April 2013....from Flumper to Bump! (Part 4)

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Over here!

Another place for us April 2013 Ladies!

We have old thread & stats threads as below:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1569780-April-2013-part-3-scan-scan-scan

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1560543-April-2013-stats-thread

As the days darken & winter approaches may this thread bring us all blossoming bumps, peaceful nights & more friendship and laughter.

thanks bext good to know that one of the things I naturally do might actually be good for me and the baby!

Sorry about your dilemma bext when waiting for my results I thought exactly the same as you about the risk of miscarriage possibly being similar to the ds risk (esp as I've had a few mcs already). Do you know the mc amnio stats for your particular hospital they might be much better than 1:100 if that is one of the main reasons you'd avoid it. Your risk of DS is still only just over 1% (1.08) though people on here have had much higher risks in the past and had baby without downs. Hope this is some comfort.

Thanks Kellestar and trying2bpos. I'll have a look at the special needs / antenatal tests boards, hadn't thought of that.
I think we've made the right decision - I'm an optimist so will just bumble my way through!

Hi everyone and welcome newbies!

I am still being sick, generally just the once first thing in the morning...I wan't sick on Saturday and I wasn't sick this morning, but I was Sunday and Monday and Tuesday, so who knows if/when it'll pass...

We definitely want to find out the gender. We both say we don't mind what we have (but I know H would love a boy) but I have a sneaky feeling it's a boy. I really don't mind which, as long as some magic fairy could tell me we'll have one, or more, of each at some point (disclaimer: I know it doesn't work like that [hgrin] !) I have an older brother and we are very close, so boy then girl would be perfect!

Because I think it's a boy, I've made an effort to look at boys and boy things and see how lovely they are...(I always notice lovely girl things!) this may sound very strange but I think if it's a girl I'll be sad it's not a boy, and if it's a boy I'll be sad it's not a girl...does that make sense? Almost like I'd love one of each right now because both boys and girls are so fab! But I already love this baby so much that it will make little difference in the long run!

I am trying to find a yoga class near me, but they all seem to be full, and I struggle for energy in the evenings too.

I bought a doppler from ebay last week and have spent several hours trying to find the HB (to no avail!), told my boss yesterday, and she told me off, saying that they are really bad for their hearing...now I feel terrible, guilty and like an awful mother already!!! As soon as she said it, it made sense, it is so loud, and I think it realy makes the baby move, hence why I couldn't find the HB. I keep apologising to my bump, and praying that I've not done ay damage. I won't use it again, and so what a waste of money!!!

15 + 5 today...cannot wait for 20 week scan!!!

angel you are so funny and too right about the magic fairy. I wish that too and have a DS and cos of age this will be my last!

Re: your doppler, both my bumps (this one and ds, sounded bit weird) have positively avoided it so I think you're wise to avoid using it esp as my MW who is v.exp had trouble tracking it down and could actually see baby moving. Don't feel bad i doubt you'll have done any harm just put it back on ebay and who knows you might even get more than you paid for it!

hello jj247 why don't you come over to the over 40s thread! and trying2bpos as well, i've tried to tempt you over there already! recently we've discussing Daniel Craig, how you feel about DC1 when DC2 is on its way and birth choices (it's an ELCS for most over 40s!) what's not to like?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1582544-Fantastic-40-Mum-to-be-part-2

bext you sound very wise. i've seen so many stories on mumsnet about high risk people - much higher than you - and it all comes out fine.

Ultimately any decision about choices is down to you. Although its slightly increased, it's still less than 2%. my friend found at the 20 week scan her DS had bilateral cleft lip and they said a 1/4 chance he'd had learning disabilities. Aside from the lip he is fine - he's now had his surgery and is a gorgeous smiley baby! I said to her - although 1/4 is high, it's still in 3/4 chance he's ok and he was :)

Flavour wise - I'd lean towards having a girl, DH a son but we really don't mind. Our gut feeling is boy but we want to find out at the scan!

14+1

Hey somewhere stop trying to poach our members [hgrin]

I really don't mind what we have but ideally I'd probably have four DCs and have two of each! I grew up with one brother and two sisters and love having both but seeing how my brother's boys are together makes me think I'd want all of them to have a brother and a sister! Think 3 will be the limit for us though (hoping that we are lucky enough for that many!) and really, whatever we have will be wonderful.

Wishing you the very best Bext. Obviously it is a very personal and private choice but I totally agree with your reasoning.

hey jacqueline i don't mean leave this thread! anyway they're ignoring me! [hsmile]
xx

bext That sounds sensible to me. Age seems to be given a lot of weight when considering these things so probably a lot of people get higher results than they should just because of it.

Regarding gender I would prefer a girl but I think that's because I had a sister and no brothers so I can visualise us with a little girl but I just can't imagine us with a boy. That's why I really want to find out soon so if it's a boy I have time to adjust! Also, (this will sound petty) DH and I are always arguing about whether to have one or two. He only wants one but I know he wants a son so am thinking if this is a girl he might be more inclined to want to try again!

All that said, I am really coming to appreciate how lucky we will be to get a healthy baby at the end of it all considering how much can go wrong. So that's my overriding feeling!

Am also trying to sleep on left side but am veering to the right on instinct.

What are people's views on caffeine? Most of my friends cut it out completely but my mum and MiL think that's barmy. I cut it out totally in first trimester but am back on the cups of tea this week as the only thing keeping me awake.

16+5

I've stopped drinking tea (bearing in mind I never drank coffee and can't drink fizzy drinks) so my caffiene intake is purely chocolate! I only cut out tea because it made me throw up! I still don't fancy it. I'll have the odd decaf but essentially I've cut it right out.

We are going to find out the gender so we can tell DD if she's getting a brother or a sister. I have a slight preference for a girl (about 51% : 49%) as I'm very close to my sister so I'd hope for the same for DD. Also, we already have loads of girl stuff!

MW appointment today and got to hear the heartbeat! So exciting! No idea whether it could be described as galloping, or like a train (which I heard an give you a clue to the gender). But don't care as it was a really, proper loud heartbeat coming from in my big fat pregno-belly, and it was bloody lovely

No caffeine over here for ages now - DP and I cut it out 3 years ago as part of our many, many desperate measures to help getting pg. if I have even a whiff these days I get giddy and even more hyper and annoying. Not lost my taste for decaf tea though, and really love the redbush stuff too at the mo.

So I had my screening scan today. There is a baby so not a figment of my imagination :o The due date is 6th May though, can I still stay here?

I found getting the results of the screening test a bit scary. I didn't realise tha the average risk for women my age (40) was so high . Am very pleased to report though that I am low risk for Downs (1:2869) and extremely low risk for Edward's and Patua (1:20000).

Now I can start shopping. Yippee!

Aw that's great dandelion, must have been amazing to hear the heart beat.

empress I could never cut out tea as name suggests but have switched to decaf since ttc and it does the trick.

I told some colleagues at work today about pg and am having a bit of a freak out that i've jumped the gun. I don't feel pg and after telling them suddenly felt like a fraud. I've never had any symptoms except tiredness and now don't feel tired.

Perhaps it's the legendary bloom. I don't mean to moan or worry when others are going through things but am so worried something is wrong. Cannot wait for 16 week appt next week really need some reassurance.

15+0

Wow, new thead and on page 4 already!!

DH & I have been talking about whether we should find out the baby's sex at the 20 week scan. He definatey wants to, I'm not sure yet (although the last few days I have been drawn to the idea of finding out). Scan is 3 weeks on Friday, which seems ages away!

My moods have really gone in to overdrive. I'm having some seriously ratty days at the moment, where I just have to put my self to bed so as not to wind up DH and to give me a break from myself too! :)

My belly has grown to the point that I'm walking round work with my trousers undone, but depending on who I speak to comments vary from "ooh you've got a right bump there" to "ooh you've still got no bump yet" I think the 'big' days are just when I need a big trump

I'm convinced I am starting to feel very faint flutters, particularly on my left side. They feel more like my skin twitching - very odd!

17+2

im still feeling sick alot of the time: but thankfully no actual sickness...

although now im starting to get metallic taste in my mouth after some meals- its ruining my dinners!!

Have got my 16 week mw appointment tomorrow morning bit nervous font know why? [hconfused]

Have got 45 minutes to kill between dropping off DS and appointment any suggestions what I can do?

oops- 15+1

Hi thanks to anyone who gave me sympathy yesterday. I was feeling better by last night (hadn't thrown up for ages just really tired) so decided to go to work today but because I hadn't really eaten properly yesterday I was feeling a bit light headed and after spending the morning trying not to faint every time I stood up I decided to come home to bed. My MIL has been really great she sent supper round tonight (my parents live out of town) and it was lasagne which I love as anything with cheese in at the moment is just great! I think my bump looked a bit smaller today from not eating so I guess normally I'm a bit bloated...

I was telling a colleague today I might need cover tomorrow morning as I was having flu jab this evening and from experience I normally feel ill the next day (I used to have it because I was asthmatic) and she looked at me funny and said why you having the flu jab? I was really surprised I thought everyone knew already about my little bump I guess some people are just really unobservant!

Hope everyone had a good day and is feeling good. Oh and welcome to all the newbies
16+3

I didn't give up caffeine, I have 1 cup of instant coffee in the morning & about 2 cups of tea in the evening. I read that was OK, only OH & 1 friend know I'm pregnant so I'm lucky that I can just look things up & make decisions on that type of thing without people frowning at me.

Saying that, my friend who I told tried to stop me eating a fried egg... so I didn't get away without frowning completely.

I'm cramping quite a bit this week, its hard to know the difference between constipation & pregnancy pains (or is that just me???)

OH mentioned the baby voluntarily & without crying or grimacing hardly at all earlier, was super happy as I took it as a sign that he is accepting it. I can't remember what he was doing, it was something incredibly stupid & he laughed a bit and said I would have 2 babys to look after except one would be really big and hard to control.

15+4

empress I cut out coffee early on but only because it made me feel sick. I was having the odd glass of full fat coke as that helped the nausea, so I was still having some caffeine. I limit myself to one cup of real coffee a day now, and then decaf if I want more. I've only ever really had one cup in the morning anyway, and that's well within what's considered to be acceptable amounts.

flamimpanda of course you can stay here. I'm sure some of the ladies who are due at the end of the month may well still be pg by the time May arrives anyway

Hi all, we're definitely finding out the sex here. We have 2 dd's already so it would be lovely for them to have a brother as I grew up with 1 brother. Dh has made no secret that he would like a boy too but our 2 dd's have such different personalities, if this one is pink, I'd just be happy and thankful that its healthy. Dh would just be surrounded by girls!

Don't know when this pregnancy bloom is going to kick in, my hair looks shit, I'm covered in spots and can't brush my teeth without throwing up I'm also getting slightly concerned at my 'growing by the day' bump I'm already in over bump maternity trousers and jeans and couldn't deny I was pregnant if I tried! I know things expand more easily as its dc3 but starting to think they missed a baby at the scan or sumthin! Anyone else got this or am I just being irrational?!

Welcome to all the newbies and thinking about those that are having problems but getting through it.

I'm soo sorry not to include names in my posts, on my phone and can't scroll back baby brain doesn't help!

14+5

Thanks for the new thread. I am struggling to keep up but enjoying the chatter.

16+4 (I think...) No... Maybe 17+4 (How bad is it that I cannot even remember.)