December 2013 part 2.

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Just starting a new thread as we're starting to run out of room on the first. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/a1716486-December-2013#38680515

All sorted, been scanned and bean doing backflips! Saw a rather sullen registrar, and they've agreed to refer me to the consultant of my choice, who is lovely. Will see her at 20/40. They've also booked me a more comprehensive scan for Saturday morning and a GTT for 3 weeks. Feel rather emotionally battered!

Hi ladies,

Not been about for a while so sat here for an hour trying to catch up.

I forgot who said what so will generalise replies.

I too really fancy pregnancy yoga, keep getting really really depressed about being fat recently, my cousin told me she has a tonne of maternity clothes in a 12 I can have and I'm so worried that they won't fit me!

Flying with a 5 mth old is fine - you can fly with a baby from 2 weeks, or, if its a prem' baby 2 Weeks after the due date. Kefalonia is a nice island, I worked there for a while - shouldn't be too hot either in May, but warm enough to swim in the sea. I took the kids to Marrakech when my youngest was 5 mnths and that was fine - except the hotel didn't know what a cot was, despite me requesting one, so they gave me 'an extra bed for the baby' - can you imagine? I ended up rearranging the room, pushing my bed against the wall and having him in with me.

We had our scan in Friday, was further along then the midwife had estimated (Dec 14th), a was given Dec 8th - funnily enough, the day I said I'd be due - guess by the third you just know! It's DH's first and he was in awe!
We told parents after the scan; my mother was a bit bemused as to how I could be due I'm December and have 'only just found out' - I had to tell her I'd known for months but was keeping it quiet. She was under strict instructions not to tell anybody as I wanted to tell people when I was ready, as it was our news. 10 minutes later I got a text from my aunt saying 'OMG! Congratulations!!! Due 8th December! I'm so happy for you all!'
Sigh! So much for not telling anyone! Bloody glad we didn't tell her months ago!

I too have felt baby moving, I wasn't sure whether or not it was just wind at first, but I'm sure now it isn't. I told my husband and he was over joyed. I felt him moving in bed yesterday morning and pin pointed exactly where I could feel him, we put the Doppler there and sure enough, there was his heart beat.

I went to Corfu at the weekend, the husband agreed I could go as long as he could veryify the hotel first! I was happy to stay in an SC studio - but he insisted I stay in a 5* spa hotel with a private beach, as he thought it was 'safer', I don't believe it was any safer, but naturally, I didn't put up a fight.

Had a dream last night that I had agonising tummy pains and couldn't move - Hoping it was just a dream.

Hope you are all well.

5ammy

Thank god for that Feathers. You did right demanding to choose whether or not you saw a particular consultant. Hope things settle down a bit and you can enjoy the rest of your PG.

Welcome back Sammy. I wouldn't have argued about a 5 spa hotel either lol. Just remember that the next time you go away and the fact that you 'need' at least 5 pmsl.

Froubylou,

I know! He's set a precident now!

I love how he thought I'd be any less safer in an SC studio - I used to live in Greece, it's not like I was going to some far away unknown country. Ah well, bump and I had an amazing time! The came home to the rain :-(

5ammy

well done on the hols 5ammy, I wish my fella would insist on paying for me to go to a 5 star spa!

Great news Feather, well done for being assertive. Can I be nosy and ask why you don't want to see that consultant? Sorry if you've already said, it's a loooong thread!

I cannot stop farting today. which isn't great as we've got clients in reception and they're all coming out quite loud!

Bitch colleague commented on the fact I was having crisps with my sandwich today. Said yes I'm craving crunchy things and turned away. Cow bag! That's nothing, we've had pizza and chips for 3 nights running due to having the builders in and are having a dirty curry tonight!

All well at my 12 week scan, and just the one baby in there. Wow. It's starting to feel a bit more real now I have seen what is going on in there and can visualise bean squirming around getting comfy.

Well done feather for sticking your ground, so pleased all is well.

Yummy Holly, I love curry and had one on Sunday night. Did abstain for the first few weeks though. My mother reckons you shouldn't have them in early pg'y. Probably an old wives tale as I couldn't find much supporting evidence online, other than some herbs (think it was turmeric in particular) can act as a stimulant on your waterworks so best avoided in huge quantities. But I assume we're talking heaps of the stuff, not a bit in a curry.

And DD has plenty of muslim class mates with lots of brothers and sisters so it obviously doesn't affect those cultures which eat a lot of those types of spices lol.

I'm having an M & S Lasagne out of the freezer with jacket spud with DD and OH is having burgers. I'll have a half hearted conversation with him about whether he should have rice or chips, he'll win and have chips but at least I will have tried to make him the healthier option.

He's just phoned and asked me if I've picked him any ciggies up. Told him to feck off and buy his own ciggies from now on as I have stopped. And that he will be smoking outside. Don't think he believes me. But am sticking to my guns.

It will be hard to resist when they are in the house though. Going to tell him to leave them in the car overnight and park car up the street. That way if I wake up for a wee and patch has worn off (16 hour ones so have to remove overnight) I won't be in bed thinking about them.

Will be a right fatty by the end of it all though. Eaten half a pack of wine gums, 2 homemade bakewell tarts, some toast,a big orange and a handful of murray mints so far today.

Been and done energetic things with ponies though this afernoon and taken dog for a long walk so should make up for the sweeties I've scoffed.

Except when OH comes in I'm going to make a lemon meringue pie to take my mind off his fags. Yummy.

Hey everyone.
Feather I'm sorry you're having such a tough time. Hope the doctor you want comes instead of the other one.

Frouby stay strong!

I really wish I could eat normally but I still can't. Am still sick on the odd occasion and am still taking the medication but gradually getting there. Still exhausted though.
I've got a couple of girlfriends coming up and we have a night booked in a spa hotel. I can't use the sauna, steam room or jacuzzi so hope I'm not too much of a party pooper. I also know I'm gonna want to be in bed by ten! Will be nice to see them though as been a long time and they are my bestest girls from my home town.

Don't mind at all Holly - long story but the condensed version is my last labour was prem, and a terrifying experience. I've had a lot of surgery in the past on my pelvic floor, and my surgeon had drummed it into me that birth=c-section for me, or risk huge damage. This didn't happen, I gave birth vaginally, I was essentially refused a section at the last minute. Literally left in a room in labour, doc didn't come back from 'checking theatre was free' until DS was crowning. Lots of other ways I was let down, including staff refusing to believe I was in labour as it wasn't a typical presentation, giving birth with no pain relief (despite asking for an epidural) etc.
Anyway, this consultant, who I'd never met, was the 'on-call' that day, although she wasn't in the hospital. She wrote to my GP with an account of the birth that was, based on my recollection and that of DH, a total fabrication. She said I'd been involved in a discussion about birth and agreed to go ahead with a VB. When I wrote and challenged her, I got a very dismissive reply basically saying I should just be happy I had a healthy baby (after a month in NICU!) and that regardless of what I wanted, what was previously discussed or what had been planned, they would've made my decisions for me anyway and my wishes were irrelevant.

Wow, that ended up being quite long anyway! Sorry about that!

Feather, so glad for you that everything is ok! Well done for sticking to your guns x

Frouby you can go to places like Boots to get stop smoking help advice etc.. I'm not sure if they are free but if they are not they don't cost much. Just keep thinking of baby! (and your purse :) )

Need a little rant. So decided to tell my immediate colleagues at our team meeting today. I'm 13 weeks so seemed ok and not heard anything after a week since the combined test so I'm assuming there is nothing worth worrying about.

My boss is on leave, but always said it was up to me when to tell people.

I'm one of a team of three senior peeps (although the youngest by 25 years). Said I was going to use the team meeting to tell the rest of the wider team. Walked out the room. Walked back in and was confronted with 'are you sure its a good idea, they'll all just come to us asking what will happen for your cover, shouldn't you wait until you have a plan'...... suggested we ask our boss (who does often pick up email on leave) emailed her then thought.... hang on a minute, we may not know for months what we're going to do for my cover... and this is my news I can tell people whenever I damn like....

Decided to tell at the team meeting. Was stopped from doing it at the start (when I was going to hand out cookies) so said at the end.

I know this is little, and its probably just hormones, but it made me mad. It's not the first time lately that these colleagues have made me feel 'junior'. They are generally nice people but the age gap - and the fact that I haven't been at the organisation for 15 years (I take that as a plus... I'm having a career getting experience in different places) - means I do sometimes get talked down too.... humpf...

Hi everyone, I got my harmony test results back today and things were pretty good...but at the nuchal scan there are some issues with the umbilical chord and this is really scaring me. Dh didn't go with me, but did come home early.

when I got to the clinic my younger sisters and sister 1's boyfriend were already there waiting for me...but before I went in for my scan, both sisters really wanted to go in with me. I literally had to toss a coin in the waiting room amongst a group of amused and orderly people in the waiting room.

Feather! and at hat consultant on your behalf! I'm gobsmacked. Nowonder you didn't want to see her! I'd want to punch her!

Queen. What did they say the issue was? Don't be scared.

Hi all,

I haven't read back, I will do, but I'm worrying at the moment.

About an hour ago, I went to the loo and when I wiped, there was blood. It was in my discharge- tmi but my discharge wasn't red, it just had bits of blood in it. It wasn't bright red, but it wasn't brown either.

Since then, I have had a really bad stomach. (I know this is weird, but I can't work out where the pain is. It's just everywhere)

I'm not really sure what to do - I just went to see if there was more and there isn't.

Should I wait till the morning and see what's going on or what? I really don't know.

I'm 11+3 by the way.

Oh Gannet, it's so worrying, you poor thing! I'd keep an eye on it overnight, take a couple of paracetamol and have an early night. Ring the MW in the morning regardless, if you've not got a scan booked in the next few days she may refer you to EPU. If the pain becomes unbearable go to A&E - I hope this is just a one-off fright for you, if its just bits of darker blood hopefully it'll turn out to be nothing xx

umbilical chord only seems to have 2/3 arteries. the birth defects that are suggested as possibilities are really making my heart go cold with fear. i knew i didn't deserve to be happy.

but the harmony test was negative for everything and suggested there were no problems.

meant blood vessels.

Oh queen a single umbilical artery can be okay. It's reassuring that the harmony test suggested no chromosomal problems at least but you must be so worried :(

Ganet how are you this morning? It's probably worth going to see the MW just for reassurance.

Feather that's shocking behaviour by the consultant! Totally understandable that you didn't want to see her and I can't believe the hospital were so ibsensitive as to put you in that position, let alone that people still tried to make you see her after being told you didn't want to. I hope it goes better for you this time round!

at your team LadyMedea - rather odd behaviour from them there...

frouby well done for giving up and I definitely second seeking advice. You have the best reason in the world for quitting so stick with it and do your best :)

Morning all.

Feathers thats shocking behaviour! No wonder you wanted someone different.

Queen big hugs. No knowledge of the condition you mention but hope everything turns out ok. Whats the next step?

Ganet ring mw or epu for an early scan hun. Sure its all fine but no good fretting for a week.

Lady if they continue to cause you problems by demanding to know when you will leave and cover etc just point out that if the two of them have enough time to plot and fret between themselves about your role being filled, they probably have enough spare time to cover for you between them. Smile sweetly and rub your bump lol.

Managed 27 hours fagfree. Feckin hard this morning tho. Really want to take my coffee outside and sit and have a ciggie in the sunshine.

And I ate the other half bag of winegums before I even got out of bed pmsl.

Frouby you should be SO proud of yourself, well done & congratulations on becoming a non-smoker! I know how hard it is, what you're doing is amazing.

Queen, when do you go back for further investigation/discussion? I've been thinking about you, what a hard time, I hope you get some answers soon x

Not been in for a while. Think last time I was on we were on page 23...now on page 37! On my mobile so Havnt been able to catch up as well as I wanted.
Finally got my scan date through...10th June. By which ill be 13 weeks by my dates. Fed up of waiting now. Just want to see little fig. My friend at work thinks I'm further along or its twins due to prominent bump!
Hope everyone else is well :-)

Queenof so are they going to do any more tests to find out more? So sorry you're going through this- I can imagine the fear/anxiety of not knowing and it's easy for your mind to run away with all sorts of worst case scenarios. I don't know much about this but have read threads where other people have had the same issue and it turned out baby was fine (no abnormalities) I'm not sure what the stats are (whether this would make it more reassuring or not?)

Hope you get some more answers soon

Gannet Hope all is ok- are you going to get it checked out?

On my phone so can't read back very far.

Ganet how are you this morning lovely?

Queen big hugs I know you must be worried.

Hope everyone else is well. I'm 12+1 today and feeling much more relaxed about everything. Just desperate for time to speed up to Wednesday for my scan!

Been sent home from work this morning for vomiting and crying, team leader never asked me once if I was ok, despite hearing me puking my guts out twice, just if I would be able to do my shift and to take five minutes. Wasn't doing anything himself, could have quite easily have offered to see to the service users that needed seeing immediately to give me time to get myself together, but no, heaven forbid he should do something that would mildly inconvenience him for half an hour. Wanker. He's a selfish wanker the rest of the time too.