whipping my trousers and bra off and slobbing around in pjs and no underwear!

Had a little bit of blood after sex the other day but not worried as it was a pretty vigorous session (at last!) so it was probably just my cervix. 1 week 2 days 1 hour until scan, can't wait! Virtually everyone knows already so there's not many left to tell. DF is being a bit annoying in that he refuses to even discuss the possibility that anything might be wrong or that mcs are still a possibility. He says I'm just being negative and thinking that way makes it more likely. I shouted and swore quite a bit at that! It's annoying that he won't face the reality that things can still go wrong and that we can't talk about it. I'm not dwelling on it at all but it's just the cold hard facts. I suppose we approach these things differently and I'm much more the type to just face the truth head on, no matter how unpalatable. He prefers to bury his head in the sand and talk crap about how dead relatives are watching over us and it'll all be ok. So good job I've got here to vent a bit really!

Oh feather unMNly hugs coming to you. Do they have any idea what's causing the bleeding?

Good luck for the Harmony test results Queen. Fingers crossed for you.

Of poor you feather, I really hope the consultant and scan tomorrow can explain the bleeding and put your mind at rest. Bleeding in early preg happens a lot, and often there's a perfectly safe explanation, but it must be so scary and nerve wracking for you. It takes such a lot of effort to stay calm doesn't it, and all that must go out the window when you see blood. Roll on tomorrow and the reassurance you need. Rest up for now, can your DP come home early to look after you?

It seems to have a different cause every time. First round of bleeding was due to MC of a twin, then a large haematoma, who knows what this time, as I was told the haematoma was almost gone at yesterday's scan! Feel so bad about coming home, I left my colleague, who's also pregnant, with a massive triage queue as well as a huge list of things to do for patients already seen. But I know I had no choice, people who're ill or injured don't want to be looked after by a nurse that can't stop crying!

Damn right you needed to come home feather. Don't feel bad, you'd do the same for your colleague I'm sure. Sounds like it could be the last bit from the haematoma. You've had a right rollercoaster ride, you poor thing, really hoping things calm down for you once you've had your scan etc tomorrow x

Don't feel bad about work Feather.. the environment we work in make you feel as though you should be invincible and never "let the team down" but sometimes stuff happens.. Like this!

Your pregnant colleague will understand how stressful & frightening the bleeding is.

Fingers crossed for your appt tomo..

Sorry you're having such a stressful time Feather. Hope you manage to get some rest this evening and scan goes well.

You're right Mildred, got a flurry of text messages from concerned colleagues at shift end!

Thanks everyone, feel like all I do is bloody moan, was so pleased to be able to post something positive earlier! DS has decided today would be the perfect time to cut a molar, he's crying in his sleep, he's so distressed and unsettled I wish I could do something! Get the feeling I won't be getting much rest tonight :S

Morning all

Feathers hope things settle down for you soon sweetie. don't beat yourself up over work.

Today I have stopped smoking. Should have stopped before but am stopping now at 10+2. Feel shite already, banging head from the patch and desperate for a fag but going to have some toast instead lol.

I love the names everyone has picked for their beans, especially Sebastian. I mentioned it to OH a few weeks ago who gave me a 'look' lol. I also love Emmeline and have secretly added it to my list that OH and DD don't know I have in my head. Although I won't choose a name they both hate with a vengence I'm carrying the baby, will birth the baby and will also BF the baby and do the majority of the care for the next 20 years. So am going to call it what I fecking like lol.

My scan is 2 weeks exactly today and I am really desperate to see little bean. I have held off looking since 6 weeks at development photos you can see on the web, just in case something doesn't go to plan but had a sneaky look last night. Its given me a bigger push to quit the evil weed is all I can say.

Have a good day all!

Feather I really hope everything settles for you

I also had a serious personality transplant but am feeling more like me again, am 14 weeks tomorrow. Got a bump going on, which still changes in size depending on my bloat and also how full my bladder is which makes me laugh. (I still think I just look a bit fat though)

Was sure I felt little flutters of kicks again last night, I was lying in bed revising and stopped to just lie there and feel the movements. I can't feel anything if I put my hand on my tum when it happens, it's all inside.

We're going to book a private scan once I'm over 16 weeks to find out the sex of baby. Very exciting! We're going to keep the name a secret though, not even telling our children as my daughter has poo poo'd my recent suggestions but I know they will love whatever name once baby is here.

Good on you frouby for giving up smoking. Stay strong! What I found helpful when I gave up (years ago) was having a total cold turkey approach, that way the option (and slippery slope) of maybe just having a puff/one fag as a one off, just wasn't there. It is so so hard though, good luck. Can your GP help? There should be loads of support around (not sure if there is though)

I've got my scan at 2pm today - arghhhhh, so excited, nervous, can't believe today has finally come. Will let you know how it goes...

Feather, hope you're ok. Thinking of you.

Frouby, that's great! So fantastic the effort you're making to stop. Hope the symptoms ease up soon.

Feeling pretty good at the mo apart from tiredness and lack of motivation, trying to force myself to go swimming today!

I can hear the docs talking outside my door. It's the consultant I've insisted I don't want to see, she's talking about how I may be cross an asking a MW to come in and try to persuade me too see her. I'm trying not to cry, my heart is racing. I'm meant to be seeing someone else.

I'm shaking and I feel sick, it's gone quiet outside again, I feel like running out and if it wasn't for yesterday's bleed I would do.

Well done Frouby, I know how hard it can be. I used patches for a while, sometimes just the inhalator so I was only getting as much nicotine as I needed not to kill anyone then forgot my patches one day and that was that. I still really want to smoke sometimes and it doesn't help that DF is still smoking. Tore a strip off him the other day for that. We don't officially live together yet (though he's obviously at mine a lot) and I'm not letting him move in full time until he stops. I guess we all find our own ways to stop. What helped me was not having any baccy at all in the house and taking it one day (or hour) at a time. When I had the bleed for instance and was waiting for the scan, I really wanted to smoke so I kept promising myself that if I still wanted a fag as much as I did in that moment come the morning (or whatever target I was picking) I could have one then. Once that moment arrived, I found that I never wanted it really and was pleased I'd made it another day without a fag. I have had the occasional relapse and having a smoker around doesn't help. But you can do it, just take it one day at a time. It's part of the reason I'm not drinking at all, it just makes me want to smoke!

Totally agree with you about names, well said! It pisses me right off that they get his surname when I'm the one doing all the work. I've argued my case about that but don't suppose I'll win that battle. He's pissed off enough that I won't change my name when we get married. So I said we should pick first names jointly, they have my surname as a middle name and his surname (not double barrelled, hate that!). He's not keen on doing that for both (assuming we have 2) but tough. If he won't budge, I'll just register their names when he's at work!

Hope you're ok Feather.

My baby band thing arrived today. My belly isn't quite big enough yet but it is good. I've been wearing too tight trousers all week with the waist expander things on which aren't great and a bit of a faff. This is much better. Ebay have had a lot of money from me recently!

MW has been in and tried to persuade me. I immediately started sobbing but held my ground. She's done a lot of sighing and tutting but gave in eventually and has gone to see if anyone else can see me. I'm beyond furious. I haven't smoked in a long time but I could seriously murder a fag or 20 right now.

Well done for holding your ground feather. I hope they get it sorted for you and take your wishes seriously. Thinking of you and mini feather.

Yay Frouby! You're doing a fab thing for you and little one, just take it one day at a time

I'm glad people like my name choices, it just proves that I have excellent taste and DH's is questionable . I like Frouby's reasoning about why we should get more of a say too!

Feather- it may be too late and I hope sorted but just really calmly and politely say you had requested to see someone else. You are within your rights.

Good luck..