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Fantastic 40+ Mum to be - part 2

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Hpbp Mon 08-Oct-12 07:42:26

Let's keep on chatting !
Awaiting to hear from you all.
Midget, how are you feeling after the sweep ?
Exexe, are you happy with the new kitchen ? Very glad to see you back on here.
Warm welcome to the only Dad we have on the thread, sorry I could not remember your name as I write this.
Have a lovely Monday. Pouring rain in Paris today.

knottyhair Mon 08-Oct-12 08:14:04

Thanks for the new thread Hpbp smile.

ValiumQueen Mon 08-Oct-12 09:31:37

Oh good! Tried to post on last thread and it was full! Hope LRMs DH finds us. So glad baby Dylan is here safely, although it sounds like it was a challenge for all three.

scarecrow22 Mon 08-Oct-12 09:59:51

Morning all. Marking place and sending big congrats to LRM, Lovely sounding DP and baby Dylan. Hope you are appreciating the milk little man.

Exexe Mon 08-Oct-12 10:08:36

Huge congrats to LRM and welcome Baby Dylan.

Hpbp Thanks for the new thread. I love my new kitchen/diner! not only do I have a new kitchen, I have now a utility area, a downstairs cloakroom and an extended upstairs box room so it can continue being dhs office at the back and will be a nursey at the front. Painting and decorating still needs to be completed though.
It has been stressful but its pretty much done so I can kick back a bit now (well for 9 days anyway!!)

KMR281 Mon 08-Oct-12 11:34:27

hello to new thread!
I had a nice weekend, celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary, so that was nice, although no wine!

At midwife today, was told that what I thought was a big bruise, was in fact likely a varicose vein, and I should start wearing support tights! oh no, feel very old now. Where can you even get support tights from?? this is quite depressing.

Plus, she didn't know what was happening re whooping cough jab as she'd been off on hols, so asked GP practice - only one clinic set for far for next monday, when I'm away, so can't go. Typical. Guess they will have more clinics, fingers crossed - just need to remember to actually phone up (brain is currently made of semolina, and is being replaced by a notebook and pen).

hope all ladies, bumps and babies are doing well. Very impresessed at Exexe's home improvements. We have got as far as purchasing tester pots...!

somewherebecomingrain Mon 08-Oct-12 20:07:51

blush. that's my pregnancy brain kicking in. although still baffled why this wasn't at the top of the thread. maybe it was. confused. hello all

congratulations baby dylan!

xxx

eagleray Mon 08-Oct-12 21:29:20

wow - 2000 postings in the last few months!

Great to hear from Mr LRM - so glad baby Dylan is here safely and that LRM is ok too.

Midgetm Mon 08-Oct-12 22:37:17

Oh my god I lost you all! <panic emoticon> will check in tomorrow after sweep. Must pass out after manic nesting session. Huge waves to one and all.

Midgetm Tue 09-Oct-12 07:21:31

Couldn't sleep at all. Letting light into my womb did not help for once. Excited and anxious for the sweep and the chat with consultant. Shit I'm having a baby! And it has to choose an exit. Holy crap I'm not grown up enough for this business. Why didn't any of you warn me? Report back in later.....

Hpbp Tue 09-Oct-12 08:10:09

Midget, don't panic, yes it will be hard sometimes, but it brings so much joy the rest of the times.... You will be absolutely fine. I will be here to kick you or pick you up smile as everybody else. Xxxx

knottyhair Tue 09-Oct-12 08:19:12

Midget, we're all here for you. You'll be an amazing mum, yes, it will be difficult sometimes, but it's the most wonderful thing in the world smile. Hope the sweep does its job!

Exexe Tue 09-Oct-12 09:20:56

Midget Good luck! You'll be fine. Its only a few hrs out of your life and although its frightening, childbirth is well, childbirth. You'll have your beautiful baby soon. We're all here for you.

ValiumQueen Tue 09-Oct-12 09:27:20

midget you will be a truly wonderful mummy. You have waited so long and been through so much to get this baby. It is the beginning of the best bit of your life! It will be a challenge, yes, but things that are worth doing usually are. When you hold your baby in your arms for the first time, you will feel the most powerful love ever. You will know that this tiny little bundle of burps and farts and sniffs and vomit and poo is the reason you were out on this earth. You would die for it. You would kill for it. When a baby is born, a new mummy is born too, and you learn and grow together. Nobody will be more important to that child than you, nobody will know it better. When it is ill, or hurt, or just tired, it will want you, as you are it's comfort. It's safe place. Your arms is where it will want to be. Until it is a teenager and it will be a little shit and hate you and blame you for everything.

Remember approaching the birth, the most important thing is baby and you are safe. If interventions are required, try to embrace them, not resent them, or blame yourself for them. Been there, done that. Birth is a tiny bit in the whole parenting thing. You have been. A wonderful mummy for 9 months already. Baby knows your voice and smell already. Enjoy thanks

somewherebecomingrain Tue 09-Oct-12 09:44:27

midget good luck! all good advice. birth is a tiny flash in the pan really - you can try to get to grips with the graphs drawn by the heart rate monitor but beyond that you're in the hands of the NHS who in my experience are incredible. go with it - enjoy the gas and air and the volterol and pethidine if you get any!

get your OH to bring you some nice snacks after cause hosp food is a bit rubbish.

xxxx

Hpbp Tue 09-Oct-12 10:00:46

ValiumQueen, you brought tears to my eyes. You are so true. I can feel the experienced mum in you. Wise, loving and wonderful mum, you sound to me.
Your turn is coming soon too. Enjoy the last days of pg. lots of hugs from
Paris

Midgetm Tue 09-Oct-12 12:19:41

Well I have been swept. And I looked at this thread on the phone in the hospital and nearly burst into tears with all your wise and kind words. I am 3cm's and favorable hmm. Consultant has a feeling I will be going into labour of my own accord and quite soon. I am now really sore in the tummy and back. Going to go for a walk and wiggle my hips. Have another booked in for Friday and then she thinks I could be induced with a simple pop of the waters early next week. She said she could feel my contractions whilst she was doing the sweep blush. Trying not to hold out too much hope that I will start naturally but my instincts tell me it is possible - I have always thought he may come early. Consultant really advising against ELCS - thinks I should give it a go and there is less chance of a repeat of my bloody awful experience of last time. I do trust her so we shall see - the option of Cesarean is always there is birth does not progress - said I do not want the drip....

Thanks for all your support, will keep you updated. You are the greatest. x

knickyknocks Tue 09-Oct-12 12:47:41

midgetm it's sounding very good. I really don't think it sounds like you'll need to go through induction. When I had a sweep I was 2cm dilated and favourable. I went home with period type pains and on waking the next day, I was contracting away. DD was born about 12 hours after that. It won't be long now my love. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that things will get going soon. Thinking of you.
VQ what wonderful words - and the bit about a teenager made me laugh. Wise words though, and it too brought a tear to my eye.
somewhere you mentioned a while back that DP didn't want you to do mumsnet much more. All ok with you honey?

Since that little bleeding incident last week I've been doing fine, the sickness has thankfully gone and I enjoyed a banquet of a curry on Friday night. Never let a pregnant hungry woman do the ordering - she'll always ridiculously overorder (but it was delicious - even managed a chapati for mopping up purposes.....) Think I've got an inkling of some mild SPD going on. Had a moderate bout with DD at 30 weeks last time. Being only 17 and a bit weeks, makes me slightly nervous about what awaits, but have seen the GP, who has referred me to the physio to try and nip it in the bud as it were.

Hello to everyone else!

somewherebecomingrain Tue 09-Oct-12 13:46:39

hey knicky i'm alright, the sickness is still there but much much better. good luck with the SPD - it is a bit sobering to rememember we are 4 years older and over 40! my body is feeling it too.

DP regularly complains about me being on the internet chatting to a 'bunch of strangers' when i could be talking to him (er we both work from home and spend all day together?????) it's not a serious thing.

your curry sounds wonderful - there is a particular pleasure in food in pregnancy if sickness is not ruining everything.

midget it's so exciting!!!!! good luck lady! hope it all kicks in soon and you have a VBAC from heaven (but no woz if ends up CS - it's all good).

ValiumQueen Tue 09-Oct-12 13:48:19

Thank you Hp you had me wailing at your kind words grin bloody hormones!

Gosh midget that does sound very promising! Took me a week of sweeps and pessaries to get that far!

I think I would rather divorce my DH than give up MN!

somewherebecomingrain Tue 09-Oct-12 13:51:24

VQ i agree with you about everything - the amazing thing that struck me when i had my ds was how easy it was, in that I was all he needed. All I needed to do was be there. Bit worried about the teenage bit in truth...
xxx

ValiumQueen Tue 09-Oct-12 18:50:37

midget I do hope my comments did not come over as patronising. I completely forgot that you already have a young'un. blush

MrsWooster Tue 09-Oct-12 19:18:15

VQ I've already got one too and I'm still crying - sometimes we need reminding! Ta x

scarecrow22 Tue 09-Oct-12 19:44:36

midget sending strong thoughts to you. That's the thing about being a mum, somehow you find reserves of strength, endurance and (well, sometimes) good humour you never dreamed we're possible.

Am away from DD again (third week in row) and now so desperate for her that I've bought a drink so I can sit opposite a woman with a baby in the hotel bar. What is the definition of a stalker? Is it ok if I stalk all babies and toddlers, not just one?!

Midgetm Tue 09-Oct-12 19:45:30

Hell no VQ try just reminded me how true they are.

Well I have back pain, contractions but as I was induced last time hard to know if they are real. Certainly more uncomfortable than a braxton hicks and un bith ny back and stomach. Desperately trying to get organised and haven't even packed my bag properly yet.... If I ignore it, it will go away, right?

Best go pack bag just in case....

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